Good day nairalanders.

I came across a thread about an introverted guy who wishes to discover a route into social freedom. The comments which followed afterwards showed me that, there are alot of people in the same shoe.

I, myself inclusive (though gradually breaking free) so I taught why not create a thread where we all can air our views, make friends and share the little secrets that may help such people break free.

In the course of this thread, helpful books to read could be recommended as well.

Dunno if it's a good idea, but if you think it is just reply with "HI" so we can advance into how to kick off.

Don't forget what makes you shy is all in your head, it ain't real... We all can do better.


Albertone
Facts111
Joelobioha
Choblak

Elock1:
Good day nairalanders.

I came across a thread about an introverted guy who wishes to discover a route into social freedom. The comments which followed afterwards showed me that, there are alot of people in the same shoe.

I, myself inclusive (though gradually breaking free) so I taught why not create a thread where we all can air our views, make friends and share the little secrets that may help such people break free.

In the course of this thread, helpful books to read could be recommended as well.

Dunno if it's a good idea, but if you think it is just reply with "HI" so we can advance into how to kick off.

Don't forget what makes you shy is all in your head, it ain't real... We all can do better.


Albertone
Facts111
Joelobioha
Choblak

Hi

choblak:



Hi

Welcome try to mention people you think will be interested.

Alright let’s do this

Elock1:
Good day nairalanders.

I came across a thread about an introverted guy who wishes to discover a route into social freedom. The comments which followed afterwards showed me that, there are alot of people in the same shoe.

I, myself inclusive (though gradually breaking free) so I taught why not create a thread where we all can air our views, make friends and share the little secrets that may help such people break free.

In the course of this thread, helpful books to read could be recommended as well.

Dunno if it's a good idea, but if you think it is just reply with "HI" so we can advance into how to kick off.

Don't forget what makes you shy is all in your head, it ain't real... We all can do better.


Albertone
Facts111
Joelobioha
Choblak

Hi

Drella:


Hi

welcome, good to have you here.
Do well to mention others who may be interested.

Hi

Elock1:
Good day nairalanders.

I came across a thread about an introverted guy who wishes to discover a route into social freedom. The comments which followed afterwards showed me that, there are alot of people in the same shoe.

I, myself inclusive (though gradually breaking free) so I taught why not create a thread where we all can air our views, make friends and share the little secrets that may help such people break free.

In the course of this thread, helpful books to read could be recommended as well.

Dunno if it's a good idea, but if you think it is just reply with "HI" so we can advance into how to kick off.

Don't forget what makes you shy is all in your head, it ain't real... We all can do better.


Albertone
Facts111
Joelobioha
Choblak

Hi





I love the seas

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CNsYqHJZpkw


Let's start with the causes..

Elock1:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CNsYqHJZpkw


Let's start with the causes..

in a nut shell for those who may not have data to watch. They said shyness and social anxiety disorder who come in the following ways.

1.hereditary
2.environment (while growing up)
3.Body language of people around you (like excessive scolding, body shaming, shyness of parents etc.
4.life experience (like rape etc)

Albertone:


Hi





I love the seas

Welcome you could mention others aswell

https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/shyness-in-adults.htm


That's another article on shyness in adult.. Just discovered that they are foreign therapist there aswell, but I don't advice anyone to use it.

I, myself haven't used them before.

Hello guys... Sorry I couldn't post earlier on.
Na time oh.


But let's discuss. How una dey?

Can we share a brief history of our lives while growing up... This could help us understand ourselves better and provide assistance in the course of our program.

Albertone
Choblak
CelestialAgent
Joelobioha
Facts111
Drella
AdedoyinO

On my way home, will drop mine once I get home

Elock1:
Hello guys... Sorry I couldn't post earlier on.
Na time oh.


But let's discuss. How una dey?

Can we share a brief history of our lives while growing up... This could help us understand ourselves better and provide assistance in the course of our program.

Albertone
Choblak
CelestialAgent
Joelobioha
Facts111
Drella
AdedoyinO

On my way home, will drop mine once I get home

@juliusmomoh come see

Yeah.. So sorry guys.

Am called Elock.
Was born into the home of an Academician (Dad) and Nurse (mum).

My Dad doubles as a no nonsense Deacon in the church, And my mum a fervent Christian as well (although she no carry am for head).

Growing up in a quarters wasn't easy for me oh, as my Dad was the "you must always read your book and never play" type.

The only time I had to play was when he was away and I had to beg my mum, reassuring her I will return ASAP, before she allowed me to go join other kids.

Watching others play from the window was really disheartening for a young me then.
And when I eventually joined them I was kinda far behind.

And anytime my dad caught me playing with other kids he was like "every time play play nothing dy your coconut head"

Anyone who heard coconut head will think maybe I did badly in school, but hell no, I usually came 3rd in a class of between 35-40 pupils.

He was like "those who came first get 2 head? “
To worsen the matter they were girls and of course next line was.

" so you were there and 2 girls beat you"
Once in a while I came first and they was no encouragement whatsoever.. He acted like it was my birthright to be at the first position.

Such situation really dampened my spirit. In my class I saw people who came 7th 8th 9th and 10th rejoice as If they won a lottery.

But the day I slipped to 4th, omo heaven shake that day.. Even me by my self knew that television no dy for me again oh.

Needless to say that we rarely went to any place of fun except maybe some relatives insisted after much persuation.

Na church we dy go.. And maybe wen we go wedding, burial or village.

I saw it as normal then, I never knew it was really affecting me.

Growing up I had this thing for literature, I could read 4 to 5 novels under a month.

Since I was always indoors, that was what kept me busy. I admired Cyprian Ekwensi and China Achebe. I even wanted to be a writer or an actor. I had written some books at a tender age (which my mates loved to read).

But my Dad who was science inclined never liked the Idea, saying his son will never do that. Gradually the passion died (although I still write but not serious about it now)

Fast forward to secondary and university... I craved to study an art related course but my papa no gree oh.
He say lion no fit born goat. But las las my mum influenced his stance.
And I was allowed to be in an art class and later study an art related course.

I just felt my dad wanted to influence my life and I kinda despised him a little (though didn't show it b4 them break my head)

So while in Schools he supported me financially but maybe not mentally Sha.

And I came to realize that all this constituted to be shying away from many things. I stil love my Dad anyways very much.

I think that's where my problem started from.

We all need to identify the root cause of our before any changes can be made.

That's my story... Will like to hear from you guys (it mustn't be so detailed alright)

Drella
Albertone
Joelobioha
Facts111
AdedoyinO
Choblak
CelestialAgent
Juliusmomoh

I encourage all interested to say something so we can keep the thread Alive...

I nedd your encouragements to move this thread forward. Don't be like papa Elock

Well,I grew up with parents who believes education is always the best legacy.They made me participate in only two things,Church and School.
"Mum,I want to go for my classmate's birthday celebration"."Face your book" is always the answer I get slammed at my face.
I was really restricted especially in the social aspect.They allowed friends to visit but did not allow me to visit friends.Meanwhile,I only had a small circle of friends.

It was when I got to the university that I realized,asides studying,I Know next to nothing.All the interest I had had been killed.

Now,I have greatly improved and can now strike conversations with people.But I don't know how to keep it going especially with the opposite sex.I get complimented almost everyday on how handsome I am(I still got complimented by about 3 people today,a girl inclusive).
But here I am,never dated and still a virgin.Ignoring greenlights anytime any day and twice on a Wednesday!

Joelobioha
Facts111
AdedoyinO
Choblak
CelestialAgent
Juliusmomoh
Elock1






I love the seas

Albertone:


Now,I have greatly improved and can now strike conversations with people.But I don't know how to keep it going especially with the opposite sex.I get complimented almost everyday on how handsome I am(I still got complimented by about 3 people today,a girl inclusive).
But here I am,never dated and still a virgin.Ignoring greenlights anytime any day and twice on a Wednesday!







I love the seas

I can imagine, been there too.
As we proceed, we gotta talk about using your strong points to your advantage.

Handsomeness/beauty
Intelligence
Skills
Even silence to your advantage.

It will be a gradual process but hopefully it will work.
Other introductions are highly welcomed.

Elock1:
Welcome try to mention people you think will be interested.

Hi

Facts111:

Hi

good morning, you can invite others too and also tell us what your background was like

Elock1:

I can imagine, been there too.
As we proceed, we gotta talk about using your strong points to your advantage.

Handsomeness/beauty
Intelligence
Skills
Even silence to your advantage.

It will be a gradual process but hopefully it will work.
Other introductions are highly welcomed.

I need to know how to use my handsome abeg.It's just wasting away!

When it comes to silence,I'm a king!
I need to know how to use that too.







I love the seas

Albertone:


I need to know how to use my handsome abeg.It's just wasting away!

When it comes to silence,I'm a king!
I need to know how to use that too.

Lemme ask. When you walk ehn and people seem to stare at you.. It's like you want to faint abi?

E dy do you like say sh*t dy your face abi

Elock1:

Lemme ask. When you walk ehn and people seem to stare at you.. It's like you want to faint abi?

E dy do you like say sh*t dy your face abi

Of course I feel uneasy when people stare at me.But since I look good,I dress good,it doesn't bother me too much.I know the look is that of admiration.

I am now used to it!It makes me flattered!




I love the seas

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Albertone:


Of course I feel uneasy when people stare at me.But since I look good,I dress good,it doesn't bother me too much.I know the look is that of admiration.

I am now used to it!It makes me flattered!




I love the seas

it's called scopophobia... I will write in my little knowledge about it soon, let me get home

Elock1:

I can imagine, been there too.
As we proceed, we gotta talk about using your strong points to your advantage.

Handsomeness/beauty
Intelligence
Skills
Even silence to your advantage.

It will be a gradual process but hopefully it will work.
Other introductions are highly welcomed.

I don't have any of these

Bigboy289:
I don't have any of these

you don't have any of what? Skills and Co?

You are highly welcomed BTW

Elock1:
you don't have any of what? Skills and Co?

You are highly welcomed BTW

Yeah

Bigboy289:
Yeah

it's impossible.. Maybe you havent discovered it yet, we all have and we all can learn.