There is this girl I met around July(first week)..
She picked interest in me all of a sudden..so I reciprocated same interests...then we started talking she requested to know where I stay which I brought her to my place eventually..
I was wondering what will make her sudden interest in me and I wanted to ask her why the interest but my friend advised me not to do so that it sounds somehow to her..
This girl was being romantic to me in words and actions which I wasn't comfortable because I am not in a relationship with her we just recently knew each other..the first time she came to my place I couldn't entertained her because I was writing exams and my mind is so into my books...so I decided to postpone it after my exams I will invite her proper proper... when I finally invited her she was giving me excuses like kind of playing me...all this didn't got me..what got me is,...
I asked her if she is in a relationship she never replied me�..she stays along my street. I haven't seen her in my compound before and I don't know her before she approaching me was the first day I noticed her presence in my neighborhood
We talked about personal things about me and I discovered she is kinda secretive she never talked about herself more when asked direct question
This girl, I am not dating her.the most annoying thing to me is why is she romantic to me but in words and actions that is what makes me asked her position...my friends told me that with time she will reveal herself
Note: I don't relate with girls at this level ooO. except there is something going on already
What breaks the Carmels back.... I discovered that she is a random bitch, that flocks around the guys in my street.. surprising to me I was on my way out I say her with a guy in our street discussing. Immediatly she saw me she discharged the guy immediatly.. another day with the guy she saw me before I could come close she disappeared...
Now I am seeing her with another guy.... this girl get mine fa ..�
What does she take me for Am option??
Mhen I didn't relate with random bitches at relationship level
I have no choice but to ex- communicate/block her from this platform and also delete her digit.
I have forgotten about this girl but she keeps on sending me messages,,,,,I started ignoring her messages since September,,
Anytime we see in our street and greeted she will say she is not fine.when I asked why she replied it is because she don't use to see me
Another time we saw and greeted...when I asked how she was doing she said she is not fine,,,, I asked why she replied "we need to talk" "we really need to talk"
This word "we need to talk" are mostly used by people in a relationship,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,....
She requested to come to my house let's talk,, but I didnt let it happen. I told her we will fix a day so we can talk...... Since then we have not talked.
She travelled for Xmas,,,, when she comes back we will have that conversation
I need your advice nairaland

Seriously leave her cos you don't deserve her..from your speech of words as an alien relationship expert that I am it's easy to point out that you are a dictative boyfriend..you can't control yourself and respect her when you see her around a man really speaks a lot about you...
Most of you shouldn't be in a relationship to be sincere..

What do you need advice for .you are not in relationship with her or do you want to get free std

leave girls alone and face your books,Before u invest your emotion in a girl be sure if she assurely want you..

FernandezPablo:
Seriously leave her cos you don't deserve her..from your speech of words as an alien relationship expert that I am it's easy to point out that you are a dictative boyfriend..you can't control yourself and respect her when you see her around a man really speaks a lot about you...
Most of you shouldn't be in a relationship to be sincere..

My brother you are not analyzing me ,,I am not a dictative boyfriend,,,,,,,,,,all I need was for her to defined our relationship,,,,I don't want to be in a friend zone, Situationship relationship,,,,,,,I don't want someone to play with my feeling that is it,,,,,,,,I cannot dictate for her,,,,I just need her to be honest that's all,,, and by the way I don't make friends like that the way she approached me. It looks like she is a flirter

tayewomi:
leave girls alone and face your books,Before u invest your emotion in a girl be sure if she assurely want you..

Well said,,,,that is y I wanted to be sure

[quote author=DHaran post=108991315] There is this girl I met around July(first week)..
She picked interest in me all of a sudden..so I reciprocated same interests...


Childish Drama

DHaran:


My brother you are not analyzing me ,,I am not a dictative boyfriend,,,,,,,,,,all I need was for her to defined our relationship,,,,I don't want to be in a friend zone, Situationship relationship,,,,,,,I don't want someone to play with my feeling that is it,,,,,,,,I cannot dictate for her,,,,I just need her to be honest that's all,,, and by the way I don't make friends like that the way she approached me. It looks like she is a flirter

Then you need to chill.. relationship doesn't work that way..you have to understand her.. ignoring her won't do no good aiit..

FernandezPablo:

Then you need to chill.. relationship doesn't work that way..you have to understand her.. ignoring her won't do no good aiit..

Well said maybe it is because I don't understand her
Yeah that is the reason for the talk,,I don't really understand her...
And I will tell her when we actually talk that I do not understand her,,,

DHaran:

Well said maybe it is because I don't understand her
Yeah that is the reason for the talk,,I don't really understand her...
And I will tell her when we actually talk that I do not understand her,,,

Also she might have been abused like sexually maybe that's why she's been secretive..
If you love her go for it..

[quote author=Nozino post=108991823][/quote]
How ? I just have to express my self

My brother, don't complicate things for yourself this new year

Face your studies

FernandezPablo:

Also she might have been abused like sexually maybe that's why she's been secretive..
If you love her go for it..

Yes I do love her,,,,I just needed her to be honest that's all... that is why I asked her if she is in a relationship

DHaran:

Yes I do love her,,,,I just needed her to be honest that's all... that is why I asked her if she is in a relationship

helinues:
My brother, don't complicate things for yourself this new year

Face your studies

My studies is very important than anything for now o

Young man, I will advice you to focus on yourself and studies for now and stay clear away from 'em daughters of Jezebel

FernandezPablo:
Seriously leave her cos you don't deserve her..from your speech of words as an alien relationship expert that I am it's easy to point out that you are a dictative boyfriend..you can't control yourself and respect her when you see her around a man really speaks a lot about you...
Most of you shouldn't be in a relationship to be sincere..

You are definitely a lady. You are not gay.

I wish everyone can be like me that sees people and situation without seeing gender.
From his narration he is a fragile human that is afraid of being in a relationship with a girl that will not be into him.
He is mostly interested to make it right, to get a true love without making mistake. He is afraid of reading signal wrong. So he is very cautious to terminate anything that will trigger that, as he is in doubt.
He is fragile. Nobody should deserve anybody. Stop objectifying people.
Let me give you a little secret
Relationship is all about interest, though some people says it's transactional, if you have no interest in someone no need to lead the person on again.

sorority11:

You are definitely a lady. You are not gay.

I wish everyone can be like me that sees people and situation without seeing gender.
From his narration he is a fragile human that is afraid of being in a relationship with a girl that will not be into him.
He is mostly interested to make it right, to get a true love without making mistake. He is afraid of reading signal wrong. So he is very cautious to terminate anything that will trigger that, as he is in doubt.
He is fragile. Nobody should deserve anybody. Stop objectifying people.
Let me give you a little secret
Relationship is all about interest, though some people says it's transactional, if you have no interest in someone no need to lead the person on again.

You might be right and I might be wrong..
I might be right and you might be wrong..

sorority11:

You are definitely a lady. You are not gay.

I wish everyone can be like me that sees people and situation without seeing gender.
From his narration he is a fragile human that is afraid of being in a relationship with a girl that will not be into him.
He is mostly interested to make it right, to get a true love without making mistake. He is afraid of reading signal wrong. So he is very cautious to terminate anything that will trigger that, as he is in doubt.
He is fragile. Nobody should deserve anybody. Stop objectifying people.
Let me give you a little secret
Relationship is all about interest, though some people says it's transactional, if you have no interest in someone no need to lead the person on again.

You are a wise man,,,,,,,,, you are blessed with understanding,,, GOD bless you greatly...
You just said exactly how I am feeling, you express me in your write-up,,,,.

DHaran:
There is this girl I met around July(first week)..
She picked interest in me all of a sudden..so I reciprocated same interests...then we started talking she requested to know where I stay which I brought her to my place eventually..
I was wondering what will make her sudden interest in me and I wanted to ask her why the interest but my friend advised me not to do so that it sounds somehow to her..
This girl was being romantic to me in words and actions which I wasn't comfortable because I am not in a relationship with her we just recently knew each other..the first time she came to my place I couldn't entertained her because I was writing exams and my mind is so into my books...so I decided to postpone it after my exams I will invite her proper proper... when I finally invited her she was giving me excuses like kind of playing me...all this didn't got me..what got me is,...
I asked her if she is in a relationship she never replied me�..she stays along my street. I haven't seen her in my compound before and I don't know her before she approaching me was the first day I noticed her presence in my neighborhood
We talked about personal things about me and I discovered she is kinda secretive she never talked about herself more when asked direct question
This girl, I am not dating her.the most annoying thing to me is why is she romantic to me but in words and actions that is what makes me asked her position...my friends told me that with time she will reveal herself
Note: I don't relate with girls at this level ooO. except there is something going on already
What breaks the Carmels back.... I discovered that she is a random bitch, that flocks around the guys in my street.. surprising to me I was on my way out I say her with a guy in our street discussing. Immediatly she saw me she discharged the guy immediatly.. another day with the guy she saw me before I could come close she disappeared...
Now I am seeing her with another guy.... this girl get mine fa ..�
What does she take me for Am option??
Mhen I didn't relate with random bitches at relationship level
I have no choice but to ex- communicate/block her from this platform and also delete her digit.
I have forgotten about this girl but she keeps on sending me messages,,,,,I started ignoring her messages since September,,
Anytime we see in our street and greeted she will say she is not fine.when I asked why she replied it is because she don't use to see me
Another time we saw and greeted...when I asked how she was doing she said she is not fine,,,, I asked why she replied "we need to talk" "we really need to talk"
This word "we need to talk" are mostly used by people in a relationship,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,....
She requested to come to my house let's talk,, but I didnt let it happen. I told her we will fix a day so we can talk...... Since then we have not talked.
She travelled for Xmas,,,, when she comes back we will have that conversation
I need your advice nairaland

But since you guys have not started dating, why do you have issues seeing her with guys?

olamoses75:
But since you guys have not started dating, why do you have issues seeing her with guys?

I don't have issues seeing her with guys..
I asked her if she is in a relationship just to know her stand,,, because I was interested in her she didn't give me reply.
I am not a jealous type..I relate with people fine.
Seeing her with other guys doing that same romantic shit makes me feel she wants to friend zone me or have a Situationship relationship with me....I don't want to be in that kind of relationship..at least she would have been honest with me.... please read up sorority11 write-up it expresses how I feel ...

I am just laughing . I swear that girl is highly manipulative. If you don't have sense, you won't understand. Guy, it's a bait, don't fall for it. Focus on your books.

olamoses75:
But since you guys have not started dating, why do you have issues seeing her with guys?

If she had told me her stand that she was in a relationship, I would have just moved away....

I actually don't relate with girls the way she is relating to me... and I don't pretend too

bigcee:
I am just laughing . I swear that girl is highly manipulative. If you don't have sense, you won't understand. Guy, it's a bait, don't fall for it. Focus on your books.

I understand and I have taught about her being manipulative and me used as a bait..
That was when I started ignoring her messages.

From ur post
* the girl is street girl and she is not stringy with her cookie
*you are a type who classified urself from street urchins
* unfortunately you and street boys stay in same hood.

I will advice you to let go of her, and keep ur status and respect in the neighborhood (for disappearing whenever she sees u coming even though ,she is midst of street boys, give credence to it)

If you insist and go ahead to dig her generous hole, the high scale she still puts you for now would be lowered to level of street urchins, hope you know the outcome!

She’s has an STD so be safe with her

She needs a guy who she can financially leech from.

She’s giving her pussy to every guy in your street.

DHaran:
There is this girl I met around July(first week)..
She picked interest in me all of a sudden..so I reciprocated same interests...then we started talking she requested to know where I stay which I brought her to my place eventually..
I was wondering what will make her sudden interest in me and I wanted to ask her why the interest but my friend advised me not to do so that it sounds somehow to her..
This girl was being romantic to me in words and actions which I wasn't comfortable because I am not in a relationship with her we just recently knew each other..the first time she came to my place I couldn't entertained her because I was writing exams and my mind is so into my books...so I decided to postpone it after my exams I will invite her proper proper... when I finally invited her she was giving me excuses like kind of playing me...all this didn't got me..what got me is,...
I asked her if she is in a relationship she never replied me�..she stays along my street. I haven't seen her in my compound before and I don't know her before she approaching me was the first day I noticed her presence in my neighborhood
We talked about personal things about me and I discovered she is kinda secretive she never talked about herself more when asked direct question
This girl, I am not dating her.the most annoying thing to me is why is she romantic to me but in words and actions that is what makes me asked her position...my friends told me that with time she will reveal herself
Note: I don't relate with girls at this level ooO. except there is something going on already
What breaks the Carmels back.... I discovered that she is a random bitch, that flocks around the guys in my street.. surprising to me I was on my way out I say her with a guy in our street discussing. Immediatly she saw me she discharged the guy immediatly.. another day with the guy she saw me before I could come close she disappeared...
Now I am seeing her with another guy.... this girl get mine fa ..�
What does she take me for Am option??
Mhen I didn't relate with random bitches at relationship level
I have no choice but to ex- communicate/block her from this platform and also delete her digit.
I have forgotten about this girl but she keeps on sending me messages,,,,,I started ignoring her messages since September,,
Anytime we see in our street and greeted she will say she is not fine.when I asked why she replied it is because she don't use to see me
Another time we saw and greeted...when I asked how she was doing she said she is not fine,,,, I asked why she replied "we need to talk" "we really need to talk"
This word "we need to talk" are mostly used by people in a relationship,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,....
She requested to come to my house let's talk,, but I didnt let it happen. I told her we will fix a day so we can talk...... Since then we have not talked.
She travelled for Xmas,,,, when she comes back we will have that conversation
I need your advice nairaland

DHaran:

I don't have issues seeing her with guys..
I asked her if she is in a relationship just to know her stand,,, because I was interested in her she didn't give me reply.
I am not a jealous type..I relate with people fine.
Seeing her with other guys doing that same romantic shit makes me feel she wants to friend zone me or have a Situationship relationship with me....I don't want to be in that kind of relationship..at least she would have been honest with me.... please read up sorority11 write-up it expresses how I feel ...

You don't have issues seeing her with random guys, yet you quickly excommunicated her when you saw her with street guys.

Hope you know the meaning of excommunicated human being?

op go and read Proverbs Chapter 7. Especially from verse 7 to the end

Mennnnnnnn, like seriously, relationship matters ain't for the faint-hearted men like us op...... Sometimes, it'll do one party more good than harm to know where he/she stands in a relationship so as to move on with his/her life instead of wasting his/her time thinking it'd someday work out . Cus unfortunately,las las,such relationships doesn't really end well..

Face your damn studies young lad, and “we need to talk” isn’t a word it’s a sentence. You need to really face your studies man.