Good evening ma,

Please I need advise from older married people in our group. I am very frustrated with my husband even though I love him so much. I feel like he does not show care or he does not want to show care only when he wants to and this is gradually killing me.

We have been married for three years and we have a son. He is a good father but not much of a good husband. Why do I say this? My husband knows how to really annoy me. He picks up a fight over small things like if he gets back from work and I dont run fast enough to open the gate for him.

I work as a Teacher so I get back from work before him. He thinks my job is less important than his. What he does not appreciate is the fact that even though our official closing time is 3pm,I do not get home until 5pm. Before I settle in,do my lesson notes,take care of my son and prepare the meal,its almost like 7pm.

So my job is exhausting. So,most times,I sit close to the door so I can hear when he rings the bell. But he always come in a foul mood. Maybe I went to pick up my son when he rang the bell,he goes like: do you want me to break down the door before you open? I told him to get his own key because I feel he is being unreasonable but he only told me I was lazy.

Yes…he called me lazy. I hate it when he calls me derogatory names too. Sometimes,I would call him at work,he wont pick because he said he is busy. But if he calls me and I do not pick at work,he .......

https://livelystones.ng/2020/06/16/our-marriage-communication-problems-is-driving-me-crazyplease-advise/

Something don dey beat drum for am outside...ur own na to pray make the drummer hand pain am or get wound wey no go ever heal.

Rabbi4real:
Good evening ma,

Please I need advise from older married people in our group. I am very frustrated with my husband even though I love him so much. I feel like he does not show care or he does not want to show care only when he wants to and this is gradually killing me.

We have been married for three years and we have a son. He is a good father but not much of a good husband. Why do I say this? My husband knows how to really annoy me. He picks up a fight over small things like if he gets back from work and I dont run fast enough to open the gate for him.

I work as a Teacher so I get back from work before him. He thinks my job is less important than his. What he does not appreciate is the fact that even though our official closing time is 3pm,I do not get home until 5pm. Before I settle in,do my lesson notes,take care of my son and prepare the meal,its almost like 7pm.

So my job is exhausting. So,most times,I sit close to the door so I can hear when he rings the bell. But he always come in a foul mood. Maybe I went to pick up my son when he rang the bell,he goes like: do you want me to break down the door before you open? I told him to get his own key because I feel he is being unreasonable but he only told me I was lazy.

Yes…he called me lazy. I hate it when he calls me derogatory names too. Sometimes,I would call him at work,he wont pick because he said he is busy. But if he calls me and I do not pick at work,he .......

https://livelystones.ng/2020/06/16/our-marriage-communication-problems-is-driving-me-crazyplease-advise/

Pls summarize

Firstly, I think you should put your marriage in prayer.
Secondly, you need to have a reasonable discussion with your husband ;wake him up in the middle of the night iron thinks out.
There are not perfect home ; but your marriage is too young to be experiencing issues especially communication.
The Lord Will See You Through !