It is no news again that young girls this days are fund of dating married men. The baffling question is why, is it the money, or is it lack of hope for the future. I still can't understand how these girls feel comfortable dating married men. Can somebody give me an answer? Please if you have ever been in this type of situation please tell me why you did that. Girls please talk.

Though am not a girl, but I can confidently say young ladies do this because of funds. I have the experience of losing a lady to a married man while I was in the university, and believe me, it was simply because the man could fund her better. Moreover, I've got some friends that date married men despite having their bf.

Am not blaming these young ladies o. This is simply because I believe that "If you can't fund a relationship, then you don't expect roses and velvet from it.

Lastly, I can't really promise I wouldn't date young ladies when am married (It could be fun you know?). But I sincerely pray God touches my heart by then.

They do it because of Owo, Money Ego, !!!

They do it because of Owo, Money Ego, !!!

You're 100% correct

Silly, I pray God touches your heart before then too. You might enjoy dating young girls as a married man but you may end up destroying your home. Girls where are you is it true its all about the money? We really need a female's opinion here.

Yes you are correct that some despite having boy friends still go ahead to date this men. I was sitting in a company of few guys at a time and there was this girl that was supposedly dating one of the guys who happened to be married. While sitted their the girl's phone rang and she picked it, it was her boyfriend that called. They engaged in a connversation and without sending the married lover she was been so real in the call that even a deaf person will know who she was talking to . After the call the the man asked herwho she was talking to and she answered the boy friend. It pained my heart to know that the boy friend is beign decived that much, Lots of I love you, I miss you, I am sitting alone at home thinking about you during the call, all that really made me to feelfor the boy friend knowing that the girl will be getting married to him soon. You know what I know , If you destroy other people's marriage and happiness by sleeeping with their husbands, when you get married people will sleep with your husband and destroy your home and happiness, and by that time you will remember that you did sow a seed that you are reaping. I am sure some girls have read this and they ignored it because they are guilty. Dont be shy , own up and tell us why you did that. Still waiting for a girl to contribute. The longer it takes the firmer the confirmation that a good number of girls are guilty. Speak out.

why dy'all think it must beabout the money

I don't do married / atached guys, but maybe these girls, do it for the freedom and independence, GUYS CAN BE VERY CLINGY when they are in love, they get all possisive and think they can monitor ur every move and they possess u, so some girls, like the fact thatthey can maintain their independence and still have someone to 'shag' when they want, it's all about retaining some measure of control

@poster
When girls (most) see money, they care less about their dignity and most of these married men have arrived and have the dough to dish out. So girls prefer money to true love. What they dont understand is someday, they (girls) will fall back on d guies they reject now for marriage.

luxoire:

why dy'all think it must beabout the money

I don't do married / atached guys, but maybe these girls, do it for the freedom and independence, GUYS CAN BE VERY CLINGY when they are in love, they get all possisive and think they can monitor your every move and they possess u, so some girls, like the fact thatthey can maintain their independence and still have someone to 'shag' when they want, it's all about retaining some measure of control

Thanks lux, for belling the cat for the girls, I agree that  some people do that because they are not ready for serious commitment. But how do they intend to cope when they are now ready to settle down wont they still go back and face their fears. I am very sure that a very few percentage fall into this category. I think the main issue hre is money.
We need guilty girls to talk Dont be shy.Why do you do this?

If we continue to talk about this for a life time, it wouldn't chage the ladies involved. I strongly believe that all lies with the guys. Guys should just learn to be flexible when it comes to women. As a matter of fact, human beings should learn that fellow humans are quite deceptive. People can only follow my philosophy that you only trust when you see.

Though, over 90% of young women that indulge in such act do so because of money, but you can't really comprehend women. They could just do it for other reasons you can't just comprehend. They could do it for a silly reason.

good conclusion sill "trust no one" though I trust my babe sha, Where are this girls sef, does it mean all naira land girls are guilty except Lux. We need them to talk cos they are the only ones that can give this infos. My be the question should be made personal. Do you date married men and why?
I am very sure most of them did not like my 3rd post and that is why they are not saying anything. It sounded like a curse . Well It depends on the way you see it. I am sure some married women would have said amen to that.One man's meat,

Roadblock

it depends where the girl's at in her life, sometimes its not that they fear commitment, its just that they would rather not have a guy clinging on to them bossing them and controlling them about, especially if they have other issues to deal with, they'd rather the sex, shoulder to cry on, and assistance whenever THEY feel like it
that way, they are in control as to whom and when/how they lose their hearts, (though this one bnackfires sometimes)

lux , you know my problem with the way of life? Not so bothered about how nay one that does that spends her life, but it pains my heart to see good home and family happiness lost to this girls careless and undignifying way of life. To make matters worse non of this girls can really take cope with the fact that one girl is seeing their husband or boyfriend. Let us agree that these married men too have problems, but the girls should know that they are married already and that they are the ones left to do that. they should learn to say No. But most of this girls are self willing and they go after this men. Why destroy other people's home. It is painful.

Going by what I see around these days i am begginning to believe a married my that said "90% of married women today had at one time dated a married man before getting married. And going by the law that says "what you do to others will surely be done unto you" can we say this is responsible for the allarming rate of break ups in marriages nowadays? I think it is logically right. I think it is pay back time for most women and also the agents of payback should be ready to be paid back too when they are married.
ko ki nse epe

Am a girl am not married, and am not a saint but there are some things i just feel should not be done. Dating Married men for whatever reason is one of those things.
I really fail to understand when people say it is for economic reasons. I have seen the worst of povertyand am quite pretty but that did not make me choose to date married men. The only thing i did was i worked ten times harder than my collegues cos i know i dont want to remain poor all my life. Sacrifice today and enjoy later.
I feel its just greed, lack of contentment and selfishness. A young girl wants to wear 20000k clothes, a 50000k phone for God sake what value does that add to your life. The sad thing is that with all the runs they do do not invest the money properly, they just keep jumping around married men to sustain a very fake lifestyle.
There is dignity in labor and am a living testimony to the fact that if u work hard good thimgs will follow.
Girls please lets be reasonable

Make me solve maths small

Remove funds whatelse can be the motive?

@roadblock

dont just blame these girls alone.

The men that can not turn their heads away and say NO to a bit of skirt for theior wives and children's sake, are also at blame if not more so.

What makes a man, is not how many times he can pick himself up after falling into temptation, IT IS, WHETHER OR NOT HE CAN WITHSTAND THE TEMPTATION AND SAY NO IN THE FIRST PLACE!

there shall always be temptresses around!! men u needf to learn to resist, and stop inflicting harm and pain on your marital homes, by flaunting your cash around and attracting all these young girls

Lux, you are very correct, the men really need to talk to themselves, for some of this men they have beautiful wives at home and yet they go around intimidating young girls with their money. Be that as it may, I still believe that girls are becoming unnecessarily loose nowadays and if those girls are not just overly covetous and long throated I think they should be able to turn their backs at these advances. I think the girls involved are just lackingcontentment just as Aisha noted.

@ poster

Although i dont do ave one but i do ave a friend that does. but i dont think she is keeping a married man for the monetary aspect cos she is okay herself. she once told me she is dating him because he is older and caring and doesnt give her any emotional problem.

mcube:

@ poster

Although i don't do ave one but i do ave a friend that does. but i don't think she is keeping a married man for the monetary aspect because she is okay herself. she once told me she is dating him because he is older and caring and doesnt give her any emotional problem.

Older and caring, Care has nothing to do with age, I think what your friend tried to tell you is that she wants to enjoy everything she is meant to enjoy in a normal relationship without any emotional or serious commitment. Eating ones cake and having it? She mght get all without mush attachment but in the end, more than her commitment goes with it. Wht do you think.

Firstly it takes two to tango what makes you think it is all the girls fault men make great liars, They charm the girl take her out make her feel special forgetting to mention that they are married and b4 they know it the girl is hooked these men purely go for young gilrs as they are naiive, When the girl finds out they are married thay are sillier than i thought they too will be one day be married do they want their husband doin the same? If the men went for a mature lady i guarantee they would stand no chance of anything happening some young girls like to take the risk of been caught and if they have the idea they will leave their wife for me think again, Men respect your wife, young girls cop on,

@ sillyboy

I'm surprised at you!!! Talkin about dating young girls when you're married!!!

teeirl:

Men respect your wife, young girls cop on,

Very well said.

:-x

@aisha
If all u said is true, then, u are the pride of womanhood! Keep it up dear, d sky's just ur begining.