Does Islam really forbib muslims from marrting out Islam?I'm a xtian and seriously in love with a muslim lady but parents are saying otherwise

The general idea is that Muslim males are encouraged to marry Christian women (usually with the aim of converting her or swelling the ranks of Muslims); but it is rather not the same story with female Muslims who wish to get married to Christian males.

Only among liberal Muslims are such issues not a big deal.

Like i always say, two people in love that come from differnt worlds (in your case, religion) have to weigh prons and cons and take a decision .
Whichever way they choose to go about it, someone will definitely get hurt

Its knowong your priority that counts, are you ready to give up love and your partner for the sake of family and relations, or does your family worth more. Who means more to you??

the only thing you can do is to talk, convice them; convince them, talk. You can't force them, neither can you kill them to make them see things with you

so there's actually little or nothing you can do, just hope they'll change their minds, get to know you and accept you for who you are and what you mean to their daughter, give their blessings eventually. Some give in, some do along the marriage, and some don't at all. Are you guys ready to take the risk??

at the end of the day, if they don't then you either go ahead marry the girl against all odds, or part and go your different ways and avoid family misunderstandings.

Very few families are into the idea of allowing their kids go into marriages with different races or religions, so its actually not a new thing

You should also be thinking some years down the road ooh, if your marriage can cope the difference in religion, love is just a tip of the ice-berg compared to what you guys will need to succeed but its a very important factor too, so you have to make sure you have all the ingredients to make the soup a good one

Some of them work out, some don't there's no guarantee to love but a destined noe sure will lead you through

@topefisayo,

One can understand how you feel about this situation. However, there are some reasons why the Muslim parents may be acting on their religious convictions (Islamic tenets) and not giving their consent.

Feelings run deep with some Muslims, among whom you would often find issues that may perplex you. So, elaborating on my previous response, here are some excerpts from some Muslim artcles to help you understand why her parents may not be quite accommodating to your proposals.

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#1. From PakistanLink website (source: http://www.pakistanlink.com/religion/03122004.html ). The question and answer have been excerpted here, but you may want to visit the website and read the whole article. Emphasis mine.

Q. 3 '. . . Why is it okay for men to marry Christian women yet Muslim women not to marry Christian men? That is what my parents have told me. I don’t know what to do. Can you please give me some assistance? (Neena)'

A. 3 'You should not have taken Muslim or non-Muslim males as your friends. The Qur’an and Sunnah have given us rules about relations between men and women - - - Hence it is clear that Islam does not allow Muslims to have friends from the opposite gender. Males should not have female friends and females should not have male friends. - - -

'As far as the interfaith marriages are concerned, Islam does not encourage them. The general rule of Islam is that Muslims should marry Muslims. A Muslim male or female should not marry a non-Muslim male or female. (al-Baqarah 2:221). The only exception is given to Muslim men who are allowed to marry the girls from among the People of the Book (al-Ma’idah 5:5), but Muslim women are not given this permission. So it is Haram (forbidden) for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man. This is the law of Allah and a Muslim when he or she learns about a law of Allah and His Messenger should only say, “I hear and I obey.”

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'Please abandon the idea of marrying a non-Muslim, unless he truly accepts Islam. If you marry a non-Muslim, this will be a major sin. You will be living in sin and your relationship with that non-Muslim will be illegitimate in the eyes of Allah. May Allah protect you from all sins.'

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#2. From Islamic Research Foundation International (source: http://www.irfi.org/questions_answers/muslim_men_can_marry_nonmuslim.htm ). As above, emphasis mine, and you may visit the weblink for the full article.


Q: Muslim men are permitted to marry pious women from the "People of the Book." Can a Muslim woman marry a man outside the faith of Islam? If not, what are the reasons for this apparent disparity, and what is done about the nikah ceremony between a Muslim and non-Muslim?

A: 'Allah (s.w.t) commands in the Qur'an: "And do not marry the polytheist women until they believe. A believing slave woman is better that a polytheist woman, even though the latter may please you. And do not marry your womenfolk to disbelieving men until they believe. A believing slave is better that a polytheist even though the latter may please you . . ." [Sura Al Baqarah/2:221]

The general rule here (as enunciated in the above verse) is that marriage to non-Muslims is forbidden. Any change to this rule then, must be specifically stated, and we can only act on the basis of that specification. Allah (s.w.t) in Sura Al Ma'ida (5:6) grants a concession: "This day all innately good things are lawful for you…Lawful to you are the chaste women from among those who have been given the Book before you. . . ." (i.e. Jews and Christians). The law specifically mentions muhsanaat -- chaste females (from the People of the Book); it did not say muhsaneen -- chaste males.'

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@topefisayo, at the end of the day the decision is between you and your heartthrob in the face of these obstancles. May God help you make a blessed and informed decision.

topefisayo:

Does Islam really forbib muslims from marrting out Islam?I'm a xtian and seriously in love with a muslim lady but parents are saying otherwise

My advise,forget all this allah forbids this and that crap.
What does this young woman say?
Is she willing to convert?
If the answer to the 2 questions above is affirmative,take her to Church and wed her there.

At the end of the day it's between the 2 of you.
True love is hard to find and if you're a Christian,you ought to share the gospel to this young lady and show her the love of our Saviour and help her come to His saving Grace.
All the best between you and your love

pilgrim.1:

The only exception is given to Muslim men who are allowed to marry the girls from among the People of the Book (al-Ma’idah 5:5), but Muslim women are not given this permission. So it is Haram (forbidden) for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man. This is the law of Allah and a Muslim when he or she learns about a law of Allah and His Messenger should only say, “I hear and I obey.”

Allah and his unstable laws. It is allowed for men and a sin for women. May God deliver us.

and may he deliver allah _{whoever he might be,if that's possible}

@topic,

I think the first question you should ask yourself is: Does my faith (Christianity) permit me to marry someone of another faith (a muslim in this case)? I'm sure you do not need to be told that the Bible forbids such an arrangement.

How can you be "one" with one whose Lord is different from yours?

Na wa for this love o,i pity you sa,if because of religion ALHAJI no gree u marry him daughter,abeg waka,fine correct girls with true love plenty for church.

Cute-ass and TayoD have given some godly advise but I will go a bit further. I am assuming that you are a born again christian and if that is the case the word of God admonishes us "not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers, " but if the girl is already converted before you fell in love with her you still have to pray to know whether she is God's will for your life, and if so, both of you should commit the hearts of her parents into the hands of the Lord in prayer that they may give their consent in marriage. Unbelievers here in U.K. go to the registry to get married but if you want to receive the blessing of her physical and spiritual parents respectively you have to honour her natural parents by getting their consent in giving out their daughter in marriage. In a God fearing church the minister will always ask the question that "who gives the woman out in marriage?" The father can either appear in person or send a representative. Lest we forget, marriage is an institution created by God. With God all things are possible.

OLAADEGBU:

Cute-ass and TayoD have given some godly advise but I will go a bit further. I am assuming that you are a born again christian and if that is the case the word of God admonishes us "not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers, " but if the girl is already converted before you fell in love with her you still have to pray to know whether she is God's will for your life, and if so, both of you should commit the hearts of her parents into the hands of the Lord in prayer that they may give their consent in marriage. Unbelievers here in U.K. go to the registry to get married but if you want to receive the blessing of her physical and spiritual parents respectively you have to honour her natural parents by getting their consent in giving out their daughter in marriage. In a God fearing church the minister will always ask the question that "who gives the woman out in marriage?" The father can either appear in person or send a representative. Lest we forget, marriage is an institution created by God. With God all things are possible.

Amen and Amen

To answer your questions here,
1. It is not allowed for the muslim ladies to marry an infidel, but it is allowed for the muslim men to marry the unbelievers, thereby converting her.

2. Whose parents are not giving the consent, yours or hers?

But really if you love her and you dont want her to perish, let her accept the Lord Jesus Christ into her life, then really you guys should see your pastor who can give you more godly counsel.