Like seriously, do relationships like this still exist?

Pls don't be offended o, are you normal? Cuz I don't see why a sane person will stay in an abusive relationship!!

Madam forget the threat, that your "secret " is no longer secret, so just try as much as possible to tell someone, someone you can confide in, probably your parents..


The next time he threatens you just throw it at his face that you've told so so and so, that he isn't the only one that is in the know.



The koko of my story is, carry your Kaya and run..



Ps: I don't know why most you of folks are scared of breaking up or leaving an abusive relationship. Someone said it is the fear of being alone.. Just met a wonderful lady that just left an abusive relationship, she still doesn't trust my intentions towards her. According to her "the care and attention I show is not normal "
To anyone in an abusive relationship, pls don't be afraid to leave.. There is someone out there ready to give you all the love and attention you deserve, just take the big bold step..
Las Las, we will all live happily ever after

Sechee:
Guys please pardon my long epistle, I would appreciate your candid advice...
In my quiet moments, most times, I begin to remember all the lies he told me and I feel betrayed. I've forgiven him severally, and I find it very difficult to forget, knowing fully well that the one person I call my best friend and lover, who I love and cherish so much still has eyes for other women, enjoys flirting with them, even to the point of sleep with them. It hurts deeply. It does.

I decided to end the long distance relationship by relocating closer to him, in order to make things work, then I noticed that in my absence, he had another girlfriend who he was intimate with to the point of almost impregnating her[/b](seen from their whatsapp conversations). I confronted him then he apologized. I also noticed my boyfriend has the inmessage app on his phone, and his conversations are mostly with runs girls for hookups. I confronted him, he apologized again and said he was just chatting with them for the fun of it. I told him to delete the app which he did, but then I notice that he always goes back to download it and delete it from time to time.

I've noticed calls and messages from different women, who he claims to be his colleagues at work. I've noticed appearance and disappearance of condoms, but I'm tired of asking because his response would be lies and his reaction would be defensive.
He recently introduced me to his family, during a family event we recently attended and they were very welcoming.

I'm afraid to leave because he has threatened to let out some of my secrets if I do

I'm a very faithful, loyal person, who can be so committed in any relationship I'm in, I don't cheat, therefore it wouldn't be fair if I'm cheated upon.

He has marriage plans for next year, but I don't want to make mistakes, please advise on what to do

Thank you

If you want to live a life of eternal regret go ahead and marry him.

Thanks

Thanks

Iloveu2:


If you want to live a life of eternal regret go ahead and marry him.

CaptainKool15:
Like seriously, do relationships like this still exist?

Pls don't be offended o, are you normal? Cuz I don't see why a sane person will stay in an abusive relationship!!

Madam forget the threat, that your "secret " is no longer secret, so just try as much as possible to tell someone, someone you can confide in, probably your parents..


The next time he threatens you just throw it at his face that you've told so so and so, that he isn't the only one that is in the know.



The koko of my story is, carry your Kaya and run..



Ps: I don't know why most you of folks are scared of breaking up or leaving an abusive relationship. Someone said it is the fear of being alone.. Just met a wonderful lady that just left an abusive relationship, she still doesn't trust my intentions towards her. According to her "the care and attention I show is not normal "
To anyone in an abusive relationship, pls don't be afraid to leave.. There is someone out there ready to give you all the love and attention you deserve, just take the big bold step..
Las Las, we will all live happily ever after

Okay

I'm afraid to leave because he has threatened to let out some of my secrets if I do......

My sister you are seating on a sharp nail...

The signs are always there. I keep telling people and they keep denying. 'Oh, he was perfect '.
A philandering boyfriend becomes a philandering husband. A disrespectful girlfriend becomes a disrespectful wife. What you see is what you will get. You either chose to live with what you see or you get out. There is no middle ground. People marry lazy women and unfaithful men intentionally and are fine with it during marriage. It's all about choices.

OP pls tell us the secret he's blackmailing you for if you don't mind.

But seriously, asking this question is not necessary, he will never change. You either take it or leave it.

@op,I didn't read all your epistle but that word trust is a big issue. No trust,no marriage
Truth is no polite.

What's the secret he's threatening to let out if you leave the relationship, it's dicey to marry someone you can't trust, it's either you have stroke, or you are alone in the marriage or you divorce

Sechee:
Guys please pardon my long epistle, I would appreciate your candid advice...
In my quiet moments, most times, I begin to remember all the lies he told me and I feel betrayed. I've forgiven him severally, and I find it very difficult to forget, knowing fully well that the one person I call my best friend and lover, who I love and cherish so much still has eyes for other women, enjoys flirting with them, even to the point of sleep with them. It hurts deeply. It does.

I decided to end the long distance relationship by relocating closer to him, in order to make things work, then I noticed that in my absence, he had another girlfriend who he was intimate with to the point of almost impregnating her(seen from their whatsapp conversations). I confronted him then he apologized. I also noticed my boyfriend has the inmessage app on his phone, and his conversations are mostly with runs girls for hookups. I confronted him, he apologized again and said he was just chatting with them for the fun of it. I told him to delete the app which he did, but then I notice that he always goes back to download it and delete it from time to time.

I've noticed calls and messages from different women, who he claims to be his colleagues at work. I've noticed appearance and disappearance of condoms, but I'm tired of asking because his response would be lies and his reaction would be defensive.
He recently introduced me to his family, during a family event we recently attended and they were very welcoming.

I'm afraid to leave because he has threatened to let out some of my secrets if I do

I'm a very faithful, loyal person, who can be so committed in any relationship I'm in, I don't cheat, therefore it wouldn't be fair if I'm cheated upon.

He has marriage plans for next year, but I don't want to make mistakes, please advise on what to do

Thank you

tell us your little dirty secret , then we tell you what to do with that fuckboy

So like play like play, this story is real. Very funny. I can't imagine how someone in the modern world will be in such relationship and u asking if trust is possible. Do u even trust yourself talk more of someone who is cheating like cheetah and u seeing it all. Madam u need no prophet or elijah to tell u to leave that relationship. It's dead, just walk out and save ur sef the stress. It's not love but foolishness upon stupidity

Telling you my secret won't make it a secret anymore

I bet your guy has far worse secrets more than you, yet he is manipulating you. If you had quit such a toxic relationship, you may have had a better man in your life by now. You are wasting your time, take note that if you marry him, such a marriage will be hell, because he is a cheat. You changed location, yet he's still cheating, he is a manipulator, he does not love you, otherwise he would not use the secrets you told him to oppress you. He does not respect you, be ready for war in your marriage, since you have seen all the redflags yet still stay with him. Why are you talking about trust? You need to check the meaning of trust, because the last thing you need to give that man is your trust, you trusted him with your secrets, now look where it has landed you.

Sechee:
Telling you my secret won't make it a secret anymore

Capital NO! You better back off from that your mumu relationship