hello nlanders,
any one know anything about the topic should pls post here,
cost of treatment,best hospital/treament centre in nigeria.testimonials and succesful delivary through ivf,advice,(family balancing)i.e-twin pregnancies or baby gender selection,success rate on mothers above 36 yrs old.pls i really need all the information i can get to convince some1 i know who is almost 40 and thinks ivf is ''un-natural'' to go for it after 5yrs of trying with her hubby.as we all know when it comes to things like this age is never on the woman's side.

also can someone who is almost 40 and has done a fibroid operation still get pregnant whether ''naturally'' or through ivf? Pls i need information urgently,as my friend has resorted to all kinds of herbal fertility mixtures,and jumping from 1 prophet to the other for spiritual solution.dont get me wrong here,i just think she needs to be more enlightened.

Hi Uzoo,

I can only comment on the age aspect. I'll be 37 this Saturday and will be doing my first IVF in June. I'm a healthy woman and have no known medical problems except that I just can't get pregnant.
I just pray that it will take only one trial of IVF and I'll conceive.

p.s. I live in the US and the cost differs from Nigeria

yes some people do feel that IVF is unatural because it doesnt happen the 'natural' way but when you are in a position to be given a second opportunity/chance to get something you truly desire, those natural/unnatural thoughts becomes highly irrelevant. and in cases, you have the option of using your eggs etc which means the child will still have your DNA.  IVF is a blessing to couples who cant conceive.

some places have no age limit(because of the 'ethics' involved in it) on IVF, thats why two 70yr women in india were still able to conceive twins and a girl. there has also been cases of women in their late 50s, 60s who gave birth. however, there are guidelines some places use . 36 is still within a reasonable age range for IVF because a healthy 36yr can still naturally conceive. I dont think that nigeria has an age limit( so long common sense(age) applies here) on it because it is not a widely popular procedure yet, not everyone knows about it, and there are few places to perform it. however, so places might question the use of it in woman in her late late 40s. 50s/60s etc due to increased risk and complications associated with carrying the pregnancy and whether it would be 'fair' to the child to have an older parents or even parents who might die before they enter secondary school etc.

one big problem with ivf is the cost. it is a very costly procedure and you might not be able to conceive with first trial which would means more money to try again and it can be an emotional roller-coaster.

Also, for twin pregnancy, the chances does increase with IVF because the injected eggs might separate resulting in twins and some might want to inject more eggs to increase their chances of having one viable egg. hence, that might also result in twins/multiple pregnancies.(octo-mom) however, the chances of complications, and risks to both the mother and child etc does increase with twins/multiple births.

as for family opinions, i say the finally choice should between the husband and wife. they are ones who wears the shoe, so they know where it hurts them most. people are always going to talk regardless. if you dont have kids, the blame is on you. so, you might as well do what you truly want. at the end of day, you will the child you have always wanted. so dont  got discouraged by naysayers.

if possible, dont involve any other person other than your spouse, and the doctor. (maybe other CLOSE, ENCOURAGING selective family members- mother, sister).

if you friend is still reluctant about IVF, there is always the option of adoption and surrogacy.

thanks you guys,

for all the info posted here.

@pslm23
dont worry , you've taken the bold step to do the ivf so it will definitely be successful the first time. good luck.