bigpicture001:


Y don't I believe u.. I 100% know it's not cuz of extra mouth to feed .. it just dat feeling of having your right to privacy and ur early dissatisfaction with thier presence....

See nobody wants to b a pest to another..but trust me sh is family,when u stat to see. Her as one,sh can even become ur best friend and gist mate...I also inconvenience my inlaw at their early stage of marriage...

In our own.. my younger sis lives with them and I also came and joined in a two bedroom flat.. where the guy is a struggling lawyer..... Famiy house is even worse off sef..I felt discomfort being there myself,but at the time..I don't havve a. Choice...but the inlaw for once. Never even frowned...

I incurred a big expense on them sef living there as I had a bike accident and broke my femur and he got a loan of 400k to pay for my surgery...

I will always remember and. Love them cuz of the extra live they showed me...this happened about 10years ago

Guess what just last week my inlaw had his own accident and broke his tibia... I sent in 200k in support of the surgery.. that is. What family is about... We look out for ourselves, nuclear or extended

when you are there for a good reason the wife will love you even if ur presence inconvenience them she will understand.
but u see those in- laws who are there as entitlement.
Who feels this is my brother's house and l can do anything.they disrespect u at Will especially if d husband didn't create boundaries.

Emma2Seconds:
Visiting ones son or brother is now a crime after marriage Abii?? 99.9 percent of you ladies are very deadly and wicked .

Our last born who has been coming to my house every holiday,l pay for every expenses to come and cool off bc he stays in domitory way back in 2010.

He will beat his nephew like say they are his mate l told him this boys are ur children and my brother said l support them and was talking back at me.

I couldn't believe it,when l called my mum that l am putting him in d first bus the next morning
she told me" my daughter please forgive him"that the boarding is making him behave anyhow.

That is my brother o
If it is another they will not believe me and they will say l don't like my in- laws

Na our last wee l no take play be that o.


Some women can be mean l agree but u see some in-laws are from another planet.

My husband created boundaries
He will always tell me " don't start what u can't finish".
This in- laws issues depends on the family.

It's a good idea

Benbisco:
I believe you are still married to her brother even if he is abroad so asking her to leave is not the best.

Just try your best to continue to accommodate her and her shenanigans. Pray for grace to overlook some of the things she does, though it will not be easy.

Show her love but know your boundaries. One day she will either move out on her own or change her ways.

Honestly I understand what this OP I
Is passing through. Some people will not understand the way some in-laws behavior if you are a good sister in-law or brother in-law then you have no problem living with me.
There are some in-laws that have a rubbish entitlement mentality is our brother's house so we will do anything we like and the wife have no say about it. The truth is that if you are good to your brother's wife respect her as you respect your brother do what you are supposed to do in the house then no sane person will want you out excerpt the person is bad naturally.

My sister's husband people have some kinda rubbish entitlement mentality after all is our brother's house we will do what we like and get away with it. Grown ups that don't hustle always seeing their brother as their bank. He is the second son in a family of 8 but he is the one that caters for all of them matured men and women even the children of his sister's that gave birth at home. Those sisters always condemning and giving commands on how things will be in their brother's house and life. Every week they will be jumping to their brother's house stay for sometime and you know the worst of it they eat like gluttons they can eat a whole pot of food on one sitting they will go to my sister's pot with her consent to dish food even park almost all the meat in the pot you can imagine such people living in the same house with your wife in your absence.

This is why courtship is very important, because in courtship all this will be discussed. Well you just have to set boundaries between you and your husband sister.

It's shouldn't have gotten to this extent privacy really matters.. take it from me..that have experienced it from both ends.. ur husband in the first place shouldn't have allowed this.. people saying you want to turn him against his family don't understand the importance of privacy as a couple.. to me she's just an agent from his family side... She's doing exactly what she was told to do... Ur husband really is the one at fault here.. honestly he is man... His No should be His No... He is a family man now.. his family comes first.... Except he is still a mommy's boy... I can't even Imagine a third party with my girlfriend is around.. talkless of when we now marry.... Our company is enough for both of us.. if i want to mix up with people.. i will travel.. a mini flat for that matter not even a duplex or 3bedroom flat.. if ur husband keeps treating the issue like he is doing.. nothing will change...and don't tell her anything or make any direct approach of sort... it's not your mistake to correct... It will only make his whole family rebel against you.. ur pressure should be on ur husband to handle it.. if he had handled it earlier.. it won't have gotten to this level.. He is a man... He has to learn and understand how his decisions impacts on you... So the solution to this ur problem lies with him...

Olarhhh:
I and my husband live in a mini flat (a room and parlor self contain) and since the very day we got the place early last year, his younger brother has been living with us because he fought with their father and my husband told him to come over to his place (we weren't married then but live together) so he continued living with us till he went to school last year November, and we were both happy that we can finally have our own privacy.

Meanwhile my husband has a very nosy family, different family member keep coming to visit Everytime and spending up to 2 weeks until I change attitude to them and make them leave.

Fast forward to December, a month after his brother left, the parents called to let his sister move with us, hubby declined but his family won't budge so he accepted.

Now hubby has travelled abroad and the sister wouldn't leave, I don't know what to do, she doesn't do anything here and she's rude. I want her to leave, I've tried stopping all the comfort she enjoys when her brother was around.

Please help

Because her brother had traveled abroad, she must leave? I am suspecting u. U r nothing but a cheat. U want her out so u could bring in a man and start promiscuity?

U don't feel save with her because u don't have d privacy 2 cheat? Why didn't u feel same when hubby was around? Madam, u have 2 let that lady be.

Apply wisdom in dealing with the situation, so it wouldn't backfire one day.

So she can’t go out and cheat, even when her husband is around. Is It a most to bring her lover home.
You haven’t meet people who enjoy throwing insults on people that did them no harm.
Example, imagine you are her sister in-law, you are already calling her a cheat, inside her house, you don’t even have an evidence., it’s painful.

bekpo:



Because her brother had traveled abroad, she must leave? I am suspecting u. U r nothing but a cheat. U want her out so u could bring in a man and start promiscuity?

U don't feel save with her because u don't have d privacy 2 cheat? Why didn't u feel same when hubby was around? Madam, u have 2 let that lady be.

bekpo:



Because her brother had traveled abroad, she must leave? I am suspecting u. U r nothing but a cheat. U want her out so u could bring in a man and start promiscuity?

U don't feel save with her because u don't have d privacy 2 cheat? Why didn't u feel same when hubby was around? Madam, u have 2 let that lady be.

A full blown adult who should have her own life to live, going to live with another woman and a child who lives in a space of 2 rooms, in order to be the "security" and you want me to believe she is mentally okay?

Mindlog:


A full blown adult who should have her own life to live, going to live with another woman and a child who lives in a space of 2 rooms, in order to be the "security" and you want me to believe she is mentally okay?

That woman is a suspect, for her 2 want a space when d hubby is away is a suspect. That's what they do when their hubby traveled out of d country, they bring in another man.

In another news, d youngman got d brother's wife pregnant while d brother had traveled outside d country. The twice sex with d cousin's wife produced pregnancy d wicked woman refused 2 terminate.

If it where d hubby's brother, i wouldn't bother, but a fellow woman, haba? It's suspicious fa.

bekpo:


That woman is a suspect, for her 2 want a space when d hubby is away is a suspect. That's what they do when their hubby traveled out of d country, they bring in another man.

In another news, d youngman got d brother's wife pregnant while d brother had traveled outside d country. The twice sex with d cousin's wife produced pregnancy d wicked woman refused 2 terminate.

If it where d hubby's brother, i wouldn't bother, but a fellow woman, haba? It's suspicious fa.

Is she collecting monthly salary from "monitoring" her brother's wife or will she follow her about, when she goes out?

234GT:



2 weeks dey turn to 2 years baba. It is only greed that will make a guy or lady leave her parents house and stay with a married sibling.

not at all.....anyone coming would informed on what's on ground that it's two weeks. There is no shying or saying i can't say it her or him. That person will be told the blunt truth in the beginning so that later it wouldn't be a problem. No one from the family of the man or woman should have the right to come say it's my brother's house or sister's house or he's my son or daughter's house. Of your brother or sister or son is married, leave them to enjoy their marriage jare.

She has a family too, how would their home and marriage be if her family members also start turning up?
Apply your number 6 na. The couple has their family now, they should be left to forge their lives in peace.

viceddy95:
How which she was your sister, will you do same thing to her even though she spends years there..
No single respect for your husband's family

Madam make peace with your in-laws, don't come to social media looking for support in the name of advice....

Your husband just traveled abroad and you want to start turning him against his family already...

greenie77:


Is she collecting monthly salary from "monitoring" her brother's wife or will she follow her about, when she goes out?

U r also a suspect!

Emma2Seconds:
Your Talking Trash There's Nothing Like Feeling Entitled. Most of You women Are Wolf in sheep clothing.

That qualifies the women around you!

No woman is around me ok . Am just telling you Unah nature and attitude ok

delpee:


That qualifies the women around you!

I FEEL YOUR PAIN MY SISTER I UNDERSTAND WITH YOU.

viceddy95:
How which she was your sister, will you do same thing to her even though she spends years there..
No single respect for your husband's family

Madam make peace with your in-laws, don't come to social media looking for support in the name of advice....

Your husband just traveled abroad and you want to start turning him against his family already...

Your name is supposed to be Wiseddy95...so much oil on your head.

lookingfly:
not at all.....anyone coming would informed on what's on ground that it's two weeks. There is no shying or saying i can't say it her or him. That person will be told the blunt truth in the beginning so that later it wouldn't be a problem. No one from the family of the man or woman should have the right to come say it's my brother's house or sister's house or he's my son or daughter's house. Of your brother or sister or son is married, leave them to enjoy their marriage jare.

Perfect

Emma2Seconds:
No woman is around me ok . Am just telling you Unah nature and attitude ok

You clearly can't comprehend.

Wish you well.