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Counting down to the New Year and a New Age with so much tension coming in especially seeing photos of beautifully designed invitation cards, pre-wedding photos and wedding ceremonies flying up and down the social media space, it is definitely normal to feel awkward as to come in terms with fact that you are going into the new year...Single!

Once you are approaching your late twenties,counting down to 30, in your thirties and approaching late thirties, there seems to be this pressure about relationships and marriage from all angles.

There was this lady I knew that swore not to get to 30 without being married. She prayed, fasted and said anyone that came that period was the one. Boom! someone way below her expectations came and because she didn't want to cross into 30, she gave in!

There are others who are pressured from homes. Yes, parents and siblings are constantly making reminders of how many relatives and friends' marriages they have attended and also counting your childhood friends and how many children they have gotten.

Worst still is when you are officially the last person in your friends group.This could really be depressing especially going on a trip with everyone and questions like, "when should we be ready?" "why ain't you giving us a date yet?"

Becoming 30 and single, there is anxiety, fear and panic at the thought you are still single especially when all your same-age friends have gotten married and disappeared seamlessly with their life.

But honestly, this stage comes with self-exploring, self discovery and actualization. Your experience and confidence has grown and choices can be made on your own terms.

When you find yourself asking this question " How did it happen?" Just know that a different "New" you is to be revealed.

A new path and discovery needs to be carved out. This is a period to sit back and give yourself time to focus on "You". Look at the positive aspect of it. Do you know how many divorces happen each day? Do you know how many women are crying in marriages because they didn't discover themselves before going in?

Now at 30, you are more mature, understand how to prioritise things, understand the difference between infatuation, sex and love, less reckless, understand space and optimize opportunities. All these allow for the possibility of totally transforming your life without having to consider what anyone else in your life wants or needs.

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Culled from ~Thirty, Above and Single
© Tonbari Mene

Hmmm, interesting.