A lot of people are confused on what it means to love someone. Some say true love doesn't exist while some believe it does. Some see love from the telenovela perspective and therefore have unrealistic expectations only to keep getting hurt when the telenovela love doesn't happen. There are three kinds of love which are telenovela love, real love and fake love. Let's discuss them :

1) TELENOVELA LOVE : as the name implies, this is kind of love you see in telenovela. To be frank, such love is an illusion and can never exist. Such love has no regards for reasoning and proper planning but follows wherever the feelings lead . Once such love clicks, it promises to last forever unconditionally. People who set this as their standard of love are repeatedly disappointed and hurt. A love that goes all the way with feelings and promises to last forever no matter what without regards to proper planning and reasoning is unrealistic and not advisable. Attempting this love might end up dangerously except if you have money at all times, of course.

2) REAL LOVE : this love unfailingly has the following characteristics: 1) it's reasonable, wise, truthful and honest, 2) it doesn't give up easily, 3) it involves sacrifice & is ready to make sacrifices and 4) it involves respect for one spouse. A woman that loves a man can't leave him within a week of losing his job -- real love doesn't give up that easily. A woman that loves a man will not insult and degrade him when he loses his job. A man that loves a woman will not become insultive, abusive and disrespectful towards his wife when she hasn't been able to conceive -- true love respects and supports. True love will not give birth to children that both spouses can't take care of -- true love is reasonable. Real love, because it's reasonable, knows when to quit, because you love someone doesn't mean you should put up with them when they have no respect for you or treat you like trash.

Real love knows that money is needed to pay the bills and take care of children so it will not not lead to marriage and childbearing when there is no source of money from either the man or woman. A woman that loves her man will not insult or look down on him because she is earning more than her man. Real love is not foolish. Real love doesn't have unnecessary standards. Unlike what many people think, this love isn't unconditional but it doesn't give up easily. Also this love doesn't trust blindly, it reasonable. Girls don't go and buy properties and cars in the name of your boyfriend all in the name of love, that's telenovela love. Boys don't go and buy properties and cars in the name of your girlfriend all in the love, heart touching stories are real.

3) FAKE LOVE : this love is selfish, it gives up easily, it has unnecessary and selfish standards and places things over people. It has no respect for people but treats them as properties to get things. The fake love you get from ladies is based on money they can get from you or the opportunities they can get from you. The fake love you get from a guy begins to show itself when you are not able to conceive many years into the marriage or if an accident renders you barren. Sometimes, the man might be a gold digger (yes there are male gold diggers) who would dump you in the trash when you fall into difficulties and marry someone else. Fake love is never grateful and understanding. When your wife leaves you within two days or weeks after you lost your job, she does not have real love for you. When she insults and shames you at the slightest provocation because she is financially better than you or because you are jobless, she doesn't have real love for you.

When she demands that her man must be "higher" than her even if both of them can get along just fine, then that love is not real. That's fake love with unnecessary condition. If boyfriend says that if you don't perform a sexual act (eg. Anal sex), he will leave you, it's not true love. That's fake love with unnecessary conditions. Cheating on your spouse is fake love. Having sex with her and telling her to go for abortion repeatedly with no intention to marry is not true love and it's wickedness. Beating your spouse is fake love because real love is respectful. Marrying her because her father is a billionaire is not real love, obviously.

Fake love cannot sacrifice. If your wife cannot spare some chicken change or can't do it without making a big deal out of it during your hard time then it's not true love. Love in which there is no peace is not true love.



I have said my own but I could be wrong so ladies and gentlemen, what's telenovela, real and fake love? Drop your contributions.

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