where do i start from? well i hav this friend known her for some years now. i hav noticed that anytime she finds love in a guy she wouldnt want me to meet the guy and even if we eventually meet she wouldnt want me to talk to d guy.
it happened for a doctor guy she started dating even though d doctor guy had a girlfriend then she still went ahead to date the guy and d guy told her who he is dating and she said she doesnt mind i couldnt tell her not to go ahead cos she would take it the other way.

on two occasions she has accused me of being jealous of her. there was one disagreement we had for months. she called me all sort of names dat i didnt want her to get married and all sorts it took d intervention of some respectable people to settle wat happened becos it was really serious at the end of the day the guy didnt marry her cos she was really desperate to get married and u can imagine this my friend i am older than her yet am not desperate she is much more prettier than me yet she is insecured i hav asked her several times why she feels that way but no reply. and this guy i introduced her to him . it was thru me she got d job she is in now

well we settled that and d guy left her cos d guy was a liar and she got to see the guy in his true light. now she has found someone else now i am her enemy again infact its quite pathetic
what should i do

I would refer you to the Thread: WHY DUMP YOUR FRIENDS FOR A LOVER. Go read through your problem is similar ok. Give her, her much deservered space. Its her loss! It hurts but what can you do?

the thing is dat we dont even talk again d last time we did she insulted me she called me names dat i was sick dat someting was burning or eating me up she even called me a mad person

so right now we dont talk and do u know d funniest part she has told d boyfriend unprintable things about me even d guy whom i knew before stopped talking to me too

you have to be careful aboput such a friend. she doesnt trust herself so she can not trust any friend.

hmmmmmmmmm?

Sometimes u just gotta let go. And possibly let them know u r different and special.

Let d end justifies d means aiight.


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i think you are really bothered about this girl. What are you afraid of? forget her thats all everyone will tell you. If you can't you will definately get hurt again. Your frienddhip with her was a bad one. Good rediance to bad rubbish. You will make new and better friends ok.

SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND.

PERIOD.

Is this friendship?? Lets see . . believe me by the time i'm through with my post, we should be very able to answer that

We were told and taught that friendships and any other relationships for that matter is entitled to its own share of ups and downs, good days and not so good days,  but at the same time, they'll be happy, appreciate each other, love each other, be there and help each other, comfort and console each other at times of need,

but under no cicumstance can i remember being taught it was going to be like battling with the devil, trying to prove yourself, sincerity, unconditional friendship and love and yet have it thrown to lions, one party doing eveything to meet up to the other ones standards when it actually should be a case of accepting each other with open arms . . 

The latter of my descriptions is your case and dearie, unless some new dictionary that i don't know about has been produced, that is in no way the definition of friendship

Now i don't care if she's suffering some mental setback, insecurity problems, low self-esteem and confidence cases, she has no right to treat you like a doll. You have feelings too, and dearie until you stood your grounds and show her you're sick and tired of her bullshit, and she either put herself together, or you'll be doing it for her

If you have to go all these lengths just to keep her friendship, what time do you guys have to spend together, since your times are filled with name callings, and all what not. NO ooh, thats it!! She should either treat you like a friend, appreciate you or go to HHHHHHEELLLLLLLLLLLLL!!! She should get a grip of her self biko. She even tells her starnger bf lies about you, what friend does that??
she's not worth it, but you'll give her a chance for old times' sake (which one sef?), be reserved, stop throwing yourself at her every beck and call, preserve your dignity, behave like you couldn't care less, show her your life is 10times better without her and would go on if she weren't there no longer, now believe me if she was a friend she'll come back to seek your face, and if she doesn't, honey please i plead FORGET HER and move on
Good luck in getting more worthy friends

thanks everyone i really appreciate your advice and contributions

@cute-ass thanks
becos of this issue i very careful in picking and choosing friends infact right now i dont hav a close friend dat is a female i just gave myself a break to say d least i dont think i hav gained anyting from her friendship at all. funny enough we both work at d same place we attend d same church we r in d same unit in d church so u can now imagine people think we r sisters and when d incident dat happened happened people were asking me come oh is it true u wanted to snatch yr friend's boyfriend? i was really pissed off

but now i know wat to do and i am doing dat already i hav fashed her big time, i hav this time around

@kamura
na wa oh na so life be. anyway work is fine

shes insecure try n help her bost her self confident and self esteem