So I'm single just because I told my boyfriend turned ex that I can't do his house chores for him .
He's a salary earner that works from 8-5
This guy expects that I go over to his house ,clean and cook before he comes back ??. when I'm not married to him ,and anytime I refused he flares up and starts making silly comments like "so what is now your use " imagine that annoying statement from someone I thought was literate and intelligent.. can you imagine that ?.. So I have to offer services before I can be useful? ..
I was frustrated and I told him I'm done and this guy did not even bother to show remorse, like he's okay with the break up ??

I'm really sorry but I find it appalling to be washing plates and sweeping a man's house when I'm not a slave , and even If I will do that then it has to be my own free will not you telling me to do it like it's my job..

if other women do that well I'm sorry I can't . atleast not while we are still dating

Don't do any chores for any man who isn't your husband, if he want you to do chores let him come and marry you as soon as possible so that you will do that chores for him for the rest of his life.Be wise babe

You will die single

If you love him and he spends on you, he shouldn't even have to ask.. but I guess the feelings isn't mutual

Anyways a sure guy should have a mini dishwasher a washing machine , plus ability to cook or order take away

Reminds me of when I just got to Sharjah UAE, I was job hunting on a 3 month Visa, Luckily for me my ex Joy had a job and company accommodation without roommate.... She worked overtime and closed late just to earn a little extra to give me some dirham to search for job.. I reciprocated the gesture by cooking and helping with laundry




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Zzor:
Don't do any chores for any man who isn't your husband, if he want you to do chores let him come and marry you as soon as possible so that you will do that chores for him for the rest of his life.Be wise babe

Why is she complaining of been single , useless thing that can't contribute anything is talking about being slave

not doing the chores is pretty okay and not okay.. we all have sister and we don't want them been slaves to a guy, but sometimes you just have to tidy the house when ever you're around, and not him telling you to go home and do it. This is a simple thing that requires the use of sense.

don't Zzor like Zzor. cus you will lead yourself astray

LeeSantos:
not doing the chores is pretty okay and not okay.. we all have sister and we don't want them been slaves to a guy, but sometimes you just have to tidy the house when ever you're around, and not him telling you to go home and do it. This is a simple thing that requires the use of sense.

don't Zzor like Zzor. cus you will lead yourself astray

Thank you

Op I hope your guy ain't spending a dime on you since both of you ain't married yet.

Valenciabaddie:




Thank you

Would you be willing to marry a guy who can't perform in bed or have kids?

Shaloh awaits you

phorget:
Op I hope your guy ain't spending a dime on you since both of you ain't married yet.

Your mentality is archaic .. and you need proper education to remove yourself from mental enslavery

You did the right thing girl and if he flared up and made that sexist remark, you dodged a bullet.

LeeSantos:
not doing the chores is pretty okay and not okay.. we all have sister and we don't want them been slaves to a guy, but sometimes you just have to tidy the house when ever you're around, and not him telling you to go home and do it. This is a simple thing that requires the use of sense.

don't Zzor like Zzor. cus you will lead yourself astray

She will do chores when there's a ring on that finger, its that simple

Answer him... "What's now your use?" that statement is heavy. It seems you're not contributing anything to his life, and he is tired of you.

Zzor:
She will do chores when there's a ring on that finger, its that simple

Trouble maker. Smh

Zzor:
She will do chores when there's a ring on that finger, its that simple

which kind of ring. proposal, engagement or which one. Inno get you

Valenciabaddie:
So I'm single just because I told my boyfriend turned ex that I can't do his house chores for him .
He's a salary earner that works from 8-5
This guy expects that I go over to his house ,clean and cook before he comes back ??. when I'm not married to him ,and anytime I refused he flares up and starts making silly comments like "so what is now your use " imagine that annoying statement from someone I thought was literate and intelligent.. can you imagine that ?.. So I have to offer services before I can be useful? ..
I was frustrated and I told him I'm done and this guy did not even bother to show remorse, like he's okay with the break up ??

I'm really sorry but I find it appalling to be washing plates and sweeping a man's house when I'm not a slave , and even If I will do that then it has to be my own free will not you telling me to do it like it's my job..

if other women do that well I'm sorry I can't . atleast not while we are still dating

You are now single again like you wanted.

So what exactly is this thread about?

LeeSantos:

which kind of ring. proposal, engagement or which one. Inno get you

engagement

aroundtheearth:
You did the right thing girl and if he flared up and made that sexist remark, you dodged a bullet.

Everything is always sexist to you lots!!

The way Una dey abuse words ehn. Sexist, toxic masculinity, psychopath, manipulative and bla Bla blaaaa....most of yall don't even know what they mean but jump on every thread and start telling the words.

Feddytune:





Your mentality is archaic .. and you need proper education to remove yourself from mental enslavery

He asked a pertinent question. Why are you so ticked?

Valenciabaddie:
So I'm single just because I told my boyfriend turned ex that I can't do his house chores for him .
He's a salary earner that works from 8-5
This guy expects that I go over to his house ,clean and cook before he comes back ??. when I'm not married to him ,and anytime I refused he flares up and starts making silly comments like "so what is now your use " imagine that annoying statement from someone I thought was literate and intelligent.. can you imagine that ?.. So I have to offer services before I can be useful? ..
I was frustrated and I told him I'm done and this guy did not even bother to show remorse, like he's okay with the break up ??

I'm really sorry but I find it appalling to be washing plates and sweeping a man's house when I'm not a slave , and even If I will do that then it has to be my own free will not you telling me to do it like it's my job..

if other women do that well I'm sorry I can't . atleast not while we are still dating

Would you have dated him if he said he can't spend any money on someone who is not his wife or he cannot touch u since he is not married to you etc

Patented:


Would you have dated him if he said he can't spend any money on someone who is not his wife or he cannot touch u since he is not married to you etc

Leave OP alone jare. She just tripping!!

Zzor:
engagement

mhmm. I think say you wise. so if the guy engages you. u start doing the house chores. lol..
what the difference when he hasn't? he can call off the engagement and end things with you.
So all the house chores you did cus of engagement has now wasted.

relationship Na sense, heart, and understanding.

it shouldn't be that she should always go to the guys house evryday, it can be 2 weekends in a month. just do the few you can and tell him you are tired. but just keep the home tidy whenever you are around.

LeeSantos:


mhmm. I think say you wise. so if the guy engages you. u start doing the house chores. lol..
what the difference when he hasn't? he can call off the engagement and end things with you.
So all the house chores you did cus of engagement has now wasted.

relationship Na sense, heart, and understanding.

it shouldn't be that she should always go to the guys house evryday, it can be 2 weekends in a month. just do the few you can and tell him you are tired. but just keep the home tidy whenever you are around.

Wise counsel

These laminate dysfunctional and damaged beyond repair

"I was frustrated and I told him I'm done and this guy did not even bother to show remorse, like he's okay with the break up ??"


This is my problem with you ladies and way of reasoning. You told him you are done and still worry why he wasn't bordered.

My dear, you were useless in that relationship for him to say of what use were you to him. l believe you denied him your Jerusalem too, right?

LeeSantos:


mhmm. I think say you wise. so if the guy engages you. u start doing the house chores. lol..
what the difference when he hasn't? he can call off the engagement and end things with you.
So all the house chores you did cus of engagement has now wasted.

relationship Na sense, heart, and understanding.

it shouldn't be that she should always go to the guys house evryday, it can be 2 weekends in a month. just do the few you can and tell him you are tired. but just keep the home tidy whenever you are around.

All you typed is thrash, engagement means commitment and its unwise for any lady to start doing wifely duties in an ordinary relationship with any action of commitment in it,if he calls it off then nothing spoil you simply stop your own part of the commitment and look elsewhere. Its that simple

Zzor:
All you typed is thrash, engagement means commitment and its unwise for any lady to start doing wifely duties in an ordinary relationship with any action of commitment in it,if he calls it off then nothing spoil you simply stop your own part of the commitment and look elsewhere. Its that simple

That's why you cry in private and desire a good relationship as bad as possible even though you don't have but you try to hide this thing in your online comments. But you yourself now you crave for a relationship more than anything


Please change your ways. I see you as a smart girl but the path you're working on is not right. Relationship is not competition but a deliberate choice and resolve of two individuals to be together. If you keep aborting relationships on the altar of pettiness and flimsyness, the beauty will fade some day, loneliness will set in, all the plenty attention from platonic friends will decline and vanish and then realisation will come in that building a loving relationship is one of the best achievements ever in life and that you can't build in strife



I hope you learn and change. I see your constant online rattling as the aftermath of not having brothers you look up to but help you gauge and develop amiable male relationships. You don't know what relationship is about that's where this your constant bickering comes from.


Please change, you're still young and have a very glorious future Zzor

luminouz:


You are now single again like you wanted.

So what exactly is this thread about?

Exactly bro. I mean she called the relationship off and still cry over it.

Women self. Those people tire me

LeeSantos:

but sometimes you just have to tidy the house when ever you're around, and not him telling you to go home and do it.

ABSOLUTELY

LeeSantos:


mhmm. I think say you wise. so if the guy engages you. u start doing the house chores. lol..
what the difference when he hasn't? he can call off the engagement and end things with you.
So all the house chores you did cus of engagement has now wasted.

relationship Na sense, heart, and understanding.

it shouldn't be that she should always go to the guys house evryday, it can be 2 weekends in a month. just do the few you can and tell him you are tired. but just keep the home tidy whenever you are around.

This na the surest format for Gee. If she proves too stubborn or smart. Give am engagement ring, collect and demand your ring back

Does this really worth creating a thread for? I believe whatever happened in your relationship shouldn't be known publicly, it happened offline and should remain so.
What if there's nothing like Nairaland or social media at all?
Won't you be able to know what to do or how to handle your relationship?
Just do whatever makes you happy but just know that house chores won't cost you a thing to do, just don't make a big issue out of it.

Zzor:
All you typed is thrash, engagement means commitment and its unwise for any lady to start doing wifely duties in an ordinary relationship with any action of commitment in it,if he calls it off then nothing spoil you simply stop your own part of the commitment and look elsewhere. Its that simple

that's why your type don't miss Shiloh evry year.
making your family and friends leave their prayer points and pray for only you to get married before menopause kiss in.