Why do yoruba parents/aunties tell yoruba girls never to bring home an Igbo man? But are somewhat okay with their sons marrying igbo women?

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Swiitdoll:
Why do yoruba parents/aunties tell yoruba girls never to bring home an Igbo man? But are somewhat okay with their sons marrying igbo women?

You're very correct Swiitdoll and I'll explain in details, but before that let me giggle a bit.
To start with, I thought your men always come here to chestbeat claiming Igbo guys don't patronize Yoruba girls, the reason why there are not many Igbo men/Yoruba ladies' marriages. They even go further to claim no men from other region outside SW wants to marry Yoruba ladies . Ridiculous lies and claims. People always took those claims to be sincere in the past, but everyone has realized it's childish empty claims, reason no one takes them serious anymore.
You keep hating Yorubas for no good reason, blackmailing them, wishing them evil etc. You all need to allow some iota of love, how ever little.

Now, the fact is, there would have been more Igbo men/Yoruba women marriages in Nigeria than vice versa if not for the reason you stated. One of my Igbo brother from Anambra will tell me, 'you don't have any beautiful babe in SW here, come to Anambla and see fine babes everywhere', but after that he keeps begging Yoruba girls to marry him that he will take care of them. I just laughed and always thought, why not go to Amanbla and marry your beautiful girls there. He's my good friend anyway and that's just on a light note.

Although your men because of ego problem would come here to claim they can never marry Yoruba girls but in reality, many Igbo men would have loved to marry Yoruba women.

But you're very correct as you've said most Yoruba parents are the barriers to such relationships. Personally, I'm a witness of many of such cases. I think the thing is, Yorubas are naturally tender and don't want trouble but Igbos are viewed as tough and bit violent. Most parents are therefore scared if their tender daughters mary Igbo men, they might be helpless and manhandled in such marriages. Giving out a Yoruba son is not a problem since he's a man and strong enough to fight for himself.

Pls note that this fear is not only with Igbo men, it's same with different Yoruba ethnics too. Yoruba is general, but also divided into different ethnics, towns and dialets; each ethnic with it's peculiar characters. So, sometimes too, Yoruba parents are afraid giving their daughters to a man from some ethnicity because of one thing or the other. Therefore the practice is only done to Igbo men, it happens within the different Yoruba ethnics too.

Although such practice is outdated but, in a way, one can still reason with Yoruba parents. Take for example, Psquare and Lola. See what the lady is facing with her inlaws and almost all his tribe. Almost all of you come here to put nose in another person's marriage and castigate her for being a Yoruba lady. If not for Peter being a good man, that poor woman would have been living in hell. But you wont see that happening if the lady is Igbo, the inlaws won't give her headache not to talk of the whole Yoruba tribe coming here to hate on her. No Yoruba has time for such petty thing, not even in the culture. So, Yoruba parents saw well before behaving that way concerning their daughters.

Anyway, things are gradually changing due to civilization and i think such bad practices should become extinct someday.

light099:


[s]You're very correct Swiitdoll and I'll explain in details, but before that let me giggle a bit.
To start with, I thought your men always come here to chestbeat claiming Igbo guys don't patronize Yoruba girls, the reason why there are not many Igbo men/Yoruba ladies' marriages. They even go further to claim no men from other region outside SW wants to marry Yoruba ladies . Ridiculous lies and claims. People always took those claims to be sincere in the past, but everyone has realized it's childish empty claims, reason no one takes them serious anymore.
You keep hating Yorubas for no good reason, blackmailing them, wishing them evil etc. You all need to allow some iota of love, how ever little.

Now, the fact is, there would have been more Igbo men/Yoruba women marriages in Nigeria than vice versa if not for the reason you stated. One of my Igbo brother from Anambra will tell me, 'you don't have any beautiful babe in SW here, come to Anambla and see fine babes everywhere', but after that he keeps begging Yoruba girls to marry him that he will take care of them. I just laughed and always thought, why not go to Amanbla and marry your beautiful girls there. He's my good friend anyway and that's just on a light note.

Although your men because of ego problem would come here to claim they can never marry Yoruba girls but in reality, many Igbo men would have loved to marry Yoruba women.

But you're very correct as you've said most Yoruba parents are the barriers to such relationships. Personally, I'm a witness of many of such cases. I think the thing is, Yorubas are naturally tender and don't want trouble but Igbos are viewed as tough and bit violent. Most parents are therefore scared if their tender daughters mary Igbo men, they might be helpless and manhandled in such marriages. Giving out a Yoruba son is not a problem since he's a man and strong enough to fight for himself.

Pls note that this fear is not only with Igbo men, it's same with different Yoruba ethnics too. Yoruba is general, but also divided into different ethnics, towns and dialets; each ethnic with it's peculiar characters. So, sometimes too, Yoruba parents are afraid giving their daughters to a man from some ethnicity because of one thing or the other. Therefore the practice is only done to Igbo men, it happens within the different Yoruba ethnics too.

Although such practice is outdated but, in a way, one can still reason with Yoruba parents. Take for example, Psquare and Lola. See what the lady is facing with her inlaws and almost all his tribe. Almost all of you come here to put nose in another person's marriage and castigate her for being a Yoruba lady. If not for Peter being a good man, that poor woman would have been living in hell. But you wont see that happening if the lady is Igbo, the inlaws won't give her headache not to talk of the whole Yoruba tribe coming here to hate on her. No Yoruba has time for such petty thing, not even in the culture. So, Yoruba parents saw well before behaving that way concerning their daughters.

Anyway, things are gradually changing due to civilization and i think such bad practices should become extinct someday.[/s]

You guys always like to talk trash.

Your friend from Anambra....Beg fire...Lol

Na outright rejection from his parents so no need for long speech or memo.

light099:


[s]You're very correct Swiitdoll and I'll explain in details, but before that let me giggle a bit.
To start with, I thought your men always come here to chestbeat claiming Igbo guys don't patronize Yoruba girls, the reason why there are not many Igbo men/Yoruba ladies' marriages. They even go further to claim no men from other region outside SW wants to marry Yoruba ladies . Ridiculous lies and claims. People always took those claims to be sincere in the past, but everyone has realized it's childish empty claims, reason no one takes them serious anymore.
You keep hating Yorubas for no good reason, blackmailing them, wishing them evil etc. You all need to allow some iota of love, how ever little.

Now, the fact is, there would have been more Igbo men/Yoruba women marriages in Nigeria than vice versa if not for the reason you stated. One of my Igbo brother from Anambra will tell me, 'you don't have any beautiful babe in SW here, come to Anambla and see fine babes everywhere', but after that he keeps begging Yoruba girls to marry him that he will take care of them. I just laughed and always thought, why not go to Amanbla and marry your beautiful girls there. He's my good friend anyway and that's just on a light note.

Although your men because of ego problem would come here to claim they can never marry Yoruba girls but in reality, many Igbo men would have loved to marry Yoruba women.

But you're very correct as you've said most Yoruba parents are the barriers to such relationships. Personally, I'm a witness of many of such cases. I think the thing is, Yorubas are naturally tender and don't want trouble but Igbos are viewed as tough and bit violent. Most parents are therefore scared if their tender daughters mary Igbo men, they might be helpless and manhandled in such marriages. Giving out a Yoruba son is not a problem since he's a man and strong enough to fight for himself.

Pls note that this fear is not only with Igbo men, it's same with different Yoruba ethnics too. Yoruba is general, but also divided into different ethnics, towns and dialets; each ethnic with it's peculiar characters. So, sometimes too, Yoruba parents are afraid giving their daughters to a man from some ethnicity because of one thing or the other. Therefore the practice is only done to Igbo men, it happens within the different Yoruba ethnics too.

Although such practice is outdated but, in a way, one can still reason with Yoruba parents. Take for example, Psquare and Lola. See what the lady is facing with her inlaws and almost all his tribe. Almost all of you come here to put nose in another person's marriage and castigate her for being a Yoruba lady. If not for Peter being a good man, that poor woman would have been living in hell. But you wont see that happening if the lady is Igbo, the inlaws won't give her headache not to talk of the whole Yoruba tribe coming here to hate on her. No Yoruba has time for such petty thing, not even in the culture. So, Yoruba parents saw well before behaving that way concerning their daughters.

Anyway, things are gradually changing due to civilization and i think such bad practices should become extinct someday.[/s]

You guys always like to talk trash.

Your friend from Anambra....Beg fire...Lol

Na outright rejection from his parents so no need for long speech or memo.


Any form of Igbo-Yoruba shouldn't be encouraged at all.

light099:


You're very correct Swiitdoll and I'll explain in details, but before that let me giggle a bit.
To start with, I thought your men always come here to chestbeat claiming Igbo guys don't patronize Yoruba girls, the reason why there are not many Igbo men/Yoruba ladies' marriages. They even go further to claim no men from other region outside SW wants to marry Yoruba ladies . Ridiculous lies and claims. People always took those claims to be sincere in the past, but everyone has realized it's childish empty claims, reason no one takes them serious anymore.
You keep hating Yorubas for no good reason, blackmailing them, wishing them evil etc. You all need to allow some iota of love, how ever little.

Now, the fact is, there would have been more Igbo men/Yoruba women marriages in Nigeria than vice versa if not for the reason you stated. One of my Igbo brother from Anambra will tell me, 'you don't have any beautiful babe in SW here, come to Anambla and see fine babes everywhere', but after that he keeps begging Yoruba girls to marry him that he will take care of them. I just laughed and always thought, why not go to Amanbla and marry your beautiful girls there. He's my good friend anyway and that's just on a light note.

Although your men because of ego problem would come here to claim they can never marry Yoruba girls but in reality, many Igbo men would have loved to marry Yoruba women.

But you're very correct as you've said most Yoruba parents are the barriers to such relationships. Personally, I'm a witness of many of such cases. I think the thing is, Yorubas are naturally tender and don't want trouble but Igbos are viewed as tough and bit violent. Most parents are therefore scared if their tender daughters mary Igbo men, they might be helpless and manhandled in such marriages. Giving out a Yoruba son is not a problem since he's a man and strong enough to fight for himself.

Pls note that this fear is not only with Igbo men, it's same with different Yoruba ethnics too. Yoruba is general, but also divided into different ethnics, towns and dialets; each ethnic with it's peculiar characters. So, sometimes too, Yoruba parents are afraid giving their daughters to a man from some ethnicity because of one thing or the other. Therefore the practice is only done to Igbo men, it happens within the different Yoruba ethnics too.

Although such practice is outdated but, in a way, one can still reason with Yoruba parents. Take for example, Psquare and Lola. See what the lady is facing with her inlaws and almost all his tribe. Almost all of you come here to put nose in another person's marriage and castigate her for being a Yoruba lady. If not for Peter being a good man, that poor woman would have been living in hell. But you wont see that happening if the lady is Igbo, the inlaws won't give her headache not to talk of the whole Yoruba tribe coming here to hate on her. No Yoruba has time for such petty thing, not even in the culture. So, Yoruba parents saw well before behaving that way concerning their daughters.

Anyway, things are gradually changing due to civilization and i think such bad practices should become extinct someday.

I am not igbo, I am a Yoruba woman and despite the fact that I live in the west, my parents and aunties also live in the west, I thought they’d be more open minded than Yorubas who are back home but I realised that they Cld even be more tribalist than those back home. I’m not “allowed” to even date a western igbo boy even though he’s also born in the west and very open minded, likewise his family. Furthermore you are right using psquare’s scenario. My aunties wld always say that igbo in-laws wld stress me till I die if I ever attempt to marry their son and besides that I’m not allowed to even bring an igbo friend to our house. Can I ask if Igbos also act like this? I want a perspective from an igbo person please.

MelesZenawi:



You guys always like to talk trash.

Your friend from Anambra....Beg fire...Lol

Na outright rejection from his parents so no need for long speech or memo.


Any form of Igbo-Yoruba shouldn't be encouraged at all.

This is ridiculous, we are all Nigerians. Imagine the English banning their kids from marrying Scottish or northern Irish people, it’ll be ridiculous since they have different cultures but still all british. Stop thinking like that. Be open minded

Swiitdoll:

This is ridiculous, we are all Nigerians. Imagine the English banning their kids from marrying Scottish or northern Irish people, it’ll be ridiculous since they have different cultures but still all british. Stop thinking like that. Be open minded

We are not all Nigerians...


Such marriages will always erode our various cultures. It is on our best interest Never to allow such happen.

Moreover these days, speakers are vehemently opposing long distance marriages as it is not good.

Igbos have their own way of taking care of their wife different from Yorubas. There is no need trying to muzzle such things as marriage together.

Don't encourage such again. On the case of p-square, it is simply a media make-up story.

Some of this practices are mostly seen in movies and rarely in real life. an educated igbo parent only cares about his/her grandchild(ren),her domestic abilities and how the daughter in law mingles with the extended family.

Swiitdoll:

I am not igbo, I am a Yoruba woman and despite the fact that I live in the west, my parents and aunties also live in the west, I thought they’d be more open minded than Yorubas who are back home but I realised that they Cld even be more tribalist than those back home. I’m not “allowed” to even date a western igbo boy even though he’s also born in the west and very open minded, likewise his family. Furthermore you are right using psquare’s scenario. My aunties wld always say that igbo in-laws wld stress me till I die if I ever attempt to marry their son and besides that I’m not allowed to even bring an igbo friend to our house. Can I ask if Igbos also act like this? I want a perspective from an igbo person please.

Galactico4ever:
Some of this practices are mostly seen in movies and rarely in real life. an educated igbo parent only cares about his/her grandchild(ren),her domestic abilities and how the daughter in law mingles with the extended family.

No it’s not. Im yoruba and I’m not allowed to marry or date an igbo guy. My aunties told me if I do I’m not allowed to bring him home as they aren’t interested in having an igbo inlaw. They told my sister and other female cousins the same, they’d rather we marry a white man if we can’t find a Yoruba man. They are of the idea that Igbos are cruel to yoruba women who marry their sons

Swiitdoll:

I am not igbo, I am a Yoruba woman and despite the fact that I live in the west, my parents and aunties also live in the west, I thought they’d be more open minded than Yorubas who are back home but I realised that they Cld even be more tribalist than those back home. I’m not “allowed” to even date a western igbo boy even though he’s also born in the west and very open minded, likewise his family. Furthermore you are right using psquare’s scenario. My aunties wld always say that igbo in-laws wld stress me till I die if I ever attempt to marry their son and besides that I’m not allowed to even bring an igbo friend to our house. Can I ask if Igbos also act like this? I want a perspective from an igbo person please.

My dear, what I told you is the truth regardless if you're Yoruba or Igbo lady. Most times you would hear your parents telling you that Igbos like money a lot etc and so they're scared. It's just the fear that something bad might happen to their daughters, nothing more, not tribalism as such. It's just fear for what might happen to their daughters. The only thing is that such mindset should start getting reduced, because like you said, some Igbo guys who stay in West with their families are open-minded and not hateful like the those trained with hate, like this other guy who has been crying on your thread here .
So, those open-minded Igbos, many of them speak Yoruba well and many times they relate with no tribal bias. I have some of them like that, whom I can recommended as a good husband. If that is the case, talk to your parents, maybe if you can convince them, especially when the guy and his family are all in SW. No tribe barrier should stop you from marrying the perfect man for you. The only thing is, make sure you're sincere and not acting on impulse, so it wont be like, 'we told you but you were wise in your own eyes'. Someone like Peter Psquare is an example of good husband.
It's hard to convince Yoruba parents in situations like that but it's your life and they've made their own choices in life. As long as your head is alert and you're sincere and sure of what you're doing, your parents are only to guide you, they're not to force you.

MelesZenawi:

You guys always like to talk trash.
Your friend from Anambra....Beg fire...Lol
Na outright rejection from his parents so no need for long speech or memo.

Any form of Igbo-Yoruba shouldn't be encouraged at all.

Hehehehe, I pray you no go kee yourself on top Yoruba matter, the only thing you've not done is to enter street and näked yourself.
Why not go carry seat sit down for him parents house, so that anytime he bring Yoruba girl, you can kidnap her.
Or better still, take warrant from Anambra government so that you go from house to house, any house with Yoruba inlaw, you should arrest and jail them .
Be like say mumu dey worry you sef .
All your forefathers wey don dey hate Yorubas since time immemorial, where are they today? All the years Chimamanda has been hating Soyinka, has that stripped him of his nobel laureate prize? Or has it changed the fact that he is first in Africa to receive such in Literature? . You can keep envying, crying and hating up and down. Las las you will all be ok.

light099:


Hehehehe, I pray you no go kee yourself on top Yoruba matter, the only thing you've not done is to enter street and näked yourself.
Why not go carry seat sit down for him parents house, so that anytime he bring Yoruba girl, you can kidnap her.
Or better still, take warrant from Anambra government so that you go from house to house, any house with Yoruba inlaw, you should arrest and jail them .
Be like say mumu dey worry you sef .
All your forefathers wey don dey hate Yorubas since time immemorial, where are they today? All the years Chimamanda has been hating Soyinka, has that stripped him of his nobel laureate prize? Or has it changed the fact that he is first in Africa to receive such in Literature? . You can keep envying, crying and hating up and down. Las las you will all be ok.

Stop writing trash.

Marry from your tribe and I marry from my tribe no be crime and that's how it should be which is standard of marriage. Hardly will you see Igbo men marrying Yoruba women..it is barely I mean barely minimum but the reverse is the case for you guys.

The problem escalated with this nonsense of igbo- yoruba movie collabo by Yoruba directors. FG should stop such movies promoting such marriages because it is eroding culture and it is very very bad.

Amanda is not in the league of soyinka please. Hold una old man.



Marriage should be strictly within and not outside. Those in west are there for business and not marriage.

light099:


My dear, what I told you is the truth regardless if you're Yoruba or Igbo lady. Most times you would hear your parents telling you that Igbos like money a lot etc and so they're scared. It's just the fear that something bad might happen to their daughters, nothing more, not tribalism as such. It's just fear for what might happen to their daughters. The only thing is that such mindset should start getting reduced, because like you said, some Igbo guys who stay in West with their families are open-minded and not hateful like the those trained with hate, like this other guy who has been crying on your thread here .
So, those open-minded Igbos, many of them speak Yoruba well and many times they relate with no tribal bias. I have some of them like that, whom I can recommended as a good husband. If that is the case, talk to your parents, maybe if you can convince them, especially when the guy and his family are all in SW. No tribe barrier should stop you from marrying the perfect man for you. The only thing is, make sure you're sincere and not acting on impulse, so it wont be like, 'we told you but you were wise in your own eyes'. Someone like Peter Psquare is an example of good husband.
It's hard to convince Yoruba parents in situations like that but it's your life and they've made their own choices in life. As long as your head is alert and you're sincere and sure of what you're doing, your parents are only to guide you, they're not to force you.

Stop misadvising her, let her marry from her tribe. Her parents did the right thing by Wading off any Igbo suitors. nobody should encourage that. Igbo-Yoruba marriage shouldn't be encouraged at all for many reasons. Let everyone marry from their place.

Na una no like money... Nonsense.

MelesZenawi:




Stop misadvising her, let her marry from her tribe. Her parents did the right thing by Wading off any Igbo suitors. nobody should encourage that. Igbo-Yoruba marriage shouldn't be encouraged at all for many reasons. Let everyone marry from their place.

Na una no like money... Nonsense.

If you're mad because your fellow Igbo man loves and want to marry her, why not buy a big bucket, lock yourself in your closet and cry in the bucket till it fills up or better still, if you can tie a strong rope around your ceiling fan, then suspend yourself from there, so that you can end your pathetic sadistic bigoted life.

light099:


If you're mad because your fellow Igbo man loves and want to marry her, why not buy a big bucket, lock yourself in your closet and cry in the bucket till it fills up or better still, if you can tie a strong rope around your ceiling fan, then suspend yourself from there, so that you can end your pathetic sadistic bigoted life.

Oga say no to such marriages.

We have to stop it.