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Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Iykenuwa(m): 3:40pm On Jan 26, 2020
If that niece is still in your house, then you and your husband need more sense. Sorry to say.

She is obviously the one that led your daughter astray, and to make any progress, remove that virus completely
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Drakkernoir: 4:01pm On Jan 26, 2020
MartinCorridon:


No. You could have continued looking for attention while asslicking.

DrakkarNoir is the right spelling by the way. I was right about the microscopic IQ thing.

Lol, such kids sha

Pity.....
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by MartinCorridon: 4:04pm On Jan 26, 2020
Drakkernoir:


Lol, such kids sha

Pity.....

Such cr3tins though...so pathetic. Yeah i was right about the empty head.
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by thecommunist(m): 4:05pm On Jan 26, 2020
i feel your pain because i have a daughter too and i am always hoping and praying that i get it right with her because it aint easy to bring up a child, you can never tell when you are making a mistake with raising a child.
that said, my advice is that you should call her and talk to her about the choices she is making. take her to places like the hospital where STDs and HIV patients are treated, drug rehabilitation centers where drug addicts are plentiful, the mortuary where people that O.Ded on drugs end up or where victim of abuse end up , abused women shelters, and if you know any single mother that is struggling to get by, also take her visiting such women. then talk to her about how wrong choices like the ones she wants to take could make her end up like people in those situations. so she can see the the possible results and effects of her choices

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Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by alphaNomega: 5:50pm On Jan 26, 2020
budaatum:
Sounds like your 17 year old niece has led your daughter astray. If I were you, I'd send her back home to start with, then me and hubby have to sit down and be honest about how we both produced this or lie and rue the consequences of our errors.

Your type, and the over 420 that liked your post should never be a police officer because it is this kind of assumption SARS uses to terrorize innocent people.

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Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Bejusttoall: 6:16pm On Jan 26, 2020
TOPMAN4LIFE:

That's if the parents know Jesus genuinely themselves.
Parents need to teach their children the way of Lord and pray for them without ceasing.
Many parents are bad examples to their children in lifestyle, dressing, movies and music they view and listen to ,
And they want them to behave different from what they have grown up with .
Parents can't eat their cake and still have it.
Some parents engage in adultery, clubbing, partying drinking but want their wards to behave decently

You are on point
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Bejusttoall: 6:20pm On Jan 26, 2020
CAPSLOCKED:


does this work?

if yes, why do we still have other religions?

It works sir. There is no way you will instill the fear of God in your children right from when they are young, couple with parent's good example that majority of them will not turn out to be well behaved.

At least 70% of children raised this way will turn out fine.
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by CAPSLOCKED: 6:36pm On Jan 26, 2020
Bejusttoall:


It works sir. There is no way you will instill the fear of God in your children right from when they are young, couple with parent's good example that majority of them will not turn out to be well behaved.

At least 70% of children raised this way will turn out fine.

nonsense.

Nigeria is 90% Christians & Muslims, all raised in the "holy" ways. see how bleeped everything is. spare me that.

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Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Bejusttoall: 7:23pm On Jan 26, 2020
CAPSLOCKED:


nonsense.

Nigeria is 90% Christians & Muslims, all raised in the "holy" ways. see how bleeped everything is. spare me that.

You are right bro. The reason for this is that parents have abandoned their responsibility on their children to chase after money and others.
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by xtycool: 10:04pm On Jan 26, 2020
Karleb:
The man is at fault but not you, right?

You have both failed in your duties as a parent, take it or leave it.

Buying them expensive things is not responsible for this.

true talk.
nobody will accept that he/ she cause their children misbehave. but every parent will gives account on how they trained their children.
un trained child will always give sorrow to parent.
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by cooooooks(m): 10:55pm On Jan 26, 2020
So your husband just came and flogged them like that.

This shows that you and your husband don't have an intimate relationship with your daughters.

She is 14, she is growing sexually, and in this age of the internet, will see that in many Western countries, 14 year old are almost independent and already sexually active.

From at most 12, you HAVE to start treating your children like young adults. You have to start developing a parent-friend-confidante relationship!

Furthermore, so she had sex, so what! Move on.

Make sure she's not infected with anything. Teach her about safe sex. Help her pursue her music career or acting or modelling.

See if you can marry her musical desires with 'normal' school. Is she actually talented?? If you stifle her talent, she will forever resent you. If she doesn't resent you already.



Queenellahrose:
I’m writing with so much pain in my heart because my only child is giving me lots of trouble. She is 14. Ever since I had her, I cannot conceive again. My husband and I went trough lots of tests we are all okay and perfect so we had to accept that God wanted us to have one daughter for now and we are still believing God for more children. Where do I start we are Nigerian leaving outside of Nigeria (African country) for the past 8 years we also took along my husband niece who is now 17.

My daughter was a very nice and obedient child working hard at school and has always been making us proud but everything changed when she turned 11 years. She started getting in trouble at school, my husband and I are always called for meeting about her not working well and fighting with her classmates and she gets punished almost everyday. We as parents had heart to heart talk. She had made clear that she doesn’t like school and want us to enrolled her at music and dance school. She was only 12. Me and her dad were against it. we had convinced how important education and all we want is the best for her to finish school to have a better job and she can do her music and dance too later.

She was okay and we kept encouraging her and praying for her, things started to get a little bit better even school complained become less. Three week ago I usually leave the house at 6am for work, hubby leaves before me and the kids were still at home getting ready for school and around 11am I received a called from the police asking if I’m mrs o and chi mum I said yes I started panicking because I thought maybe she had an accident or something, the police officer asked me to come at the station.

I rushed there and what I heard broke my heart in pieces. He explained to me that my daughter and niece and other girls were caught at a hotel with boys smoking, drinking and having sex. Actually somebody called the police because they had noticed that under age children entered the hotel which is an offence so when the police came, they had arrested all of them and took them to the station requesting them to give parents details and that’s how they contacted me .

I was ashamed and couldn’t controlled my tears. I wept bitterly because when I thought my two girls are angel in fact they were doing the unthinkable. I bailed both of them and I just hated them I didn’t even talked to them to avoid beating them badly, but later when hubby came I didn’t hide anything from him. He was so angry that he flogged them mercilessly, I felt bad for them but they both deserved it. We took their phones away, tablets and TV in their room and they are banned from going outside apart from school and when they both get back from school they will eat and go and spend the rest of their day in their bedroom until nighttime.

My husband blamed me for everything saying it’s all my fault those girls are becoming bad. The truth is he is the one that has been spoiling them with expensive phones , tablets and designer clothings and pocket money. I was against him pampering them so much because I knew it will come to this but he has always told me he works hard for his children to have better things and now they had become bad, he has put all the blames on me forgetting that it’s all his faults.

We are not in talking terms for three weeks and he is not eating my foods anymore. The whole things just gives me headaches and sleepless night, it’s almost 3am I can’t sleep my head wants to explode with too much thinking.
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by Nobody: 11:55pm On Jan 26, 2020
God please help me get it right when I'm training my children cry

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Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by wizkidblogger(f): 7:24am On Jan 27, 2020
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They will become lesbian with this.

shebi that is if they are not already lesbians cry
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by frog12: 3:52pm On Jan 27, 2020
idiot !!!!

take her back to the village or a private boarding school in nigeria where they'll discipline her
Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by DADYMIKE(m): 7:23pm On Jan 27, 2020
Not because something works for someone means it gonna work for you, you really need to know that ma, what your kids need currently is someone to confide in, someone to share their feelings with but unfortunately they never see, that's what they went to look for outside.
Pls you really need to create time for them, know what they are through, relate with them like a friend not as an angry parent or else they won't be able to share what they are going through with you because they know you gonna react negatively.

And I want to suggest something ma, to make both your wishes and hers to come to pass,call her and promise to enroll her into after school music lessons only on the condition if she did well in her education and if she really did well you must enroll her but the music lesson Will something you gonna use to control her that if she did not do well she will stop the music lesson.
Because on another level,our dream as a child must not be shattered and you really need to pray to God for her and your cousin also, you may think you have a best plan whereas God has a better plan for and I trust God is gonna help you with both of them....
And lastly you need to show her God, when you pray, pray together and study the word together, you will see God is gonna change her...
please just try this and let see if it's gonna work please the way you are treating her currently will have a very negative effect on her in the nearest future.

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Re: My 14-Year-Old Daughter Was Caught In Hotel With Boys, Smoking, Drinking by anu3: 9:58pm On Apr 19, 2022
Hmmm...

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