The rate at which prices increase in Nigeria is alarming. Those that married earlier than covid period would think price of goods were expensive then, but now they will know how far.

I pity young people who are yet to be married especially those who don't earn much. How can they cope with price of things in the market? Even dowry go don put money too...lol


So my elders in the house, mature minds in the house, married folks in the house, please come to our rescue and advice us on how:

1. To be able to survive this economy as it regards to marriage.

2. Secondly, at what age were you married and advice you intend to give young folks for a successful marriage.

I pray things will get better for all of us.

Please share your view guys and ladies.

Thank you and compliments of the season!!!

I'm yet to see a wedding couple who solely took up all the expenses alone. There's always support from family members who have been pestering them to get married no matter the size of the wedding..big, average or small. It is with regard to those supports that the couple should plan thier expenses.

It's only the minority who don't have any family at all. Not that they don't have family members but in their family, everyone is on thier own un-united. It's only such I think this is applicable to.

If you are not earning much do small wedding.
Do palour or compound wedding or church blessing add court wedding join am. No invite more than 50 people.

No award for the best wedding or wedding that pull crowd.

Just get a understandable partner.

4year again na so plenty guys complain tins high but now sha thins don low?

No, a young man can't marry, only old men can.
Oya, next question please.

Oluromantic:
I'm yet to see a wedding couple who solely took up all the expenses alone. There's always support from family members who have been pestering them to get married no matter the size of the wedding..big, average or small. It is with regard to those supports that the couple should plan thier expenses.

It's only the minority who don't have any family at all. Not that they don't have family members but in their family, everyone is on thier own un-united. It's only such I think this is applicable to.

Thank you for your response. I really appreciate it.

Like you said a family that's united will support their own, while a family not united will not show remorse (they will be like did you support me during my own time)

So it's left for the young man to fend for himself according to his budget.

Will committee of friends come to rescue? Last last they may just get 800k max depending on the person.

Will the family of the girl contribute? I don't think so.

May God direct us!

ojun50:
If you are not earning much do small wedding.
Do palour or compound wedding or church blessing add court wedding join am. No invite more than 50 people.

No award for the best wedding or wedding that pull crowd.

Just get a understandable partner.

4year again na so plenty guys complain tins high but now sha thins don low?

My dear, again it depends on the family you are marrying from. Some families are too proud and they don't even have 10kobo.

If we can convince both parties on having a small wedding, then it's cool.

aviona:
No, a young man can't marry, only old men can.
Oya, next question please.

Like Ned Nwoko abi

Ugmama:


Like Ned Nwoko abi

You're are there.

However, many young chaps are getting married every other week. No one says it's all smooth and roses all the way. Just get the right partner, make up your minds, and you both use your heads simple.

Most importantly, a steady stream of 'reasonable' income is a must.

Six of my friends are doing their wedding this January. STAY THERE AND BE ASKING QUESTIONS

aviona:


You're are there.

However, many young chaps are getting married every other week. No one says it's all smooth and roses all the way. Just get the right partner, make up your minds, and you both use your heads simple.

Most importantly, a steady stream of 'reasonable' income is a must.

Definitely, in a country of about 200M people, let's say young men of age are 80M. Married are 20M while unmarried are 60M.

Na just 1 out of 20 dey get married every Saturday o. Lol

Babaken:
Six of my friends are doing their wedding this January. STAY THERE AND BE ASKING QUESTIONS

Congratulations to them and I wish them bliss


What about millions unmarried too?

Ugmama:


Congratulations to them and I wish them bliss


What about millions unmarried too?

A century ago, even far back during the days of the men and women in the holy book, there were many unmarried young and old folks there. So nothing much has changed since then.
The only difference is Social Media, with which you guys keep over stressing and disturbing yourselves over a normal phenomenon.

Those who are destined to get married certainly will. Same way those destined to be single, separated, or divorced.

Point is, it's not really about the economy. Today, some rich folks still live through life unmarried, or at best separated.
Don't be pressured by social media my friend.

Que sera sera, what will be will be.

aviona:


A century ago, even far back during the days of the men and women in the holy book, there were many unmarried young and old folks there. So nothing much has changed since then.
The only difference is Social Media, with which you guys keep over stressing and disturbing yourselves over a normal phenomenon.

Those who are destined to get married certainly will. Same way those destined to be single, separated, or divorced.

Point is, it's not really about the economy. Today, some rich folks still live through life unmarried, or at best separated.
Don't be pressured by social media my friend.

Que sera sera, what will be will be.

Your candid opinion is noted.

No stress no pressure at all believe me.

Na the economy be the problem here.

It's possible....don't just marry someone who can't manage the little resources she have at her disposal

Jidemoo:
It's possible....don't just marry someone who can't manage the little resources she have at her disposal

Thank you so much.

I have understood that marrying a wrong person is the highest mistake one can make in this life.

With the right partner, everything will be stew!

Please how can we get more views by atleast getting this topic on front page.

Who knows how to mention the mods... Abi na only snake enters front page. Lol

Let me try calling them mods

CC: lalasticlala , Mynd44

Please front page

Ugmama:



My dear, again it depends on the family you are marrying from. Some families are too proud and they don't even have 10kobo.

If we can convince both parties on having a small wedding, then it's cool.

Then get a good girl from a good family.(do your investigation )

ojun50:


Then get a good girl from a good family.(do your investigation )

Atimes girl dey good, family fit bad. Lol

But it's true. I've seen family that say their daughter must marry a particular profession.

Daughter insisted she want Mr A who is not from the parents approved occupation list.

Things dey happen o... Things I can't fathom bro

Ugmama:
The rate at which prices increase in Nigeria is alarming. Those that married earlier than covid period would think price of goods were expensive then, but now they will know how far.

I pity young people who are yet to be married especially those who don't earn much. How can they cope with price of things in the market? Even dowry go don put money too...lol


So my elders in the house, mature minds in the house, married folks in the house, please come to our rescue and advice us on how:

1. To be able to survive this economy as it regards to marriage.

2. Secondly, at what age were you married and advice you intend to give young folks for a successful marriage.

I pray things will get better for all of us.

Please share your view guys and ladies.

Thank you and compliments of the season!!!

Marriage is about support. You are getting married to get support and provide support. Find a spouse that believes in this view of marriage and life will become easier. If you have to be established before getting married then your wife is useless. Your wife has to have a hand in your progress and journey to the top and so also you should have a hand in the progress of your wife.

I started with my wife when I dropped out of post grad school and was so broke that I never had more than 30k in my account at any time. She was with me and supported me when I returned to post grad school as difficult as it was. She was there when I was unemployed and roaming the streets of Nasarawa looking for 20k teaching job. Without her assistance I wouldn't have taken my first real job and today we are happily married and doing fine by God's grace.

Marriage is about support. Find a woman you can support and that supports you and your life will be significantly easier.

I wouldn't advise it.

There is nothing to gain from marriage itself especially for a young man from a humble background: double struggle.

It's a bad deal.

Will you die if you don't get married?

Even if you want to, please Get married to a Young virgin and not a Retired PROSTITUTE

Ugmama:


Congratulations to them and I wish them bliss


What about millions unmarried too?

those one's are still waiting for government to increase their salary.

Babaken:
those one's are still waiting for government to increase their salary.

LOL

baba God should pick their call

odinson1:
Will you die if you don't get married?

Even if you want to, please Get married to a Young virgin and not a Retired PROSTITUTE

efficiencie:


Marriage is about support. You are getting married to get support and provide support. Find a spouse that believes in this view of marriage and life will become easier. If you have to be established before getting married then your wife is useless. Your wife has to have a hand in your progress and journey to the top and so also you should have a hand in the progress of your wife.

I started with my wife when I dropped out of post grad school and was so broke that I never had more than 30k in my account at any time. She was with me and supported me when I returned to post grad school as difficult as it was. She was there when I was unemployed and roaming the streets of Nasarawa looking for 20k teaching job. Without her assistance I wouldn't have taken my first real job and today we are happily married and doing fine by God's grace.

Marriage is about support. Find a woman you can support and that supports you and your life will be significantly easier.

Thanks for this wonderful piece bro.

It can only get better

Ugmama:


LOL

baba God should pick their call

amen

Ugmama:


My dear, again it depends on the family you are marrying from. Some families are too proud and they don't even have 10kobo.

If we can convince both parties on having a small wedding, then it's cool.

If they wouldn't accept what you have, you are not compelled to marry from their family. Move on and look for where you are accepted.

GboyegaD:


If they wouldn't accept what you have, you are not compelled to marry from their family. Move on and look for where you are accepted.

What if the lady stands her ground, will you move on?

Ugmama:


What if the lady stands her ground, will you move on?

She standing her grounds means her family will accept what you want. It is about you both and whatever you agree to do is what it should be.

GboyegaD:


She standing her grounds means her family will accept what you want. It is about you both and whatever you agree to do is what it should be.

OK. Thanks

Ugmama:
The rate at which prices increase in Nigeria is alarming. Those that married earlier than covid period would think price of goods were expensive then, but now they will know how far.

I pity young people who are yet to be married especially those who don't earn much. How can they cope with price of things in the market? Even dowry go don put money too...lol


So my elders in the house, mature minds in the house, married folks in the house, please come to our rescue and advice us on how:

1. To be able to survive this economy as it regards to marriage.

2. Secondly, at what age were you married and advice you intend to give young folks for a successful marriage.

I pray things will get better for all of us.

Please share your view guys and ladies.

Thank you and compliments of the season!!!

A young man can still marry in this economy. It is 100% doable.
First off all marriage is not for everyone and not a neccessary and sufficient precondition for happiness, success and all the likes.

That being said, if you want to still marry, take the time to court and know each other very well. Love at first sight is no longer a feasible option.

I courted for more than 5 years and we got to know each other very well before marriage.

First of all, you must have a good job, your own a accomodation and a always strive to improve yourself.
Next, don't marry a liability or somebody who don't get their shits together. Either you are doing good or have an action plan to get your shits together. No middle ground. Love, faith will dissapear when kids and sufferness starts.
Pardon my engrish!

Number three, family planning immediately after marriage is very important.

Absolutely no kids for the next three years to enable planning combining of incomes, upgrading certificates, maybe getting that masters degree or completing a professional certification, learning a trade, planning for a business e.t.c.

At this stage, you are going to come under a lot of pressure from family members and friends. You and your spouse will have to take a firm stand. No bringing in kids without planning how to provide for them.
Next, prioritize your family over extended family members, you can only be in a better position to help family members if you are very successful yourself.

The same goes for your wife and of course all the above must have been exhaustively discussed and agreed upon in advance during courtship.


I married at 27 and the economy was way better back then.

Of course with good planning, you can can still marry under this economy

Compliment of the season folks.!

I am of the view that,if u must marry,marry someone that adds value to the home. Not a lazy chap that would sit at home and be eating gbegiri and ewedu or ofe olubu and pounder yam...u see this kind woman go take u close to hell on earth under this Buhari govt except u are a rich man or perhaps,u have an inheritance awaiting u.

But if not,marry an asset and how do u know them,from their utterances u will know their future,but do not forget to marry your friend also. It is important in marriage.

For me I got married at the age of 32 and thank god I did,in fact,things were a little better compare to what we have today.
How I planned my wedding was fantastic such that I planned it for a year and followed it arithmetical to the latter.
The money I saved for four months was used to plan everything on the list including the dowry that is,from Jan to April and from Aparil down Dec 26th I had paid for chairs,canopies,photographers,foods,caterers and all rental,wedding cards and on the day of my wedding,there was nothing left to spend money on because I had sent money to everyone involved from May down to Nov according to my book record.

So,it was smooth ride on my wedding day and I was glad the way it all went. I still have the note book where I wrote everything down even after 6years of marriage.

That to say,planning is good...it makes big money look small if u can plan according to good budgeting.