Marriage is an institution that you can not obtain graduation certificate (except when death comes in), but you can obtain admission letter and promotion letter.
Hello, everyone and welcome to your most favourite class, Godswill Jackson Self discipline class, a unique and special class that is for everyone.
Today, I'm going to share with you an important, crucial, consequential, salient and vital topic which have been bordering so many peoples mind (both the singles and the married ones) and most especially so many people have been coming to ask me this question
"Mr Godswill, as a wife what do I need to do or give to my husband so as to have a happy and peaceful home?"
OR
"Mr Godswill, as a husband, what do I need to do or give to my wife so as to have a happy and peaceful home?"
Hmm...my most precious people and readers, as far as you are in this class, just put on smiles on your face and consider your problem solved, because in Godswill Jackson self discipline class, I believe that there is always solutions to any marriage/relationship problem or challenges, all you need to do is to share your mind, through your comments on any of my post, and it will be treated as soon as possible.
Smiles... However, I will like to begin today's episode with the question, AS A WIFE, WHAT DO I NEED TO DO OR GIVE TO MY HUSBAND SO AS TO HAVE A HAPPY AND PEACEFUL HOME? "
Smiles... My most precious wives, who had good wills for their husbands, one of the most important thing that you need to give to your husband is
RESPECT
Wives, let me let you know that men love to dwell, sleep, eat, bath, and spend the rest of their life in a place where they receive honour and respect, (it is natural) so no matter who your husband might be always learn to give respect, wheather he is short or tall, working class man or retired/ sacked/ fired man, dark or fair, fat or slim, or whether you (wife) is older than him or not or whether you are the breadwinner of the family or not, most time when some women are more educated than their husband or if they are in higher position, they do not respect their husband anymore, all they do is to marry and respect their job, and rule or see their husband as slave (I'm not saying this to despite women, but I'm saying this so that those wives in these above categories should take note and change), remember wives, that many husbands out there will not ask you to give him respect, because most men feels that if they ask of respect from their wife, it might bring about another level of disrespect, so wives you are a very, very sensitive creature (it's natural), than your husband, so therefore you need to study your husband seriously, know the ways he reacts to things you do to him or words that you alter to him, because he might not tell you that you've disrespect him all you might see is that he might keep quiet or stonewall.
NOTE THIS: "Wives, the more you complain, criticize, shout or scold your goodwill husband, the more he keeps quiet and withdraw from you and the more he keeps quiet and withdraw from you the more you will be craving and crying for love"
That's just it, you need to break that chain because if you don't break it, it might end up in divorce.
I have heard most wives who complain to me that
"I love my husband so much, but I'm not so sure whether my husband love me the way I do"
So i ask this same women that "How much respect do you give to your husband?" They were unable to give a reasonable answer, the fact is that, once you don't respect your husband, you will doubt his love towards you, because you know within you that you do not respect him,
Below is one of the message out of many messages that have received from some women,
"Hello, Mr Godswill, my name is Mrs Afolabi, (not real name) I'm using this medium to write to you to appreciate you, for you've really help my marriage of 12 years ago, not to crash, after I read from one of your articles, about the necessity of respect, the role and importance of respect to men, I applied it to my marriage life, and I must confess that today the love that my husband shew me and the love that is in our family today is far beyond the love that my husband she's me back then in our courting days".

Although it is not my making but it is God, so that is just one out of many wives who wrote to me, my fellow readers I hope that you are learning something from this post and I believe that you are following this post?
Also, let me share the story of the family of Mr Badmus (not real name, because of privacy) He was a close fellow to me , this family were very, very close to me, but I can't forget so soon, that faithful day that his wife came to me crying, reporting his husband to me,
" Mr Godswill, I need your help, please something is wrong with my marriage, please help me, for the past three months my husband is not showing me the love that he use to show me before, my husband is more far away from me, anytime he is at home, is either he will be watching TV or busy with his laptop, he is not showing the love that he use to show me, he did not give me the attention that he use to"...(tears running out of her eyes)...
I calm her down, then i gave her my handkerchief to wipe her tears away, then I asked her if her husband is around (I.e at home)? She said yes, then I told her to be calm that she should go home that I will talk to her husband, after her departure, few hours later, I called her husband to know if he is around,( like I mentioned earlier before her husband is a close fellow to me so I have his phone number) he told me that he is around, then few hours later, I was at his home.
(Mr Badmus is a tall dark handsome man and also a young successful banker, that most women will dream to have, especially with that is special smiles)
After he welcome me into his house, then later I started the discussion about his marriage challenge, he was not happy for his wife to have reported him to me, but I try to calm him down and make him to know the need and the reason why marriage need to be at peace, I make him to understand that a slight war in marriage without solution could cause an everlasting havoc (such as extra marital affairs, unwanted pregnancies (outside marriage), incurable diseases and infections, short life span due to thinking which might result to high blood pressure, e.t.c) in such individual.
Then later he reason with me, and was ready to discuss with me, then I asked him the question again "why don't you show your wife the love that you use to show her?" After some minutes of silence, he broke the silence, by saying "she disrespected me several times, so l thought about how would I reduce the degree of the disrespect, so l decided to withdraw from her, to stay away from her, so as to prevent quarrels/ futuristic domestic violence, due to anger".
Then I asked him that " how do your wife disrespect you? Can you please mention one way or instances where she disrespect you? " then he started this way
"Some months ago, she asked me to get vegetables for her on my way coming back home, on getting to the market I stopped by, I paid for the vegetable, not knowing that I forgot to put the vegetables in the car because during the course of paying for the vegetables, my phone rang so l have to pick the call and forget to pick the vegetable, and I'm sure that the seller did not notice that, because she was also attending to other buyers, on getting home later in the evening she was about to cook when she asked for the vegetables then I told her to go to the car to pick it, that I forgot to take it out of the car, few minutes later she came back that she couldn't see anything there, it was then that I suspected that have left it at the vegetable sellers place, immediately, I explained it to her, and ask her to prepare rice for us to eat as dinner then tomorrow morning, I will go and get the vegetables for her, but to my greatest surprise all she could say was

" Yes, I knew it, you will forget to buy it, rice again for dinner, I don't even know what you can remember and you call yourself a man, ordinary vegetable you cannot remember to get it for me, all you could remember is to open that your mouth to eat, I don't blame you, you've taken me to be slave, every time is, I don't I forgot, I forgot, I don't know what is in that your head, I don't even know why I married you at the first place? Rubbish"...

Friend (as he do call me), I was shock at the response of my wife to vegetable, I keep on wandering if it was this vegetable that makes my wife to alter such words, because we do not quarrel before, I thought about that, to know if there is something else that caused that but I don't still find answer to those questions of mine, after some hours later, I forgot about her words, I thought that it is just the normal expressive nature of some women to an action or words, she later went and cook the rice, she served me and we ate together and retired to bed"
Later after that incidence, some months ago, she asked me to buy meat for her while coming back home in which I bought it, on getting home she asked me that how much do I pay for the meat? Then I told her because in our family we always open to each other in truth, all she could say was "the meat is too expensive, common meat you can't buy it at a good price, I could have ask you to return it back to the meat seller, because it is too expensive, ...and many more incidence like that, I was shocked about her actions and words, so I thought about how I could save my marriage? What should I do? Because I don't want to pick up a fight with my wife, so l decided to stay far from her so as not to bring more insult, so that is the reason why?

Hmm...my most precious readers who are reading this post, it was not a discussion of 3 hours then at last I asked him this question

"Mr Badmus, if your wife apologize to you and promise not to disrespect you or speak harshly to you, will you forgive her?"....


Hmm...let's go for a break...To be continued... Watch out....

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