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it either u are the shy type... I'm talking from experience

Bigiyo:
it either u are the shy type...
I'm talking from experience

yes to an extent i am... i barely know how to get a conversation going. not that i dont knw what to say mostimes but the HOW to channel them keeps poping up and i just end up not saying anyting at all.
besides i easily get irritated around folks.

Birdeyeview:
good day to y'all.
i'm 25 years of age and i really need serious advice or counsel on how i can overcome this challenge have been going through all this years since i was 13.
due to my introverted state, i barely have someone i could call my friend or associate since everyone who get close to me seems not to understand who or what i really am...
please i just need advice on how to overcome this.

There's nothing wrong with you, you're not alone.

https://www.nairaland.com/1830091/introverts-lounge-extroverts-pls-keep

Do you know the meaning of Bipolar? If your response is yes, then you should be in a mental home, not Nairaland's family section.

Btw, being bipolar has nothing to do with introversion. It's called bi-polar for a reason. It indicates serious episodes of extreme calmness/depression and extreme aggressiveness.

For the records, bipolar disorder has no cure, it's one of the severe stages of maniac disorder that can only be managed.

If this is your condition, please get the fck out of this thread and seek medical help.

There's nothing wrong with u.... U just have to leave the beliefs u previously held about meeting people and talking to them....

It's no easy but worth it.... Also remember that not everyone u talk to can be ur friend...
Check out this video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F4Zu5ZZAG7I

Read this two books... "Why u act the way u do" by Tim Haye
And "how to win friends and influence people" by Andrew Carnegie... It helped me... They are ebooks too
It will help you too...

I sent u a DM

Bipolar? If you are bipolar you need drugs to help you.

Yes you might be shy but first of all you need to work on yourself.. Yes I know as an introvert, we tend to keep to ourselves but most of all you must build confidence in yourself.

I hope you not also having low self esteem??

It is well

08166544711 call me .. i wanna be your friend

Same here dear.
Solution is, you Don't need to read any books, or make an announcement. You have to work on yourself. Try to roll with everyone around you, start up conversations even if it makes u look foolish at first. Always take a walk out to see peoples faces, to keep your sanity. Introverted people have pride and are over selective, and we can form, but its not really us, its a defensive mechanism, people won't understand. For d main purpose of meeting people join church groups, take yourself out on Saturdays, to swim or c d pool side, or frequent the stadium on early mornings. Its stupid, but people are so amazing. Wear your worst cloth out, in an introverted persons mind, whenever we step out, we feel everyone is talking about us, or always looking at us at every step, but shit is, no one really cares. Hurt comes with it, yes. And that's what makes it awesome

I am an introvert as well.
I am assuming you don't know the meaning of Bipolar, please be sure of the meaning and don't curse yourself. If indeed you are convinced you are bipolar, you need to see a medical professional.

There is one thing introverts need to understand, people don't have to understand you, people don't have to like you as long as you are doing no wrong or committing no crime. But guess what, you have many secrete admirers .A few real people would come into your life to like and love you unconditionally for who you truly are. Don't force it

But I would be very honest that you still need to gradually build your confidence, its very important if you want to build meaningful relationships, especially business relationships.

Don't try to be someone else. Being an introvert has so many advantages, more than you can imagine. One of the most important is avoiding fake people and choosing your right circle/people.

As for romantic relationships, you don't have to be an extrovert to get a meaningful partner, you don't have to go partying or clubbing to get a partner.


I never changed who I am , I didn't need to conform to people's definition of what I should be. All I did was to constantly be the best version of myself everyday, I improved and I am still improving everyday. Most importantly I am still me.

Don't let people's definition of what an "ideal" person should be, define you. Be yourself, as long as you are doing no wrong, or committing no sin or crime.

Being an introvert is a gift, our minds operate on a different level, we think differently, we see differently, we have enough time to think logically and analytically, put all that together and you have the potential to create things beyond human comprehension, stop seeing it as a challenge, its an unfathomable gift and blessing.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0KYU2j0TM4

Birdeyeview:
good day to y'all.
i'm 25 years of age and i really need serious advice or counsel on how i can overcome this challenge have been going through all this years since i was 13.
due to my introverted state, i barely have someone i could call my friend or associate since everyone who get close to me seems not to understand who or what i really am...
please i just need advice on how to overcome this.

hahaha, I don't know why but I've been looking for a bipolar as a friend lolz. The mood swing can be dramatic. I had one as a mother of a kid I was once teaching and the kid exhibit the same trait too and we were such good friends.. They could love too much and exhibit that craziness too much also lolz, maybe we could be friends though.

Birdeyeview:
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Quoting you here. Read your post. You can't delete it. Let's talk

All these people shouting 'introvert introvert' as if it is a kind of unique affliction should take several seats back. I used to be an extreme introvert until I borrowed myself brain and began interacting with people, lest i be tagged bipolar like someone did on this thread. Yes, I still like my own company, yes I don't like socialising, yes I would rather be alone on the moon than have to cope with the shit_ we face daily in this country, but I also realise I am not Robinson Crusoe so I have honed my social skills to find a balance between my love for my personal space and social interaction. These people shouting should work on themselves and stop disturbing us abeg.

Acidosis:


Do you know the meaning of Bipolar? If your response is yes, then you should be in a mental home, not Nairaland's family section.

Btw, being bipolar has nothing to do with introversion. It's called bi-polar for a reason. It indicates serious episodes of extreme calmness/depression and extreme aggressiveness.

For the records, bipolar disorder has no cure, it's one of the severe stages of maniac disorder that can only be managed.

If this is your condition, please get the fck out of this thread and seek medical help.

Very very insensitive and "nonsensical" comment.

Shibaraba:
Quoting you here. Read your post. You can't delete it. Let's talk

lol
so what do you intend to talk about?

Yet another thread on introversion

Birdeyeview:

lol
so what do you intend to talk about?

You. I believe that's a big topic

Hmmm...