Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good evening all
I posted my first story here back in January about how my job was ended and my wife maltreated me because I was duped by my sister anyway you can go to my profile to read more. I came back to share the good news with you all and for advice too.
So far my sister that duped me has repaid me back money money with an extra 200k so far I had received 400k from her on the 26th of July which I am very grateful to the almighty God I am planning to start up business very soon.
Where I need advice is
I left my wife back in February and went back to my mother house I have been here for six months now. My wife has never bothered calling me unless I called her sometimes she picked it up and sometimes she never which I understood her she was angry for what I did . But after I left the house she started dating her colleague from work which I got proofs with me but I never confronted her because I had no money so confronting her would have make matters worse. She stopped me from visiting my own children for six months I haven’t seen them apart from speaking to them on the phone. I had never bothered her and let her be to do as she pleases. But I was surprised yesterday being Sunday she visited me with the children and knelt down to beg for my forgiveness that she is sorry for everything the way she treated me that she wanted me back home with her and the kids . I was a bit confused and couldn’t believe my eyes . I was wondering if someone had told her about me receiving the money back from my sister maybe that was why she has deceived to have me back but I doubts because apart from my mother nobody else knows that I had received the money and my mother had no contact with her for a very long time now . Well I haven’t told her anything about the money I told her I haven’t gotten a job yet so it wouldn’t be possible for me to go back home with her to avoid adding more burden to her but she was adamant that I should come home that she will take care of everything. But I ask her to give me sometimes to think about that . She bombarded me with loves messages on WhatsApp she is really trying to win me back . But I don’t know if I should go back to her honestly because she cheated on me in my absence only God knows how long the relationship had been going on maybe it started even before I lost my job because the guy in question is slyer colleague from work she spend most time with him at work and outside work and she was bringing him home to my children when I left the house. I don’t really know what had happened between them that she is now wanting me back . I have lots of things going on in my mind right I don’t think I want her back in my life . My only mistakes was not telling her about the money but apart from that I had never cheated on my wife never ever. Even after leaving the house I have never slept with any other woman but she cheated on me which is worse than what I did to her . I love my children I want to be a part in their life I will provide all their needs . I want to confront and tell her that I don’t want her back because she cheated on me but I will be there for my children anytime .Kindly need your advice.

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good evening all
I posted my first story here back in January about how my job was ended and my wife maltreated me because I was duped by my sister anyway you can go to my profile to read more. I came back to share the good news with you all and for advice too.
So far my sister that duped me has repaid me back money money with an extra 200k so far I had received 400k from her on the 26th of July which I am very grateful to the almighty God I am planning to start up business very soon.
Where I need advice is
I left my wife back in February and went back to my mother house I have been here for six months now. My wife has never bothered calling me unless I called her sometimes she picked it up and sometimes she never which I understood her she was angry for what I did . But after I left the house she started dating her colleague from work which I got proofs with me but I never confronted her because I had no money so confronting her would have make matters worse. She stopped me from visiting my own children for six months I haven’t seen them apart from speaking to them on the phone. I had never bothered her and let her be to do as she pleases. But I was surprised yesterday being Sunday she visited me with the children and knelt down to beg for my forgiveness that she is sorry for everything the way she treated me that she wanted me back home with her and the kids . I was a bit confused and couldn’t believe my eyes . I was wondering if someone had told her about me receiving the money back from my sister maybe that was why she has deceived to have me back but I doubts because apart from my mother nobody else knows that I had received the money and my mother had no contact with her for a very long time now . Well I haven’t told her anything about the money I told her I haven’t gotten a job yet so it wouldn’t be possible for me to go back home with her to avoid adding more burden to her but she was adamant that I should come home that she will take care of everything. But I ask her to give me sometimes to think about that . She bombarded me with loves messages on WhatsApp she is really trying to win me back . But I don’t know if I should go back to her honestly because she cheated on me in my absence only God knows how long the relationship had been going on maybe it started even before I lost my job because the guy in question is slyer colleague from work she spend most time with him at work and outside work and she was bringing him home to my children when I left the house. I don’t really know what had happened between them that she is now wanting me back . I have lots of things going on in my mind right I don’t think I want her back in my life . My only mistakes was not telling her about the money but apart from that I had never cheated on my wife never ever. Even after leaving the house I have never slept with any other woman but she cheated on me which is worse than what I did to her . I love my children I want to be a part in their life I will provide all their needs . I want to confront and tell her that I don’t want her back because she cheated on me but I will be there for my children anytime .Kindly need your advice.

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good evening all
I posted my first story here back in January about how my job was ended and my wife maltreated me because I was duped by my sister anyway you can go to my profile to read more. I came back to share the good news with you all and for advice too.
So far my sister that duped me has repaid me back money money with an extra 200k so far I had received 400k from her on the 26th of July which I am very grateful to the almighty God I am planning to start up business very soon.
Where I need advice is
I left my wife back in February and went back to my mother house I have been here for six months now. My wife has never bothered calling me unless I called her sometimes she picked it up and sometimes she never which I understood her she was angry for what I did . But after I left the house she started dating her colleague from work which I got proofs with me but I never confronted her because I had no money so confronting her would have make matters worse. She stopped me from visiting my own children for six months I haven’t seen them apart from speaking to them on the phone. I had never bothered her and let her be to do as she pleases. But I was surprised yesterday being Sunday she visited me with the children and knelt down to beg for my forgiveness that she is sorry for everything the way she treated me that she wanted me back home with her and the kids . I was a bit confused and couldn’t believe my eyes . I was wondering if someone had told her about me receiving the money back from my sister maybe that was why she has deceived to have me back but I doubts because apart from my mother nobody else knows that I had received the money and my mother had no contact with her for a very long time now . Well I haven’t told her anything about the money I told her I haven’t gotten a job yet so it wouldn’t be possible for me to go back home with her to avoid adding more burden to her but she was adamant that I should come home that she will take care of everything. But I ask her to give me sometimes to think about that . She bombarded me with loves messages on WhatsApp she is really trying to win me back . But I don’t know if I should go back to her honestly because she cheated on me in my absence only God knows how long the relationship had been going on maybe it started even before I lost my job because the guy in question is slyer colleague from work she spend most time with him at work and outside work and she was bringing him home to my children when I left the house. I don’t really know what had happened between them that she is now wanting me back . I have lots of things going on in my mind right I don’t think I want her back in my life . My only mistakes was not telling her about the money but apart from that I had never cheated on my wife never ever. Even after leaving the house I have never slept with any other woman but she cheated on me which is worse than what I did to her . I love my children I want to be a part in their life I will provide all their needs . I want to confront and tell her that I don’t want her back because she cheated on me but I will be there for my children anytime .Kindly need your advice.

frozen70:


For now, the most important thing is for you to find your bearing

May be, her head is correct now and she has realised how important you are to her before the break up

What she did has threatened your love, trust and peace over her, so you need time to be sure that you are reconciling for good and not to separate again

Meanwhile, your priority is to think of what to do to get yourself back besides don't tell her about the money yet and if she gives you anything like money, don't collect it ask her to add it to the children upkeep

You guys can't even just reconcile without your individual families because it has affected both families indirectly

For now, I suggest you still stay with your mother and let her really feel your absence and when she does, she knows those to contact for you to come back

As for her relationship with the so called colleague, if you want to reconcile with her, she has to promise you that she is done with him and make a call in your presence on a speaker to denounce her relationship with him as she wants to go b ack to her marriage

Having done that, it's now left for you to forgive her

Women, especially married women are not good to he left unattended, forget about pretense but its a fact

culf:
follow your mind, if you can forgive her genuinely, then forgive and move on but if you can't, then no need deceiving her, tell her, involve other family members and find ways to support your children.

if your kids will be staying with her, please try to visit them often aside the financial and material support and make sure you avoid sex with her, very important.

bukatyne:


This sounded so funny in an off way

Ningen:
Your wife;

1. Cheated on you.
2. Prevented you from seeing your own kids.
3. Didn't support you when you needed her.

There is nothing to go back to here, nothing. So yes, confront her about the affair. Let her know what she did killed her marriage and whatever you both had. Don't let her manipulate you man.

Dotherightthing:
My Bbrother johnnyjohnnyman, Ccalm Ddown!

Don't be quick to Ddo what you said u wanna do..

Calm Ddown ! How Mmany Ttimes have you Ssinned against God Almighty and yet you Ccome back for Fforgiveness..

How Mmany Ttimes Hhave we Mmessed up in Llife and yet we seek for Fforgiveness..

Have sometime with God. Forgive your Wwife..Get your Hhome together!

Don't allow Aassumptions to ruin your Hhome..

You Mmay take her for a Mmedical Ttest.

After that, Eenjoy your Hhome