now u look worse off and broken. this relationship leaves u dead emotionally... he is tryin' to derail your mind from thinking about what ur gains are dating him... all u do is count ur losses... he envelopes ur decision to call it quits by telling you he loves you and wants to marry you... few days ago he beats u up and then ended up cuddling you as he whispered poetic lines of love into your ears as he lures u into bed yet again to ease his sexual tensions.


that's bad... very bad... that guy is destroyin' you and wasting ur time.

SAY NO TO UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

#DATEWITHSENSE

Yanno what? Not all toxic relationships are bad for you. In fact, you need some of them to purge certain bad qualities in yourself. You need them to unleash your hidden inner warrior/strength. Sometimes you find your true self during your worst moments. It's growth, it builds character & humbles the soul.

XhosaNostra:
Yanno what? Not all toxic relationships are bad for you. In fact, you need some of them to purge certain bad qualities in yourself. You need them to unleash your hidden inner warrior/strength. Sometimes you find your true self during your worst moments. It's growth, it builds character & humbles the soul.

Toxic relationships are bad, I never want to learn lessons through beating and emotional manipulation, I may break some of my rules to accomodate his', he has to do same too, but once I see douchiness surfacing, all bets are off.

Biglittlelois:



Toxic relationships are bad, I never want to learn lessons through beating and emotional manipulation, I may break some of my rules to accomodate his', he has to do same too, but once I see douchiness surfacing, all bets are off.

Well, that's your perception & you're entitled to have your own point of view.
Personally, I feel I've learned something from every relationship that I have been in. Trust me, some were horrendous, but I walked away from all of it with a newly found sense of self. Today I know when to cut my losses with someone because of some of the devilish people I've dealt with

XhosaNostra:
Yanno what? Not all toxic relationships are bad for you. In fact, you need some of them to purge certain bad qualities in yourself. You need them to unleash your hidden inner warrior/strength. Sometimes you find your true self during your worst moments. It's growth, it builds character & humbles the soul.

I didn't expect this from a woman but you know something many don't know.

Truthsbitter:

I didn't expect this from a woman but you know something many don't know.

That's because I've lived

XhosaNostra:
Yanno what? Not all toxic relationships are bad for you. In fact, you need some of them to purge certain bad qualities in yourself. You need them to unleash your hidden inner warrior/strength. Sometimes you find your true self during your worst moments. It's growth, it builds character & humbles the soul.

people needs to find themselves first before they find a relationship. toxic relationships are for those who are yet to find their feet and purpose in life.

XhosaNostra:


Well, that's your perception & you're entitled to have your own point of view.
Personally, I feel I've learned something from every relationship that I have been in. Trust me, some were horrendous, but I walked away from all of it with a newly found sense of self. Today I know when to cut my losses with someone because of some of the devilish people I've dealt with

Good for you babe, it didn't break you but made you stronger, not all ladies can say same.

chenzen:
people needs to find themselves first before they find relationship. toxic relationships are for those who are yet to find their feet and purpose in life.

I doesn't always work that way. Everyday is a lesson. Every single day is an opportunity for you to uncover something new about yourself, that's for people with depth of course.

Biglittlelois:



Good for you babe, it didn't break you but made you stronger, not all ladies can say same.

Thanks, girl

XhosaNostra:


I doesn't always work that way. Everyday is a lesson. Every single day is an opportunity for you to uncover something new about yourself, that's for people with depth of course.

Do u necessarily need a relationship to achieve that knowing fully well it might cost u something worth more than just u discovering something new about yourself. huh

chenzen:
Do u necessarily need a relationship to achieve that knowing fully well it might cost u something worth more than just u discovering something new about yourself. huh

Life lessons come from every aspect of your life. You don't get to choose.

Chenzen. As you're helping the ladies hope the guys wont come after you? Ladies miseducator

I Agree with xhosanostra. What doesnt kill you makes you stronger. Though it stings and hurts like hell.

XhosaNostra:


Life lessons come from every aspect of your life. You don't get to choose.

it's about setting priorities... firstly you have to know who you are... understand who you are, your strengths and weaknesses...relate with ur self, love urself, gather all the necessary vibes you need to help yourself succeed when relating with others and understanding them.

talking about life's lesson... if a person has at least 75% self-knowledge about themselves it actually reduces the chances of what's bad that's it to come because u already have the awareness and wouldnt be misguided when making critical decisions & choices. life will surely throw a lot at u... be prepared... being prepared requires a person to do the work on themselves.

Thread for da female folks and love believers.

chenzen:
it's about setting priorities... firstly you have to know who you are... understand who you are, your strengths and weaknesses...relate with ur self, love urself, gather all the necessary vibes you need to help yourself succeed when relating with other.

talking about life's lesson... if a person has at least 75% self-knowledge about themselves it actually reduces the chances of what's bad that's it to come because u already have the awareness and wouldnt be misguided when making critical decisions & choices.

It doesn't always work like that. Sometimes "relating" with others can teach you things you never knew about yourself. How would you know you can't stand people who chew with their mouth open? You can't until you get to spend time with one. That's just an example, btw.

Offpoint:
Thread for da female folks and love believers.

your moniker says it all Mr Offpoint.

And someone was asking why women love men who beat them or treat them badly..... Isn't it obvious on this thread? To come out STRONGER! ah ah ah ah . No be person motor jam dey take car number o, my dear run for your life before you end up walking out of life and not relationship.



That said, No one irrespective of gender should be in a toxic relationship. If your relationship isn't elevating but draining you, please walk out of it. Every lives matter.

XhosaNostra:


It doesn't always work like that. Sometimes "relating" with others can teach you things you never knew about yourself. How would you know you can't stand people who chew with their mouth open? You can't until you get to spend time with one. That's just an example, btw.

it s hard relating with persons who will honestly open up to u about what u need to know about urself... most of the time what u get are lies and u believe them cos u dont know who you are... and they say these things to u to unsettle u and break ur walls or defenses and attack your self-esteem so they can take advantage of u. lot of persons are finding it hard discovering who they are because they live with the impressions of what everyone has described them to be, which is not always on point.

chenzen:
it s hard relating with persons who will honestly open up to u about what u need to know about urself... most of the time what u get are lies and u believe them cos u dont know who you are... and they say these things to u to unsettle u and break ur walls or defenses and attack you self-esteem so they can take advantage of u.

That's your take on it & that's cool with me.

Biglittlelois:



Good for you babe, it didn't break you but made you stronger, not all ladies can say same.

You guys should stop this, sometimes what doesnt kill you scares you for life, sometimes it deforms you and leave you in a state you can never recover again,
sometimes when you bend the knee you will never stand again. All we pray is never to be caught with the wrong person.

XhosaNostra:


Well, that's your perception & you're entitled to have your own point of view.
Personally, I feel I've learned something from every relationship that I have been in. Trust me, some were horrendous, but I walked away from all of it with a newly found sense of self. Today I know when to cut my losses with someone because of some of the devilish people I've dealt with

I understand you though and everything in this life are lessons either good or bad...

luvyaself95:
I understand you though and everything in this life are lessons either good or bad...

Yeah.

Blackivy27:
Chenzen. As you're helping the ladies hope the guys wont come after you? Ladies miseducator

I Agree with xhosanostra. What doesnt kill you makes you stronger. Though it stings and hurts like hell.

we'll just call him asslicker and Move on.

He's the new Martin0. That dude got tired I guess.

I will know when I get girlfriend.

pryme:



You guys should stop this, sometimes what doesnt kill you scares you for life, sometimes it deforms you and leave you in a state you can never recover again,
sometimes when you bend the knee you will never stand again. All we pray is never to be caught with the wrong person.

True. What doesn't kill you fvcks you up mentally most times. I have PTSD and I've been made cold and unemotional because of the shitty situations I went through earlier in life.

ubunja:
we'll just call him asslicker and Move on.
He's the new Martin0. That dude got tired I guess.

but you know he's not.

Blackivy27:
but you know he's not.

just go support your puppet

XhosaNostra:
Yanno what? Not all toxic relationships are bad for you. In fact, you need some of them to purge certain bad qualities in yourself. You need them to unleash your hidden inner warrior/strength. Sometimes you find your true self during your worst moments. It's growth, it builds character & humbles the soul.

You're absolutely right!!!
Although it might hurt but sometimes it's worth it.

MannieA:




You're absolutely right!!!
Although it might hurt but sometimes it's worth it.

Yes, girl. No pain, no gain as they say.

You don't expect life to be all rosy. Nobody wants to be treated badly but sometimes we find ourselves in situations like that. If someone treats you badly, you leave them and move on with your life and you learn some lessons. We all pass through hard times and relationships isn't exempted. Apart from relationships,some of us are friends with toxic people.

XhosaNostra:


Yes, girl. No pain, no gain as they say.

would you intentionally walk into a toxic relationship? huh?