there are 2 stoopid people involve in this mess, the gal and your brotha. dont get it twisted.
the same question should be asked of your brotha who kept on going after the silly gal after the 1st child.
HE didnt learn from his mistakes then, why should the gal learn from hers NOW?

now she is part of his life as strongly as his wife and you better accept it (that you like it or not). she has every rights to go after your brotha for whatever she deems right,next time, tell your brotha to use condom with chickenhead!

@MRbrownJAY OK!!!!!!!!! i just pray u will never fall a victim? but u never answer my question, ?may be ladies/women in the house can give me accurate answer.IS IT SOME LADIES WANT TO BE A SECOND WIFE,SNATCH OTHERS WOMAN'S HUSBAND ORWHAT IS IT, AFTER KNOWING THAT THE MAN IS MARRIED AND STAYING WITH HIS FAMILY.

^^^^if i ever fall to such silly acts, the last thing i will do is try to blame it on others.

i can only answer that question as a MAN. you reap what you sow and therefore if he got that gal pregnant she has any rights to come after what he's got.
some of us think they can just use and discard the gals whenever they are finish with them (yes we can, lol) but we should also accept the consequences of our actions. he is the baby daddy then he should step up his game (or use condom next time!

you are trying to make your brotha sound like a victim. . . . . . . . . the only victims here are 1) the wife who got married to a cheating low life who had no respect for her and what they had 2) all children involved in this mess.

@Poster I dont hear you mention anywhere in the story that the girl had a gun on your brother's head in order to get him to commit any of these acts with her. So I'll take he did it all out of his own free will

nath01:

@MRbrownJAY OK!!!!!!!!! i just pray u will never fall a victim? but u never answer my question, ?may be ladies/women in the house can give me accurate answer.IS IT SOME LADIES WANT TO BE A SECOND WIFE,SNATCH OTHERS WOMAN'S HUSBAND ORWHAT IS IT, AFTER KNOWING THAT THE MAN IS MARRIED AND STAYING WITH HIS FAMILY.

What victim are u talking about here. things like this always get me all worked up.

u said in your initial post that the girl was warned, why was your brother not admonished too it means your family is even partial in this matter.
Did he impregnate the girl in his matrimonial home? who went out to meet her? your brother, who got her pregnant with the first issue, your brother. that same brother of urs after knowing all the consequences still went back to eat the vomit he spilled by getting her pregnant again and here u are playing a victim's brother.

This girl didnt snatch anybody your brother went to her. . . period!!!
u are asking why some ladies want to become second wife?? u should ask your brother wot he is looking in another woman that is wife doesn't have?? she has given him 4 solid boys and a girl wot else does he want in a marriage that's pushing him outside.

u need to call your brother for questioning cos he might as well impregnate up to 10girls at the rate he is going.

msssheww

reply of a woman.
Husbands are not easy to come by- fact.
If a married man comes my way and shows intention to be serious, why not polygamy is allowed in Nigeria. It happens often that women first have children and later the man performs the marriage rites.
So what does this lady want- a husband and a father for her children. She wants her kids to grow up with their father. Now your brother has decided to be polygamous but his family is against it because it is a disgrace to them as a Christian family. You people are heartless throwing away your own kids to protect your image.
How can your father confront her.
I would advise you make the best of a bad situation. Try and look how you bring the family together so that both women learn to accommodate the situation. This lady is only trying to get rid of the first wife because she sees it as the only way to enter the home.
Now please tell me why do married men go dating single women? It is obvious that the woman needed financial help from your brother too, that is why she succumbed.

nath01:

what is in their mind, i mean what is in the mind of some ladies dating a married men to the extent of having issues for them.to cut the long story short,one of my brothers happily married with kids(4boys and 1girl)dating a young girl(knowing fully well that he is married with 4kids) to the extent of having one issue for him, when the secret was out my brother begged the his wife and us(the family) that it was a mistake.after some years latter the girl had another issue for him again(my brother).that is where and how trouble started,the girl wanted to take-over my brother by all means knowing fully well that my brother is in good relationship with his wife and kids to the extent that my brother was telling is wife to accept her(girl) and the 2 kids just to be taking good care of her husband(he cannot boldly say 2nd wife because of our christian faith).this is where the family stood up to the matter since we believe the life my brother is not save again when girl saw that she could not win him over and begin to brag(saying a lot of things)after many struggle and battle,at the this point my brother decided since there is no agreement of marriage he take care of her kids and give her good money and properties(trained her in higher institution and she is currently serving now "NYSC" which she totally rejected.daddy confronted the girl saying he never knew her,she also comfirmed that and she had been warned even before she got deep and the issue come in,what else do you want, !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!,you are trained in school, !!!!!!!!!!!!1e.t.c,she could not made any comment,talk or argue the day daddy confronted her because she has no excuse.MY QUESTION NOW "WHAT IS IN HER MIND GOING THIS FAR EVEN WHEN SHE HAD BEEN WARNED OF HER ACTION RIGTH FROM THE BEGINNING" this question go for other ladies who are involve with the same acts/

Dont be silly!

You should be asking your brother what was on his mind when he was dating another woman and sleeping with her without protection, thereby endagering the life of his own wife!

Shame on him!

mutter:
reply of a woman.
Husbands are not easy to come by- fact.
If a married man comes my way and shows intention to be serious, why not polygamy is allowed in Nigeria. It happens often that women first have children and later the man performs the marriage rites.
So what does this lady want- a husband and a father for her children. She wants her kids to grow up with their father. Now your brother has decided to be polygamous but his family is against it because it is a disgrace to them as a Christian family. You people are heartless throwing away your own kids to protect your image.
How can your father confront her.
I would advise you make the best of a bad situation. Try and look how you bring the family together so that both women learn to accommodate the situation. This lady is only trying to get rid of the first wife because she sees it as the only way to enter the home.
Now please tell me why do married men go dating single women? It is obvious that the woman needed financial help from your brother too, that is why she succumbed.

Interesting

bukatyne:


Interesting

Indeed interesting . The man made the first baby and then the second baby and one asks what is in the woman's mind.
The two are building a family.
The first wife has tolorated it so far so why all the pretence and blame on the second "wife". I choose to call her wife because she virtually is.

mutter:


Indeed interesting . The man made the first baby and then the second baby and one asks what is in the woman's mind.
The two are building a family.
The first wife has tolorated it so far so why all the pretence and blame on the second "wife". I choose to call her wife because she virtually is.

Interesting again