5 Reasons Why relationships don’t last these days.

One of the reason why most youths avoid marital relationship is because they've noticed that the level of breakups and failed relationships in the society has risen to the peak.

A relationship is meant to be successful and sometimes, lead to marriage, but this is not true of most relationships. For every anomaly, there is a cause, likewise every failed relationship, there are reasons behind them.
I will share some reasons why relationships don’t last, read along as you learn and avoid repeating such mistakes.

The first reason is this, some relationships lack clarity of purpose.
In every aspect of life that involves two or more people, there must be a knowledge of their purpose, the reason for coming together must be known. The book of Amos chapter 3 verse 3 says, can two work together except they agree?

Imagine falling in love or admiring the opposite sex and you ended up in a love relationship and after three months, the purpose is unknown, the relationship is not defined.

The two love birds don’t know why they are together, they can’t figure out their reason for coming together. That is a mess. Don’t be carried away by love at first sight or the appearance of the opposite sex and forget that God gave a reason for marriage.

Don’t be quick to go into a relationship forgetting that God deposited talents and capabilities in everyone. The earlier you discover your place in someone’s life, the better. A relationship void of clear purpose will not last, just like a car moving without a driver, it ends up in a crash. Before going into a relationship, define your purpose.

The second reason is the habit of polygamy and absence of self-control.
One thing God hates is the sin of immorality and fornication. The inability to control sexual urge has led to the death of many relationships today.

It is not enough to define purpose; your relationship should also be built on purity and self-control. Marriage is honorable with the bed undefiled. Most ladies have caught their man in fornication and most men have seen their partner flirting with their friends without remorse.

Most youths and teens do not value monogamy, they believe it is their time to flirt with all the ladies or men in their neighborhood. The attribute of contentment and self-control is far from their heart. Such a relationship will not last.

Dear friend, the spread of the most deadly sexually transmitted diseases have been prevalent due to the polygamous life of both singles and the married. Nobody will like to share his or partner with everyone on the street, there is need for intimacy and trust between partners.

Stick to God’s pattern of relationship and marriage, so that you can experience a long-lasting relationship.


The third reason why relationships don’t last these days is due to the Incompatibility of partners.
You can't put a cat and a rat in the same cage, if that happens, one will surely die. The death of some relationships is due to the incompatible nature of both partners.

They have different and clashing visions in life, with this, they cannot tolerate each other. When a man has phobia for domestic animals and his partner loves staying around all specie and types of domestic and wild animals, there will definitely be a war between them.

Some people do not share their fears, weaknesses, strength and life visions with their partners, this always lead to misunderstanding in a relationship. There are some women who don’t value child birth, but they go ahead to date a man who loves to have a set of twins for a start.

With this, there will be no other remedy than to separate. Little things like character and attitude falls under this category, because the character of a person is shaped by several agents of socialization, other bad habits are also learnt or adopted.

When all the negative attitudes of a person is appalling to his/her partner, without due cause to change, there will be a breakup. Dear friend, be in a relationship with someone that can tolerate or enjoy your character and attitudes.

The fourth reason why relationships don't last is due to the act of dating/courtship for a wrong reason.
Like I earlier said, the clarity of purpose is crucial for every relationship. Most times, you hear men say ladies are after their money, and the ladies will argue that some men after their body.

All these points to one thing, Motive. The motive of being in relationship is the strength of that relationship. Dear friend, give a second thought as to why you are in that relationship. Is it because of the money, connections, influence, family pressure, sex or facial appearance of your partner?

If your decision was birthed out by all I have listed, get ready to experience a shock soon. Truth is all the beauty, money, influence and connection will fade away some day and you will be left with no other option than to run away. The reason for any relationship should go beyond the physical appearance and immediate satisfaction of your desires.

When your partner can't meet your needs, what happens next? You get bored, you feel as if a veil was lifted from your face, afterwards, you flee into another relationship. That is not a good reason for going into a relationship. Beloved, rethink and choose wisely.

The fifth reason why reason relationships don’t last is the habit of having high expectations from your partner.

Know this, a prefect marriage is only possible in your head not in reality.

The bible has shown us that it is only God that is perfect in all ramifications. No other person on earth is perfect, no man or woman is without flaws.

This truth does not go down well with some youths in our time. When a lady is asked to list out the features of her dream man, the list looks like an impossible thing. When the men are asked to do same, you wonder where that woman if they intend getting married to a spirit being.

This is the bed rock of breakups, because when your expectations are not met, you feel you are with the wrong person, definitely, there will be a great misunderstanding between you and your partner.

Dear friend, step down your high expectations and make it aligned to the will of God. The advice from your friends as regards the spec of your partner might be misleading. Just like Adam and Eve, you are meant to complement your partner, you are expected to cover up his or her weaknesses and not expose them.

You cannot see any perfect man or woman on earth, they only exist in your imagination. Instead of having impossible and unrealistic expectations, channel your energy towards making your spouse a better person. People grow into a good character, they don’t just manifest that way, they grow with time, not just a short time, a long one.

Dear friend, don’t damage your hope with all those qualities that you can’t find in a man or woman, rather, look out for that individual who is God’s will for you and work on your desires together.
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OyeofIkoTuN:
Too long...

Thanks for reading.
Your concern is noted.

Would love you to break it down so I can really grasp the end point..

Chimere1:


Thanks for reading.
Your concern is noted.

Indeed polygamous marriages has issues, but where did GOD condemn it in the Bible?

Hi, nobody enjoys bad character/bad attitude.


Bye

Kayberg:
Indeed polygamous marriages has issues, but where did GOD condemn it in the Bible?

He shall not multiply wives for himself, or else his heart will turn away . . . (NASB) Deuteronomy 17:17

Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, and said, “FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH”? (NASB) Matthew 19:4-5

It may not be asserted clearly as polygamy in the Bible, but I know these scriptures explains that.
Just like you said, polygamy has issues.

Chimere1:


He shall not multiply wives for himself, or else his heart will turn away . . . (NASB) Deuteronomy 17:17

Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, and said, “FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH”? (NASB) Matthew 19:4-5

It may not be asserted clearly as polygamy in the Bible, but I know these scriptures explains that.
Just like you said, polygamy has issues.

Deuteronomy 17:17 is for kings.
Matthew 19:4-5 does not signify monogamy, but ordained marriage (unlike the perversion in the world today with same sex marriage things).

And yea, polygamy has issues, when there is no unity in the family.

And remember, several men of GOD in the Bible had more than one wife, and GOD never complained or spoke to them condemning it.
Abraham had wives and concubines.
David had wives.
Solomon had wives and concubines.

Kayberg:


Deuteronomy 17:17 is for kings.
Matthew 19:4-5 does not signify monogamy, but ordained marriage (unlike the perversion in the world today with same sex marriage things).

And yea, polygamy has issues, when there is no unity in the family.

And remember, several men of GOD in the Bible had more than one wife, and GOD never complained or spoke to them condemning it.
Abraham had wives and concubines.
David had wives.
Solomon had wives and concubines.

All true. Let's stick to the truth that polygamy has issues and it doesn't seem wise having many wives.
So, the fact God didn't outrightly condemn it doesn't mean it is justified.
Several occurrences in the Bible were allowed in order to serve as a lesson to us.

Thanks for engaging sir.

Chimere1:


All true. Let's stick to the truth that polygamy has issues and it doesn't seem wise having many wives.
So, the fact God didn't outrightly condemn it doesn't mean it is justified.
Several occurrences in the Bible were allowed in order to serve as a lesson to us.

Thanks for engaging sir.

“And I gave thee thy master's house, and thy master's wives into thy bosom, and gave thee the house of Israel and of Judah; and if that had been too little, I would moreover have given unto thee such and such things.”
— 2 Samuel 12:8 (KJV)

Observe that 'wives' were included…?
But to me still, I'll not want polygamy due to some issues attached.

Another reason marriage don't last is religious interference and pastors . Giving fake prophecies about inlaws e.t.c

Adsexpert:
Another reason marriage don't last is religious interference and pastors . Giving fake prophecies about inlaws e.t.c

This is true.
Blessings