i have this guy that is supposed to be my friend but i am having second thoughts about him now. when we met initially, i thought he was really level headed. we met in January and we became very close friends. we started hanging out a lot and got used to being seen together.after our year was up in the student accommodation we were staying, we moved into a 3 bedroom house together with a third person.

on a dreadful day like that, he brought a chinese girl home and after the girl left around 12 midnight, i confronted him on why he had to bring a girl home seeing that it was not fair on me (though there was never any official asking out). he said that after all i wasn't his girlfriend. that he did not come to the UK to date another Nigerian girl and that he had to know what a non-nigerian a-r$e feels like. at the end of the day, he said this is the one time he has to hurt me as he has made up his mind. after chatting rubbish to the girl asking if she is a virgin (on the second day of meeting her) in a not-so-subtle manner, the girl told him off.
he resorted to looking on dating websites like tagged to find girls. he eventually found one that gave him her number and the first thing he did was to give her the address of our place and the girl started asking him for plenty alcohol and drugs (he doesn't do drugs but the girl wants him to buy for her). now something of a drug overdose has happened to the girl and the police have started visiting our house.

i really feel like ignoring him now since he was not even sensitive in the first place. i think it serves him right

A woman scorned.

I thot you were good friends.

are you guys dating??

if not, why cant you just be there for your friend?

or better still, if you want him for yourself, why dont you simply tell him your mind instead of assuming that you are dating?

we were good friends but the truth is i cant stand the way he treats me with so much indifference. we have talked about me liking him and all but he says he has made up his mind. it is hard to help someone who has treated u bad dont you think?

that is true.

and thanks for acknowledging that you have talked about it.

seems like he wants to stay a friend - treat him like one.

Dont go out of ur way to make him happy or help him if you dont want to. Or else you'll feel used.

good luck and God bless.

ssemire:

i have this guy that is supposed to be my friend but i am having second thoughts about him now. when we met initially, i thought he was really level headed. we met in January and we became very close friends. we started hanging out a lot and got used to being seen together.after our year was up in the student accommodation we were staying, we moved into a 3 bedroom house together with a third person.

on a dreadful day like that, he brought a chinese girl home and after the girl left around 12 midnight, i confronted him on why he had to bring a girl home seeing that it was not fair on me (though there was never any official asking out). he said that after all i wasn't his girlfriend. that he did not come to the UK to date another Nigerian girl and that he had to know what a non-nigerian a-r$e feels like. at the end of the day, he said this is the one time he has to hurt me as he has made up his mind. after chatting rubbish to the girl asking if she is a virgin (on the second day of meeting her) in a not-so-subtle manner, the girl told him off.
he resorted to looking on dating websites like tagged to find girls. he eventually found one that gave him her number and the first thing he did was to give her the address of our place and the girl started asking him for plenty alcohol and drugs (he doesn't do drugs but the girl wants him to buy for her). now something of a drug overdose has happened to the girl and the police have started visiting our house.

i really feel like ignoring him now since he was not even sensitive in the first place. i think it serves him right

I like ur sincerity, and transparency. I tell U, most Naija Babes won't have the courage 2 do wat U did.

Anyways, I'll be pleading with You 2 be there 4 him, do it as a friend and as a Naija sister watching after Her Naija Brother. Pls, if this will make any sense, do it 4 GOD!

This guy is simply not ready/mature for a stable relationship, he still want to have fun! He is obviously of the thought that there are special stuff in non Nigerian nyansh and want to sample it. My 2 cents for you is to look beyond him the problem is that whilst you're busy trying to build a good relationship with him there are many other good guys walking past you and you can't notice. however, be very careful of Naija guys in Manchester many of them are not looking for stable relationship they prefer easy lay to a commited relationship.

nkt

op

boy's solgan is no time 2 waste.

If you feel like not being there for him pls do not be just as he made up his mind to do as he likes pls do as you like/feel. if you feel like helping him you can equally do so only do not except him to be grateful to you enough to start dating you cos if he does not you start feeling sad.

i have absolutely moved on. thanks guys, either u said something meaningful or just chatted rubbish

its hard to accept, but u r in love with him. take it or leave it, it would resurface again sometime soon