LadySarah:


Fireproof Or something.The wife cheated on him.

Will check it out....

GodWrites:
I got goosebumps after reading op's plight. My brother, how do you sleep at night knowing that another man might be dicking your wife?

How can your business flourish when you are carrying an issue that is so draining and depressing?

Take a look at your kids, I'm sure they don't resemble you in any way. Am I wrong?

If you wish to die old, you need to take a step that pains. A step that requires enormous strength. Please, DIVORCE that hoe before she end you.

If your wife can't respect you, the kids won't. It's obvious you have failed as a husband, do you want to fail as a father too? Yes, you failed as a husband cause those signs came earlier on, you neglected them because of what the society will think.

Divorce her, then think of buffing your finance. Don't wait till finance is okay before you take that step. It is a trap!

I hope you act like a man for once in your life.

When I read the above I thought, "Aba! God! Op took you wife," then I went and read the op.

Op! God hasn't kicked you hard enough! I want to jump in my phone and kick your ass or you will continue ignoring! Your wife is leaving you to baby sit while she is doing ashewo and you are complaining you ignored so much? I strongly advise you take the advice given you above or you will die!

I found God and got 3 like for you!

God will definitely take control

hurthubby:


You are very correct. Do you know that after I poured out my heart on NAIRALAND, I went home and called wife to advice her as things are getting out of hand, and in the cause of the advice, I asked her to call the former boyfriend that is married to her cousin in my presence, and end any relationship they had, but she refused, telling me that she will call him later. This annoyed me more and i have to call her cousin myself, to tell her everything, and that she should warn her husband to leave my wife alone. The cousin later called me back to say that she knew about their relationship and has confronted the husband severally about it and he always denied it, that she have been planning on how to confront my wife, who happens to be her elder. She even thanked me profusely for being the one to bring the issue open.
For 2 days now, there is a silent war in my home but I know that God is in control.
Thanks

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.

(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.

In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).

I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.

She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.

In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.

In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).

Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.

Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.

My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.

I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

Daddy, you're a foolish man o! after all this, you didn't realize that some times the fight is not worth fighting. You sat down comfortably in such a toxic marriage, sha go and do DNA test for your so-called pikin to know which is yours and which isn't, or if you no even get pikin self.

hurthubby:


Your language is rude and crude. You are married for 7 years only. Wait till you get to over 19 years of marriage with teen children before you know that it is another kettle of fish. Thanks anyway

You brought ur family poblem to an open forum... expect anything... just like open food to a swam of flies.

hurthubby:


Your language is rude and crude. You are married for 7 years only. Wait till you get to over 19 years of marriage with teen children before you know that it is another kettle of fish. Thanks anyway

You brought ur family problem to an open forum... expect anything... just like open food to a swam of flies.

franchasng:
Hahahahahaha



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