we are all 27

I met him. I knew he was what I was looking for. We started dating, he told me he diddn't want a relationship, just a situationship - casual dating/FWB. I diddn't want that so I told him we should stop seeing each other. He pursued me. I continued because I liked him. We continued dating for about 3 months. I was in love with him at this point. I told him that I diddn't want to continue this and that we should stop seeing each other or he make me his girlfriend. He agreed for me to be his girlfriend. However because he diddnt truly want that in his heart, he continued to date someone else. I found out and ended it with him. I was heartbroken but moving on.

Me and the other girl kept in contact, I found about a month later he was watching my social media page and accidentally liked my picture, even though we don't follow each other. I told her about it and asked when she last heard from him. She said that day when we both stopped speaking to him. The day I told him that it was over, and I asked if he was going to continue to date and he said he wasn't going to date any one for now, just focus on himself etc. Then that same evening, he messaged the other girl asking if it was really over between them, how he never wanted to be in a relationship with me, and she was asking about a relationship, but he diddnt want a relationship with her either, so she said she wasn't interested. He deleted both of our numbers and moved on.

I found out and I cursed him out, cursed his whole family out, said abusive things that probably turned him off me completely. She doesn't know about this.

Valentines came and she got flowers from him. It turns out he arranged for the flowers to be delivered the day he said he diddn't want a relationship with her, but it wasn't signed from anyone. She messaged him asking if it was him, he said yes. the next day he messaged her apologising again but she wasn't really interested. the same week I contacted him several times, asking for him back in my life, he wasn't interested. We agreed no more contact, and he would post the items that he has of mine to me, but then he came to my house unannounced and dropped of the items (i wasn't home). he lives a good 40 minutes away from me but because he said he was going somewhere near where i lived, he said he would kill two birds with one stone.

she messaged him the same day, saying that she was interested in a relationship with him and he said he wanted one with her too and they arranged to meet for coffee. i have since cut them both off.

what do you make of this?

Women and their confusion

Ur story is mixed up.

U are confuse.

A sticky situation, that’s what!

Do yourself a favour and get you out of it.
Use your unavailable button.

Sxyhalima:
she messaged him the same day, saying that she was interested in a relationship with him and he said he wanted one with her too and they arranged to meet for coffee. i have since cut them both off.

what do you make of this?

I think you too like drama for your life is what. If someone says he is not into you, then let him be. Don't tell turn into a stalker, keeping tabs on him and his relationships with others. Let him be - move on! Should the guy later change his mind, and you happen to be available then, then go for it, but this whole .... "he is not interested", yet you continue to eaves drop on his life and conversation with your friend..... too much!

Confusion⁴

Place value on yourself and keep walking...

Mindlog:
Place value on yourself and keep walking...

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YOU'VE SAID NOTHING

This is exactly how 90% of girls are, dear lord please don't let me be a victim of these type of ladies.
Please give me a woman, who values herself and understand the meaning of self worth.
Amen.

@op, your problem is that you dont have anything meaningful pursuing in your life, just like many Nigerian youths, it is difficult to have self worth when you have nothing to give than spread your legs.

My advise, use the energy you are using to be sleeping around and pursuing men to develop yourself, learn a skill, IT, sewing, when you are busy and have something in that your coconut head, a decent man will find you.

When a man doesn't want you anymore, you step aside. It's not a do or die affair. I don't know why most girls are so hell bent on staying with a man who doesn't want them.

The more you persist, the more you make yourself available and vulnerable for him to be used. And later move on with another woman he feels is better than you.

Read the writings on the wall and leave honourably.

Imagine you're 27 and this foolish..

oldienavie:
This is exactly how 90% of girls are, dear lord please don't let me be a victim of these type of ladies.
Please give me a woman, who values herself and understand the meaning of self worth.
Amen.

@op, your problem is that you dont have anything meaningful pursuing in your life, just like many Nigerian youths, it is difficult to have self worth when you have nothing to give than spread your legs.

My advise, use the energy you are using to be sleeping around and pursuing men to develop yourself, learn a skill, IT, sewing, when you are busy and have something in that your coconut head, a decent man will find you.

Baba arugbo.


It looks like your old age did not add wisdom for you,




Or maybe you're bored and looking for women to turn into your toothpick on this forum.



Go and look for other things to vent your frustrations on and leave young girls to live their lives in peace.





May you find healing.

Sxyhalima:
we are all 27

I met him. I knew he was what I was looking for. We started dating, he told me he diddn't want a relationship, just a situationship - casual dating/FWB. I diddn't want that so I told him we should stop seeing each other. He pursued me. I continued because I liked him. We continued dating for about 3 months. I was in love with him at this point. I told him that I diddn't want to continue this and that we should stop seeing each other or he make me his girlfriend. He agreed for me to be his girlfriend. However because he diddnt truly want that in his heart, he continued to date someone else. I found out and ended it with him. I was heartbroken but moving on.

Me and the other girl kept in contact, I found about a month later he was watching my social media page and accidentally liked my picture, even though we don't follow each other. I told her about it and asked when she last heard from him. She said that day when we both stopped speaking to him. The day I told him that it was over, and I asked if he was going to continue to date and he said he wasn't going to date any one for now, just focus on himself etc. Then that same evening, he messaged the other girl asking if it was really over between them, how he never wanted to be in a relationship with me, and she was asking about a relationship, but he diddnt want a relationship with her either, so she said she wasn't interested. He deleted both of our numbers and moved on.

I found out and I cursed him out, cursed his whole family out, said abusive things that probably turned him off me completely. She doesn't know about this.

Valentines came and she got flowers from him. It turns out he arranged for the flowers to be delivered the day he said he diddn't want a relationship with her, but it wasn't signed from anyone. She messaged him asking if it was him, he said yes. the next day he messaged her apologising again but she wasn't really interested. the same week I contacted him several times, asking for him back in my life, he wasn't interested. We agreed no more contact, and he would post the items that he has of mine to me, but then he came to my house unannounced and dropped of the items (i wasn't home). he lives a good 40 minutes away from me but because he said he was going somewhere near where i lived, he said he would kill two birds with one stone.

she messaged him the same day, saying that she was interested in a relationship with him and he said he wanted one with her too and they arranged to meet for coffee. i have since cut them both off.

what do you make of this?

Awwwwn.


I feel for you if you're really female.


Listen to me.




REST.









Go back up and read again:







REST.





You will find love.

Delete and block those two unnecessary numbers on your phone.

Sxyhalima:
we are all 27

I met him. I knew he was what I was looking for. We started dating, he told me he diddn't want a relationship, just a situationship - casual dating/FWB. I diddn't want that so I told him we should stop seeing each other. He pursued me. I continued because I liked him. We continued dating for about 3 months. I was in love with him at this point. I told him that I diddn't want to continue this and that we should stop seeing each other or he make me his girlfriend. He agreed for me to be his girlfriend. However because he diddnt truly want that in his heart, he continued to date someone else. I found out and ended it with him. I was heartbroken but moving on.

Me and the other girl kept in contact, I found about a month later he was watching my social media page and accidentally liked my picture, even though we don't follow each other. I told her about it and asked when she last heard from him. She said that day when we both stopped speaking to him. The day I told him that it was over, and I asked if he was going to continue to date and he said he wasn't going to date any one for now, just focus on himself etc. Then that same evening, he messaged the other girl asking if it was really over between them, how he never wanted to be in a relationship with me, and she was asking about a relationship, but he diddnt want a relationship with her either, so she said she wasn't interested. He deleted both of our numbers and moved on.

I found out and I cursed him out, cursed his whole family out, said abusive things that probably turned him off me completely. She doesn't know about this.

Valentines came and she got flowers from him. It turns out he arranged for the flowers to be delivered the day he said he diddn't want a relationship with her, but it wasn't signed from anyone. She messaged him asking if it was him, he said yes. the next day he messaged her apologising again but she wasn't really interested. the same week I contacted him several times, asking for him back in my life, he wasn't interested. We agreed no more contact, and he would post the items that he has of mine to me, but then he came to my house unannounced and dropped of the items (i wasn't home). he lives a good 40 minutes away from me but because he said he was going somewhere near where i lived, he said he would kill two birds with one stone.

she messaged him the same day, saying that she was interested in a relationship with him and he said he wanted one with her too and they arranged to meet for coffee. i have since cut them both off.

what do you make of this?

Are u a he or a she? I'm confused abt ur write-up.

Saintmary:




Baba arugbo.


It looks like your old age did not add wisdom for you,




Or maybe you're bored and looking for women to turn into your toothpick on this forum.



Go and look for other things to vent your frustrations on and leave young girls to live their lives in peace.





May you find healing.

What exactly is wrong with being old ?
How did being old become a thing to be ashamed of ?

oldienavie:


What exactly is wrong with being old ?
How did being old become a thing to be ashamed of ?

Your shame is the lack of wisdom, not your age.



Baba arugbo is supposed to be a tag of honor. Alas, what a pity.



It's not too late for you.



Repent.

Saintmary:





Your shame is the lack of wisdom, not your age.



Baba arugbo is supposed to be a tag of honor. Alas, what a pity.



It's not too late for you.



Repent.

I am not sure why you are this pained, someone asked for advise and I gave my opinion. Seems you are not any different from the op and the truth got to you.
If you are someone with nothing in your head and the only thing you have to offer is that thing between your legs, get something doing, develop yourself do not waste your youth on tiktok...

I don talk my own

That's one thing with we ladies. once we decide to love, we love with all our heart and emotions. It becomes hard to let go and they become heart broken. The reason you might feel some ladies play hard to get. It is because of experiences like this. They don't want to be at the receiving end. Now oga has pleaded with her to give it a try despite the fact she said no. In the end she bears the pain because he doesn't know what he wants either.

oldienavie:

I am not sure why you are this pained, someone asked for advise and I gave my opinion. Seems you are not any different from the op and the truth got to you.
If you are someone with nothing in your head and the only thing you have to offer is that thing between your legs, get something doing, develop yourself do not waste your youth on tiktok...

I don talk my own

Of course I had to reply you, that was what I felt when I saw your post disparaging females.



We have enough issues to deal with in this world as black women than to have to deal with spineless wusses like you.


Go and confront your fellow men, maybe you will find a solution to the evils you are condoning by focusing all your attention on females who didn't steal your bread.






If you want to dish advice, face your fellow men and leave women ALONE.


Stop picking on women!!!!

Saintmary:



Of course I had to reply you, that was what I felt when I saw your post disparaging females.



We have enough issues to deal with in this world as black women than to have to deal with spineless wusses like you.


Go and confront your fellow men, maybe you will find a solution to the evils you are condoning by focusing all your attention on females who didn't steal your bread.






If you want to dish advice, face your fellow men and leave women ALONE.


Stop picking on women!!!!

The OP said she is running after a man that clearly does not want her, how exactly do you want me to advise her ?
So because she is female, I should tell her what she is doing is good, despite the fact that she clearly lacks self worth and is stalking a man that has clearly told her he does not want her ?

The truth will set you free but first it will piss you off. The truth has to be said regardless of how you feel, the OP by her own admission does not have any form of self worth.
She needs to focus on improving herself and hopefully, she will learn to place more value on herself. Rather than running after a man that clearly does not want her.

Very confused story. You write like someone in kindergarten.

oldienavie:

The OP said she is running after a man that clearly does not want her, how exactly do you want me to advise her ?
So because she is female, I should tell her what she is doing is good, despite the fact that she clearly lacks self worth and is stalking a man that has clearly told her he does not want her ?

The truth will set you free but first it will piss you off. The truth has to be said regardless of how you feel, the OP by her own admission does not have any form of self worth.
She needs to focus on improving herself and hopefully, she will learn to place more value on herself. Rather than running after a man that clearly does not want her.

Aaaaaaaaaaaand you had to say 90% of females on this planet are worthless.


Just because a lady was 'discarded' by a narcissist obviously.


Thank God you have a mother at least.





You people will just open your mouth waaaaaaaaaa, women are this, women are that, not knowing that people are humans first before we can even consider gender.



You decided to deride 90% of women because of one single case.




Hardly will you hear that all men are rapists, they are all ritualists, they are all monsters just because of the actions of only one man. Women accord you males the regard you do not deserve. Your gender hurt women every single second, every second on this planet, about 30 women somewhere are getting raped. Countless women are getting beheaded for rituals every night, countless women's heads get slammed on home walls by nasty husbands, yet women do not lump you all together as evil, especially when you, yes you men cannot face your fellow men and tell them to their face that what they are doing is bad, just because you can't afford to lose your sick friendships.



You need to improve your integrity.






Clean up your house, it's stinking to the high heavens.




Yet you come up to social media and play the age card, blaming a little girl who is reeling from confusion over a puny-minded simpleton who didn't learn how to break up with someone. Pretending to be matured when all you added was age, not sense.




You had to insult women because you're too cowardly to say things as they are.




Go and look for other people to impress. Go and speak the truth to your gender, go and display your maturity in the right quarters. You succeeded at nothing here.





Nonsense.