Good day Nairalanders.
I am Igbekele Taiwo by name, married with a kid.
Am a builder(bricklayer) and my wife is teaching in a nursery school
Am just tired of this life, tired of everything.
If not for my little kid and wife, i would have just opt for Suicide.
Just finished my this year savings on my kid last month when he sick at the hospital. (Close to 100k i spent)

No 1 naira from anybody, no friends or families to run to when i need help.
Now that we are in a raining season, no work, no money
We hardly eat this days.
Even our house rent is due and have been avoiding the landlord for a while now.
As am typing this message now, i don't know what this my two family will eat(my wife&kid) am with only #60 right now.

Am just tired of this lonely life with no helper at all.
Am loosing my mind.
Am loosing control.

I need someone to talk
Somebody should advice or motivate me please ��
���

It is well

you are fedup with life but a buhari supporter? your darling daddy would help you.

Don't worry, God will surprise you

dgagar:
Good day Nairalanders.
I am Igbekele Taiwo by name, married with a kid.
Am a builder(bricklayer) and my wife is teaching in a nursery school
Am just tired of this life, tired of everything.
If not for my little kid and wife, i would have just opt for Suicide.
Just finished my this year savings on my kid last month when he sick at the hospital. (Close to 100k i spent)

No 1 naira from anybody, no friends or families to run to when i need help.
Now that we are in a raining season, no work, no money
We hardly eat this days.
Even our house rent is due and have been avoiding the landlord for a while now.
As am typing this message now, i don't know what this my two family will eat(my wife&kid) am with only #60 right now.

Am just tired of this lonely life with no helper at all.
Am loosing my mind.
Am loosing control.

I need someone to talk
Somebody should advice or motivate me please ��
���

My dear pls be calm, it can only get better

Just reduce your cost of living till the economy improves in your own side

You can try getting one room which will be easier to pay

For now, look after your child and hold on a but before getting another child

Think of what skills to learn so that when block work is off season, you will be busy with your skills

Manage your home and be very very economical

No careless owambe party uniform, it drains one Financialy

This hard times will prepare you when the money starts coming and it will help you save for rainy days
God will provide for your family

frozen70:


My dear pls be calm, it can only get better

Just reduce your cost of living till the economy improves in your own side

You can try getting one room which will be easier to pay

For now, look after your child and hold on a but before getting another child

Think of what skills to learn so that when block work is off season, you will be busy with your skills





Manage your home and be very very economical

No careless owambe party uniform, it drains one Financialy

This hard times will prepare you when the money starts coming and it will help you save for rainy days
God will provide for your family

Amen Thanks

It is well....really well brother. For everyone that gets married, you must try to plan for your most basic needs by:
1. Getting accommodation that you could conveniently pay for using not more than 1/6th of your collective yearly income.

2. Get an health insurance/coverage for the family that you can conveniently pay for with 1/12th of your yearly income. If either of you is working in a place where HMO comes with the package, the better.

3. Monthly feeding and daily needs shouldnt take beyond 1/6th of you monthly income.

The rest you can appropriate as you like. So to avoid getting backed into a corner or feeling like life is lonely despite being surrounded by family, do not get married if that isn't sorted. This country is hard, your perceived helpers sef are looking for who to help them. Everyman for himself, God for us all.

It is well with you, you don't need to take your life, when there is life, honestly there is hope, in life challenges will always come our way but the way and manner we handle it makes us a strong and bold individual. Try and cut your cost and get alternative thing you can lay your hands on. God will see you through and meet you at the point of your needs.

sisisioge:
It is well....really well brother. For everyone that gets married, you must try to plan for your most basic needs by:
1. Getting accommodation that you could conveniently pay for using not more than 1/6th of your collective yearly income.

2. Get an health insurance/coverage for the family that you can conveniently pay for with 1/12th of your yearly income. If either of you is working in a place where HMO comes with the package, the better.

3. Monthly feeding and daily needs shouldnt take beyond 1/6th of you monthly income.

The rest you can appropriate as you like. So to avoid getting backed into a corner or feeling like life is lonely despite being surrounded by family, do not get married if that isn't sorted. This country is hard, your perceived helpers sef are looking for who to help them. Everyman for himself, God for us all.

Amen. Thanks

Kaybae:
It is well with you, you don't need to take your life, when there is life, honestly there is hope, in life challenges will always come our way but the way and manner we handle it makes us a strong and bold individual. Try and cut your cost and get alternative thing you can lay your hands on. God will see you through and meet you at the point of your needs.

Amen. Thanks

Never say never! When there is life there’s hope!!!

The below picture should encourage you:

redcliff:
you are fedup with life but a buhari supporter? your darling daddy would help you.

Why don't you have sense , why are you this heartless , what does politics have to do with this , its just a human in need

dgagar:
Good day Nairalanders.
I am Igbekele Taiwo by name, married with a kid.
Am a builder(bricklayer) and my wife is teaching in a nursery school
Am just tired of this life, tired of everything.
If not for my little kid and wife, i would have just opt for Suicide.
Just finished my this year savings on my kid last month when he sick at the hospital. (Close to 100k i spent)

No 1 naira from anybody, no friends or families to run to when i need help.
Now that we are in a raining season, no work, no money
We hardly eat this days.
Even our house rent is due and have been avoiding the landlord for a while now.
As am typing this message now, i don't know what this my two family will eat(my wife&kid) am with only #60 right now.

Am just tired of this lonely life with no helper at all.
Am loosing my mind.
Am loosing control.

I need someone to talk
Somebody should advice or motivate me please ��
���

Sir if I had money I would give you , but its a bad time for me as well , my bestfriend needed my help this month and I can't do more than myself , but for the sake of your child God will not abandon you , if you are fed up with your brick layer job , I can give you some ideas , I recently signed up to learn how to export good to foreign countries if you're interested , I can forward whatever I learn from there to you , for free , me too I am a student I am on my own , I only have my father and he can barely cover my feeding , apart from him no other person can help me when I need help which is why I am always on my toes , trying to keep up , please don't harm yourself , be strong everything is a season , if you want me to reach out to you on WhatsApp for the export stuff drop your WhatsApp number I'll chat you up

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:


Why don't you have sense , why are you this heartless , what does politics have to do with this , its just a human in need

lol. them no born you well make you tell me wetin u just talk live. if he is a Buhari supporter, i have no mercy for him. its not politics anymore. its personal.

You might think people in this forum has made it all, in the real life NO!
Everybody is just managing with different problems sir.
Suicide is not an option for you because one day you’ll be great, you’ll be heard and you’ll probably a VVIP, just keep looking out for new opportunities and go out and share Ideas with people sabi road mek dem put am for your body.
God bless you sir.

eniolorunfe:
Never say never! When there is life there’s hope!!!

The below picture should encourage you:

That's not kante on the left.

You no get money you go marry. You marry finish you come born pikin.

I could remember in 2018 when we spent 75k when my kid brother stayed in hospital for two weeks.

I'm sure you thought raising a kid was easy.

The guys advising you to marry her back then are nowhere to be found in this thread

sisisioge:
It is well....really well brother. For everyone that gets married, you must try to plan for your most basic needs by:
1. Getting accommodation that you could conveniently pay for using not more than 1/6th of your collective yearly income.

2. Get an health insurance/coverage for the family that you can conveniently pay for with 1/12th of your yearly income. If either of you is working in a place where HMO comes with the package, the better.

3. Monthly feeding and daily needs shouldnt take beyond 1/6th of you monthly income.

The rest you can appropriate as you like. So to avoid getting backed into a corner or feeling like life is lonely despite being surrounded by family, do not get married if that isn't sorted. This country is hard, your perceived helpers sef are looking for who to help them. Everyman for himself, God for us all.

The bolded though, are you referring to those who earn a very high income or everyone?

GboyegaD:


The bolded though, are you referring to those who earn a very high income or everyone?

Collective income. If potential husband and wife can calculate their pooled resources and arrive at that, they are good to go. The essence is to advise 50k per month peeps against getting married inside this economy. Rent, food and medicals alone will turn them into very lonely people. May God help us.

sisisioge:


Collective income. If potential husband and wife can calculate their pooled their resources and arrive at that, they are good to go. The essence is to advise 50k per month peeps against getting married inside this economy. Rent, food and medicals alone will turn them into very lonely people. May God help us.

I get your point and I don't have a problem with low income earners getting married however, seems it is almost a norm that people get married and starts having children instead of focusing first on breaking out of the cycle.

GboyegaD:


I get your point and I don't have a problem with low income earners getting married however, seems is is almost a born that people get married and starts having children instead of focusing first on breaking out of the cycle.

Abi o...no wonder the poverty level in Nigeria keeps growing. May God help us.

GboyegaD:


I get your point and I don't have a problem with low income earners getting married however, seems it is almost a norm that people get married and starts having children instead of focusing first on breaking out of the cycle.

So why get married then if you cannot have children immediately?

People, families and friends will start reminding you of how many years you have been married without children, thinking your wife is barren or you have low sperm count.

This is Nigeria for you, and once you marry the womb watchers will not allow you rest.

tosinhtml:


So why get married then if you cannot have children immediately?

People, families and friends will start reminding you of how many years you have been married without children, thinking your wife is barren or you have low sperm count.

This is Nigeria for you, and once you marry the womb watchers will not allow you rest.

You don't do things for people and when you do, the responsibility remains yours and same as the consequences.

No one would ask me such not even my Mum and I don't ask anyone such. If you don't have the means, rather than cause yourself much pains, why not avoid it?

GboyegaD:


You don't do things for people and when you do, the responsibility remains yours and same as the consequences.

No one would ask me such not even my Mum and I don't ask anyone such. If you don't have the means, rather than cause yourself much pains, why not avoid it?

It's easier said than done, especially in some families. I am sure you are quite aware of what women go through in the hands on MILs. If you listen to BankyW's family interview, they did the same thing, they waited after marriage and when they finally decided to have babies, it wasn't forth coming.

Again, i would choose to rather remain single instead of the anxiety of waiting for children if they happen to come late when i *finally* decide to have babies.

redcliff:
you are fedup with life but a buhari supporter? your darling daddy would help you.

Was it a crime to believe in someone and vote for the person?

How many people know that Buhari will failed with those promises he make.

Please stop making people feel like they'll not make it to heaven for supporting someone that failed them

Oyinlomobambam:



Was it a crime to believe in someone and vote for the person?

How many people know that Buhari will failed with those promises he make.

Please stop making people feel like they'll not make it to heaven for supporting someone that failed them

2015 Buhari supporter are forgiven, 2019 buhari supporters are supposed to be murdered. confirm ni, they wont make heaven

I am not even specifocally saying he is a buhsri supporter indeed but if he truly is a Buhari supporter, death by hunger to him. 8years of my life i should have seen Nigeria move forward, enjoy it a bit but it went back to the military regime 20years ago. believe it or not, nigeria is retrogressing because of that useless man who lives under the rock. stuuupid ethnocentric, bigoted and full of nepotism and incomeptence. I can never forgive his lineage.

tosinhtml:


It's easier said than done, especially in some families. I am sure you are quite aware of what women go through in the hands on MILs. If you listen to BankyW's family interview, they did the same thing, they waited after marriage and when they finally decided to have babies, it wasn't forth coming.

Again, i would choose to rather remain single instead of the anxiety of waiting for children if they happen to come late when i *finally* decide to have babies.

They do it either because the couples want it or the parents raised babies in adult bodies.

If anyone chooses to marry and have kids and are stressed financially, they should deal with it and not bother others.

It is another thing for things to go South and that is understandable but for those who don't have the wherewithal and keep breeding and trying to put the blame on the society, such people are wicked.

redcliff:


2015 Buhari supporter are forgiven, 2019 buhari supporters are supposed to be murdered. confirm ni, they wont make heaven

They made their choice and they're more than us ..

They've started another strategy to win while we continue to complain and protest.

I know only little will change

But why are you guys are so heartless like this?
Why are you making jokes and cashing cruise on a hard time that me and my are going through?

I don't have voter's card talkless of voting for anybody.
Please and please. I beg you in God's name,
Enough of buhari talk on this post please.

If you have nothing to offer,
Just read and go on your lane.
I believe everyone has one or two things that they are also going through.

All i want from you guys is just a piece of advice and motivation.
If you can't do that, just read and go on your lane.
PEACE ☮

redcliff:


2015 Buhari supporter are forgiven, 2019 buhari supporters are supposed to be murdered. confirm ni, they wont make heaven

I support u with everything within me. 2015 yes but 2019 na suicide for all the supporters.