So my big sis got married early this December and she's my only sibling, so I'm supposed to be the one to carry on the family name as the only son of my dad. Naturally, during the week of my sister's wedding, family members were teasing me about my "future wife" and giving me "hints" for when I want to get married. Some will straight up ask me if I'm seeing anyone and also ask when I plan to get married.
But the thing is, I actually couldn't care less about getting married. To start with, I don't know if I could handle staying with one person my entire life even if I met a girl that I loved and vibed with 100% (and that's a big IF because its not easy for me coming across a girl I really like). I value my freedom, plus I'm not too keen on having to raise kids.

One of my uncles is in his 60s and still unmarried, and because of this, he gets a lot of disrespect from his siblings and even his nephews, despite the fact that he is financially stable and capable, perhaps even moreso than most in our family. Because of this, I try to be careful not to give off any vibes of marriage apathy to my relatives since it seems to be a quick way to attract anger and scorn.

I just don't see what the big deal is with marriage anyways but if you can, please change my mind.

Companionship is good, there comes Marriage which leads to fruitfulness, So marriage is good, siblings advice about marriage is good I know it is annoying sometimes yeah, but you just have to take the advice, because it will be profitable for you in the long run.

It is the type of relationship that you create between you and your spouse that matter.

Marriage is good not only for companionship sake but makes one look more responsible.

People perception of you matters a lot like it or not.

I am going to marry not that I want to but because the institution is useful in our society. And I love kids.. It's wonderful being a dad to a great kid that comes from a good home.

My opinion though.

Edited: it'd be fascinating having another copy of me. I want to mould a better me and see what could come out of it.

You still a young lad...






You will get over this phase with time.

I just want someone to call son, especially my own blood, I think that's the only business that will be forcing me into marriage, otherwise, NO.. from what we read here everyday and the kind of women we have this days, Jesus!! One is better off without a wife.. that gender has nothing to contribute apart from reproduction... I hate marriage wahala abeg.

Tmach137:
I just don't see what the big deal is with marriage anyways but if you can, please change my mind.

So, you want instead to surrender yourself to the foolishness that is the world around and about you?

2ndchildhood:
I just want someone to call son, that's the only business that can force me to marriage, otherwise, NO.. from what we read here everyday and the kind of girls we have this days, Jesus!! One is better off without a wife.. that gender has nothing to contribute apart from reproduction... I hate marriage wahala abeg.

You can easily adopt yourself a son.

Tmach137:
So my big sis got married early this December and she's my only sibling, so I'm supposed to be the one to carry on the family name as the only son of my dad. Naturally, during the week of my sister's wedding, family members were teasing me about my "future wife" and giving me "hints" for when I want to get married. Some will straight up ask me if I'm seeing anyone and also ask when I plan to get married.
But the thing is, I actually couldn't care less about getting married. To start with, I don't know if I could handle staying with one person my entire life even if I met a girl that I loved and vibed with 100% (and that's a big IF because its not easy for me coming across a girl I really like). I value my freedom, plus I'm not too keen on having to raise kids.

One of my uncles is in his 60s and still unmarried, and because of this, he gets a lot of disrespect from his siblings and even his nephews, despite the fact that he is financially stable and capable, perhaps even moreso than most in our family. Because of this, I try to be careful not to give off any vibes of marriage apathy to my relatives since it seems to be a quick way to attract anger and scorn.

I just don't see what the big deal is with marriage anyways but if you can, please change my mind.

Wedlock, yes, it is a conscious choice of word use because of the word 'lock' loll, wedlock literally is being locked into a relationship.

Marriage is a revered institution, the devil knows this and its more the reason why the devil didnt waste no time in making sure to attack and cause cracks in the first unity.

You see if you can survive your patience being tested, survive the ups and downs, survive the travails, survive being tested to the hilt, if you can survive all from being married, then it means you will be successful in forming good and cordial relationships with anyone.

Although, marriage is not for everyone, because not everyone is equipped well enough for marriage, still, its not good for man to be alone and besides that, man often needs a help meet. Also two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But how tragic it is for the one who is [all] alone when he falls. There is no one to help him get up.

Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Another thing is, a person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer.

_{Personal text: Jesus is not a theologian. He is God who told stories.}

brain54:
You still a young lad...

You will get over this phase with time.

So his uncle who is in his 60's and still unmarried is "still a young lad and will get over this phase with time" ba?

Maybe you think it is everyone out there that fancies this idea of marriage or it's everyone that intends to get married...

Tmach137:
So my big sis got married early this December and she's my only sibling, so I'm supposed to be the one to carry on the family name as the only son of my dad. Naturally, during the week of my sister's wedding, family members were teasing me about my "future wife" and giving me "hints" for when I want to get married. Some will straight up ask me if I'm seeing anyone and also ask when I plan to get married.
But the thing is, I actually couldn't care less about getting married. To start with, I don't know if I could handle staying with one person my entire life even if I met a girl that I loved and vibed with 100% (and that's a big IF because its not easy for me coming across a girl I really like). I value my freedom, plus I'm not too keen on having to raise kids.

One of my uncles is in his 60s and still unmarried, and because of this, he gets a lot of disrespect from his siblings and even his nephews, despite the fact that he is financially stable and capable, perhaps even moreso than most in our family. Because of this, I try to be careful not to give off any vibes of marriage apathy to my relatives since it seems to be a quick way to attract anger and scorn.

I just don't see what the big deal is with marriage anyways but if you can, please change my mind.

Your kind is scarce because only few are really grown to understand spiritual manipulations that ruins feelings

It's your decision to make. You're an adult and can live your life as it pleases you.

You should live your life. If at all you will marry, do so because you want it not because you wanna please anybody.

I ain't gonna marry also.

Favfables1:


So his uncle who is in his 60's and still unmarried is "still a young lad and will get over this phase with time" ba?

Maybe you think it is everyone out there that fancies this idea of marriage or it's everyone that intends to get married...

that uncle in his 60 not married will be regretting it by now and it will surely strike him full in the face if he is still alive in the next 10 yrs,I had a debilitating industrial accident on the ankle on may 28th this year,after surgery and series of surgical debridement I cannot make any move for 2 months,thanks to my wife and lovely children,imagine if you are not married and no kids and you have a serious illness,you will die alone,lonely, frustrated and in despair,your body will rot with maggots smelling before people knows you are dead.

Sooner or later,you will feel the marriage vibes

Out only saving grace as guyman na be say we no get person wahala with meno-stop if not,I no fit imagine any reason wey go make guyman to get this kind mentality..

Tmach137:
So my big sis got married early this December and she's my only sibling, so I'm supposed to be the one to carry on the family name as the only son of my dad. Naturally, during the week of my sister's wedding, family members were teasing me about my "future wife" and giving me "hints" for when I want to get married. Some will straight up ask me if I'm seeing anyone and also ask when I plan to get married.
But the thing is, I actually couldn't care less about getting married. To start with, I don't know if I could handle staying with one person my entire life even if I met a girl that I loved and vibed with 100% (and that's a big IF because its not easy for me coming across a girl I really like). I value my freedom, plus I'm not too keen on having to raise kids.

One of my uncles is in his 60s and still unmarried, and because of this, he gets a lot of disrespect from his siblings and even his nephews, despite the fact that he is financially stable and capable, perhaps even moreso than most in our family. Because of this, I try to be careful not to give off any vibes of marriage apathy to my relatives since it seems to be a quick way to attract anger and scorn.

I just don't see what the big deal is with marriage anyways but if you can, please change my mind.

PLEASE DON'T GET MARRIED..

STAY THE WAY YOU'RE.
LOOK AT CHRIS BROWN, MADONNA DRAKE, FUTURE AND CO FLEXING THEIR LIVES AWAY BECAUSE THEY CAN'T COMMIT.



AGAIN STAY AWAY FROM MARRIAGE, DON'T SUFFER, BETRAY OR HURT UR PARTNER.

Married is not a must in a person's life

okoroemeka:
that uncle in his 60 not married will be regretting it by now and it will surely strike him full in the face if he is still alive in the next 10 yrs,I had a debilitating industrial accident on the ankle on may 28th this year,after surgery and series of surgical debridement I cannot make any move for 2 months,thanks to my wife and lovely children,imagine if you are not married and no kids and you have a serious illness,you will die alone,lonely, frustrated and in despair,your body will rot with maggots smelling before people knows you are dead.

Chief....
You're making assumptions o...
How're you so sure that his uncle will regret it??

I can understand where you're coming from, but I've met people ((rich folks Sha)) who are not thinking of ever getting married, they just pay people to keep them company and have sex with them...

And thank God for your wife and kids, God will bless them...

Hope your ankle is all good now??

Goodlyhrt:
Marriage is good not only for companionship sake but makes one look more responsible.

Therefore someone who is characteristically irresponsible can appear "responsible" by the mere act of getting married? Is that why you'll want to get married? So that you can look responsible?
I guess this is just one of the issues I have with society - especially ours.
Why do people assume that all unmarried men are irresponsible? Doesn't that appear a bit like stereotyping? Or maybe I'm missing something?
Plus, what do people mean by "responsible"?

People perception of you matters a lot like it or not.

I mean, yeah it matters for good social relations. Except when you're slightly asocial like me haha

I am going to marry not that I want to but because the institution is useful in our society.

I mean, I get that it has it's usefulness and benefits but I don't subscribe to the idea that anybody who doesn't wish to be married should be shamed or anything

And I love kids..

Good for you man

Kobojunkie:
So, you want instead to surrender yourself to the foolishness that is the world around and about you?

Pray tell what is foolish about not getting married?
I'd love to hear your take sir

okoroemeka:
that uncle in his 60 not married will be regretting it by now and it will surely strike him full in the face if he is still alive in the next 10 yrs,I had a debilitating industrial accident on the ankle on may 28th this year,after surgery and series of surgical debridement I cannot make any move for 2 months,thanks to my wife and lovely children,imagine if you are not married and no kids and you have a serious illness,you will die alone,lonely, frustrated and in despair,your body will rot with maggots smelling before people knows you are dead.

pardon me but what you are saying doesn't make any sense. You firstly commited a fallacy of false assumption about the ops uncle,you just assumed that since he isn't married he would be regretting which might not be so,not everyone would be like you and also if you didn't have wife's and kids you would still get the help you need. Were you not existing before you had a wife or kids? Were you not having injuries prior to being married and reproducing? Don't just assume things about people because in life we can't all be the same,because someone decides not to get married doesn't mean they would regret anything neither would they not get health care,leave sentiments aside and view thing logically.

okoroemeka:
that uncle in his 60 not married will be regretting it by now

Nah, not really. If anything, I'm crazy jealous of him. I can almost bet that others in the family are actually envious but they're just too scared to admit. He's single, in his 60s, swimming in wealth and having the time of his life. He's one of the few I know who are completely unfazed by social conventions. You can always literally see it in his face. He's got this hilarious childlike and trollish persona which makes it hard to take him serious at times. A textbook definition of the cool uncle. He doesn't ooze regret. He oozes enjoyment and peace of mind.

and it will surely strike him full in the face if he is still alive in the next 10 yrs,I had a debilitating industrial accident on the ankle on may 28th this year,after surgery and series of surgical debridement I cannot make any move for 2 months,thanks to my wife and lovely children

Well that's nice to hear bro but y'all need to understand that happiness is actually subjective. You need people. You need companionship. As weird as it may sound, some people just don't need all that.

,imagine if you are not married and no kids and you have a serious illness,you will die alone,lonely, frustrated and in despair,your body will rot with maggots smelling before people knows you are dead.

I actually don't mind dying alone, so long as I don't die a violent death lol. Plus, me not getting married doesn't mean I can't have meaningful platonic relationships with my closest friends.. duh lol

Tmach137:

Pray tell what is foolish about not getting married?
I'd love to hear your take sir

Who said there is anything foolish about staying single?

Kobojunkie:
Who said there is anything foolish about staying single?

So what then did you imply by "the foolishness of the world"?

Tmach137:

So what then did you imply by "the foolishness of the world"?

My comment was ...

Kobojunkie:
So, you want instead to surrender yourself to the foolishness that is the world around and about you?

Goldbw122:
Companionship is good, there comes Marriage which leads to fruitfulness, So marriage is good, siblings advice about marriage is good I know it is annoying sometimes yeah, but you just have to take the advice, because it will be profitable for you in the long run.

It is the type of relationship that you create between you and your spouse that matter.

Lies, companionship is not needed to live long or enjoy life

Goodlyhrt:
Marriage is good not only for companionship sake but makes one look more responsible.

People perception of you matters a lot like it or not.

I am going to marry not that I want to but because the institution is useful in our society. And I love kids.. It's wonderful being a dad to a great kid that comes from a good home.

My opinion though.

Edited: it'd be fascinating having another copy of me. I want to mould a better me and see what could come out of it.

Mumu man

Lightway:


Mumu man

Why am I getting this insult? Of course I gave an opinion which you are also encouraged to give yours.. Why the insult na.. I offend you? Bros pack well some where abeg

Tmach137:
So my big sis got married early this December and she's my only sibling, so I'm supposed to be the one to carry on the family name as the only son of my dad. Naturally, during the week of my sister's wedding, family members were teasing me about my "future wife" and giving me "hints" for when I want to get married. Some will straight up ask me if I'm seeing anyone and also ask when I plan to get married.
But the thing is, I actually couldn't care less about getting married. To start with, I don't know if I could handle staying with one person my entire life even if I met a girl that I loved and vibed with 100% (and that's a big IF because its not easy for me coming across a girl I really like). I value my freedom, plus I'm not too keen on having to raise kids.

One of my uncles is in his 60s and still unmarried, and because of this, he gets a lot of disrespect from his siblings and even his nephews, despite the fact that he is financially stable and capable, perhaps even moreso than most in our family. Because of this, I try to be careful not to give off any vibes of marriage apathy to my relatives since it seems to be a quick way to attract anger and scorn.

I just don't see what the big deal is with marriage anyways but if you can, please change my mind.

Dude abeg don't let anybody push you into a marriage. If you do not see the need for it please remain single. It is the best strategy.

Tmach137:
So my big sis got married early this December and she's my only sibling, so I'm supposed to be the one to carry on the family name as the only son of my dad. Naturally, during the week of my sister's wedding, family members were teasing me about my "future wife" and giving me "hints" for when I want to get married. Some will straight up ask me if I'm seeing anyone and also ask when I plan to get married.
But the thing is, I actually couldn't care less about getting married. To start with, I don't know if I could handle staying with one person my entire life even if I met a girl that I loved and vibed with 100% (and that's a big IF because its not easy for me coming across a girl I really like). I value my freedom, plus I'm not too keen on having to raise kids.

One of my uncles is in his 60s and still unmarried, and because of this, he gets a lot of disrespect from his siblings and even his nephews, despite the fact that he is financially stable and capable, perhaps even moreso than most in our family. Because of this, I try to be careful not to give off any vibes of marriage apathy to my relatives since it seems to be a quick way to attract anger and scorn.

I just don't see what the big deal is with marriage anyways but if you can, please change my mind.

You may not know it, but this is the wisest decision you've ever made.

If your family members will persistently deride your decision on the matter, then I suggest you move far away from them.

Also watch out for their antics as they'll do anything to bring you into the plantation.

Kobojunkie:
My comment was ...

Come out and say exactly what you mean directly, so I don't misconstrue your posts. Thanks