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| URGENT - In State Of Delimma by ambr055i: 12:06am On Oct 06, 2021 |
Please, I need your advice because right now I'm confused about where to go, it's a lifelong decision. I just turned 34 last month, still living with my uncle, but no pressure on his part is a big house. Currently, I teach in a school where my net salary and my home lesson inclusive are approx. N 100000 a month. I have a master's degree in engineering, so I haven't put that certificate to use. I have a saving of 900k, it will be higher by December. Although it would have been more than that, I lost 400,000 to the detriment of a bad investment. Last two years, I had an illness that struck (ENT related), which doesn't have a cure. One of the symptoms is vertigo (a sensation of feeling off-balance). This made me change my mind about travelling. For a few months now, I haven't had the experience. I have three thoughts, but I can only do one at a time. Firstly, leave my uncle's house, get an apartment. Use the rest of the money to start a business as a side hustle while working with the school. Secondly, leave my uncle's house, get an apartment. Next, I invest my time in a tech skill (web dev, programming or data science). Thirdly, travel to the US for my PhD program. I have already been preparing for my GRE before now. Thank you. 20 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by mignone(f): 12:42am On Oct 06, 2021 |
I really don't know which is best for u bt Since ur uncle doesn't have a problem with accommodating u like u said, what happened to staying there if plan A or B is the way? I say this cos renting an apartment will likely gulp abt half of ur savings. 127 Likes 9 Shares |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by ambr055i: 11:33am On Oct 06, 2021 |
mignone: If you were in my shoes which will you opt for. I think I'm too old staying with my uncle. It is depriving me of having a serious relationship, no lady is going to take a man who doesn't have his apartment. That's not the issue though, I'm more concerned about my financial situation. 46 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by saddler: 1:40pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
 You have got nice plans mate. I will advise you to go with last idea if you can follow through wih the requirements. Please leave this shit hole of a country if you can. Even if na Ghana your money carry you reach, just escape this contraption called Nigeria. Dont get an apartment because the next thing that will come to your mind is settling down. Another advise is to never allow all these broke Nigerian girls come near you, they are a distraction and liability packaged in their body-revealing outfits. 106 Likes 9 Shares |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by excomarow(m): 1:40pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Well the three options are good only if you can manage and improve 2 Likes |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by Enoch07: 1:41pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Leave dat house first. 6 Likes |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by slawormiir: 1:41pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Damnnn niggarrrr Make I grab my weed and read comments quietly because he be like say this issue big pass me But me know say deep down in Ogbeni op mind.....woman matter still dey but him nor Green add am join....him nor dey fit carry woman wella for him uncle house..... If not I see no reason why him dey emphasize on the renting of Apartment ...two out of the three options is emphasizing on getting apartments... Haha Ogbeni dey miss steady kpekus.... 103 Likes 8 Shares |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by Nobody: 1:41pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Oo |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by truthCoder: 1:41pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
don't get an apartment. stay with your uncle since he is not asking you to leave nor is he giving you issues. you were able to save 900k because you were staying with him. once you leave, you might find out that the cost of independence alone will swallow the 900k. Ordinary bed, sofa, tv, gas cooker, generator and rent will swallow everything. There are wonderful girls who would date you for who you are and not where you stay. She can always visit you at your uncle's place and when you want to do 'an-chu-chu' with her, you can always get an hotel room. If she cant date you because you don't have an apartment, she is not your girl. vertigo can be treated. don't lose hope. If you get to USA, you might find out that na one small calcium lump self dey inside your ear or one small surgery wey dem no go even admit you. a friend suffered heart palpitations for years in Nigeria which affected everything. When she went to Dubai, na so dem treat her and she is now 100% back to normal. try to learn programming. get a good laptop, learn during break time and when you get back home. Dont quit your job o. 100k per month in this Buhari economy....many would kill to have that. don't sacrifice what you have for what you don't. cheers 131 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by PENNYSWAP: 1:42pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
you still Dey ordinary state of delimma and you are making noise, what of those that are in the country of delimma nko  63 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by Nobody: 1:42pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
slawormiir:issorritte . 3 Likes |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by Raul99: 1:42pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
ambr055i:Go for your PHD. 12 Likes |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by chidonweb(m): 1:42pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Go for the First Decision 1 Like |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by Nobody: 1:42pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Delimma ko Chidimma ni 7 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by ybalogs(m): 1:43pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Since you have no pressure from your uncle why not just set out to do all you planned out aside moving out. Going for your PHD program should be your priority as it stands. 19 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by pakirisuitesphc(m): 1:43pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Take the abroad option only, you won't regret it. 13 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by NigPatriot(m): 1:43pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
As long as your uncle is not bothering you, your focus should be PhD abroad. That will automatically change your life. Dedicate one full year to this goal. Renting an apartment now might take a huge chunk of your savings, having a lady shouldn't be a priority for you at this time, you won't even be happy in a relationship whereby you're still etching through life. As a man your savings are very important due to emergencies which can come at anytime. All the best as you make a decision. 33 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by InvertedHammer: 1:43pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
ambr055i:/ The problem may be because you are in delimma instead of dilemma. / 7 Likes |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by bouncin04(m): 1:43pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Damn, serious dilemma indeed, I will say travelling is the best option, only if the Americans won't deny you visa, but don't quit your job until your have secured your visa . Still wondering a good business 900k can set up in present day Nigeria and at the same time keeping that funds in the bank is completely not advisable considering the current inflation rate . Just pray to what ever you believe in  6 Likes 1 Share
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| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by ybalogs(m): 1:43pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Are you not planning to settle down?? 1 Like |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by elmessiahs(m): 1:43pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Rent an apartment and use the rest for side hustle, while on the job, secondly and most importantly try to move for your PhD outside the country. God bless |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by abobote: 1:44pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Go for the third option, but is it the 900k you are using for the travel, or someone will be sponsoring you, as the 900k won't be enough. Second option, if the third failed, but I will advise you start the side husle before leaving your uncle's house, since there's no pressure from him 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by HEAVEN4444: 1:44pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
 delimma |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by mybiz234: 1:44pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
ambr055i:Delimma or dilemma? 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by chii8(f): 1:45pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Hmmm |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by Oyiboman69: 1:45pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
This your mata get as e be....only you list three options before us and you want us to choose for you,as for me...my suggestion is not among those three you place before us in this your current situation... |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by HEAVEN4444: 1:45pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
mybiz234:this nigga said Dillema lmaooo. yall niggas cant spell |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by JavaScript90: 1:45pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Learn programming and travel out when you have mastered it. Thank me later 2 Likes |
| Re: URGENT - In State Of Delimma by Truth234(m): 1:45pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Continue staying with your uncle while processing your Phd in the US. This is very important because of your health, U.S has better healthcare. Also, the money is not enough to start much on your own. However, start data analytics, web development, etc training while preparing for your GRE and applying for PhD in the U.S. They are global skills that will help you hit the ground running. Stay with your uncle. 7 Likes 1 Share |
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