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Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by dapolaw(m): 10:25pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
Your sister was in her early 20s when she was gotten pregnant by this man and your parent got him arrested.... After that you still expect him to reach out to you people after the humiliation? My question; you said your sister did not reach out.... Did you at any time tried reaching out to her? 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by samwash(m): 10:25pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
@op, the man impregnated your sister your dad beat him up & arrested him. Your father has the right to be bittered. Your sister claims she loves the man with the whole of her life, & she decided to moved in with the love of her life,even without getting married legally. The man on the other end is angry how ur family mistreated him, so also your sister, but that shouldn't be a yardstick for the man to kidnapped someone else daughter unlawfully without doing the right thing. The person to blame there is your sister, she is the one that decide to cut communication with her family. First thing first is to find a way to communicate with your sister, try to kwn her well being & her present condition. It's well oo !!! 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Evercurious(f): 10:25pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
NPTJ: That's the problem when a small girl thinks she is old enough to handle issues. Okpolo eye no be open eye. That guy has really taken advantage of her. She wanted to go to school and cldnt concentrate on gathering the money she needed to use. She is not just serious and so unfocused . She simply saw marriage as a shortcut out of her issues not knowing it was deadly and death trap. I ll advise that you guys pray for her from a distance for now that God would take control of her mind.. With that she can now start trying to get in touch with you guys. 7 Likes |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by bigtt76(f): 10:25pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
You need reset your sister head small ooo NPTJ: |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Mendy101: 10:26pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
She got pregnant, you beat her and arrested the man, I am sure you beat him up first and humiliated him and I am sure he suffered in jail, Finally your sister is with him, if it’s you will you want to associate with the family? You still want to go and beat him up again, I laugh, you guys are not even ready. See everything for life no be gragra 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by NPTJ(m): 10:26pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Even if we are drinking garri that doesn't mean we shouldn't know what's right and wrong The rest of us are all boys who would got married someday. We all see what the man does as something totally wrong 5 Likes |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Exodora: 10:27pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
Janetjim1:Seriously do you really need to quote op , why not reply him than giving us all this ... |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Kobojunkie: 10:27pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
Spanishmilf:Show me that you are not the stupid in this case by responding to the questions in the comment there. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Kobojunkie: 10:28pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
NPTJ:You see what the man does meaning you also see your sister too? You keep making it seem as though you are aware of where you sister is, only that she does not seem to regard you all. If this is correct it means your sister choses this for herself, does it not? 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by BRATISLAVA: 10:29pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
Didi2d: Seems you don't know how coercive men and in love women can be. He says she begged them to let her take her two kids and go live with the man. She's doing well. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by BRATISLAVA: 10:30pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
NPTJ: How old is your sister? How old is the man? She's enjoyed a decade with him, why are you trying to separate their love? It's clearly what they both want that's going on. 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by hopeforcharles(m): 10:30pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
Pay them a visit with your elders, warn him with police |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by NPTJ(m): 10:31pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
dapolaw:Several times. Through the husband phone since she doesn't have her own phone. But most times, the man is not always around to speak with her. We'd have to wait till he get back home and she doesn't give us any sign of she's not fine |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Cashio(m): 10:32pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
TheGoodJoe:absolute rubbish. Move on as though he never had a sister? Move on as though her sister only sister does not matter? Move on as though he can't do nothing to see his only sister is fine and alright? What the Bleep has happened to us? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Kobojunkie: 10:32pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
hopeforcharles:Why? It she has chosen to stay with him since 2008, what legal right does anyone have to send the cops to them? 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by suffering: 10:33pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
Hmm. I give OP ten to fifteen years before he’ll realize everybody in life has their own path. At this rate it may take twenty years. 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Testimony1988(m): 10:33pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
He can be sued. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Kobojunkie: 10:34pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
Cashio:First he needs to accept his sister's choice. Respecting this, the family can then approach her in ways that will not further drive a wedge between them. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by AmuEbule: 10:35pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
NPTJ:You all are not doing a good job of taking care of your sister and you seem to think that it’s easy for her to just walk away from a man she claims to love. You have not walked in her shoes so you should not judge but pray for her. Do you know that majority of women stay in relationships like this because of their kids? Also try not worry about the man’s deportation and those other stuffs. Those were his cross to carry. So, reach out to your sister and ask her what you can do to make her happy and pray for her as well. Good luck! 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Obiorahpcfg: 10:36pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
If only you hacken to this simple advice dt will not cause a dime!!! Take ur case to Zion ministry ground in Lagos and see wanders. You are very luck u stay in Lagos. Try and see. Your in-law must pay for using a diabolical means to take an only daughter away from her family. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Oyiboman69: 10:36pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
lilvicky68:lol
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Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Acidosis(m): 10:36pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
NPTJ: This is serious. Your parents should try and visit. Inviting them over to your family house is the ideal approach but visiting is the most appropriate way to understand their living condition. All is certainly not well. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Munzy14(m): 10:36pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
Poverty killer of so many dreams.... 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Originalsly: 10:37pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
Bro... you can take the horse to the water but you can't make him drink. what you need to find out is if she's there against her will ... by force/threat/blackmail. If that's the case then you can save enough to rent soldiers to locate him and give him a beat down that must lead to hospitalization and the loss of a few teeth with a stern warning that should he ever make an attempt to contact her or have any communication with her ... directly or indirectly... he will get the main course... that this little roughing up is just the appetizer. If it is that she wants to be with him ... there is nothing you.. your parents nor other family members can do to change that. Change will come in her time if she so desires. After all... she's a woman... wired differently ... don't even try to figure her out. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Tolams16(m): 10:38pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
GO AND PRAY BRO, PRAYER WORKS. THIS SITUATION DOES NOT SEEM ORDINARY. YOU NEED SERIOUS PRAYES AND TAKE ACTIONS OF FAITH TOO. PRAY! |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by NPTJ(m): 10:38pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA:This is not about seperation sir/ma My mother never treated her parents nor siblings like that, same with my dad The man was almost 50 when they met, while she was just 23 or something I don't think igbo culture is like that 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by trevorhorace(m): 10:39pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
NPTJ: I'm sorry about what you all must be going through. Not knowing the whereabouts of your sister can be traumatizing. I suggest you all forget all previous grudges and find a way to first meet with her and know how's she's fairing first and foremost. She might be in danger for all we know. I suggest the most logical and emotionally mature of you all should go first.. so as not escalate things. That should be one of you or your brother. Your parents may not be able to handle it well. Your main goal is to get to know the safety of her and the kids. And dialogue with her on how she can be reunited with the family. 2 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by HEAVEN4444: 10:41pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
basically you guys are psychos and she has met a more sophisticated westernised man and she likes that civil westernised behavior and has chosen the civilised way. i mean you guys beat up a pregnant woman and arrest her husband and even today you are still talking about going there to do violence to a man who is nearly fifty now. i mean i dont blame anyone not wanting to associate with violent neanderthals. CASE CLOSED. move on with your lives. in due time she may come finding you but till then just move on 3 Likes
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Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by BRATISLAVA: 10:43pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
NPTJ: With those ages the man is closer to 60 now? What was wrong with your sister that at her young age she was roped in by a man on the run from the law abroad? What about his family over there? The age gap can give rise do control issues, but they both claim to be in love. Your sister is old enough to know what she wants. Maybe she loves him. But one can't explain the phone calls that can only take place in his presence, unless he is controlling her? Or they agreed that she must never pick your calls ever. Best believe they both don't want to contact you. If she's tired she knows the way back home. He isn't holding her hostage, is he? She sounds normal on the phone, doesn't she? 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by E2000: 10:46pm On Oct 09, 2021 |
The man is obviously too old for her in the first place he is almost 50 years and your sister is in her 20s. He spent most of his youthful age overseas with absolutely nothing to show for it when he was deported. He was obviously bad news . When a man is far too old than a lady in marriage it becomes more of a father and daughter relationship with sex been the only different. Your sister is suffering from mental enslavement and finds it impossible to resist the old man because your father failed in his role has a father towards her, so subconsciously she kept searching for a father figure and fell prey to this old gago. Go find your sister first then you will know what next to do base on what you find. 5 Likes 1 Share |
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