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| House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by jerryice(m): 9:00am On Oct 02, 2010 |
We are 3 guys living in the same condo, 1 of us has Tanzanian girlfriend and the rest 2 of us don't have any Girlfriend cause we are all schooling abroad and this exact place, its hard to get an African girlfriend.well as time goes by,the girl started developing likeness for the second guy with no Girl friend, and she was getting more closer to him.cause she found out that he is a smooth talker and naturally endowed (lol) and her boyfriend is this gentle man type. Well the main issue is: the owner of the girlfriend caught the other guy with his girlfriend in the act, caught them having sex through the conversation they had with MSN messenger about their ordeal when he has having sex with her in her own house. and its real and confirmed.and they still have the intentions of keeping a secret affairs between themselves. they bought admitted they did it. so now my Question is what should the owner of the Girlfriend do? we all live as one and we trust each other. Now we keep begging the guy and he has promised to take a drastic step on this. what kind of advice do you guys think i could give to this heart broken guy so he wont do something dangerous to him self and to anybody. please i need urgent answers.  thanks |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by Dyt(f): 9:06am On Oct 02, 2010 |
I does not even gots anythings u had sayings |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by InkedNerd(f): 9:10am On Oct 02, 2010 |
@OP: When did this young woman become property? She's a human being, not some item that someone can possess. Smh. Anyway, your gentleman type friend should just leave her and move on. He needs to know and understand that that girl who cheated on him didn't care or appreciate him and there will be other girls out there will appreciate what he has to offer as a man. Tell him that she didn't have him in mind when she slept with his roommate and so he shouldn't have her in mind either. But she's not the only one to blame though. The roommate in question also played a role in it. |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by HIPROFILE(m): 9:18am On Oct 02, 2010 |
oh shit! the second guy has not done well why the betrayal,anyway it has happened,and it has happened ma broda life goes on he will be a fool to do somfin dangerous cos of a girl frend not even a wife and moreover if kill himself the girl will still leave.yes is a heart broken stuff but life goes on theres a purpose 4 every hapening may be the babe is not the best 4 him.he shud know dat the ratio of girls to boys in this world or even dat place u live is much higher der4 there are still somany girls out there who are beta bro take heart jooo. |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by jerryice(m): 9:39am On Oct 02, 2010 |
@dyt read through and understand. dont want to type a long story thingy. @inker_nerd and Hi prof. thanks, what if this guy in question is not ready to leave the Gurl? and his motive now is to deal with the other room mate for taking advantage on him? And if he leaves her,he really has little chances to get another African babe here in Nicaragua. his feeling real bad with the babe and he is not ready to leave her either. |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by InkedNerd(f): 9:54am On Oct 02, 2010 |
jerryice: Nicaragua eh? Como estas? Anyway, if he's not ready to leave her then he can stay with her but he needs to keep in mind that there is a possibility that she may do it again. I'm not necessarily saying once a cheater always a cheater, but he needs to remember she could do it again. He can forgive but he doesn't need to forget. As for the roommate situation, he needs to keep an eye on the dude. Keep your enemies close and your friends closer. He also needs to talk to the dude. As a matter of fact, I think you all need to talk to one another and establish some sort of ground rules for situations like this because its s**t like this that can cause tension among roommates. The girl in question, does she even feel bad about what she did? Does the roommate feel bad about playing a part in this ongoing drama? I understand that there is a shortage of African girls in Nicaragua but he really needs to ask himself, at what cost is he willing to butcher his emotions for the sake of a girl? If it were I, I would have given the girl the deuces and moved on. Personally, I don't tolerate cheating and things of that nature. |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by iice(f): 9:57am On Oct 02, 2010 |
Lmao at live as one and trust each other. Whatever ben 10 universe that is. But since you all live as one, you can all share the girl as one. |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by jerryice(m): 10:05am On Oct 02, 2010 |
si inker nerd estoy bien Tanzanian gurls are sumtin else O. to the way i see things,she is really not sorry for what happened. well thats what i kept on explaining to him,that we re in a foreign land and meant to think twice before reacting. i will try taking him out to the fields tomorrow,so i will talk to him and calm him down the more. gracias, habla espanol?  |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by InkedNerd(f): 10:12am On Oct 02, 2010 |
jerryice: Un poco , no demasiado. The dude really needs to calm down. She's not worth going crazy over. He's here going crazy while the girl is walking around without a care in the world. I mean c'mon who wants to wrench their head over someone who just doesn't give a fuc.k about them? Who is he even upset at anyway? The girl or the roommate? Oh and de nada. My Spanish isn't very good. Needs tons of work. Umm, I don't wanna seem nosy but could you let me know how it went after you talk to him? Por favor |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by jerryice(m): 10:23am On Oct 02, 2010 |
Si inker_nerd hay problema just learned little too. dont want to learn much,local languages on my head is causing probs for me at times. Lools buenas noches |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by InkedNerd(f): 10:25am On Oct 02, 2010 |
Ok, good night to you too  Eh ya, don't worry. With time the language will get better. |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by 190: 10:30am On Oct 02, 2010 |
NEXT!! |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by Mitchelin(m): 10:41am On Oct 02, 2010 |
This be my take on the issue: If your pal is hanging out with her for the sake of just having a companion, you know,someone to keep him warm without thoughts to something permanent,then he can continue with her. But if he has plans for something concrete, like settling down with her, then he's in deep s@#t. The lady in question is not a wifey material (granted we all make mistakes but, there are certain things that are sancrosanct in a relationship that may lead to the altar, foremost of which is not sleeping around with the family, ). Leave that to the white dudes (even at that,they don't cotton on to it either, infact it cuts across race and gender, stay away from amorous relationships when you are already involved in one!). Furthermore,you'll be doing real good to keep an eye on that pal of yours, a man that can sleep with your wifey,would wrest the inheritance of your off-springs from them should you leave it to him, yeah, yeah, yeah, I know y'all aint married,but see this as a harbinger of things to come should you decide to pitch tent with this girl. |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by Specialist900(m): 11:14am On Oct 02, 2010 |
the original boy friend should let the girl go cos she is not worth the hassle. He didn't perform so he lost the chick to a performing friend. Your stress has been on african chicks, whats wrong with chicks from other parts? |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by LOVE4BUG(f): 11:33am On Oct 02, 2010 |
190: papa why na dnt you think that since there is only one girl among 3 guys, and the girl is willing to share the cake. The guys should pretend that nothing happened and move on, keep eating the cake untill they all have their babe abd then kick the cake sharer out |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by Orikinla(m): 2:04pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
Inked_Nerd: FINIS. But if you are not married to any girl or woman, you don't own her. So, she is free like a bird to fly and perch on any tree. The babe should have been bold enough to tell her guy that she would prefer to sleep with the next guy. PERIOD. She wan sample another manhood. That is her busiess. Take it or leave. You have had your turn and should be nice enough to let her give another guy his turn. Na turn by turn oh. SHARING IS CARING. Anyway, I always advise that IT IS BETTER, HEALTHIER AND SAFER TO QUIT RATHER THAN CHEAT. Anyone who would rather cheat than quit first is a DUMBASS. |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by Loveaflame(m): 4:13pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
Tell the guy to forget the lady and move on with his life.If he is man enough let him separate himself from such a crook who calls himself a friend.The more he lives with him the more the memory lingers.I think he should break his friendship with such a guy who can even kill him if the oppotunity arises As for the girl he should just make her a past tense and part of his archives. |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by james1(m): 4:36pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
@poster.tell your friend to move on;there is something that doesn't tick in him but tick's in the other guy that made her do what she did.no one has a right over anyone unless they married beside's what is it with you guy's and african gurls?you guy's are in a country where there are no african food(won't you peep's do with what you find,the local gurl's?) |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by InkedNerd(f): 6:12pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
Orikinla: Marriage does not constitute ownership. Did we suddenly revert back to the days of slavery? They do not need to be married for then to know that neither one of them should be cheating. Just because marriage isn't in the picture doesn't mean that cheating is ok. You talk about her as though she's some play toy. She's a human being for goodness sake. Smh. The only thing that I'll agree with that you've said is that she should have told he boyfriend if she had that urge or desire to be with someone else. Her doing it behind his back was a very sheisty move. |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by Nobody: 9:15pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
@poster as much as i understand how african gals are rare in these parts of the world, what the guy did was low and there is only ONE OUTCOME. someone got to go!!! how can anyone trust anyone in this house or bring their new gf again? its obvious that some of these guys in that house are so desperate for cootie cat that they will go after any gal that comes there rather than go and get their own. sweet talker my foot, that guy is a RAT/SCAVENGER! |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by jerryice(m): 1:44pm On Oct 03, 2010 |
@Mr Brown jay ur right: No trust again for now.  thats the thing in the house now Ooo. Nobody is talking to each other as family again,Both of them stayed in their rooms all day.The owner of the gurl is still feeling bad over what happened and the other guy is also sorry but what if the gurl seduced him too? @james1 Local gurls are worst than the African gurls we easily understand each other. local gurls when they love they dont allow you rest and always want you and they must not catch you talking or chatting with a gurl for long. And when its heart break dem no dey hear come na Go Ooo.So dating Africans is preferable. i just still wonder why the owner of the gurl still wants her. what kinda love? if it was me its over,i cant bare seeing her beside me. |
| Re: House I Need Your Opinion On This Matter?!?!?! by Nobody: 10:03pm On Oct 03, 2010 |
jerryice: it happened to me, i fukc my best buddy's gal (back in the days)and blamed it on the gal because SHE came after me. the fact is that the friendship/bound i have for my buddy,should have made me realize that it was wrong rather than thinking with my 3rd leg. ultimately,no coochie is worth the loss of a true friend, especially not when you are alone in some far away foreign land. i just still wonder why the owner of the gurl still wants her. what kinda love? if it was me its over,i cant bare seeing her beside me. yes some people are willing to forget more than other (to each their own) but then, BOTH have to be forgiven, the cheating gal AND the cheating friend because they did the exact same "crime". |
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