I Joined an organization, a bank on the island about a year ago, precisely the accounts department. I love to talk, relate well with people, make my conversations lively and memorable. I can be very quiet and reserve too o, lets just say I am a mixed breed of a sanguine and melancholy. Initially my sanguine nature made me shoot myself in the leg as I threw myself at everyone in the department from day one, trying to be "Friendly'', it wasn't too long before I realized my approach to fitting into my new workplace environment wasn't right.

Then I withdrew, I took my time to observe everyone in the branch, however, those in my department in particular as I had cause to relate with them everyday.I became a master of everyone around in no time,I had studied their level of emotional and relational intelligence. I saw myself flow well and in good shape with everyone, my bosses, mates and juniors, safe one lady.

I guess she was the "eye" of the department before I came in. During my "ignorance period", she was a friend sort of, but after my observation I knew better and we gradually became distant. Afterwards I sensed the repulsion she had for me . Truth is, she can be rude, I have seen her display that trait couple times. I feel she dislikes me, like cant stand my guts . However she cant help "poknose" into my affairs, like say when a discussion is going on and she- busy or engaged , once I say anything ,I see how she pays rapt attention to want to listen to me, like maybe out of the hatred- "what does he have to say again". and then this disdain look, I just feel sorry for her, dust it off and move on with my own life.

The other day, a senior colleague asked me a question, before I could say jack , she answered for me, I was just startled, I did not utter a word,she can be that forward. She has come across me in her attitudes many times like she does to others but I gave it to her on an occasion. Felt I needed to be firm that day and I was impressed I was at not tolerating her that day, other colleagues looked on while the drama lasted and would not agree less with me.

After my careful study of everyone in the department, I knew she was top on my list of people I needed to avoid their garbage, I MEAN NO NEGATIVE VIBE POLICY...so I did, I reduced communication with her, but after the occasion I mentioned earlier, we barely spoke gain,I cant remember when last I spoke to her safe on official matters, and if its a thing I can do without having to contact her, I safe myself the stress

I greet her in the mornings though, usually the first...Haaaaaa! However, I occasionally deliberately ignore to do the greeting so it doesn't seem like a right and ritual to her, but I try to balance it. But if she greets first, I sure would graciously respond with a smile, like this morning.Maybe she likes me I have thought..Narh, shes not my kind not class ,not my "Kind" of woman. I dnt mean to degrade her, shes nt just my kind of lady in any right.So I thought this am, hope am not feeling pompous, or nursing grude with her unconsciously cos smtymes in a day if ntn brings us together, I might av no need to talk to her, but we see and all, I am flowing well and talk wth every other person in the department, another lady inclusive.

As the more matured person here, am I really doing the right thing? Yeah shes gat attitude, rude, saucy...Hope it anit that am the one just carried away by her gibberish and that what am getting cos thats mostly all I see to be truthful, but really i cant help but notice it, cos thats what she displays around me.
Just this morning, while meditating I had to ask mysef, Hope it isnt that am habouring resentment towards this lady . if that is , then its a big turn off for me.
In my bid to avoid her gibberish, I sense I may be outdoing it and thereby doing smtn wrong , or am I on track. someone should tell me what is and whats the best line of action on dealing with issues like this...

The other day I tried to do smtn I would rarely do, I went for a training, when I came back I brot stuffs for everyone and was sharing, I passed her initially, but leta when back to dish her hers, I tot that was a message to be like"Aunty pls can we just relate as normal humans" she doesn't just get it..

Maybe its my melancholy part of me thats just acting up on this issue , and am on track on this. A few advice will do
Thanks...

Thanks

You handle it the way I would suggest. Your encounter is absolutely normal. You can't be compatible with everybody. U can't please everyone. People differs in taste, preference, character, etc. Just handle your thing like a man and avoid malice with anybody. The best way to gain respect is to respect your self, which is exactly what you doing.
On the other hand, women they say are complicated. A lady who like you would naturally meddle and pokenose in your affairs. She could like you but angry at you that you don't notice her, hence, her rash demeanor. Women are just complicated like that.
Just don't force yourself on anybody. Just sit back, relax and watch events unravel.

I no go lie you,

The girl get wahala,

But you get wahala pass!