There is an old Nigerian movie I watched long time ago that was acted by Desmond Elliott and Rita Dominic which was very interesting. They were in University and Desmond really liked Rita Dominic but she was forming this normal high class babe and rejecting his advances. It got to the point that Desmond kept pushing and starting embarrassing Rita Dominic anytime she wore indecent dresses to the point that she became scared and anytime she sees Desmond she will run or hide. After much pressure from Desmond she finally gave in and discovered he was the perfect life time partner for her.

After watching this movie back then, I thought this kind of thing can only happen in the movies out of someone's imagination. But then I saw a picture of a couple and their kids on Facebook recently and remembered how their relationship started way back in university.

I stayed in an off campus hotel that is shared by both boys and girls with everyone having their own rooms. There was this girl in that hostel studying accounting and was in her 300level and there was this law student guy in his 400level that use to come and disturb this girl. It was so bad that every night this guy will come to the girls room and pass the night there even when the girl will always run away to sleep in her friends room. The thing was that he smokes, drinks and he looked like a cultist which made the girl very scared but she didn't know how to stop the guy from coming. Somehow I saw the guy as someone who really liked the girl because there were times I will go to some joints with my friends and I will see this guy and his friends drinking and enjoying with different girls. But after everything, he will still go back to the girls room with food or something for her and she will take them to her friends room and leave him in her room to sleep alone. This thing happened for a full session until the next session when they had both entered their final year. I resumed quite late and just that very day I arrived school, I saw something very amazing. That evening the guy came with some of his friends in a three car convoy. They parked outside the compound blasting their music, holding drinks and smoking. You could see excitement in the air and this guy went inside the hotel. The next thing we saw was that he held this girl by her waist, took her outside to meet his friends and officially introduced her as his girlfriend, and she was smiling when is said that while his friends started jubilating and shouting. It was like a proposal thing that day and like a party. I was just happy for them and I really loved the way the guy had been so matured about the whole thing even the times the girl and her friends will be insulting and shouting on him to leave her alone, he was always smiling and will just tell her he will marry her.

It was their picture I saw on Facebook with their three beautiful kids and the the melted my heart to imagine how determined the guy was to date that girl then and have her as a lifetime partner.

Was it that being persistent can pay off in all situations when you are determined to be with someone or it is just a thing of luck.

Sorry, persistence doesn’t work for me. I see pestering as not respecting people’s opinion and wish.
Like you said, the guy smokes, drink and might be a cultist. The cultism part is the main reason he’s sleeping in the girl’s room then in school not cos of anything. He wasn’t pestering the girl.
The girl truly loved the guy then just that she’s scared and naive then.

I will counter this with another story.

Yemi was my secondary school mate, and one of the most brilliant of the female mates. She was a 'SU' type that hated those kinds of students romance. I was an average student in the class but shy. We left high school in 2001.

She sent a friend request to me on Facebook in 2014. I accepted it and reminded her high school 'SU' stance (SU means scripture union and used to describe religious babes). She said despite being religious, she expected me to woo her as every other students had heartthrobs. Yemi got married already and with 4 children.

Her guy was a very persistent one. He forced her for their first kiss when it seemed the guy's life depended on it. After marriage, the guy became more or less her houseboy... going to extreme length to please her. Yemi met in person 4 months later and any trace of love she had for her husband disappeared.

She prefers to stay unmarried than to remain in the marriage as she said it seems a veil was removed from her face. Today, she's divorced.

Being persistent in getting someone's attention only works if the feelings are mutual or reciprocated, otherwise you would be deemed an irritant or a stalker. In this case she obviously liked him too and must've been playing hard to get initially.

when you are persistent over one person, they throw shit in your face cos they know you will rather lick the sheet than leave

Davash222:
Sorry, persistence doesn’t work for me. I see pestering as not respecting people’s opinion and wish.
Like you said, the guy smokes, drink and might be a cultist. The cultism part is the main reason he’s sleeping in the girl’s room then in school not cos of anything. He wasn’t pestering the girl.
The girl truly loved the guy then just that she’s scared and naive then.

Sorry I forgot to state that he was not actually a cultist. He was just a flexing guy but you know the mentality when you see guys smoking and drinking. We realized he wasn't a cultist

I think it works out well when it's the guy who is persistent, as a lady don't try it biko. You will end up being heart broken

Even though I didn't read the post, but the title, I'll answer you.

Persistence is only good in your career and in making money.

In relationship, what is good is knowledge and experience, not persistence.

If you're a nice guy, just give up and acquire relationship knowledge first. You can get started by reading this book: Mr. Friendzone.

Search it on Google and download the free version.

All the best.