Face the realities of life in romance

Do not lose your head over any girl or guy, because if he or she passes on today, the sun will not stop shining and the wind will not stop blowing and life goes on.
People come and people go.

It is a bloody waste of time fighting over anyone. The most important thing is YOUR OWN LIFE and how to make your life worthwhile on earth and not be a pain in the neck of another person.

What should boost your ego should not be your libido, but what you can do to make a big difference in your family, community and society and not wasting your time and money chasing skirts or shirts in the lusts of the flesh.
Millions of naira are wasted on romantic frivolities called good time, but everything gets flushed down the toilet or paying medical bills for STDs.
Drop and dump anyone who is not adding value to your life and your pedigree.

If what she can offer you is nothing more than her body without contributing much to your career, dump her. No childish or foolish sentiments.
You are working hard to make it in life and all he or she cares about is sexual gratification, dump him or her.
Stop wasting your time and money on useless phone calls and visits if they do not add value to your life.

You now know why there are mass failures in the secondary school exams and most of the graduates are unemployable?

Most of the youths have been burning calories on unprofitable activities of sexuality while neglecting the development of their intellectuality.
You know why 75% of Nigerians are impoverished, because most of them have wasted their quality time on romantic liabilities instead of being engaged in valuable relationships? Most of these poor masses breed more children than the rest.

A poor guy living in one room is having indiscriminate sexual relationships and getting his girlfriends pregnant and then having children without family planning. Go to the ghettos in Nigeria and see how these stupid people who feed from hand to mouth are messing and sleeping around like dogs.
How many times have you spent brainstorming with your girlfriend or boyfriend on life improvement goals or how to make a positive impact in your family, community and country?

Correct one.But don't agree with u on some points.

D-sense:

Correct one.But don't agree with u on some points.

Do point them out and add your own points.

Who vex u dude??

This Orikinla human. . .i'm really liking you. And trust me, that's not an easy thing for me to do. Your posts make a whole lot of sense!

Okay! My girl's in trouble!

hmm i love ur post , good 1 sir

It's been a while I saw a good post on the romance section

Great post. Totally agree wit everything u hv written

nice one. . .keep 'em coming man!!!

I agree with the poster.

Summarize

I'll start dumping them now sir

as much as your post may make sense to many, i completely disagree with it.
i understand how ones life is important but if you have no one to share the proceeds with (even if its just to have a cutie on your arm) then its pointless. IMHO!!!!!!

Orikinla:

Do not lose your head over any girl or guy, because if he or she passes on today, the sun will not stop shining and the wind will not stop blowing and life goes on.

you make no sense!
here is a clue: even if our most precious family members pass away today, the sun will still shine tomorrow, whether we like it or not. if i follow what you say then we should care about NOBODY. . . . . . . . . . . .

People come and people go.

yes they do and the little time they spend in our lives will bring pleasures and fulfillment to us. YOU may view it as nothing but some people value the little they share with people. to each their own.

It is a bloody waste of time fighting over anyone. The most important thing is YOUR OWN LIFE and how to make your life worthwhile on earth and not be a pain in the neck of another person.

as much as you are right about fighting over someone that DOESNT want to be with you (or is not worthy), if that person is RIGHT for you (and you KNOW it) then you should fight for what you believe is right. if you dont stand for anything that YOU believe is right in life then you may as well jump out of a bridge.

its sad that you think that dating someone is a pain in the neck. whatever happens in your love life before shouldnt make you bitter about the future thats out there.

here is another clue: ¨our lives¨ may not BE without that special person. some people dont really know who they really are (or their purpose in life) until they meet that special person that will make them feel-behave and understand life in a different way.

What should boost your ego should not be your libido, but what you can do to make a big difference in your family, community and society and not wasting your time and money chasing skirts or shirts in the lusts of the flesh.

everyone should use whatever they deem fit to boost their ego. if you value YOUR life via what you do in your family/community or society then good for you but dont spit on the ones who prioritize other areas of their lives.
i am sorry to tell you that some people dont give a damn about society or community. is that wrong because YOU think it´s wrong?

everyone should use their hard earned cash to do what THEY please with it. if they want to spend it on women, which in return will make THEM feel better about themselves, then fair enough!

Millions of naira are wasted on romantic frivolities called good time, but everything gets flushed down the toilet or paying medical bills for STDs.

and your point is?! millions of naira are wasted in silly business ventures on a daily basis, should that be the reason to stop doing business?
as hard as it may be for you to understand, you have to spend ¨some money¨on frivolities to get to know someone but if you´d prefer getting married with complete strangers (like most do in 9ja) then fair enough!

SOME people catch STDs while others invest their money in buying CONDOMS etc to protect themselves. putting all the people in relationships in the same group is wrong.
here is another clue: the guy who spent hundred of thousands on restaurants/trips/gifts etc and later MARRIED that person is NOT throwing money out the window. . . . . . . . even if he didnt marry that gal, you cannot put a price on the happiness they both shared at that moment.
btw: like all investments, you are never 100% sure of the return.

Drop and dump anyone who is not adding value to your life and your pedigree.

ROTFLMAO. unless you are attracted to ugly skanks, just a beautiful gal will add value to any man´s life/pedigree. . . . . . and she doesnt even have to open her mouth. lol!

If what she can offer you is nothing more than her body without contributing much to your career, dump her. No childish or foolish sentiments.

stop thinking with your groin and rather look at life in a positive way. the companionship, the care, the warmth, the chemistry you both share wont add anything to you career, BUT YET, will make you a better person.
if YOU think that YOUR career is the most important thing in your relationships then fair enough (wonder which gal would wanna date such selfish/self-centered person you mentionned).
here is another clue: some women out there have their own careers to focus on before thinking of adding a grain of salt to yours. lol!

You are working hard to make it in life and all he or she cares about is sexual gratification, dump him or her.

its called the YING/YANG of life. what you bring to ones life may not be the same as what they bring to yours BUT YET you match perfectly. a man/woman who has it all may not need more than sex-ual gratification, would that be wrong?!

Stop wasting your time and money on useless phone calls and visits if they do not add value to your life.

and how would you know anything about that person if you dont CALL them or MEET them?! are you going to dream about her/him being the right one?! ROTFLMAO

You now know why there are mass failures in the secondary school exams and most of the graduates are unemployable?
Most of the youths have been burning calories on unprofitable activities of sexuality while neglecting the development of their intellectuality.

 

are you trying to blame the educaion system failures on dating/love?!

You know why 75% of Nigerians are impoverished, because most of them have wasted their quality time on romantic liabilities instead of being engaged in valuable relationships? Most of these poor masses breed more children than the rest.

pls bro, educate us all on how YOU can differenciate from a valuable relationship and romantic liabilities without spending time getting to know that person?!
you must be one of them brothas that can just look at someone, have a 15mins discussion with a gal and label her no good.
here is another clue: nothing that you get easy/cheap or free will be worthy. if you aint working towards making your relationships better/greater, chances are, this relationship is worthless to either one of you.

A poor guy living in one room is having indiscriminate sexual relationships and getting his girlfriends pregnant and then having children without family planning.  Go to the ghettos in Nigeria and see how these silly people who feed from hand to mouth are messing and sleeping around like dogs.

 

why would you compare yourself with the lowest/stoopidest of society, have more respèct for yourself and what you believe in.
what you wrote above has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with dating the right person but rather educating oneself with the different means of contraceptions that are available out there. 

How many times have you spent brainstorming with your girlfriend or boyfriend on life improvement goals or how to make a positive impact in your family, community and country?

as i said earlier, different strokes for different folks. you may have the above as primary goals in YOUR life while other would have complete different things. . . . . . . .some as simple as improving their relationships. why should that be wrong?!

Very correct post.

@Poster
U're right! but not always dat easy.
remember, GOOD BYE IS THE HARDEST TO SAY!

Kelvinj:

Who vex u dude??

Hahhahhaa! seriously dude give @kelvinj and I an answer, who vexed you really? Anyway a refreshing post in a while.

Now @MrBrown I am not sure why you for @poster 'cos the topic is loud and clear.