My husband didn't forkkk me the way i want , he's a minute man, he's not romantic at all,

I always want sex badly,

Sometimes i use spoon or knife handle to masturbate because he can't forkkkk me harder

Help me please

Chiquitq:
when I was still living with my legally married ex husband, we may not be intimate for up to five months in a row. He was so manipulative and sought every opportunity to control to the extent that if he sees that I enjoy it, he stops giving it to you pleasurably. if you show that you need it, it is another reason to abstain from you. It got to a point that I resented him so much that I stopped enjoying sex totally because he was out rightly unfaithful and mentally and physically abusive. Whenever he insists, I had to use a lubricant because he could not make me wet. I did not share this with anyone because they may think I'm the cause of his bad behaviour. it's been over six years since I left him and I've been totally celebate since then. I'm not being
faithful to him at all but I can't just imagine a man thinking sex is a weapon to control me. I don't use toys and I don't masturbate. Sex is mostly psychological or I'm probably too broken or distracted to try again ...

Crackhaus is pleasd with u

I wonder why some couples feel they can't learn things in marriage.

Any man or woman in marriage can learn to please their partner better. Even if you have virgin lips, you can learn to kiss well with your spouse.

Problem is people don't believe they need to learn or improve a lot of times. Sex is too mutual to be stubborn spirited.

SILENTandSMART2:
My husband didn't forkkk me the way i want , he's a minute man, he's not romantic at all,

I always want sex badly,

Sometimes i use spoon or knife handle to masturbate because he can't forkkkk me harder

Help me please

nwaezeemmanuel:
I wonder why some couples feel they can't learn things in marriage.

Any man or woman in marriage can learn to please their partner better. Even if you have virgin lips, you can learn to kiss well with your spouse.

Problem is people don't believe they need to learn or improve a lot of times. Sex is too mutual to be stubborn spirited.

Thank you sir he is doing me bad,


Anyway I'm gonna cope with him

nwaezeemmanuel:
I wonder why some couples feel they can't learn things in marriage.

Any man or woman in marriage can learn to please their partner better. Even if you have virgin lips, you can learn to kiss well with your spouse.

Problem is people don't believe they need to learn or improve a lot of times. Sex is too mutual to be stubborn spirited.

@bold:

Very well said.

People also do not realize that EVERYTHING needs maintenance and continuous improvement.

You have your bath daily, improve on your hygiene routine with age, money and class; you improve on your job, grow your career etc.

Same thing applies to a facets of life else there is no growth.

lilyheaven:
He said wife , not girl friend. Stop the spread of fornication
Back to Op It’s two months already, he has been out of town due to business. What should I do? I need it badly this night.

What don't you pray and fast for the success of you and hubby?

Exactly! Not just in marriage.

bukatyne:


@bold:

Very well said.

People also do not realize that EVERYTHING needs maintenance and continuous improvement.

You have your bath daily, improve on your hygiene routine with age, money and class; you improve on your job, grow your career etc.

Same thing applies to a facets of life else there is no growth.

what I mean in italics is that I am not abstaining from sex as an act of being faithful to a long forgotten person. I just see that I've not really been craving for sex despite the time lag...

Well understood. Hope things get better with time. Do you plan on re-marrying?

Chiquitq:
what I mean in italics is that I am not abstaining from sex as an act of being faithful to a long forgotten person. I just see that I've not really been craving for sex despite the time lag...

SaveMeLord:


What don't you pray and fast for the success of you and hubby?

What is the meaning this?

Please ignore

There are a lot of holier than thou people here. Comments about sex triggers them.

lilyheaven:

What is the meaning this?
How did praying and fasting enter here.
I’m not interested in your emotional blackmail.
I didn’t tell you my husband is looking for success.

Chiquitq:
what I mean in italics is that I am not abstaining from sex as an act of being faithful to a long forgotten person. I just see that I've not really been craving for sex despite the time lag...

It's fine, you've really tried!

lilyheaven:

What is the meaning this?
How did praying and fasting enter here.
I’m not interested in your emotional blackmail.
I didn’t tell you my husband is looking for success.

Easy madam, why are you concluding that I'm blackmailing you, please o!

You could have simply said I don't fancy fasting or I'm not a religious person, simple. What are all these allegations for? Fasting is a discipline and used by some women to keep their sexual urges in check.

And who told you that you don't need to pray because you and your husband is successful... Those at the top need more prayer to continue staying there. You don't have to have problems before going on your knees. Why I'm even explaining to you? It's your choice, follow or don't the advice. Look at how she's even responding to me like I asked her for money. Imagine!

SaveMeLord:

Easy madam, why are you concluding that I'm blackmailing you, please o!

You could have simply said I don't fancy fasting or I'm not a religious person, simple. What are all these allegations for? Fasting is a discipline and used by some women to keep their sexual urges in check.

Imagine!

Is the bolded for a married woman?

Come and explain to me when and how I should eat

If praying and fasting was keeping sexual urges in check,we won’t be hearing stories of pastors impregnating their members.
Please there is time for everything.
I think the OP nwaezeemmanuel should come and educate you well.
I hope you always start fasting immediately the urge comes around, or you don’t have sexual urge because you have killed it with praying and fasting.

On a serious note, if you have been asking people to go and pray without providing a hint of solution, you are a blackmailer

SaveMeLord:

Easy madam, why are you concluding that I'm blackmailing you, please o!

You could have simply said I don't fancy fasting or I'm not a religious person, simple. What are all these allegations for? Fasting is a discipline and used by some women to keep their sexual urges in check.

And who told you that you don't need to pray because you and your husband is successful... Those at the top need more prayer to continue staying there. You don't have to have problems before going on your knees. Why I'm even explaining to you? It's your choice, follow or don't the advice. Look at how she's even responding to me like I asked her for money. Imagine!

I'm a Christian as well, but will not use fasting and praying to advise anyone in this context.

Because that is not even the original purpose of fasting and praying. We also need to be practical.

For instance, someone addicted to masturbation is not going to break free just by fasting and praying. He/she will also need to be practical, and do things like try cutting out porn consumption, forming new healthy habits etc.

Christians really need to be spiritual and be practical!

lilyheaven:

Come and explain to me when and how I should eat

If praying and fasting was keeping sexual urges in check,we won’t be hearing stories of pastors impregnating their members.
Please there is time for everything.
I think the OP nwaezeemmanuel should come and educate you well.
I hope you always start fasting immediately the urge comes around, or you don’t have sexual urge because you have killed it with praying and fasting.

On a serious note, if you have been asking people to go and pray without providing a hint of solution, you are a blackmailer

Thank you

nwaezeemmanuel:
I'm a Christian as well, but will not use fasting and praying to advise anyone in this context.

Because that is not even the original purpose of fasting and praying. We also need to be practical.

For instance, someone addicted to masturbation is not going to break free just by fasting and praying. He/she will also need to be practical, and do things like try cutting out porn consumption, forming new healthy habits etc.

Christians really need to be spiritual and be practical!

You're welcome.

lilyheaven:

Thank you

nwaezeemmanuel:
Yes, she is. Just wanted to clarify that not all men are doing that.

Gbam.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Relax, try to be empathetic. Some aren't dangerous, they just need discipline and God's strength.

I remember when i could not control my urges, i was at the time far from dangerous. I went about my activities, was not a sexual predator but i had issues controlling them.

Now, i have gained mastery.

Gbam. Konji is a rascal.

Nuttella:
Only two months and you are shaking, what of people that have stayed years without it?

Hanty, stop being over sanctimonious.

Petyprincess:

Wow!!!! But it is rare for a woman to intentionally deny her husband sex because she's angry.

E go shock you o. Some women wear jeans short to bed to purposely frustrate the man.
Some collect money first before agreeing to sleep with their husbands.

bukatyne:


@bold:

I literally burst out laughing.

This thread is surely a comic relief!

Honestly

nwaezeemmanuel:
I cant negotiate with this because I'm a Christian and i believe pre-marital sex is not a guide for sexual compatibility in marriage.

As much as even married couples have to walk through it. It's a journey and continues throughout marriage.

There are healthier ways to handle sexual compatibility and sexual experimentation before marriage ain't one of them. My opinion though.

Good one. Sex before marriage goes against my faith too.
Besides, for women, libido is more of a cyclical than a fixed constant. If she was sexually hyperactive during courtship, after child bearing she may not even feel up to it for many months, so then what will he do?

Chii59:

Hanty, stop being over sanctimonious.

Huncle stop being carnal minded.

Nuttella:
Huncle stop being carnal minded.

Who's your huncle.
Mind yasef.

Chii59:

E go shock you o. Some women wear jeans short to bed to purposely frustrate the man.
Some collect money first before agreeing to sleep with their husbands.

haha lol

lilyheaven:

Thank you
But the real one is sweetest
Thank you
I’m better this morning

Don't you have Male neighbors? Abi u be deeper lyf?

Petyprincess:

haha lol

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