I still don't understand why most (not all) Nigerian girls find it so comfortable asking guys they are just meeting for money, from airtime/data, to Christmas cloth, to watches, smartphones, laptops, etc. This has happened countless of times to me... The moment the Nigerian girl feels you are boxed up, the next thing is send me money. Wtf! I have only experienced such with Nigerian girls, and also with a lady from Uganda. With European girls it is completely different; to pay for their meal most times is even a struggle since they will insist they split the bill with you.

This is not an attack on Nigerian women, I have quite a number of them as friends who aren't interested in money, but in intelligent decisions and friendships.

For those Nigerian girls (and guys) who see men (or anybody at all) as no more than financial helper, please stop it in 2020. Hustle your hustle to your own future. It is nobody's job to cater for your needs. Stop asking people for money, you're not an handicap. Everyone has his/her own burden; the fact that they are not asking others for hand-outs doesn't mean they don't have their own needs... If you ask a guy for free hand-out, and he in return asks for your pushy, stop acting offended.

A word is enough for the wise. But as for me, come 2020 all these undeclared oloshos (boys and girls alike) are leaving my contact list. I need human beings that add value to my life; bye bye to leeches.

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so where are you going to get rich gfs now? when most nigerians are either broke or surviving and living from pay check to paycheck.

the disadvantage all of you have is that you are from a broke and poor country

broke country give birth to broke citizens,

you can not give what you dont have

Who is talking about girlfriends here dude?

I know my responsibility towards by gf. I am talking about girls that get to know you somehow and all you get in your inbox is give me, help me, buy data for me, buy phone for me, etc.

Being in a broke country doesn't mean people should lack manners. Let's stop encouraging what is wrong. Everyone is hustling in Nigeria.. I can't count how many Naija girls failed to understand how it's not my job designation to be their helper. I mean people (mostly girls) getting offended whenever I choose to give them career/business tips instead of sending the money they requested for. Girls actually voicing out why it is not a big deal for me to send them money whenever they ask for it. It was worse during Christmas.

Abeg, it's a new year. Let bad behaviour and indiscipline die with 2019.

No, I'm not looking for rich gfs. Not even for any gf for that matter. Just decent human beings (girls and boys) who don't see you as their source of livelihood.

lilwetdick:
so where are you going to get rich gfs now? when most nigerians are either broke or surviving and living from pay check to paycheck.

the disadvantage all of you have is that you are from a broke and poor country

broke country give birth to broke citizens,

you can not give what you dont have

pmoye:
Who is talking about girlfriends here dude?

I know my responsibility towards by gf. I am talking about girls that get to know you somehow and all you get in your inbox is give me, help me, buy data for me, buy phone for me, etc.

Being in a broke country doesn't mean people should lack manners. Let's stop encouraging what is wrong. Everyone is hustling in Nigeria.. I can't count how many Naija girls failed to understand how it's not my job designation to be their helper. I mean people (mostly girls) getting offended whenever I choose to give them career/business tips instead of sending the money they requested for. Girls actually voicing out why it is not a big deal for me to send them money whenever they ask for it. It was worse during Christmas.

Abeg, it's a new year. Let bad behaviour and indiscipline die with 2019.

No, I'm not looking for rich gfs. Not even for any gf for that matter. Just decent human beings (girls and boys) who don't see you as their source of livelihood.

that is why you shouldnt have girls for friend..simple as abc..you have to be fuccking her or you will her emotional footmat, adviser and money spender

even if you get girls that are not broke for friendship, they will still use you to achieve their aim or use you to do house work

it is better not to have them as friends at all but have them as girls you are fucking

Girls or no girls, a man can be reasonable if he wants to be.....

It isn't healthy to objectify girls. Girls are not for fucking. Some of my business associates and investment partners are female and they are damn good at what they do. Many such girls/women are my friends and there is no fucking them. It takes maturity to have female friends who you are not fucking. Must guys Bleep everyone? Do we derive some form of payment from sex? Is sex really more than sex?

We shouldn't make conclusions about the purpose of girls being only for sex. It is a dangerous way to look at the world pal.

lilwetdick:


that is why you shouldnt have girls for friend..simple as abc..you have to be fuccking her or you will her emotional footmat, adviser and money spender

even if you get girls that are not broke for friendship, they will still use you to achieve their aim or use you to do house work

it is better not to have them as friends at all but have them as girls you are fucking

pmoye:
It isn't healthy to objectify girls. Girls are not for fucking. Some of my business associates and investment partners are female and they are damn good at what they do. Many such girls/women are my friends and there is no fucking them. It takes maturity to have female friends who you are not fucking. Must guys Bleep everyone? Do we derive some form of payment from sex? Is sex really more than sex?

We shouldn't make conclusions about the purpose of girls being only for sex. It is a dangerous way to look at the world pal.

pls dont be deceived, just because a woman is damn good at what she does or act professional in the work place that doesnt remove the fact that women also objectify men for pleasure and for cash.

pls stop your liberal mentality, you will end up in the wrong side of the spectrum

dont Bleep a woman and see her run away from you or start using you for advise like you dont have valuable things to do

End up in the wrong side of the spectrum?? Iyalaya won!

It is not really about having a liberal mentality. For guys in the game, the last thing you want a woman to think is that you're interested in bleep.ing her, then she immediately thinks her pushy is valuable. Before you know it the bill they place on it go pass roaming charges for MTN...
A babe I was once interested in a few years ago in Ibadan, and that I had just met and taken out to an eatery, asked for 150k to change her wardrobe. That was about one week after meeting her. She knew I was attracted to her but we had never slept with each other because she told me she had someone she was into at the moment. It's the usual drill, She calls you up, makes her voice sad, you ask her what's wrong, she tells you you won't understand, you press her for the detail, and then she says it's not important, eventually she tells you that she needs 150k to change her wardrobe. Then it suddenly becomes important. I asked her to ask her dad for the money, or her brothers. She said there's nothing bad in spending on a girl to help her even if you're just friends and you're not forking. I told her that's not what I do. I then completely stopped showing any interest in her, kept the friendship going. Just pure friendship. Several months after that she reduced the price tag on her pushy to subzero level...
So no, I'm not being liberal. I just personally think it is wrong to objectify all women. But I also think men's liberation is in not needing her pushy because that's the only thing that some ladies have to negotiate. And if i wanted an olosho I know where to get one; I prefer not to pay a babe twice for one pushy. First she expects you to satisfy her in bed (payment 1), then she expects financial compensation (payment 2), what for you would ask, for satisfying her sexual needs? Why should a man pay for what you both enjoy? In fact, many times the lady enjoys it more.

lilwetdick:


pls dont be deceived, just because a woman is damn good at what she does or act professional in the work place that doesnt remove the fact that women also objectify men for pleasure and for cash.

pls stop your liberal mentality, you will end up in the wrong side of the spectrum

dont Bleep a woman and see her run away from you or start using you for advise like you dont have valuable things to do

pmoye:
End up in the wrong side of the spectrum?? Iyalaya won!

It is not really about having a liberal mentality. For guys in the game, the last thing you want a woman to think is that you're interested in bleep.ing her, then she immediately thinks her pushy is valuable. Before you know it the bill they place on it go pass roaming charges for MTN...
A babe I was once interested in a few years ago in Ibadan, and that I had just met and taken out to an eatery, asked for 150k to change her wardrobe. That was about one week after meeting her. She knew I was attracted to her but we had never slept with each other because she told me she had someone she was into at the moment. It's the usual drill, She calls you up, makes her voice sad, you ask her what's wrong, she tells you you won't understand, you press her for the detail, and then she says it's not important, eventually she tells you that she needs 150k to change her wardrobe. Then it suddenly becomes important. I asked her to ask her dad for the money, or her brothers. She said there's nothing bad in spending on a girl to help her even if you're just friends and you're not forking. I told her that's not what I do. I then completely stopped showing any interest in her, kept the friendship going. Just pure friendship. Several months after that she reduced the price tag on her pushy to subzero level...
So no, I'm not being liberal. I just personally think it is wrong to objectify all women. But I also think men's liberation is in not needing her pushy because that's the only thing that some ladies have to negotiate. And if i wanted an olosho I know where to get one; I prefer not to pay a babe twice for one pushy. First she expects you to satisfy her in bed (payment 1), then she expects financial compensation (payment 2), what for you would ask, for satisfying her sexual needs? Why should a man pay for what you both enjoy? In fact, many times the lady enjoys it more.

i understand your point

but lets be realistic, the interest you had in the girl was it not because you saw something in her, you lusted after her and wanted to also have sex with her and be with her?

if she had agree to your request, wouldnt it lead to sex? it is because she didnt agree that is why you guys became friends

all men objectify women, when they see women they like, they wanna Bleep her, that is reality

also all women objectify men, they see a tall guy and objectify him, they see a guy with six pack and want him, they see a guy with money and want him..

the reality is objectification is very important in flirting, without it, there wont be reproduction

How come you have many of this type of girls around you? Is it your surrounding or the kind of girls you attract?

No, it is not my surrounding. It is something common to Nigerian girls. I have girls from other countries in my contact list and this particular behavior I only experience with Nigerian girls. This has nothing to with attraction. These are not even girls I am interested in. Just girls that know me and by virtue of my work get access to my mobile number.

ImaIma1:
How come you have many of this type of girls around you? Is it your surrounding or the kind of girls you attract?

pmoye:
No, it is not my surrounding. It is something common to Nigerian girls. I have girls from other countries in my contact list and this particular behavior I only experience with Nigerian girls. This has nothing to with attraction. These are not even girls I am interested in. Just girls that know me and by virtue of my work get access to my mobile number.

That means it's one of the two. Because they are so many financially independent Nigerian women, contrary to the ones you happen to meet.

lilwetdick:


that is why you shouldnt have girls for friend..simple as abc..you have to be fuccking her or you will her emotional footmat, adviser and money spender

even if you get girls that are not broke for friendship, they will still use you to achieve their aim or use you to do house work

it is better not to have them as friends at all but have them as girls you are fucking

You spoke gibberish here... God will help you.

Brunicekid:
You spoke gibberish here... God will help you.

that is the new trend..get used to it.

You have problem with comprehending simple English. Read the original post again to see how I made deliberate effort to put this in perspective. But you appear to be coming up with a knee-jerk defense for girls that do this. You are simply trying to make excuse for something that is not excusable. If you have difficult comprehending this, it is not compulsory for you to comment.

ImaIma1:


That means it's one of the two. Because they are so many financially independent Nigerian women, contrary to the ones you happen to meet.

pmoye:
You have problem with comprehending simple English. Read the original post again to see how I made deliberate effort to put this in perspective. But you appear to be coming up with a knee-jerk defense for girls that do this. You are simply trying to make excuse for something that is not excusable. If you have difficult comprehending this, it is not compulsory for you to comment.

I don't beg guys for money neither do ladies around me. So if you generalize that it is peculiar to all Nigerian ladies, that's where the problem is.

I have difficulty in comprehension for "your" kind of English

I think you're the very type of uncle-dash-me I am talking about here. I now understand your pain-ment.

I deliberately clarified that it's not all the ladies in my life that do this, and that compared to other ladies from other countries that this particular behavior seems to come from Nigerian girls. And you still come here to express your pain-ment. This wouldn't be about you if you didn't decide to make it about you.

I don't beg guys for money ... yen yen yen. It's a new year babe, change your way and hustle your hustle in peace. If your hustle is in the Olosho field, then let guys know that. It's a legitimate work.

ImaIma1:


I don't beg guys for money neither do ladies around me. So if you generalize that it is peculiar to all Nigerian ladies, that's where the problem is.

I have difficulty in comprehension for "your" kind of English

pmoye:
I think you're the very type of uncle-dash-me I am talking about here. I now understand your pain-ment.

I deliberately clarified that it's not all the ladies in my life that do this, and that compared to other ladies from other countries that this particular behavior seems to come from Nigerian girls. And you still come here to express your pain-ment. This wouldn't be about you if you didn't decide to make it about you.

I don't beg guys for money ... yen yen yen. It's a new year babe, change your way and hustle your hustle in peace. If your hustle is in the Olosho field, then let guys know that. It's a legitimate work.

Now I truly understand the statement that...people judge everyone based on their own experiences. They don't have the capacity to stretch their minds to other possibilities than what they have experienced. So I understand.

Aside that, you can keep whining like an overgrown baby.