Great people of this forum,

The reason I'm posting this here is cause I've discovered this section gets a lot of engagements. I need your wise counsel on a pressing issue.

You know the frustration that comes with staying at home after schooling after so many months? That's my position right now. In fact, I am sucidal already. Family and community frustration is killing me.

I stay in a very secluded city in Nigeria, where there are only a few job opportunities and that has been constraining me a lot.

I have tried to work a lot of things out here, they've not just been working. The best I've gotten here is a school that pays 10k a month.

But I must say, I have been applying for jobs and Lagos and Abuja and God so good, I've been getting interview invitations but I have been declining them. Reasons: I have not been to these states before and have no relatives there.

Please Note: I am an extreme introvert and have lived all my life in this city.

Last week, I applied to an organization in Ibadan and luckily, I got their message to come for an interview on Friday. Fact is, I am broke and really stranded, that I have vowed to take anything that comes my way right now. On a second thought, it'd be a disaster if I go for the interview. What if I spend money down to Ibadan for the interview, get the job and get called to resume soon? How would I start in a place I have been to and have nobody or know anyone?

I am really confused right now. What do you suggest I do please?

OP, it seems you do not like a change of environment. And this is your biggest problem.

SaAyomikun:
Great people of this forum,

The reason I'm posting this here is cause I've discovered this section gets a lot of engagements. I need your wise counsel on a pressing issue.

You know the frustration that comes with staying at home after schooling after so many months? That's my position right now. In fact, I am sucidal already. Family and community frustration is killing me.

I stay in a very secluded city in Nigeria, where there are only a few job opportunities and that has been constraining me a lot.

I have tried to work a lot of things out here, they've not just been working. The best I've gotten here is a school that pays 10k a month.

But I must say, I have been applying for jobs and Lagos and Abuja and God so good, I've been getting interview invitations but I have been declining them. Reasons: I have not been to these states before and have no relatives there.

Please Note: I am an extreme introvert and have lived all my life in this city.

Last week, I applied to an organization in Ibadan and luckily, I got their message to come for an interview on Friday. Fact is, I am broke and really stranded, that I have vowed to take anything that comes my way right now. On a second thought, it'd be a disaster if I go for the interview. What if I spend money down to Ibadan for the interview, get the job and get called to resume soon? How would I start in a place I have been to and have nobody or know anyone?

I am really confused right now. What do you suggest I do please?

do you want your life to change or to remain the way it is?
Take that bold step and just damn the consequences.

My most loved part of the bible is Psalms 27:10
"When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the LORD will take care of me"

Just put your trust in God and be courageous like Joshua and Caleb.

Shelumiel:
OP, it seems you do not like a change of environment. And this is your biggest problem.

You are right sir, but can one change an environment to where they have nobody?

anochuko01:


do you want your life to change or to remain the way it is?
Take that bold step and just damn the consequences.

My most loved part of the bible is Psalms 27:10
"When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the LORD will take care of me"

Just put your trust in God and be courageous like Joshua and Caleb.

Thanks sir. I appreciate your advice. I have not just been elsewhere and feel it'd be extremely difficult settling in a foreign land.

Sammmyyyy:


You are right sir, but can one change an environment to where they have nobody?

Of course you can...it just depends on whether it would be worth your while in the long run. Which bring me to the question : the opportunity in this new place, is it worth your while? If it is, take the risk and relocate.


Peace

You dey fear to relocate to ibadan when people they relocate to Antarctica on top snow
That which you fear most , is your breakthrough , so go for that fear and conquer it

Lights up my kpoli in peace son

Sammmyyyy:


Thanks sir. I appreciate your advice. I have not just been elsewhere and feel it'd be extremely difficult settling in a foreign land.

I have lived in lagos all my life but last year i lived in calabar and kano for a while. it might be tough at the start but one needs to leave the comfort zone to see life differently.
I wish all the best

Get out of your comfort zone, bro. See it as a new challenge. I'm sure you would be happy about the decision later in the future. You have to conquer your fear!

OP you are not more Introvert than me, but one thing I love doing is traveling, most especially where no one knows me. it brings new experience. I will advice you take the risk, for the greater future bro.

I bet you will enjoy it. leave your comfort zone

Dreyton36:
You dey fear to relocate to ibadan when people they relocate to Antarctica on top snow
That which you fear most , is your breakthrough , so go for that fear and conquer it

Lights up my kpoli in peace son

senior good afternoon, I still never get reply

ProveThemWrong:
senior good afternoon, I still never get reply

On what matter?

Sammmyyyy:


Thanks sir. I appreciate your advice. I have not just been elsewhere and feel it'd be extremely difficult settling in a foreign land.

What do you mean foreign land?

You're talking as if you're moving to another country

Dreyton36:


On what matter?

via email

ProveThemWrong:
via email

Then I've replied and if I didn't maybe you weren't making sense

Shelumiel:
Of course you can...it just depends on whether it would be worth your while in the long run. Which bring me to the question : the opportunity in this new place, is it worth your while? If it is, take the risk and relocate.


Peace

Thanks sir, I appreciate you for this.

Dreyton36:
You dey fear to relocate to ibadan when people they relocate to Antarctica on top snow
That which you fear most , is your breakthrough , so go for that fear and conquer it

Lights up my kpoli in peace son

This means a lot sir, thank you.

anochuko01:

I have lived in lagos all my life but last year i lived in calabar and kano for a while. it might be tough at the start but one needs to leave the comfort zone to see life differently.
I wish all the best

Thanks sir. Thank you a lot for this.

zealousayo:
Get out of your comfort zone, bro. See it as a new challenge. I'm sure you would be happy about the decision later in the future. You have to conquer your fear!

I appreciate you a lot for this sir. Thank you.

prince2pac:
OP you are not more Introvert than me, but one thing I love doing is traveling, most especially where no one knows me. it brings new experience. I will advice you take the risk, for the greater future bro.

I bet you will enjoy it. leave your comfort zone

This is exactly what I will do sir, thank you.

Kobicove:

What do you mean foreign land?
You're talking as if you're moving to another country

I understand your point clearly now. Thanks sir.

OP to start with, can you even afford house in where you wanna go to, can you feed your self .... if your answer is no, dear fvck*n son kindly stay back. Don't let all these motivational speakers whine you ..... Because by the time hunger, cold,mosquitoes catch you under that bridge ehh ... your brain go reset . I light up my kpoli in peace ... #weedsdomwillnotkillme

Dreyton36:


Then I've replied and if I didn't maybe you weren't making sense

chief I'm making sense, just that I'm confused.. new to these

ProveThemWrong:
chief I'm making sense, just that I'm confused.. new to these

Ok chat me on Whatsapp and explain better

Dreyton36:


Ok chat me on Whatsapp and explain better

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