I'd like to share my ordeal with you guys, I'll be as brief as I can.
A little flashback to five years ago,I couldn't marry the love of my life due to parental issues,one that she herself told me not to get married to her for my safety and that of my family's. On the other hand, my other girlfriend had gotten pregnant for me though I was aware she didn't love me neither did I love her that much but there I was thinking that the pregnancy and probably wealth will make everything subtle and hopefully grow the love in the marriage as time goes by. I married my pregnant girlfriend and we started our family together,,,things were perfect at first but as time went by, just like every other couple,we had our ups and downs, nothing a little time and a few apologies here and there won't fix,yes?
Out of many other challenges we had, I recall one of which she was consistently talking to an Ex both on phone,on WhatsApp, on Instagram,,,and honestly it didn't exactly bother me but I guess it did.
After a serious altercation,she packed up to her parents house with my kids,,this is like four years after....after a while she came back,,, honestly I didn't care much.
Now like a year later,,, we've been fine and living happily, we even relocated to another area of her choice,things were just about perfect.
I forgot to mention I work some months in and some months out,,,,sometimes a few weeks in and a few weeks out,, so this December I just came home to meet my family and spend Christmas with my family only to meet my house empty,,,I walked into a house with just couch and a single bed in a house of four well furnished bedrooms and a sitting room.
Apparently my wife had rented another apartment elsewhere and emailed me divorce papers.
Please family this is my first time posting on this platform.
My friend is in need of sincere advice on how to proceed, before he does something he would regret.

NB: This is not made up.

Ok

Sorry.

Had it been that u didn't marry her, she would av been disturbing your marriage that u abandoned her with your child.

Inside life.....

Lol... Your caption "fear women", yet you aint scared of your mum and sisters.

Well, tell your friend sorry, pele. He should move on, simple as ABC.

Another wahala

He has himself to blame. He knew she didn't love him and that he didn't love her either, yet he proceeded with the marriage because of her wealth. If the love isn't there before marriage, it won't magically appear during marriage.

Animegirl:
Lol... Your caption "fear women", yet you aint scared of your mum and sisters.

Well, tell your friend sorry, pele. He should move on, simple as ABC.

When we say fear women, we are talking about majority of them not all, because i know their are still good women out there. So it would be ok if we look pass the caption and face the matter at hand

Most women offer no good returns in marriage..marriage is a risky venture in the long run.

99.9999999% of evils in the world are caused by MEN, they are everywhere causing havoc and great catastrophe every single day, we have not seen any lady screaming at the top of her voice saying "fear men", yet the ejaculating gender will keep wailing, shouting their lungs out, and pouring spittle about saying "fear women" when it comes to relationships and marriages, as if women marry themselves, as if the husbands are blameless,

Look at the case of Op, he married someone that he didn't love, isn't bothered when they have a misunderstanding and she leaves, isn't bothered when she comes back, but is surprisingly bothered when she takes almost everything and files for divorce, talk about a fool knowing he is a fool but refusing to believe he is a fool, talk about living in denial of the inevitable, yet surprised the inevitable happened, and in all these, not once did he mention his own fault, instead, he thinks categorising all women as one by saying "fear women" and painting his wife as the villian will make his reality go away, stupid sets of things,

You guys can keep springing up threads upon threads castigating women if it makes you feel better, when you're done, you will all face your harsh reality.

She has probably gone to be with that ex.. women and the way they think ehnn.

The one that married her does not know how to make her smile anymore while the one that likely abandoned her in the past is her new craving.

@OP Tell the guy to get a lawyer to guide him with the divorce process.. he must demand for custody of his kids. (a MUST) or at least shared custody else the woman will poison their minds to hate him for life.
At this point, he has no wife again i.e. he is single but has kids.. Let him know that and know peace

The initial mistake that you made was letting her back into your life after she left the first time...."No matter what,do not accept a woman who left you without a just course back into your life"

Well,I ain't no legal practitioner tho I used to work as a secretary under one as at 9 years ago...But let's just wait for the legal gurus of nairaland republic to come and do justice to your case

I guess this is the new Trend...Here in Warri..Similar act happened to someone too.

Biglittlelois:
99.9999999% of evils in the world are caused by MEN, they are everywhere causing havoc and great catastrophe every single day, we have not seen any lady screaming at the top of her voice that "fear men", yet the ejaculating gender will keep wailing, shouting their lungs out, and pouring spittle about that "fear women" when it comes to relationships and marriages, as if women marry themselves, as if the husbands are blameless,

Look at the case of Op, he married someone that he didn't love, isn't bothered when they have a misunderstanding and she leaves, isn't bothered when she comes back, but is surprisingly bothered when she takes almost everything and files for divorce, talk about a fool knowing he is a fool but refusing to believe he is a fool, talk about living in denial of the inevitable, yet surprised the inevitable happened, and in all these, not once did he mention his own fault, instead, he thinks categorising all women as one by saying "fear women" and painting his wife as the villian will make his reality go away, stupid sets of things,

You guys can keep springing up threads upon threads castigating women if it makes you feel better, when you're done, you will all face your harsh reality.

Well said my dear... You nailed it

L E T


HER


GO!

But make sure you don't accept her back If ( they always do ) she tries to come back to your life.
Do this and I guarantee you will have peace of mind

Biglittlelois:
99.9999999% of evils in the world are caused by MEN, they are everywhere causing havoc and great catastrophe every single day, we have not seen any lady screaming at the top of her voice saying "fear men", yet the ejaculating gender will keep wailing, shouting their lungs out, and pouring spittle about saying "fear women" when it comes to relationships and marriages, as if women marry themselves, as if the husbands are blameless,

Look at the case of Op, he married someone that he didn't love, isn't bothered when they have a misunderstanding and she leaves, isn't bothered when she comes back, but is surprisingly bothered when she takes almost everything and files for divorce, talk about a fool knowing he is a fool but refusing to believe he is a fool, talk about living in denial of the inevitable, yet surprised the inevitable happened, and in all these, not once did he mention his own fault, instead, he thinks categorising all women as one by saying "fear women" and painting his wife as the villian will make his reality go away, stupid sets of things,

You guys can keep springing up threads upon threads castigating women if it makes you feel better, when you're done, you will all face your harsh reality.

Fear women.

Let her go! Thank GOD she did not kill you. Change the locks of the house! And let bygones, be bygones!

Well... From the way you kept saying you didn't care about this, you didn't care about that, It shows something was amiss in your marriage or its not that important to you anymore so you prolly weren't giving it your best.
It's possible she also noticed you didn't care what she did anymore and so decided to take a bow out of your life.

You know deep down how youve been treating her and the marriage that made her take such decision. Your shuttling between inside and outside Lagos too could have further put a strain on your marriage and made her fed up of the whole thing..

I am so sorry for what ur friend is going thru right now.....All I will say is just be there for him because he will really need u in dis trying times....

Mercychen:
Well... From the way you kept saying you didn't care about this, you didn't care about that, It shows something was amiss in your marriage or its not that important to you anymore so you prolly weren't giving it your best.
It's possible she also noticed you didn't care what she did anymore and so decided to take a bow out of your life.

You know deep down how youve been treating her and the marriage that made her take such decision. Your shuttling between inside and outside Lagos too could have further put a strain on your marriage and made her fed up of the whole thing..

looooooooool always looking for a way to absolve the woman of any blame.....Weh done o

ElijahIme1992:
looooooooool always looking for a way to absolve the woman of any blame.....Weh done o

Not so. From the history of their relationship, it's obvious they never had a thing for each other hence their attitude towards the marriage and its eventual packup.

Mercychen:


Not so. From the history of their relationship, it's obvious they never had a thing for each other hence their attitude towards the marriage and its eventual packup.

Well, like I said on the other thread ppl just jump into marriages now adays with out seeking the mind of God....

Invadermartin1:

Apparently my wife had rented another apartment elsewhere and emailed me divorce papers.
Please family this is my first time posting on this platform.

We are not mind readers here, so your friend needs to ask his wife what went wrong.

Abeg I dey look for Sapphiere...e Don teh I see her comments....abi the future no be female again?

Invadermartin1:
When we say fear women, we are talking about majority of them not all, because i know their are still good women out there. So it would be ok if we look pass the caption and face the matter at hand

Your friend probably knows why his wife moved on but refuses to divulge that aspect of the story for shame or lack of trust. You are best asking him for that information instead of assuming the woman is to blame.

If I has a nickel for everytime a friend came bearing an unbelievable tale of how he did no wrong, only for me to find out much later that it was all his fault to begin with, I would be rich by now.

Animegirl:
Lol... Your caption "fear women", yet you aint scared of your mum and sisters.

Well, tell your friend sorry, pele. He should move on, simple as ABC.

Oh my! this is the most retrrded reply i have come across on Nairaland so far.

When people say fear women or men are scum, its not to generalize for an entire gender. Merely a statement of fact that we have really really bad people among us .

Kobojunkie:
Your friend probably knows why his wife moved on but refuses to divulge that aspect of the story for shame or lack of trust. You are best asking him for that information instead of assuming the woman is to blame.

If I has a nickel for everytime a friend came bearing an unbelievable tale of how he did no wrong, only for me to find out much later that it was all his fault to begin with, I would be rich by now.

You seriously need to check your friend circle bro if they are Perpetua lairs as you have described.

She tricked you
Green snake under green grass

Oga, if those properties are in you name, go and collect them..

Leonyluiz:
You seriously need to check your friend circle bro if they are Perpetua lairs as you have described.

Many people are just that, perpetual liars, and society even recognizes some of them as being highly skilled - the ability to spin stories in such a way as to shift blame onto others- but you may not even realize it.

What did I just read.

How una dey take dey read people post finish?
E no dey gree me




What a Bombshell

Kobojunkie:
Many people are just that, perpetual liars, and society even recognizes some of them as being highly skilled - the ability to spin stories in such a way as to shift blame onto others- but you may not even realize it.

I agree.