Kobojunkie:
According to you, you and the girl in question aren't even related by blood since she is off your uncles wife, so why ask at all?

Highlyrespected:
Go ahead on your plans...
No amount of advises can't change what you already planned.

Richy4:
I'm not a big fan of family tree... Trying to understand it gives me headache...
But u opened this thread for a reason because your mind is 'flipping'....

Make a phone call to the eldest member of your family and ask if it is sacrilegious act to marry a cousin..

My advice is... if it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck.. hope you understand ..

ConfirmLagosboy:
Thanks for your contribution. She is not my cousin in real sense. It is her aunty (her dad's younger sis), that is my Dad's cousin.

I hope you understand now..

Just assuming you were not romantically involved with her and I met both of u together, to cut the long story short, how will you introduce her to me?

Richy4:


Just assuming you were not romantically involved with her and I met both of u together, to cut the long story short, how will you introduce her to me?

ConfirmLagosboy:
A relative

there we go ... I like u already just do what's on your mind buddy..And I wish you the best

ConfirmLagosboy:
I just feel maybe it is an abominable act...

Kobojunkie:
How can it be abominable when she is not a blood relative?

You are in no way related to your uncle's wife by blood or are you?

ConfirmLagosboy:
Nope, I am not. We ain't even from same state..

ConfirmLagosboy:
Good day everyone. To start with, I am a Yoruba guy. I travelled down Kogi state to my uncle's house (my dad's cousin) for an assignment, while there I got bonded with my uncle's wife elder brother's daughter and ever since we have been chatting and it has been so intimate and I am beginning to like her likewise she too... My question is this, is there anything wrong with such relationship?

Note: We are bother not directly related. My uncle who happens to be my Dad's cousin ( I.e his own father and my father are both brothers) married the wife which happens to be the younger sister of the this girl's father...

Do you guys think we are related?

Pls, just advise me cuz we are both in love and I want to seek advise from people.. We are both Yorubas. Thanks.

ZIMDRILL:


I think i got you, the girl is the daughter to the brother of your uncle's wife am right ?

i think you got people confused when you tried to explain how you are related to your uncle hence you said your uncle's father and your father are brothers am right ? of which there no need to explain that hence people are you seeing you as related becoz they have assumed that the girl is uncle daughter --- unless i also misunderstood it

Magnoliaa:
Well, brothers marry sisters of a family...

ConfirmLagosboy:
Yes, you are right...If we were to be other tribes like Hausa, I won't even be bothered cuz I know they marry their cousins but if you are Yoruba, you will understand how they do their things...

ConfirmLagosboy:
Yes oo.. same thing I told one elderly man that I sought for advise but the man still insists that the girls is my relatives hence I can't marry her

<<<I just wanna add one more thing based on what you have written here...

<<< you came from a tribe and your tribe got heritage and legacies that they have been protecting for long..(it might be good or bad practice). But those were your pride and identity...

<<<It will be very unwise to seek an advise from an Hausa, Igbo, idoma, ibibio or any other tribe here on Nairaland because their own culture, and practices might be different from yours...

<<< Meet the elders that have the same cultural heritage with you and ask questions...

All the best... Don't forget to send the invitation cards ...

michlins:
Who else nearly got a migraine trying to wrap his or her around the web of family linage.

Uncle papa cousin wife sister

michlins:
Who else nearly got a migraine trying to wrap his or her around the web of family linage.

Uncle papa cousin wife sister

I think I am the last person that can comprehend that honestly... Trying to understand that was like trying to understand our Econometrics lecturer those days in the afternoon

baby124:
Yoruba culture sees her as family. Even though she’s an in-law. Yoruba culture is very averse to anything that looks like incest or inbreeding through marriage. It’s a big abomination. Somewhere in the past they must have seen pepper with the effects of inbreeding because, they are too careful of it .

It may not be a big deal in your nuclear family though. If you have interest in her, let your aunt and uncle know and see what they say. Tell your Uncle first so you can get an idea how your own family will react to such a marriage.

Personally, marrying multiple people from one family can bring drama o. They can band together and cause chaos if they are not from a good family. I think this is also a factor with Yoruba’s rejecting such unions.