one of my friends was with me this weekend, she ws really disturbed and came to share her mind with me, she been dating her b/f for 6yrs but never did the REAL thing with him, she was supposed to be a virgin. the guy promised to marry her a virgin.

along the line came this rich man that is actually supposed to be an uncle as they were family friends. the man cajoled her into bed and made love to her. they ve been on for 7 months now and the b/f is proposing marriage, she is confused and wants me to advice her, i told her to come back next week bringing it to the whole house to help give my friend a way out of her mess.

Girls. So did the Alhaji hypnotize her or what? She wants to eat her cake and have it. She wants to remain a virgin for boyfriend and husband-to-be and at the same time enjoy the sweetness of Alhaji. Rubbish.

Solution: there is nothing she can do. The young man who calls himself her boyfriend will never forgive her so she should go and look for another boyfriend. She should not even bother to ask for forgiveness because she will not get it. Even if he tries to forgive her the issue will never stop disturbing him in his mind. He will always bring it up when there's an argument. The relationship is doomed, sorry, and it is all your friend's fault.

seun, the aristo is not an alhaji, he is a christian

My mistake. I guess my advice was also a bit harsh.

If a guy could wait for 6 whole years, then he will not be able to handle the yawa when he finds out his babe gave the precious and delicious apple to another man; especially an elderly family friend.
If she is ready to do it, I will advise her to confess to the guy before marriage or else they will live together like strangers. if she is not ready to confess, I think she should use style to end the relationship and look for a guy who doesn't mind marrying a non-virgin.
But really, I feel for the guy, it will be hard for him not to turn to a bad boy.

@ seun i wont call your advice harsh just call it the truth she wants to eat her cake and have it, it will be hard for that guy to forgive her but she really needs to let the guy know whats up she needs to tell him what happend , men to bad it was not a young guy at least it will have sounded better than an aristo

he is a christian

Am I the only one who finds this very ironic?

Anyway, 7 months? Come on, give me a break. That's bullshit. I mean, how can she have stayed in the relationship with her 'boyfriend'? That's very, unfair. I personally think it's better she tells her current boyfriend what's been going on, and if he refuses to accept her, she should then go on to find someone else.

Girls na our way sha, what money can do, I wander why she is acting confused, she is not serious ooh, she shd have taught about marriage b4 given into the rich aristo,

I wander oh madam. What is confusing her? If it had happened once, its a differant issue, but for 7 months? Haba! Let her do the right thing and leave her Boy friend alone.

The girl has a very bad case. If the aristo affair was a one-off, it woulda been easier for the b/f to deal with it, but shagging the baba for 7 long months! Am afraid she has put a permanent dent on the relationship with the b/f. My candid advice will be for her to pack it up with both men look for a fresh non-virgin seeking guy. Even if the b/f says he is ready to 4give, I doubt if he will be able to deal with the doubts and other ill feelings that will continue to come up to the fore throughout his marriage with her.

no one is above mistake, however when mistakes are made there are consequences that come along,

this gal needs to dump her so-called "boyfriend" and explore the ariztos, i mean aristos 

If l am the boyfriend, it would be so so hard to forgive her , you know what am saying but sha, even if l forgive the babe, l no want get disease because all this alhaji abi aristo them de carry disease no be small. l go first go test the babe for hiv, and if she is negative, l could still give her a chance but its going to be so hard to forget because l trusted her for six years of my life and she gave it up cos l be poor guy. Wetin poor guys go do now. .

wht kind of gal is she 2 av stooped so low
her boyfriend seems like da perfect guy bt she's ruined EVERYTHING
such an unfaithful lady!!!
wht advice does she wnt 4rom u now?did she ask u 4 an advice b/4 doin wht she did?if no den why is she askin 4 1 now

ariztos:

no one is above mistake, however when mistakes are made there are consequences that come along,

this girl needs to dump her so-called "boyfriend" and explore the ariztos, i mean aristos

da gal needs 2 dump her so called b/f? aint u gettin dat the other way round?da guy needs 2 dump da unfaithful, back-stabbing b***h
she dsnt deserve his luv

isn't aristo the male word for asewo----- i just want to know, and ur friend is a shitty hoe

as a guy, i dont think i can forgive that. my opinion of cause!

How do we know the guy is not himself shagging some other girl(s) , while he is "keeping" his jewel for the wedding night ?
Tell your friend not to worry . If she has been able to keep the aristo for 7 months without her boyfriend finding out , she is obviously doing something right . So she should go on soun ,
On the wedding night , there are ways she can fiegn being disvrigined , sebi she is a woman ? And after that night , everything is kosher !!

MSY:

On the wedding night , there are ways she can fiegn being disvrigined , sebi she is a woman ? And after that night , everything is kosher !!

In support of the previous statement but, better still, she should try and convince the boyfriend to "do" it before the marriage. If he finds out well, so be it. Otherwise, shut up, cut all communication with the money-bag, and never ever discuss the matter with anyone again. What you don't know can't hurt you.

Having expressed my mind in my previous post, let me now explain what I would do if the lady in question was my friend. I will tell her to ask the boy a rethorical question about what he'll do if she told him she was no longer a virgin, then watch his reaction.

After 24 hours she should say she wants to break up with him, that the relationship can't work. When he asks why she should now explain what she has done, mention that she feels sorry about it and reiterate her position that due to that event she knows he can't forgive her so it will be better to break up.

This puts the man in a position where he might be inclined to say "wait, let's work this out". (probability: 11%)

well i just say the truth might set her free

omoge02863:

isn't aristo the male word for asewo----- i just want to know

who knows the answer to this question?

Shagging a Baba for 7 months is not a mistake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It was done simply for the money. She just realised now (albeit too late) that she cannot replace her virginity. Too bad.
If I were in the guy's shoes and she came to me with this story, I will definitely dump her and not even think of forgiving her because;
1. she obviously did it for the money
2. Its been going on for 7 good months, therefore deceiving me all these 7 months she's been telling me she loves me.
3. She has been involved behind my back with someone probably old enough to be her dad (?)
4. I know deep down in me that I will never trust her again for the rest of my/her life. So why keep the relationship.


Good riddance to bad rubbish.

Anyway sha if she tell me I go pretend say no yawa, then "cane" my own share (with double raincoat ofcourse!!) well well and dump her for her very best friend. That one go pain her well well. No shaking!

How do you know that her best friend will want you? Overconfidence kills!

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How do you know that her best friend will want you? Overconfidence kills!

No harm in trying. And don't forget that birds of same feather usally flock together.
You get my drift?

So this guy goes some years without shagging his girl and all of a sudden he finds out that the girl is no longer a virgin and she has been shagging an in quote "aristo" and you all advice him to dump the girl whats wrong with y'all what about him shagging the girl.

Look my advice is simple forgive the girl shagg the living daylight out of her, make sure you shine de ***** well, infact my friend make each shag like your last and when you know she is now so into it dump the living hell out of the cheating witch.

But really if the guy feels sorry for himself and leaves the girl without shagging her whalai he would never be a normal person for the rest of his life.

@ legry
You are with me on this man! Thats what I have been preaching!! Shag the thing like there is no tomorrow. Shikina!

thanks seun, i thot of telling her to break up with the guy too, but not telling him the truth is better, if the guy gets to know, he ll never forgive her and that wud affect his relationship with other gurls. i think i ll just tell her to find an excuse for breaking up, maybe hinging on something, wait for the guy to offend u and refuse to forgive him and use that as an excuse to break up, that wud atleast save her head, and the guy will only feel the hurt of losing her and not that of knowing she cheated on him in a scandalous way. he is asking for marriage now 4months from now, she cus just yari somehow on some excuses and cancell the whole thing.

where is skima? i hope the Bobo is reading this piece? learn from this story man

let us divert a little bit, does it mean we shouldnt agree with our babe about making our first love after marriage for any reason?

If you guys can hold of on it till the wedding night, that will be a nice thing to give each other but, most guys in nairaland prefer their woman to be a freak in the sheets.

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isn't aristo the male word for asewo----- i just want to know[/quote]

Aristo actually in this instance refers to sugar daddy or older dude with some expendible cash,

moyosoret:
wait for the guy to offend u and refuse to forgive him and use that as an excuse to break up.

I see that as a wicked and callous idea. For a long-time girlfriend to just decide to call it quits after a minor disagreement will definitely make the man run mad.