Hello everyone! I live in a 2 bedroom apartment somewhere in Lagos. Two yrs ago when I got the place, I moved in with my guy who traveled to the US last yr. It was a large compound with 4 flats and a boys quarter. Only 2 flats were occupied before I moved in. The first occupant are married with kids and the other is a single mum who shares the flat with her mum and sister


When I moved in initially, I had no issues with nobody as I am always out for work and my guy is home till I return. Most times when I'm returning, I'll call my guy to hangout in a bar 2 streets away before we eventually retire home. The married couple are actually very nice set of people and I actually don't have any thing against them. My concern is the single mum who has been some kind of bone in my neck for sometime now.


I was really bubbling with cash when we moved in as my big generator is always on whenever the phcn light is off and my home was a mecca of sorts by friends. She actually seem to be cordial at first always giving insight on what to do whenever something goes bad in the vicinity which I find cool.

Early last year just before my guy traveled she started acting weird and funny. I notice whenever I greet her she doesn't respond. At first I thought maybe at that point she was having a bad day but on 3 consecutive times she bluffed my greetings, that was when I realised she was doing it intentionally. And of course I stopped greeting her. There have been like 3 incidence that made me mad at her. On one occasion, I came home late with my guy when we went out drinking. We didn't have the keys to the gate around 11:30pm and so I called her number it rang continually then switched off. I banged the gate till the other lady opened for us. The next day, I fabricated the keys to avoid such occurrence. Again, at another occassion, I was racing back from work having stomach upsets mid way home. Had to fly bike without pricing just to avoid disgracing my self that evening. Behold, the gate was hooked from inside, so I could not use the key. I banged again and no one answered. I peeped through the gate hole and could see her moving in the compound obviously hearing my voice but ignored the call until the other lady again sent her house help to open for me. In a moment, the stomach upset vanished and I flared at her right there. Thirdly, anytime I'm around she calls her boy to come in and I wonder if I look like a kidnapper lolz


I became scared of the kind of place I rented because the other lady moved to the next compound and we became just 2 tenants before another gal occupying the boys quarter joined us this yr. You know as a banchelor, my flat was a bee hive of ladies especially my guy who has a penchant for gals far bigger and older than him. As such, ladies flock around but I do mine at a moderate level. This part has made people I shared her strange behavior with say probably she's tripping and might want to get my attention.
Meanwhile, my friend has always indicated interest on her but I told him to backoff cos it doesn't make sense to me especially as we're in same compound. He agreed but I don't trust him as he has a spec for women older than him like I mentioned earlier. I would buy fuel worth 4k in gen then and run it all night and morning. And just when I couldn't do a few days my nigga went to her to help charge his phone and tab without telling me because he knows I'll not agree. I felt bad because to me he's not just stooping low but had an agenda which I didn't see anything between them before he traveled out.


However, this morning, I was home and I went to gate to usher in a plumber to fix the tap in my room. Just when I turned, lo and behold I caught her spying on me from her doorstep lolz. I hissed because I already hated her for her silly attitudes. Though I felt later on I shouldn't have hissed. Meanwhile, my gal including a couple of gals who come to see me have always complained she spies of us going out but I've never noticed it cos I'm always concerned where I'm going. Ultimately they are right cos I just caught her today after 2 yrs in same compound.


Now my concern is, I'm not really OK staying in the place anymore. I'm thinking of moving even before my rent is due. I spoke with a senior female colleague in the work place and she advised I should ensure my doors are locked and stop hanging clothes outside. I'm just tired living in an environment of suspicion and fear. I practically hang my clothes indoors these days with the advice I got. Should I talk to her why she acts the way she does and not accept my greeting or just let her be?

Oga, she need Gbola!!! She's starved sexually. Women act this way when they're sex starved, that's why you see most of these Nairaland feminists always ranting here. It's in their nature.

Pele

her Toto needs hydration, she's snitching ..doesn't mean she has bad intention towards u

I don't think u need to ask her anything and i also don't think you should be worried about anything.

Davash222:
Oga, she need Gbola!!! She's starved sexually. Women act this way when they're sex starved, that's why you see most of these Nairaland feminists always ranting here. It's in their nature.

Hmmm... Awon gbola activist

well in my opinion katlord i think she's definitely up to something. Have you actually met up with her to addressed the issue?

Davash222:
Oga, she need Gbola!!! She's starved sexually. Women act this way when they're sex starved, that's why you see most of these Nairaland feminists always ranting here. It's in their nature.

You might be right as she's not with her man but I'm not into married ladies or older ones. I go with my age

missjo:
I don't think u need to ask her anything and i also don't think you should be worried about anything.

OK, that has been my principle for months. Thanks!

iPhoneRepairer:

Hmmm... Awon gbola activist

well in my opinion katlord i think she's definitely up to something. Have you actually met up with her to addressed the issue?

Nope, I've always felt it's not necessary but my few wks leave at home is making me feel ill especially now that I'm all alone. I feel like leaving the place or travel for the leave period

Why is it so difficult for you to mind ur business? You are obviously obsessed with her and what she does, how she feels about u.
Live ur life in that compound as if she doesn't exist.

I can only imagine how much you talk and whine in person. Must be excrutiating

My brother no worry anything, just be playing along
If you pack out, do u sabi wetin u go face for where you dey go.

This looks like just the case of a woman complaining about another woman because I don't know why someone with beards on his chin who also has a long pile of skin in between his legs will have time to notice a non needed frustrated sex starved woman's silliness.

katlord:




OK, that has been my principle for months. Thanks!

Good, continue with that principle.

That woman is sex starved and a prom target you are....... katlord you hear me...

J111333:
This looks like just the case of a woman complaining about another woman because I don't know why someone with beards on his chin who also has a long pile of skin in between his legs will have time to notice a non needed frustrated sex starved woman's silliness.

You don't get it, having good neighbours is critical at certain times. For instance, I got a call from a dispatch man that I have a package from Ali express. I was not home that day and had to tell the dispatcher to get it back to the post office. I wouldn't hesitate for him to drop it with her if she is a nice person. Anyway thanks!

katlord:
I'm just tired living in an environment of suspicion and fear. I practically hang my clothes indoors these days with the advice I got. Should I talk to her why she acts the way she does and not accept my greeting or just let her be?

Should have allowed your friend to grease his door knob in her punanni. It's a win win situation.