courage2702:
@Lakeside79
Thanks for those amazing pointers. I think in my case it has to do with thought processes and boredom. But be assured that I am going to seriously think about those practical steps you pointed out.

Link me up with some good joints where i can get clean prostitutes

EastGold:
You know what?


Cut off that preek pushing you to olosho

The Bible says anything that will not lead you to heaven, remove it

HOW WILL HE URINATE WHEN THE TIME COMES?

All you need to cure besetting sin is deliverance ,you are fighting the strongman of prostitution & perversion..No amount of self discipline or prayer can cure the weakness,what you need is to cast out the demons and you will be freed forever

Op the solution is midway. It would hv been a disaster, if u hv not realized that this is a problem. Now u know, d solution is not farfetched. 1. Cut off all friends that rolls wit u in dt act. 2. Engage urslf with +ve thoughts(difficult)but possible. 3. Get a stable woman, think of marriage. U ar up-to.

Shalom

courage2702:
I need practical help to overcome my struggle against the use of prostitutes. I picked up this terrible habit shortly after my graduation from university sometime in 2012 and it is a vice that has wrecked my life. The last success was 13 months without any sexual involvement with any one before i had a sad event in my life that made me go back to my vommit. Any body with practical advice should please come up with it.. yesterday I went down on my knees again to ask him to give me another chance to fix my life for good. But I really need to take practical actions as faith without work is dead
I have an amazing future but this lifestyle may cut it off if don't fight it headlong.

I am 30+ old man that really wish to settle down but not until I quit this habit that has disconnected me from God as well as made my life miserable.
I am from a Christian background.

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Your problem is money.

Find a way to stay broke.

Do prostitutes put out on credit?
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Bro, I feel ur pain, am also once like you, but what you have to do is to (1)move far from Ashewo, quarters or brothel, or asewo aoz or environment. (2) have someone u we be dating or girlfriend. (3) pray over it, I mean fasting and prayer, but the 1 and 2 point is the main one. Move far from where to see them.

Bro, not only you oo, almost all of us patronize ashawo in one way or the other, even some girlfriends are now ashawos in their own way. Let's keep praying.

Lakeside79:


Bro the fact you feel bad about this shows your spirit is still alive.. so keep the good fight !

You try you succeed, you try you fail the important thing is to keep knowing you have to bear this and never get comfortable in doing wrong

Never believe it's okay to tell yourself that if on Sunday you cry and accept Jesus you are free from guilt no you keep fighting

You pray for strength each morning and face each day believing that day is the day you win and if at the end of the day you fail don't despair pray that night again for renewed strength to try again the next day , reenforce this with avoid temptations from going to the wrong places, veiwing pornography and information you consume

Watch out for triggers, what makes you always susceptible to this? Is it alcohol, boredom, certain thought processes , particular movie scenes then try hard to manage these as much as you can

There's no such thing as anyone laying hands on you and it disappears or any special.prayers , it's all in you to manage with the good Lord by your side bro

It's a life time struggle and we should continue to fight this till our last days

Sometimes it can take a whole life time to conquer one propensity

Just keep on keeping on and realize there's nothing wrong with you, you aren't some broken being you are just human and will give this your best shot to be the best you can be

Fight the good fight with all the might bro

We all have our battles daily , you are not alone

We are all immensely flawed creatures

All.the best

You got a nice piece for everyone who wanna free from every besetting addiction. Thanks
Are you of the Adventist faith?

The best thing is to cut of your penis. End of olosho problem.

I congratulate you for recognizing this destructive way of life on time but I will advise you to do the following.

1.Look for a Bible believing church where truth is spoken without dilution to give your life to Christ afresh e. g. MFM is strongly advised.

2.Build your faith with the words of God and practice it at times.

3.Move away or flee from the friends that encourages you to pick up prostitutes.

4.Always meditate on the words of God whenever you are less busy so that you won't go back to your vomit.

5.Delete all the pictures and pornographic videos that may incite you to engage or participate emotionally in having sex with prostitutes.

6.Delete all contacts phone numbers of the prostitutes on your phone or if possible block them outrightly on whatsapp,facebook and other social media.

7.Finally,at your age I think is high time you plan about marriage and let's it be in the presence of God.

I believe with all this you will share a new testimony... halleluyaaaaah.

courage2702:
I need practical help to overcome my struggle against the use of prostitutes. I picked up this terrible habit shortly after my graduation from university sometime in 2012 and it is a vice that has wrecked my life. The last success was 13 months without any sexual involvement with any one before i had a sad event in my life that made me go back to my vommit. Any body with practical advice should please come up with it.. yesterday I went down on my knees again to ask him to give me another chance to fix my life for good. But I really need to take practical actions as faith without work is dead
I have an amazing future but this lifestyle may cut it off if don't fight it headlong.

I am 30+ old man that really wish to settle down but not until I quit this habit that has disconnected me from God as well as made my life miserable.
I am from a Christian background.

My brother, I once struggled with this vice & other vices but praise God for delivering me. It might seem impossible to man but nothing is impossible with God. First of all, understand that it is neither by power nor by might but by the Spirit of God. It is only by leaning on His ever-abundant grace that you would get victory & not fall back. Understand that this grace is what you need daily to continue & triumph when you are tempted (because you would be tempted). You have to understand that complete surrender to God daily is non-negotiable because it isn't you that would defeat any sin but the Holy Spirit living in you. Learn to rely on God & lean not on your strength or wisdom. Start to learn how to die to the flesh & its desires. Cry to God & ask for help. Ask Him to take over everything about you, especially your heart because all imaginations stem from there. Ask Him to destroy every trace of lust in you & replace it with His purity of heart. Next, clear all defilement present in your life that triggers this act. Things like pornography, lewd chats, songs, movies etc should be fled from, deleted from your devices. Instead, become an addict of God's word & prayer. Memorize a bible verse daily & pray as frequently as possible especially when facing temptation. Also, if there's any other sin you are struggling with; no matter how 'small' even if it's telling so-called white lie, ask God to help you defeat them. Also try to fast maybe like once in two weeks but please remember that fast without prayer & word study= hunger strike. It helped me because sin could come sometimes, the urge to sin might be like hunger; it could try to deceive one that to do it is necessary like eating food so mastering desire for food could help. Finally, realize that the day you stop surrendering to God is the day you would fall back to those bad habits if not worse. You can never outgrow needing God & His grace rather you have to grow more in it. Following Jesus is something that becomes your life, everyday until Jesus either returns or calls you home. Understand that there is nothing in this world for you; you are a mere pilgrim here. Heaven is your home & your inheritance. Please read Romans 6,8, galatians 8:16-24, ephesians 4,6:10-17.

Lagbaja01:
You must be definately so pained by my comment to have the time to go through my profile.....I didnt mean to hurt you...but the truth truely hurts....for the freebies, N1000 made legimately online is better than N1000000 made through scam

Lol.... I'm not one of those that shouts "Jesus" when boarding a danfo!
So hey! I don't solve physical problems with spiritual wishes. I take paracetamol when I have headache and my bro, it works like a charm. Maybe you should try it.
I ain't no freebies type! I have a business I'm nursing so swerve!

Lakeside79:


Bro the fact you feel bad about this shows your spirit is still alive.. so keep the good fight !

You try you succeed, you try you fail the important thing is to keep knowing you have to bear this and never get comfortable in doing wrong

Never believe it's okay to tell yourself that if on Sunday you cry and accept Jesus you are free from guilt no you keep fighting

You pray for strength each morning and face each day believing that day is the day you win and if at the end of the day you fail don't despair pray that night again for renewed strength to try again the next day , reenforce this with avoid temptations from going to the wrong places, veiwing pornography and information you consume

Watch out for triggers, what makes you always susceptible to this? Is it alcohol, boredom, certain thought processes , particular movie scenes then try hard to manage these as much as you can

There's no such thing as anyone laying hands on you and it disappears or any special.prayers , it's all in you to manage with the good Lord by your side bro

It's a life time struggle and we should continue to fight this till our last days

Sometimes it can take a whole life time to conquer one propensity

Just keep on keeping on and realize there's nothing wrong with you, you aren't some broken being you are just human and will give this your best shot to be the best you can be

Fight the good fight with all the might bro

We all have our battles daily , you are not alone

We are all immensely flawed creatures

All.the best

oro agba.flesh and blood did not reveal that to u .na His Spirit.
it works

Let me simplify it.
On the subject of discourse there are 2 categories of babes.
1. The runz girls
2. The normal babes.
By definition,
The runs girls exchange sex for money with strangers or acquaintances at over 95% of the time.
Now there are 3 categories of Normal babes or girl friends by definition.
1. The celibates: They identify with one or more partners over a period of time but DO NOT ENGAGE IN SEX wit them.
2. The doers: They identify with one or more partners over a period of time and have sex with them. About 5% of the time they may consent to have sex with a stranger (one night stand) for attraction or urge sake.
3. The free-givers: They hook up with strangers and have sex at will. Not for monetary gains but for pleasure sake. They are the crazy types, the drug addicts, the types who succumb to uncontrollable sexual urge, the freaks, the adventurous etc.
They do not necessarily identify or get emotionally tied to a partner.
Now note these keywords;
Stranger: A stranger as related to the discourse is a male whom a lady just met and has not known for more than a week.
Partner: A partner is a male whom a lady has known for a period and has consented to have emotional or sexual ties with for a period of time.
Conclusion:
Now read carefully.
1. The focal point of the argument is the word 'stranger'. If at anytime you engage/have engaged in sex with a stranger for money you are/were an olosho or a runs girl.
2. If you engaged wit sex with a stranger for any other reason apart from money e.g urge, attraction, mood etc (and you have never done such before for money) you are a normal babe/girlfriend (Free-giver)
Mathematical Deduction/Inference:
Note: An olosho can sleep with 20 men in a week for money.
Likewise a normal girl friend (free-giver) can sleep with the same 20 men in a wild partying week for freak sake.
One for money, another for desire. Since Money and desires are constants. I.e and by law of approximations, (e.g 0.6 is equal to = 1)
Hence The Olosho is equal to or same as the normal girlfriend
This means that the moment a lady stops being celibate and starts having sex she has the tendency to multiple sexual partners due to emotions and instability of relationships. Both oloshos and normal girlfriend are at the risk of multiple swxua! partners.
My advice:
If your girl friend is not celibate or close to it, PLAY SAFE. Girl friends have body counts too and diseases are not written on the fore head...
Unicorn97

Empty barrel makes a hell of noise

donshaddow:

Lol.... I'm not one of those that shouts "Jesus" when boarding a danfo!
So hey! I don't solve physical problems with spiritual wishes. I take paracetamol when I have headache and my bro, it works like a charm. Maybe you should try it.
I ain't no freebies type! I have a business I'm nursing so swerve!

You cant stop any habbit by your power.
Zechariah 4:6
Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts.

This does not means you shouldn't make efforts.

Matthew 11:28
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

You can't be holy without the help of Holy Spirit, therefore ask Him to help you.

Luke 11:13
If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?

He is our helper, teacher and comforter. So always say Holy Spirit I need your help to do this and that.

I want to say that God has designed us to make choices. Like you said, a practical and a blunt action.
First of all, you must know that you don't need a relationship or. Marriage to cure this habit.
Secondly, you will need a change of friends to achieve this. If you like alcohol or drugs especially when you are depressed, this is the time to quit.
Sex is a natural physiologic need man, but the lack of its desire will destroy same man.
You must also learn to be accountable to someone, who is around you and make sure you condemn such lifestyle and not defend it anytime.
Since you said you are Christian and mature. Make the choice of a genuine Christian that you can submit to to help and guide you. This man may not be very soft with you but he will help you be accountable.
Many of us here still struggle with few sexual issues, alcoholism, but I have see God help me concur most.
I do not intend to hurt your person but you said we should be blunt.
God bless.

courage2702:
I need practical help to overcome my struggle against the use of prostitutes. I picked up this terrible habit shortly after my graduation from university sometime in 2012 and it is a vice that has wrecked my life. The last success was 13 months without any sexual involvement with any one before i had a sad event in my life that made me go back to my vommit. Any body with practical advice should please come up with it.. yesterday I went down on my knees again to ask him to give me another chance to fix my life for good. But I really need to take practical actions as faith without work is dead
I have an amazing future but this lifestyle may cut it off if don't fight it headlong.

I am 30+ old man that really wish to settle down but not until I quit this habit that has disconnected me from God as well as made my life miserable.
I am from a Christian background.

See the habit as disgusting as it really is, then you will most likely hate it and refrain from practicing it. Look at it this way. A prostitute is like a latrine where men of differing characters including ritualists go to offload their bodily secretions, most of which are laden with dangerous contaminants. No matter how much these prostitutes may try to wash off male ejaculates, they cannot succeed because the vagina is spongy and has multiple folds that traps male releases. So whenever you have sex with a sex vendor, you are literally swimming in other men's ejaculates. Very disgusting and debasing to even just think about. Even when condom is used, the resultant fluids from thrusting will still smear your upper penis and scrotum. Aside physical contamination like STI & STD, there are spiritual transference of demons. (sex workers usually seek demonic powers to aid their trade and some of their customers do deposit seamen as the final rite of a fetish ritual they have underwent) Clearly, your will and imagination are in conflict. There is this law of reversed effort that states that '' When the will and the imagination are in conflict, the imagination always win. but when there is no conflict, there is harmony'' The solution is to kill the conflict by never imagining what you do not intend to do and constantly imagine what you intend to follow through; visualize the benefits thus subconsciously programing yourself to positively move on in victory. Daily affirmations helps a lot too. 'I am getting better and stronger every day' etc. I wish you well.

I share in your sad story. My success over this dilemma was prayer: I never knelt for once but I kept rebuking the spirit behind it. In the toilet, on the road etc, I kept rebuking the spirit of adultery and fornication.
With this, I completely stopped

Do not focus on your problem, shift your focus on Jesus. Cultivate a relationship with God. Talk to him daily in prayer. Have a time of worship daily, just singing praises and speaking to God in adoration. Read and confess yoir bible daily. Do not let guilt stop you. Cultivate the habit of inviting God's presence especially when you are alone. You will gradually begin to loose interest in the habit till you are free.

courage2702:
I need practical help to overcome my struggle against the use of prostitutes. I picked up this terrible habit shortly after my graduation from university sometime in 2012 and it is a vice that has wrecked my life. The last success was 13 months without any sexual involvement with any one before i had a sad event in my life that made me go back to my vommit. Any body with practical advice should please come up with it.. yesterday I went down on my knees again to ask him to give me another chance to fix my life for good. But I really need to take practical actions as faith without work is dead
I have an amazing future but this lifestyle may cut it off if don't fight it headlong.

I am 30+ old man that really wish to settle down but not until I quit this habit that has disconnected me from God as well as made my life miserable.
I am from a Christian background.

At your age sex hormones are raging, sex is normal and sex with prostitutes is not terrible as you think it is , so don't kill your self with guilt. totally absconding from sex will only make things worse, it's natural u really can't cheat nature. You already have the practical advice u need if only you could just read your own write up back at your self . "struggle against the use of prostitutes" you use prostitutes to satisfy a perfectly normal natural urge , if you don't like using prostitutes again then get something else. Get a loving girlfriend, if possible one that has similar urge like you ( trust me they exist, u will be the one to run away �) .

aaronson:
This has nothing to do with God, prayer or curse, It's just a habit you picked up over time and now it's hard wired in your brain to think about and deeply rooted in your mind to forget.

The bad news is any form of sexual related habit is very hard to quit, Again very hard! It could be sex with prostitudes, gay sex, måsturbation or even regular sex with random partners. This is the reason why it's hard to quit. Food is what to the stomach what Orgåsm is to the brain. Meaning, Orgåsm is food to the brain, The brain doesn't care how you achieve it (could be sex with prostitudes or otherwise), so long as it releases chemical hormones for you give back Orgåsm, he is fine but what kills you as a person is the limitation of societal approval towards some type of way people reach Orgåsm hence approves of only marriage and two, risk of getting infected with deadly diseases.

How then can your quit your deadly habit?

I'm Sorry, You can't just quit an habit just with a decision of the mouth because it way beyond your words but more of the brain activity hence the reason why you go back after saying you quit. And it's even more worst because you can't quit sex since you sexually active. Celibacy is a joke to a man raging with hormones.

The only way around it is replacing an old habit with a new one, first move to a new environment as this would subconsciously make you aware you starting starting a new life. Secondly, Get a flesh light off jumia or other online sex shop or wherever, Get a girl friend and admit being guilty of addiction to prostitudes, basic point is talk to somebody about it and in this case, A girlfriend should be the best go to person to confide in, Be sure to get a nice girl who would care enough to listen to you and help work through it. And when this feeling/thought of sex with prostitudes comes up, call her straight away and talk about it. You would be good.

Note: you not quitting sex, hence the reason for the fleshlight and a girlfriend who would regulate your sexual habit by talking about it and her denying you sex sometimes to reconfigure your brain. You would be just fine and would save more.

I wish you victory on this battle between you and your brain. This brain has been winning following the frequent episodes and relapses now i charge you to win following these tips I had written out.

Reqards

Having gone through all comments posted, this stands out. Please, follow this strictly and if possible dm this follow he could possibly mentor you. This steps have been proven. Your sincere desire to change would be backed by God's intervention. Gracias

AreaFada2:

Good that you have recognised that the habit is not good for you.

First try to understand why you patronise sex workers. Sadly marrying even Miss World will not stop using sex workers if addicted to it.

One thing to consider is exploitation and poverty. Many sex workers are being pimped by unscrupulous people, are drug/alcohol addicts or are very poor. Either way using them means being party to their exploitation. Not something that should sit well with you.

I am sure you feel wretched or dirty each time after using SWs. The few minutes of pleasure is not worth that guilt you feel..

Also try to understand how you came to disconnect sex from love, wooing a lady and dating.

Remember too that the habit is completely against who you are deep down. Find a girl you fancy. Focus on her. With time you will learn to keep yourself for her.

Find every reason not to go to or pass through the area SWs are. Avoid going out at night or weekend nights if those are the times you are most likely to see SW. Instead if you're a Christian, organise a home Bible study group during those times to strengthen you spiritually.

Thank you for this line of reasoning. It made me feel pity for myself and these SWs. I definitely don't want to be part of those encouraging the exploitation anymore.

heaven is an individual race, because dere are church workers visiting that place does not mean the solution is not working.depends on ur sincerity and determination to let it work. For example, my friend and i use 2 engage in fornication, now i wanted 2 end dis badly. broke up with him but he wld not budge esp since he knew i needed his help in other areas.so i had 2 make sure there was no space 2 let him in. 1.got a flatmate 2. travel 2 PH if am not working that weekend 3..the weekend am working, stay in my ofice till 8pm..he got the msg.

Montez90:
you know how many church workers that are visiting LovePeddler house?

Good afternloon everyone. It's was a successful week. All Thanks to God and everyone who took out time to provide practical suggestions. With God I strongly believe that I Wil be alright.

Thankful to God that despite the hurdles, I am still sticking to my resolve. All Thanks to God for the strength he provides.

let me seize this moment to say a very big thank you to all those who encouraged me during the lowest point in my struggle to overcome the use of prostitutes. my major reason for updating my success story is to give whoever that is going through any form of addiction the motivation to fight on.it has been three months of uninterrupted success. it is a work in progress and I am not gonna allow overconfidence to step on my way to success. i have not gotten to where i yearn for, but I am making remarkable progress.Gods blessing in my life within this short period of time has made me to understand that God is well pleased with the effort I am putting in.thanks again for all those hat made me not to give up.

Its been an amazing how far I have gone in this struggle. I just want to let you guys know that with God I was able to get back up. I decided to speak to an older adult who passionately talked a lot of confidence into me.
Its a work in progress, but with God on my side, I will keep winning. If you are struggling with any addiction and you make up your to look for help, I pray you find one. If I can get back up, you too can.

Oga the best solution are

Go for deliverance
Look for a living church to attend
Get married to a lady that has the physical qualities you want in a woman
Then get busy in things of God
Pray always

With all these you will be free. Devil is a failure.