| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by wifeesnatcher(m): 10:33am On May 22, 2019 |
divorce? he's a nice guy. you should go and do testimony for his peaceful decision
if it happened to be someone like me, na that your Toto I go prevent from taking inn diick after dumping your scatter yansh to where it belongs
I hate Cheaters |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by kunleweb: 10:33am On May 22, 2019 |
powerkey:
Be Strong.
it's better the way you confessed to him.
Yes, it's also better you pay the price of your sin now.
You are free now in the sense that you have confessed and therefore the burden is now on him.
However, you need to make efforts to reconcile. use your pastor (not the type that will take advantage of your situation).
Use your brother, any good family member will do.
And finally, Separate yourself from that useless guy/man in your office that took advantage of you.
Hate him with all the strength in you....
I will follow up on you and I assure you that your husband will return. Can we both follow it up together to reconcile both parties? How can I be of assistance. 1 Like |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by fixmykey(m): 10:33am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:
https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont
I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.
I rented a 2 bedroom flat somewhere close to my office. This is where I currently stay. Since leaving my husband's house I have only received a phone call from him where he stated the date that he and I were going to visit my parents who are currently in my village. He told me that if I wasn't going to come, he'd go alone and tell them what happened and why he decided to divorce me.
I feel like my life is over. I can't face my parents and tell them what I've done. It's very shameful. I can't even face my friends and relations. I feel like I'm drowning a pool of shame and despair. I can't imagine being a single mother at this age. I love my husband and I enjoyed our marriage. I can't imagine it all being over.
I called my colleague and told him everything. He said that I shouldn't hold him responsible for anything since our rendezvous was based on mutual consent. He said he doesn't want to have anything to with me and we should keep our relationship at work very platonic so as not to raise eyebrows of those who might link him to what happened with me.
I'm utterly hopeless. I feel like taking my life. I almost took this action yesterday but I pitied my children. But with every passing day I feel like suicide is the only way to end my pain. I wish I had listened to those people who advised me to keep what I did a secret. I wanted to, but every time I was with my husband I felt I was constantly betraying him by hiding the truth from him. I just want to die. I can't bare this pain anymore.
1. You are a good woman. Before culture, religion and the Government law. you have paid your due and you have been cleaned and set free. why do you want to take your life? HELL NO...... from your story you have a good job so dont let it slow you. African men problem, If a man find his wife cheating problem but if a woman find the husband cheating nothing happens. i can understand your position. Be bold and face your family. As long as you have confessed to him and before GOD. you are free even the juju in your village will salute you say kai madam you finish me. Go and sin no more. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by lastmessenger: 10:33am On May 22, 2019 |
rafhell:
Something tells me the OP is a big liar.
Let us read between the lines. You put out your post 11 days ago asking for advice. In eleven days, all these drama had played out.
You even got a 2 bedroom accommodation close to your work place and you already moved in with the kids.
Madam or whoever you are, not everybody on nairaland is daft.
Nice storyline BTW let me tell you the game. Nairaland mods make up stories to drive traffic to the site and this story is one of them. The woman is not real,the husband is not real and there is no ex. I take this story like the story of a nollywood movie 1 Like |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by alujonjonkijon: 10:33am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:
https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont
I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.
I rented a 2 bedroom flat somewhere close to my office. This is where I currently stay. Since leaving my husband's house I have only received a phone call from him where he stated the date that he and I were going to visit my parents who are currently in my village. He told me that if I wasn't going to come, he'd go alone and tell them what happened and why he decided to divorce me.
I feel like my life is over. I can't face my parents and tell them what I've done. It's very shameful. I can't even face my friends and relations. I feel like I'm drowning a pool of shame and despair. I can't imagine being a single mother at this age. I love my husband and I enjoyed our marriage. I can't imagine it all being over.
I called my colleague and told him everything. He said that I shouldn't hold him responsible for anything since our rendezvous was based on mutual consent. He said he doesn't want to have anything to with me and we should keep our relationship at work very platonic so as not to raise eyebrows of those who might link him to what happened with me.
I'm utterly hopeless. I feel like taking my life. I almost took this action yesterday but I pitied my children. But with every passing day I feel like suicide is the only way to end my pain. I wish I had listened to those people who advised me to keep what I did a secret. I wanted to, but every time I was with my husband I felt I was constantly betraying him by hiding the truth from him. I just want to die. I can't bare this pain anymore.
hope this will serve a lesson to those who heeds the counsels given on nairaland by kids and inexperienced person.before you put a loan in a truck you will first determine the load carrying capacity of the truck,you should be able to guess your husbad reaction to cheating before you tell him without expert guidance. |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Okoberry: 10:34am On May 22, 2019 |
Please call me on 08033745328 if you don't mind. You need constructive and godly direction at this junction. Regards |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Mac2016(m): 10:34am On May 22, 2019 |
Sex is mostly destructive... But lady pls suicide is not an option especially cause of hell fire also cause of your innocent children. I bet you I can't take a woman as wife ever again also so don't blame your spouse. Although, I can date you if you are interested so that you won't commit suicide and still feel loved and being cared for. |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by JasonScoolari: 10:35am On May 22, 2019 |
BlueAir:
Some maggot said "take it to the grave" but u proved better than them. To every action there is an outcome. U have done the right thing and have no right to feel guilty. Accept ur husbands decision as an outcome and not a punishment and move on. U are freed from ur guilt. Let ur husband deal with his own outcome. Either it will be good or bad outcome, it's not for u, any man to say but God.imagine u try to "take it to the grave" and the truth had to come out because of blackmail Or other means... Do u think u would have any defence against ur husbands reaction but now u have confessed,regardless of ur husbands reaction, u will always have a say on why u should remain in that marriage against ur husbands opinion because u came out with the truth urself .
.ur confession make u better and innocent.u can take the advice above and seek people to appeal on ur behalf. Jaso.nscoolari. What do u think Bro, I am tired of this Marbella003 case, I gave her my best advice and she reported me which got me a 1week ban as a reward. Let her continue enjoying young dick. |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by GloShare(m): 10:36am On May 22, 2019 |
Now think again,
Was the fùck worth it? |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by RiyadhGoddess(f): 10:36am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:
https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont
I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.
I rented a 2 bedroom flat somewhere close to my office. This is where I currently stay. Since leaving my husband's house I have only received a phone call from him where he stated the date that he and I were going to visit my parents who are currently in my village. He told me that if I wasn't going to come, he'd go alone and tell them what happened and why he decided to divorce me.
I feel like my life is over. I can't face my parents and tell them what I've done. It's very shameful. I can't even face my friends and relations. I feel like I'm drowning a pool of shame and despair. I can't imagine being a single mother at this age. I love my husband and I enjoyed our marriage. I can't imagine it all being over.
I called my colleague and told him everything. He said that I shouldn't hold him responsible for anything since our rendezvous was based on mutual consent. He said he doesn't want to have anything to with me and we should keep our relationship at work very platonic so as not to raise eyebrows of those who might link him to what happened with me.
I'm utterly hopeless. I feel like taking my life. I almost took this action yesterday but I pitied my children. But with every passing day I feel like suicide is the only way to end my pain. I wish I had listened to those people who advised me to keep what I did a secret. I wanted to, but every time I was with my husband I felt I was constantly betraying him by hiding the truth from him. I just want to die. I can't bare this pain anymore.
Oh my God, Oh my God. Maa'm please don't do anything stupid I beg you. Please think of your kids I beg you. This is not the end of the road. It's normal for your husband to react this way. It's expected of him. Things are very hot now but trust me as times goes, it will be cold. You did well by telling him the truth. You will have to give it time to heal please. Please forget about your colleague. Focus more on your kids, yourself and God. This is the time to ask God for mercy. God alone is the one that can restore back your home not any man. I can feel your pains. Please where are you located? I want to see you. Let's talk the pains out if you don't mind. E-hug my dear... |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Nobody: 10:36am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:
https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont
I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.
I rented a 2 bedroom flat somewhere close to my office. This is where I currently stay. Since leaving my husband's house I have only received a phone call from him where he stated the date that he and I were going to visit my parents who are currently in my village. He told me that if I wasn't going to come, he'd go alone and tell them what happened and why he decided to divorce me.
I feel like my life is over. I can't face my parents and tell them what I've done. It's very shameful. I can't even face my friends and relations. I feel like I'm drowning a pool of shame and despair. I can't imagine being a single mother at this age. I love my husband and I enjoyed our marriage. I can't imagine it all being over.
I called my colleague and told him everything. He said that I shouldn't hold him responsible for anything since our rendezvous was based on mutual consent. He said he doesn't want to have anything to with me and we should keep our relationship at work very platonic so as not to raise eyebrows of those who might link him to what happened with me.
I'm utterly hopeless. I feel like taking my life. I almost took this action yesterday but I pitied my children. But with every passing day I feel like suicide is the only way to end my pain. I wish I had listened to those people who advised me to keep what I did a secret. I wanted to, but every time I was with my husband I felt I was constantly betraying him by hiding the truth from him. I just want to die. I can't bare this pain anymore.
u love him shey... sniper |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by PennywysCares(m): 10:37am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:
https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont
I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.
I rented a 2 bedroom flat somewhere close to my office. This is where I currently stay. Since leaving my husband's house I have only received a phone call from him where he stated the date that he and I were going to visit my parents who are currently in my village. He told me that if I wasn't going to come, he'd go alone and tell them what happened and why he decided to divorce me.
I feel like my life is over. I can't face my parents and tell them what I've done. It's very shameful. I can't even face my friends and relations. I feel like I'm drowning a pool of shame and despair. I can't imagine being a single mother at this age. I love my husband and I enjoyed our marriage. I can't imagine it all being over.
I called my colleague and told him everything. He said that I shouldn't hold him responsible for anything since our rendezvous was based on mutual consent. He said he doesn't want to have anything to with me and we should keep our relationship at work very platonic so as not to raise eyebrows of those who might link him to what happened with me.
I'm utterly hopeless. I feel like taking my life. I almost took this action yesterday but I pitied my children. But with every passing day I feel like suicide is the only way to end my pain. I wish I had listened to those people who advised me to keep what I did a secret. I wanted to, but every time I was with my husband I felt I was constantly betraying him by hiding the truth from him. I just want to die. I can't bare this pain anymore.
now the nigga that was thrusting harder with is six packs, teasing you around corner of the of the room is now denying you what a wonderful world enjoy your single-hood once again no responsible man will love to share his bed with a cheat anytime he wanna insert his dick there he gonna remember that one fuckin nigga had dig the same hole now that make him tired and weak he did very well to let you go |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Realdeals(m): 10:37am On May 22, 2019 |
Madam be strong, you'll end up being celebrated for having the courage to as admit your mistake and confessing same. Take your destiny in your hand, always refer to why you took the action, it will be a huge lesson to all husbands.
Marbella003 |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Chamber2000: 10:37am On May 22, 2019 |
sisisioge:
Chai! You confessed! Lordylordy!
I always knew you weren't much of a bright woman, didn't know it was this bad. Well, take heart. Remember he wasn't so appealing to you before now. Simply gather yourself together and forge ahead.
You will be fine last last. I love this comment but I won't marry you |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Originalsly: 10:37am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003:
I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me.
A relationship is based on trust. You break that trust ... the man's heart is no longer into it.... but his mouth may .... may say otherwise. In his mind.... you have become an olosho. The same way you were brave enough to sleep with another man..... the same way you must be brave to face the consequences.
Man Woman up. |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by RiyadhGoddess(f): 10:39am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:
https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont
I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.
I rented a 2 bedroom flat somewhere close to my office. This is where I currently stay. Since leaving my husband's house I have only received a phone call from him where he stated the date that he and I were going to visit my parents who are currently in my village. He told me that if I wasn't going to come, he'd go alone and tell them what happened and why he decided to divorce me.
I feel like my life is over. I can't face my parents and tell them what I've done. It's very shameful. I can't even face my friends and relations. I feel like I'm drowning a pool of shame and despair. I can't imagine being a single mother at this age. I love my husband and I enjoyed our marriage. I can't imagine it all being over.
I called my colleague and told him everything. He said that I shouldn't hold him responsible for anything since our rendezvous was based on mutual consent. He said he doesn't want to have anything to with me and we should keep our relationship at work very platonic so as not to raise eyebrows of those who might link him to what happened with me.
I'm utterly hopeless. I feel like taking my life. I almost took this action yesterday but I pitied my children. But with every passing day I feel like suicide is the only way to end my pain. I wish I had listened to those people who advised me to keep what I did a secret. I wanted to, but every time I was with my husband I felt I was constantly betraying him by hiding the truth from him. I just want to die. I can't bare this pain anymore.
Please check ur mail |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by drlateef: 10:41am On May 22, 2019 |
If you were a Muslim, I would have advised you not to tell him. Beg God for forgiveness and to conceal your weakness and sin. Then move on to correct yourself and your life. That's the Islamic perspective on this issue. Everyone has a weakness and sins they commit on daily basis. If God conceals your sins for you, beg for His forgiveness and move on. Your husband also has his sins that he must have hidden from you. If God exposes all our sins, we will never be happy with each. |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by dehi: 10:41am On May 22, 2019 |
Why you go cheat in the first place |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Olorunnim: 10:41am On May 22, 2019 |
Whatever happens in Paris should always stay in Paris, but you cheated on your husband, that's like his pride and ego you decided to take away for some low life guy masturbation is even better than what you did. |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by joeyswift(m): 10:41am On May 22, 2019 |
Exactly Bro, she needs to give him time to heal because he is still in shock of betrayal. The problem is that her guilty conscience won't allow her to be patient in her husband because it is eating her up. She should also put herself in her husband's shoes. Not until he can forgive himself before he can forgive her(we men always think we have failed,when our women go ahead and cheat.) erifeoluwasimi:
He is hurting and angry.give him time to heal.
Send important people he respects to plead on your behalf, like l pastors, friends etc
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| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by kunleweb: 10:41am On May 22, 2019 |
Khaleell001:
This is why I don't like office interaction especially when it involves two opposite sex.
No matter the faith you have it will whittle down in no time.
We can't pretend that these things do not happen.
People should try to be less interactive with the opposite sex lest they fall into that which will destroy
I hope you come out if this better and stronger.
I agree 100% |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by owoshuyi(m): 10:41am On May 22, 2019 |
For telling your husband about your extra marital affairs, you are a brave woman. it was the right thing to do before God and man. the person you need to comfort is JESUS CHRIST. He loves you no matter what you have done and He will heal and forgive you. Accept His love by opening your heart to Him and accept Him as your Lord and Saviour. I am very sure, He can and will mend your broken marriage. No comment, counselor, or whoever can repair this. Only God can. Just believe. Taking your life will never make things better. MATTHEW 11:28 1 Like |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Altern8(m): 10:42am On May 22, 2019 |
sisisioge:
Chai! You confessed! Lordylordy!
I always knew you weren't much of a bright woman, didn't know it was this bad. Well, take heart. Remember he wasn't so appealing to you before now. Simply gather yourself together and forge ahead.
You will be fine last last. What?!  “Remember he wasn’t so appealing...”? Like that is an excuse for her to just move on? The OP certainly does NOT need friends like this. |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by pansophist(m): 10:42am On May 22, 2019 |
From my experience, women handle cheating better than men, but that's if they are convinced that it's a one-off thing and their man still love them. For men, it's different because for a man to feel loved, he has to be respected and in charge/territorial. Men are protector, and cheating on him undermines his core value as a man, sending a message that the other guy's seed is more worthy than his. This is how men process cheating, unlike women who are more concern if she is still his beloved. Men cheat for validation, women cheat to validate him. See the difference? A woman who cheats on a man has one interpretation, that her partner lack in a way the guy she cheated with doesn't. Women are the gatekeeper of sex, and will only give it to the best man in the pack. Accepting you after you've cheated is basically him accepting a subservient position, and a quality of a man who lack self respect. You even expressed consecutive desire to sleep with him, which proved my point.
You should have repented and taken the news to your grave. Masculinity is attached to the ego, and the thoughts of another man sleeping with his wife will completely shatter the fortress which his self-esteem and dominance as a conqueror man are built on. Logically he may forgive you, but he cant fight millions of years of evolutionary hardwiring which will play in his head anytime he sees you.
Furthermore, Your husband is a product of the global feminization of men. Men these days have to stop being masculine, to be muscular, virile, and have the strength, vigour and toughness of a Greek warrior. Testosterone is an all-time low, while obesity and Male weakness is an all-time high. In as much as I do not condone your cheating, men also need to know what it means to be a man. Providing only is just a slice of masculinity in the whole pie. I'm a muscular man with my abs clearly visible, and I see the way women, both married and young lust after me. Women are moved with looks just as men and a simple Tinder experiment with fake Male photo with muscular bodies sill simply prove it to you.
If you're a man reading this, please take your body serious. Just as you want your woman to look sexy, you have the obligations to look the same. Watch how an animal has sex, with a bit of aggression and energy, you must do it like that with her. No woman will cheat when her man supplies all her sexual needs and appear sexy to her. 16 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by SoNature(m): 10:42am On May 22, 2019 |
Chubhie:
Your husband lack compassion. That's too extreme from him. Regardless, you should stay strong. Its not the end of the world if your husband seeks divorce and wants nothing to do with the kids. You could go far away and start a new life with your kids.
Hopefully, you've learnt your lessons albeit in a very painful manner. Be open to love again. A man that matches your energy could come along and see you as the centre of his universe. Uncle, relax. Faithful husbands are hard to come by these days. And she admitted that her husband is. I won't cheap on my wife, and I won't forgive her if she does the same to me. If she cheats on me, I can't even stand her anymore 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Nobody: 10:42am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:
https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont
I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.
I rented a 2 bedroom flat somewhere close to my office. This is where I currently stay. Since leaving my husband's house I have only received a phone call from him where he stated the date that he and I were going to visit my parents who are currently in my village. He told me that if I wasn't going to come, he'd go alone and tell them what happened and why he decided to divorce me.
I feel like my life is over. I can't face my parents and tell them what I've done. It's very shameful. I can't even face my friends and relations. I feel like I'm drowning a pool of shame and despair. I can't imagine being a single mother at this age. I love my husband and I enjoyed our marriage. I can't imagine it all being over.
I called my colleague and told him everything. He said that I shouldn't hold him responsible for anything since our rendezvous was based on mutual consent. He said he doesn't want to have anything to with me and we should keep our relationship at work very platonic so as not to raise eyebrows of those who might link him to what happened with me.
I'm utterly hopeless. I feel like taking my life. I almost took this action yesterday but I pitied my children. But with every passing day I feel like suicide is the only way to end my pain. I wish I had listened to those people who advised me to keep what I did a secret. I wanted to, but every time I was with my husband I felt I was constantly betraying him by hiding the truth from him. I just want to die. I can't bare this pain anymore.
Don't commit suicide please. If you do hell is sure cause you didn't make your life. Give him time, such truth is hard to heal but time heals everything. Right now is looking for a reason to mess around, let him do enough of that. Definitely with time he is gonna miss having you around if truly you made your presence worth it while you were there. Keep on asking him for mercy, make him understand its the love and respect you have for him that made you tell the truth. Good luck |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by OgogoroFreak(m): 10:42am On May 22, 2019 |
I can come visit you in your newly rented 2 bedroom flat with my erect prick to console you.  Life is too short to cry over a husband. Afterall, you don already born children. Na make we just dey fvck dey go remain.  |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by BabaAroba: 10:43am On May 22, 2019 |
Don't kill yourself my sister no body above mistake ,it's well understandable that your husband is not mature enough that is the reason why he handle the case like that,let's assume you don't tell him anything what will happen,Nothing but as you told him he started misbehaving,sis continue with your life and don't go back to your split again,A true love we give room for second chance... |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by RiyadhGoddess(f): 10:43am On May 22, 2019 |
Mac2016:
Sex is mostly destructive... But lady pls suicide is not an option especially cause of hell fire also cause of your innocent children. I bet you I can't take a woman as wife ever again also so don't blame your spouse. Although, I can date you if you are interested so that you won't commit
suicide and still feel loved and being cared for. Who is this one again? Abeg shift jor |
| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by owoshuyi(m): 10:43am On May 22, 2019 |
For telling your husband about your extra marital affairs, you are a brave woman. it was the right thing to do before God and man. the person you need to comfort is JESUS CHRIST. He loves you no matter what you have done and He will heal and forgive you. Accept His love by opening your heart to Him and accept Him as your Lord and Saviour. I am very sure, He can and will mend your broken marriage. No comment, counselor, or whoever can repair this. Only God can. Just believe. Taking your life will never make things better. MATTHEW 11:28Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:
https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont
I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.
I rented a 2 bedroom flat somewhere close to my office. This is where I currently stay. Since leaving my husband's house I have only received a phone call from him where he stated the date that he and I were going to visit my parents who are currently in my village. He told me that if I wasn't going to come, he'd go alone and tell them what happened and why he decided to divorce me.
I feel like my life is over. I can't face my parents and tell them what I've done. It's very shameful. I can't even face my friends and relations. I feel like I'm drowning a pool of shame and despair. I can't imagine being a single mother at this age. I love my husband and I enjoyed our marriage. I can't imagine it all being over.
I called my colleague and told him everything. He said that I shouldn't hold him responsible for anything since our rendezvous was based on mutual consent. He said he doesn't want to have anything to with me and we should keep our relationship at work very platonic so as not to raise eyebrows of those who might link him to what happened with me.
I'm utterly hopeless. I feel like taking my life. I almost took this action yesterday but I pitied my children. But with every passing day I feel like suicide is the only way to end my pain. I wish I had listened to those people who advised me to keep what I did a secret. I wanted to, but every time I was with my husband I felt I was constantly betraying him by hiding the truth from him. I just want to die. I can't bare this pain anymore.
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| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by onelove063: 10:43am On May 22, 2019 |
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| Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by lobiologs(m): 10:43am On May 22, 2019 |
I don't think the next thing to do is blame yourself, the mistake has been made, he has made his decision and it is time to make yours with respect to what's best for your kids. Go to work, leave that other guy alone, he is out of the picture.
You'll hurt for a little while but trust me, in about 2-3months you'll be almost fine and you'll start seeing things more clearly.
And I take it that you are beautiful so get back on track and who knows, even your husband might jist come back to you. |
