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Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by AVISENNA: 12:55pm On Oct 23, 2020
He is totally Ok trust me,children learn at different stages, buy white board and give him marker, find out if he likes to draw ,use musical tutorials and play in it on a wireless speaker around the house,you can get some children tutorials on google play ,,Coco melon on youtube ,lastly abc spelling on google play. you drop your number ,I can call u.
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by feedthenation(m): 12:55pm On Oct 23, 2020
There's nothing wrong with your son, boys generally develop a bit later than girls.

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Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by kevoh(m): 12:55pm On Oct 23, 2020
You and your wife are making learning a chore for the boy by beating him always. It has to be done in a fun way. The same way YouTube is good for learning adults is the same way children can learn from Youtube. What you need is ABC nursery rhymes and YouTube has loads of them targeted at toddlers. It needs to be fun, not by force! You need to inundate him/her with ABC and 123 nursery rhymes. And No, you can't just buy video cd and leave him to watch alone, you have to join him in watching and singing along the 123 and ABC nursery rhymes.
Recommended Channels on Youtube you can download from:
Akili
Pinkfong
Alphablocks
Numberblocks etc

LEARNING IS FUN NOT BY FORCE

Source: My experience with my two kids.

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Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by captaininiobong(m): 12:55pm On Oct 23, 2020
I have been teaching for years now, and I do experience such challenge from some pupils.
However, We in this part of the world have a norm that children must learn with cane(beating). it only makes such child scared, overwhelmed and regret any time he or she sees a book..

As a father, pray for the child, also bring him closer to you and teach him yourself in love.
Children learn faster when they are taught in love.. I don't know if you understand the love I mearnt. buy him his favorite and only promise to give him if he reads and write 1- 20, A to Z. you can start small and not bulky or else he would find it boring ...

With My tutorial service, we don't only teach but imbibe in the mentality of a child the habit of been fearless and loving to books by God grace.+2348138223438

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Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by Killerman007: 12:55pm On Oct 23, 2020
U should also be worried he can't ride a car...

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Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by gracechellar(f): 12:56pm On Oct 23, 2020
kenny1111:
Good afternoon everyone,

please I need advice from all parents and Educators and parents on Nairanland. today I just realized my 3years old son cant even read Letters A to F talk less of A to Z but can read Figure 1 to 10, I am seriously worried.

I don't stay at home except for weekends as I am working outside my state, but due to the curfew I find my way back home yesterday so I was able to discover this problem in the early hours of today.

I know the mother is trying cos I have seen different live videos where she was teaching him and working on his assignment, most times I pity the boy so much because of the beating from his mum alone makes me sick but I can't really complain since I know is for his own good and I know how stressful it is for a mother with 2 kids to manage her time and all that....

I called his teacher immediately and she told me my son will be going to Nursery class when the present term is over due to his age, sadly she didn't say things I expect to hear from her so I told her I will visit the school once the curfew is over, I need explanation, is private school that bad these days ? my son can't even write 2 and 3

I have bought Video CD, bought many play book materials containing letters and figures displayed boldly, I bought counting and so on when he was 2 years so i expect a better result by now.

pls sir and ma, I need help on how to guide this boy to learn better, what should I do and how should I go about it.

Note: any time I am home, I always go through his books, assignments and read his school rhymes for him.

pls Help

concerned Daddy
firstly, your wife should stop beating him. That's an archaic way of teaching a child and it can never work
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by olancho: 12:56pm On Oct 23, 2020
He is still a baby please stop forcing him , he will pick up. We are always in a hurry in Nigeria in America a child of 3yrs cannot be admitted in any school. I know a medical doctor today when he was 8yrs old he was not able to read ABC talkless of 123 but today he is medical doctor. My son of 5yrs cannot write well, I went to enrol him in primary school after the school tested him they said he can't be admitted in basic 1 I insisted he was admitted today just after 3weeks he can write and read very well. Covid lockdown affected most kids. Your child will improve just enrol him in a school.
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by LadySarah: 12:56pm On Oct 23, 2020
LadyJasper:

Are you for real? You're talking about shaming a 3yrs old kid here on top what? Tomorrow we would complain that the child has self esteem issues or suffers from depression!

some pallets are terrible.
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by LadySarah: 12:56pm On Oct 23, 2020
LadyJasper:

Are you for real? You're talking about shaming a 3yrs old kid here on top what? Tomorrow we would complain that the child has self esteem issues or suffers from depression!

some ppl are terrible.
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by RedBlood01: 12:56pm On Oct 23, 2020
op your won is better that your son can read from A _ F. come to Ghana and see how a 5 years old boy is reading ABCD, you will be hearing, ABFCGM.
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by uvie66: 12:57pm On Oct 23, 2020
kenny1111:
Good afternoon everyone,

please I need advice from all parents and Educators and parents on Nairanland. today I just realized my 3years old son cant even read Letters A to F talk less of A to Z but can read Figure 1 to 10, I am seriously worried.

I don't stay at home except for weekends as I am working outside my state, but due to the curfew I find my way back home yesterday so I was able to discover this problem in the early hours of today.

I know the mother is trying cos I have seen different live videos where she was teaching him and working on his assignment, most times I pity the boy so much because of the beating from his mum alone makes me sick but I can't really complain since I know is for his own good and I know how stressful it is for a mother with 2 kids to manage her time and all that....

I called his teacher immediately and she told me my son will be going to Nursery class when the present term is over due to his age, sadly she didn't say things I expect to hear from her so I told her I will visit the school once the curfew is over, I need explanation, is private school that bad these days ? my son can't even write 2 and 3

I have bought Video CD, bought many play book materials containing letters and figures displayed boldly, I bought counting and so on when he was 2 years so i expect a better result by now.

pls sir and ma, I need help on how to guide this boy to learn better, what should I do and how should I go about it.

Note: any time I am home, I always go through his books, assignments and read his school rhymes for him.

pls Help

concerned Daddy
How can physically beating a 3 years old be for his good....guy think
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by NoToPile: 12:57pm On Oct 23, 2020
Stop beating the boy baba, he won't learn anything that way, its like you are forgetting these children stayed at home for 6 whole months lost the whole of third term and some weeks in 2nd term. Learning should be fun for his age now, he can read numbers, he would get the letters too.

Besides at that age they are still working on his writing skills lots of 3 year old can't write well, their writing skills are still being worked on, some are even still scribbling.



Leave the boy ooo ehen.
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by thesilentman(m): 12:57pm On Oct 23, 2020
daddytime:
Oga, abeg, make you take am easy on that tod.

Apart from the fact say the pikin never even reach age to dey stress unnecessarily over A, B, C, and D sef, you suppose don know say school no be for everybody. Abi you no dey this same world wey we dey live?

You've mentioned how the kid is good with numbers. How about you take that as his forte and encourage him more in that line.

I won't say he could be autistic or a special needs kid yet for a lack of any professional diagnostics, but I'm sure there isn't anything wrong with your son.

You guys need to allow the kid be a kid and quit with the mental, emotional, and physical abuses on such a young fragile mind.
I cant doubt it .you are an experienced teacher.
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by gracechellar(f): 12:57pm On Oct 23, 2020
fatymore:
3 years.

He is still young biko.


All these private schools with overstressing kids.

Don't worry he would catch up soon. Some kids are like that. .it would be like magic when he eventually starts writing and identifying letters and numbers.
he isn't young.... It's a big issue but the wife beating him isn't the solutuon. They should device a learning method appropriate for the child
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by Cusdamato(m): 12:58pm On Oct 23, 2020
It will take time
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by chival(f): 12:58pm On Oct 23, 2020
It's too early to worry. If your child is active and interactive, then you have nothing to worry about. Children do not hit their milestones uniformly. Each child differs. I have a 3 year old close to me who still speaks incoherently. Years from now, you will look back on this post and laugh. Allow your son develop at his own pace.
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by EhisChelsea1(m): 12:59pm On Oct 23, 2020
Sincerely can’t understand why Nigerian parents are in so much hurry to send their kids to school. At age 3, your child should be home with his mom, not stressing his young brain....

....God knows none of my child will start school before age 5. Nothing on earth will make me make such mistake.... and yes, they will still graduate from university within 20yrs and 22...

Take it easy on the young child biko
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by eleojo23: 12:59pm On Oct 23, 2020
At that age, all I was interested in was playing with sand and asking for food when it was time.

Even at age 8, I couldn't spell some simple words correctly.

I never read my books for any exam in primary school. Na so so play.

And I didn't turn out bad.

We all learn at our pace. Let the guy learn at his pace, just guide him, don't push him.

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Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by gracechellar(f): 12:59pm On Oct 23, 2020
Nicklaus619:
Here are some few hint
- Please ask your wife to stop beating him, because it will instill fear in him, he will become frighten to learn because his young mind isn't conditioned to learned under such duress.

-Solution

2. Promise to reward him with his favourite snack anytime each time he gets right what you teaching him, it will motivate him and his concentration and focus towards learning new thing will be high.

3. your son is a slow learner but has got a very wild imagination in his head and as such he may not catch up immediately the way u imagined.

- Solution
4. Get educational tools for him, buy video cd where those cartoons sings and rhyme with numbers and letters, and see him sing along, let him watch it daily and all time and u will be amazed at the transformation. Shalom cool
apt
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by kingui(m): 1:00pm On Oct 23, 2020
Give him Complete Works of Shakespeare to read! He will read it all before this second lockdown is over! You never dey worry! 3yrs old pikin na him you dey give all this wahala... Chai
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by jhoshy55: 1:00pm On Oct 23, 2020
It's not a problem at all. Find out his performance in school from the teacher. My son is 3yrs as well. I noticed that if we ask him to do homework, he would not but if an outsider asks him to do same work, he will do it perfectly. Once we identified that, we immediately got a home teacher and he's performing well. But if we (my wife and I) ask him to write, infact, he won't take us serious...
My fellow father, there is nothing wrong with the boy.

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Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by thesilentman(m): 1:00pm On Oct 23, 2020
Makavelli25:
Are you a Russian
ABI where are you rushing to


If he is just moving to nursery classes then he is still okay with what he knows already.
Let me do a short breakdown for you
Playgroup/kindergarten (1yearold) -all they go to school to do is play sing rhymes and sleep
Prenusery1/kg1 (2year old)- learn life basic skills, greetings etc sing rhymes play and sleep. Some schools may introduce them to the alphabet but they don't really expect them to Know it
Prenusery2/kg2(3year old)- they start giving them pencil so their wrist will be trained to hold it well, they start reading the ABC so they will get used to it

Then Nursery 1 and 2 by now they would have known how to hold a pencil properly here they will start learning numbers up to 100/200 so when they get to nursery 2 the will start all these 2/3 letter word.





Just keep calm and find time for your kid. Monitor his improvement and communicate well with his teacher



He go det okay. Let him reach Nursery 1st
Another experienced teacher spotted!
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by Onlyonebuhari: 1:00pm On Oct 23, 2020
Your done might have DDM
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by Eryyy92: 1:00pm On Oct 23, 2020
This is a sign that he's going to be one of those who'll change the world
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by gbagyiza: 1:00pm On Oct 23, 2020
Uyi168:
At 3,the little boy should be able to at least read from A - Z, even if he didn't get the letters correctly.
The teacher and the school needs questioning.

Na big big money all these mushroom private school sabi charge.. angry

Pls, we should stop misleading people. Age to enrol a child in school is 6 years but the quest for some parents n private school owners will say a different thing. This is one of the reasons today's graduate r messing up big time. The father should not stress himself when the boy gets to his picking point, he will respond positively. Just encourage the child.
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by harisclub: 1:02pm On Oct 23, 2020
Oga leave that boy alone. When u were 3 yrs old didn u know anything? Just watch and see. His performance will beat ur imagination when it is time
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by MrLankeeee(m): 1:02pm On Oct 23, 2020
kenny1111:
Good afternoon everyone,

please I need advice from all parents and Educators and parents on Nairanland. today I just realized my 3years old son cant even read Letters A to F talk less of A to Z but can read Figure 1 to 10, I am seriously worried.

I don't stay at home except for weekends as I am working outside my state, but due to the curfew I find my way back home yesterday so I was able to discover this problem in the early hours of today.

I know the mother is trying cos I have seen different live videos where she was teaching him and working on his assignment, most times I pity the boy so much because of the beating from his mum alone makes me sick but I can't really complain since I know is for his own good and I know how stressful it is for a mother with 2 kids to manage her time and all that....

I called his teacher immediately and she told me my son will be going to Nursery class when the present term is over due to his age, sadly she didn't say things I expect to hear from her so I told her I will visit the school once the curfew is over, I need explanation, is private school that bad these days ? my son can't even write 2 and 3

I have bought Video CD, bought many play book materials containing letters and figures displayed boldly, I bought counting and so on when he was 2 years so i expect a better result by now.

pls sir and ma, I need help on how to guide this boy to learn better, what should I do and how should I go about it.

Note: any time I am home, I always go through his books, assignments and read his school rhymes for him.

pls Help

concerned Daddy

OGA wait, the problem of the country big pass your son own. After we win the fight for a better Nigeria be rest assured that your unborn kids will educated from the womb. God bless you. Anyway give your kid time, Some of us didn’t know how to read until we got to secondary school.
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by fatymore(f): 1:02pm On Oct 23, 2020
gracechellar:
he isn't young.... It's a big issue but the wife beating him isn't the solutuon. They should device a learning method appropriate for the child


He is biko...we ain't wire the same way.


They should leave him for now

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Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by capitalzero: 1:03pm On Oct 23, 2020
kenny1111:
Good afternoon everyone,

please I need advice from all parents and Educators and parents on Nairanland. today I just realized my 3years old son cant even read Letters A to F talk less of A to Z but can read Figure 1 to 10, I am seriously worried.

I don't stay at home except for weekends as I am working outside my state, but due to the curfew I find my way back home yesterday so I was able to discover this problem in the early hours of today.

I know the mother is trying cos I have seen different live videos where she was teaching him and working on his assignment, most times I pity the boy so much because of the beating from his mum alone makes me sick but I can't really complain since I know is for his own good and I know how stressful it is for a mother with 2 kids to manage her time and all that....

I called his teacher immediately and she told me my son will be going to Nursery class when the present term is over due to his age, sadly she didn't say things I expect to hear from her so I told her I will visit the school once the curfew is over, I need explanation, is private school that bad these days ? my son can't even write 2 and 3

I have bought Video CD, bought many play book materials containing letters and figures displayed boldly, I bought counting and so on when he was 2 years so i expect a better result by now.

pls sir and ma, I need help on how to guide this boy to learn better, what should I do and how should I go about it.

Note: any time I am home, I always go through his books, assignments and read his school rhymes for him.

pls Help

concerned Daddy
He should be in playgroup not school. You are wasting his childhood by forcing him to read or write. Relax
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by Nobody: 1:03pm On Oct 23, 2020
Uyi168:
At 3,the little boy should be able to at least read from A - Z, even if he didn't get the letters correctly.
The teacher and the school needs questioning.

Na big big money all these mushroom private school sabi charge.. angry


My 3yr+6m writes 1-100
A-Z and a-z courtesy of ME!
During the lockdown,had to engage him by using a white board,note books and new textbooks and he picked up.
He still writes everyday to avoid going back to square1
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by bummyla(m): 1:03pm On Oct 23, 2020
Please don't frustrate this Child and ruining his future, he is just 3 years old for crying out loud! Since he is good with figures, why don't you encourage him in that area! My God he is just 3 years. My youngest brother had such challenges, we later discovered he sees words upside down, since we corrected his sight with eye glasses, he's doing great!

Lastly, you wey the beat the baby, are you feeding him well to develop his brain and metal faculty!

Please making reading and studying fun for our son.
Re: My 3-Year-Old Son Can't Read Or Write Letters, Please Help by 12345baba(m): 1:03pm On Oct 23, 2020
He might be autistic, free the boy

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