I met this lady three years ago while i was in my final years. I got attracted to her, we became friends, months after, i proposed to her and we agreed to date. The relationship was a very serious one that we both agreed to be faithful and committed to each other. I told her my wedding plans after NYSC, and she promised to align herslef with my plans by being my fiancee. As Christians, we do pray and fast together about our future. She told me everything about her past and i also did likewise. We got to know each other families, that she got used to my family and relatives. She became my mum's best friend while i maintain regular contacts with her family. We knew each other intimately the second year of our relationship, though we agreed not to, but emotions could not. Despite this, our love grew in leaps and trillions.

Just on thursday, i was convinced to ask her if there is anything she would like to tell me about her past, she said she had told me all i need to know. I pressed her further and further, and she came with this BOMBSHELL; SHE ONCE HAD AN ABORTION.

Though she told me about a guy she dated before i met her, it was the guy who actually deflowered her. According to her, it was only once she did it and she has to call it quit with the guy immediately after the act. The guy came begging, but she refuses since she has taking advantage of her.

That sexual intercourse resulted into pregnancy which she aborted because she did not want to have anything to with her again.
Why did she hid this from me all this while?
Why didn't she tell mne about the abortion.

Her answers was; she was scared, and did not know how i will feel. Basically, she said she was scared of LOOSING ME.

She cried all her life out yesterday pleading for forgiveness

I love her sincerely. I have not had any date before and after i met her. I felt i was cheated upon.

Please what do i do, i am dying oooooo

Pls help by giving advice

So are you just looking for an excuse to dunp her? I still don't understand how she cheated on you. Unless of course I do not understand what you wrote

Believe me or not, more than 90% of girls out there have had an abortion.

I think you should be happy she even told you.

Cheated on how?

She had the abortion before she married you, She told you because she felt you are mature enough to handle it, What if she didnt tell you.

WHy cant people be expert liars like me

This here is why women will never tell the truth about things like this. When you tell people to keep quiet, they will call you a Jezebel. SMH!

@ Poster

I know you feel 'betrayed' but seriously, get over it! The bottomline is that she told you (even though she has done more than one and lied about that ) . . . You should know that a lot of other women have done it and few will tell their prospective husbands about this. So what's the guarantee that the next woman will be free of that

My dear you need to forget this irrelevant issue and move on with your marriage plans. If you doubt her ability to concieve, you can insist in getting her pregnant before the wedding (since you guys are already doing the nasty ) I'm sure she won't say no. She lost 80% of her bargaining power when she went and opened her mouth wide.

Oya Uju tell me the truth,

What other things have you been hiding from me?

Dayo oko mi. I did it with your best friend on our matrimonial home. Please forgive me . . we did it just once and I swear it was the devils handiwork!

I love you so much and I don't want to lose you *sob sob sob*

omogidi:

I met this lady three years ago while i was in my final years. I got attracted to her, we became friends, months after, i proposed to her and we agreed to date. The relationship was a very serious one that we both agreed to be faithful and committed to each other. I told her my wedding plans after NYSC, and she promised to align herslef with my plans by being my fiancee. As Christians, we do pray and fast together about our future. She told me everything about her past and i also did likewise. We got to know each other families, that she got used to my family and relatives. She became my mum's best friend while i maintain regular contacts with her family. We knew each other intimately the second year of our relationship, though we agreed not to, but emotions could not. Despite this, our love grew in leaps and trillions.

Just on thursday, i was convinced to ask her if there is anything she would like to tell me about her past, she said she had told me all i need to know. I pressed her further and further, and she came with this BOMBSHELL; SHE ONCE HAD AN ABORTION.

Though she told me about a guy she dated before i met her, it was the guy who actually deflowered her. According to her, it was only once she did it and she has to call it quit with the guy immediately after the act. The guy came begging, but she refuses since she has taking advantage of her.

That sexual intercourse resulted into pregnancy which she aborted because she did not want to have anything to with her again.
Why did she hid this from me all this while?
Why didn't she tell mne about the abortion.

Her answers was; she was scared, and did not know how i will feel. Basically, she said she was scared of LOOSING ME.

She cried all her life out yesterday pleading for forgiveness

I love her sincerely. I have not had any date before and after i met her. I felt i was cheated upon.

Please what do i do, i am dying oooooo

Pls help by giving advice

you are still a child know wonder you had wedding plans before finding what we call the one

people open up a diffrent time if you open up it doesnt mean the other half has to at that moment

atleast she told you herself unless you knew and thats the reason you pressed on

She cried all her life out yesterday pleading for forgiveness

Not good enough.
She needs to 'abort' herself too.
The only solution to this 'problem'!
OP. . .you can join her too, so y'all can go say 'hello' to all the dead fetuses in the suck-away pits of the world.

Juss sayin'. . .if it bothered me that much.

Why dunnyyooo both 'terminate' yaselves for the utmost peace offerings?

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