Hello guys. Straight to the topic. In my eight years of marriage, he has never taken me out. I look good and dress well, i even have toasters outside. I am very faithful to him. I actually envy couples that go to outing, take pictures, create memories with their loved ones, but his own is different. Whenever i bring it up, he starts talking about this responsibility and the other one. I even told him that we should add money together just incase he doesnt have much, but he refused. I want to experience it and also want my 5 year old daughter to experience it too but she has never. He promised me that if i take in, he would take me out. It happened and he gave excuses until i forgot it. He then said wen i put to bed, we will go out. We never did. Even we dont celebrate anniversary because he doesnt want to spend anything. Na by force i dey take buy pepper meat and drink bitter just to mark the day. There was a day his friend offered to take me out in his presence. He didnt say anything. When it was almost evening time and I reminded the friend, if u see the way my husband shouted that i was long throat and that its ojukokoro that will kill me. I was so embarrassed. Now we are not on talking terms since yesterday because I reminded him about this outing issue, he said that with me, he knows he will never progress because I was an enemy of progress. Please i am dying of boredom and I cant go out with another man because he will get angry. Please is this stinginess or wat?
PS : he dishes soup for me because he counts meat in the pot. I dont steal meat ooo

My dear if your husband refuses to take you out, take yourself out, maybe he is thinking of many expenses on his head and you are there thinking of going out, what is the big deal there?

Cooked story reason
1)how can ur husband dish soup u cook for u
2) if refuse to take you out take urself out then invite him over

Your husband must be a graduate of Economics or an Ijebu man, or both

aka gum/araldite

If he doesn't wanna take you out then let him be. Why not dress up nicely and take your daughter out.... Abeg, let the stingy man be. Take yourself out and enjoy.

MsJackson:
Hello guys. Straight to the topic. In my eight years of marriage, he has never taken me out. I look good and dress well, i even have toasters outside. I am very faithful to him. I actually envy couples that go to outing, take pictures, create memories with their loved ones, but his own is different. Whenever i bring it up, he starts talking about this responsibility and the other one. I even told him that we should add money together just incase he doesnt have much, but he refused. I want to experience it and also want my 5 year old daughter to experience it too but she has never. He promised me that if i take in, he would take me out. It happened and he gave excuses until i forgot it. He then said wen i put to bed, we will go out. We never did. Even we dont celebrate anniversary because he doesnt want to spend anything. Na by force i dey take buy pepper meat and drink bitter just to mark the day. There was a day his friend offered to take me out in his presence. He didnt say anything. When it was almost evening time and I reminded the friend, if u see the way my husband shouted that i was long throat and that its ojukokoro that will kill me. I was so embarrassed. Now we are not on talking terms since yesterday because I reminded him about this outing issue, he said that with me, he knows he will never progress because I was an enemy of progress. Please i am dying of boredom and I cant go out with another man because he will get angry. Please is this stinginess or wat?
PS : he dishes soup for me because he counts meat in the pot. I dont steal meat ooo

Well if i were you, take him out instead and cover the whole expense. Then the next one he covers the expense. I think it will work this way. Maybe he aint used to outing and stuff. So you have to educate him....NB: There is no need telling us you have toasters outside. Most of those ones just wan chop clean mouth.

MsJackson:
Hello guys. Straight to the topic. In my eight years of marriage, he has never taken me out. I look good and dress well, i even have toasters outside. I am very faithful to him. I actually envy couples that go to outing, take pictures, create memories with their loved ones, but his own is different. Whenever i bring it up, he starts talking about this responsibility and the other one. I even told him that we should add money together just incase he doesnt have much, but he refused. I want to experience it and also want my 5 year old daughter to experience it too but she has never. He promised me that if i take in, he would take me out. It happened and he gave excuses until i forgot it. He then said wen i put to bed, we will go out. We never did. Even we dont celebrate anniversary because he doesnt want to spend anything. Na by force i dey take buy pepper meat and drink bitter just to mark the day. There was a day his friend offered to take me out in his presence. He didnt say anything. When it was almost evening time and I reminded the friend, if u see the way my husband shouted that i was long throat and that its ojukokoro that will kill me. I was so embarrassed. Now we are not on talking terms since yesterday because I reminded him about this outing issue, he said that with me, he knows he will never progress because I was an enemy of progress. Please i am dying of boredom and I cant go out with another man because he will get angry. Please is this stinginess or wat?
PS : he dishes soup for me because he counts meat in the pot. I dont steal meat ooo

How was he before you guys got married?

MsJackson:

PS : he dishes soup for me because he counts meat in the pot. I dont steal meat ooo

I don't get this, is he the one that cooks? Are you not the one who supposed dish out food for him?

MsJackson:

I even told him that we should add money together just incase he doesnt have much, but he refused.

PS : he dishes soup for me because he counts meat in the pot. I dont steal meat ooo

Please explain these inconsistencies. Why does he care so much about dishing the food and meat you cook when you have income and can contribute?

dawnomike:
How was he before you guys got married?

just average, we went out just once in a while

socialmediaman:


Please explain these inconsistencies. Why does he care so much about dishing the food and meat you cook when you have income and can contribute?

when he cooks the food himself or when he dropped the money for the soup. But when i bring the money, no problem with him

Am surprised some men cant take there wife Out . A man is meant to go out with he's wife have a nice time take pictures go to places to the beach with your kids and flex .
All work and no play makes jack a dull boy

MsJackson:
Please i am dying of boredom and I cant go out with another man because he will get angry. Please is this stinginess or wat?
PS : he dishes soup for me because he counts meat in the pot. I dont steal meat ooo

From your post, it sounds like you make money of your own, so what exactly is keeping you from spending some of your money talking yourself out? That you happen to be married to this man shouldn't mean you are no longer an individual capable of doing things for yourself.

If you are really bored, then plan and take yourself out. Take your kids with you and have a nice time with them whenever you can. Make those memories you want with them and stop waiting for your husband abeg!

Celebrate with your kids. Teach them to not be like their father in this by doing these these he refuses to do with you with them. So they have those memories and pictures to look back to when they are old and know that it makes sense to.want to socialize with family in that way.

Celebrate your anniversaries and other days with your children. If you have friends, invite them over and celebrate with them , again so you can enjoy the life you have and also show your kids that it is OK to in fact live and celebrate.

onos1979:
My dear if your husband refuses to take you out, take yourself out, maybe he is thinking of many expenses on his head and you are there thinking of going out, what is the big deal there?

My dear,it's a big deal. When u marry someone like that you would understand. Some men are not just romantic,it's tiring and painful.

prettysassygirl:

My dear,it's a big deal. When u marry someone like that you would understand. Some men are not just romantic,it's tiring and painful.

its SOOOOOOOO frustrating. I am glad you understand.

prettysassygirl:

My dear,it's a big deal. When u marry someone like that you would understand. Some men are not just romantic,it's tiring and painful.

Even Buhari wey be president and rich man no dey romantic,how common man want be romantic when wahala of bills full him head...

.

Take yourself out, some men are like that.

Take your daughter out, enjoy yourselves and take pictures. The reason he scoops soup for you is because you don't have a job. When a woman is jobless, men do not respect her.

Cuttycool:
Take your daughter out, enjoy yourselves and take pictures. The reason he scoops soup for you is because you don't have a job. When a woman is jobless, men do not respect her.

i do have job. I do.

Abfinest007:
Cooked story reason
1)how can ur husband dish soup u cook for u
2) if refuse to take you out take urself out then invite him over

Yeah. The story was almost believable until that food part.

However, the best way to avoid this kinda scenario is to look out for the red flags during courtship.

MsJackson:
Hello guys. Straight to the topic. In my eight years of marriage, he has never taken me out. I look good and dress well, i even have toasters outside. I am very faithful to him. I actually envy couples that go to outing, take pictures, create memories with their loved ones, but his own is different. Whenever i bring it up, he starts talking about this responsibility and the other one. I even told him that we should add money together just incase he doesnt have much, but he refused. I want to experience it and also want my 5 year old daughter to experience it too but she has never. He promised me that if i take in, he would take me out. It happened and he gave excuses until i forgot it. He then said wen i put to bed, we will go out. We never did. Even we dont celebrate anniversary because he doesnt want to spend anything. Na by force i dey take buy pepper meat and drink bitter just to mark the day. There was a day his friend offered to take me out in his presence. He didnt say anything. When it was almost evening time and I reminded the friend, if u see the way my husband shouted that i was long throat and that its ojukokoro that will kill me. I was so embarrassed. Now we are not on talking terms since yesterday because I reminded him about this outing issue, he said that with me, he knows he will never progress because I was an enemy of progress. Please i am dying of boredom and I cant go out with another man because he will get angry. Please is this stinginess or wat?
PS : he dishes soup for me because he counts meat in the pot. I dont steal meat ooo

So you can't take yourself out? Continue padding ur happiness on a stingy man's neck o , time go just run leave you without fun memories

AutoChick4U:
So you can't take yourself out? Continue padding ur happiness on a stingy man's neck o , time go just run leave you without fun memories

She has already lost 8 years of her youth waiting is what irks me.

MsJackson:
i do have job. I do.

Then make time for your own self. Go out every other day with your kid. You don't need to go far. The library, the zoo, festivals, malls, etc. Back when I was young, I even used to take a walk through Tejuosho markets, Oshodi and Even idumota for sightseeing purposes alone.

Do this for you and break free from the boredom and doldrums. You need to snap out of your fantasies to make the best of your reality.

Kobojunkiee:
She has already lost 8 years of her youth waiting is what irks me.

no woman should love a stingy miser

AutoChick4U:
no woman should love a stingy miser

Sadly, she is already in a marriage with one, so she technically has to find a way to love him, flaws and all.

Kobojunkiee:
Sadly, she is already in a marriage with one, so she technically has to find a way to love him, flaws and all.

Are you one?

AutoChick4U:
Are you one?

One what? I am not that small-minded abeg!

Kobojunkiee:
One what? I am not that small-minded abeg!

Good

Kobojunkiee:
Then make time for your own self. Go out every other day with your kid. You don't need to go far. The library, the zoo, festivals, malls, etc. Back when I was young, I even used to take a walk through Tejuosho markets, Oshodi and Even idumota for sightseeing purposes alone.

Do this for you and break free from the boredom and doldrums. You need to snap out of your fantasies to make the best of your reality.

thanks sir, will do just that. Before old age meet me

U r in ur 40s or late 30s already . make urself happy . either divorce am or live with am like dat . U met him dis way , he no go change