Good morning everyone. Last night I was on a thread about a guy contemplating to build his house first or complete his mother’s house. That topic is somehow related but completely different to mine so I want to share with people in the house for advice.

To cut the story short, I come from an extended poor family where even a good 3 square meal to some people is a big deal. I grew up in the village from childhood till I was in secondary school before my father died and I moved to live with my mother( my father had different wives that where not with him before he died.)
My mom gave me a good life. Better education
And all and now I’m 30, doing well in life. I mean very well.
My father has 5 brothers all still alive. They are all managing life and even their children not doing so well. Though I have tried to assist most of them the little way I can

Now, the family house in the village that my grand father build. Same house I grew up as a child is a complete mess. Its so bad that I can’t even drink water there currently. It’s to sad all my uncles could not renovate their fathers house. I don’t blame them though. They are not doing well. About two of my uncles still live in that house that the roof is almost falling and sometimes I feel ashamed because that’s where I grew up. I can’t even take anyone there because it would be too embarrassing for me. Due to this I haven’t been to the village for long

Few years ago, the most senior uncle did foundation at the back of the house and raised it up a bit but couldn’t complete it since then and even all the brothers can’t help. Now I feel I’m in a better place to atleast help complete it. I already made up my mind and was traveling this month end for it. Even though it would be a gradual process. ( just to lay few blocks to lintel then roof it.) until I read that thread of that young man and some comments made me think twice.
Pls experience elders in the house ur input is needed thank you.
I want to know if I’m making the right decision. If I need to involve all my uncles even though they are all not in unity.
It’s a bit confusing because my father is late. If he was a life I know it would be easier. I would just put him in charge of the project.

Now, my major reason of doing this is because I feel bad people are still living in that building that would soon collapse and also for the fact I grew up there and in my current position I can’t do anything about that house.

Same people that kill your father that will kill you too.

If your aim of building or completing the house is to take over the house later..don't try it.

But If you just want to build it out of your own freewill without having any other motives then you are free to do it.

About involving your uncles you can try but they might not contribute

garriAndsugar:
If your aim of building or completing the house is to take over the house later..don't try it.

But If you just want to build it out of your own freewill without having any other motives then you are free to do it.

About involving your uncles you can try but they might not contribute

Hell No I don’t even plan to even sleep there for one night. I’m just doing it cos I feel bad people still live there and also shameful because I can’t even go to that village with that house like that . No I I’m not involving them for financial help but to inform them.

Selfkontrol:

Hell No I don’t even plan to even sleep there for one night. I’m just doing it cos I feel bad people still live there and also shameful because I can’t even go to that village with that house like that . No I I’m not involving them for financial help but to inform them.

Ok it's a nice idea

Selfkontrol:

Hell No I don’t even plan to even sleep there for one night. I’m just doing it cos I feel bad people still live there and also shameful because I can’t even go to that village with that house like that . No I I’m not involving them for financial help but to inform them.

Firstly discuss with your Mum and listen to her advice.

Secondly, if she ask you to proceed. Inform all your uncles about your plan. Make it very clear that you are not renovating the house to take over.

Lastly, be careful. People give different interpretation to issues. You may be trying to help them live in a nice house, but they may be thinking you are coming to drag land with them.

So be careful.

My personal advice to you is, forget about the old house and build a brand new house for yourself in your name. That is the house your children will inherit.

Be wise.

DeadorAlive:


Firstly discuss with your Mum and listen to her advice.

Secondly, if she ask you to proceed. Inform all your uncles about your plan. Make it very clear that you are not renovating the house to take over.

Lastly, be careful. People give different interpretation to issues. You may be trying to help them live in a nice house, but they may be thinking you are coming to drag land with them.

So be careful.

My personal advice to you is, forget about the old house and build a brand new house for yourself in your name. That is the house your children will inherit.

Be wise.

You have spoken well, pls inform your mum first. Follow whatever instructions she gives you,

The way some people complicate their lives ba...
Why don’t you just get another land in the village and build your house since you are ashamed of taking people to the family house.
Omor fear village people oh

How everything is going well for you and you just want to go look for new troubles.

Your eldest uncle, rather than renovate the family house their father left behind, he preferred going to build his own, why should you the grandson be more bothered?

Should you help your most senior uncle complete his own house, what about his siblings (your other uncles)?

Since your late father had different wives I believe you have your own half-brothers and half-sisters to contend with, so don't go take up responsibilities that are not yours!

This one just wan deliberately make himself sacrificial lamb to his village people. I just dey pity that your mum. Anyway, give me her number so I fit dey take care of her when your village people finish with you.

You have a good heart......

But make sure you had bought land, finished your own house before going to do the renovation.

Well, I would say, don't be involved directly. U can get d estimate of how much will do the renovation and give d money to one of the uncles that is trustworthy, to execute the project. Pls, for yourself and mum's sake, hide yourself from village people. They can't be trusted, don't let them kill you or take away your source of income. If you want build your own house, let it be somewhere else.

Good thinking. Of course, you need to inform your uncles and secure their consent, and also make sure that your action is coming from the place of altruism, making the same lucid to them, because renovating it won't confer you the right of ownership or authority over your uncles.

Meanwhile, in case you haven't carried out a building project, or any money gulping project before, kindly eschew the idea of assuming that you've the money to get it done without first getting a rough estimated cost of getting it done in time from a professional; else, you'll leave the house and uncles worse than they are presently.

Oduskid:
Same people that kill your father that will kill you too.

Stop this stupid mentality; no one is killing anyone!

What do you have that people will be wasting their time trying to kill you

Selfkontrol:
Good morning everyone. Last night I was on a thread about a guy contemplating to build his house first or complete his mother’s house. That topic is somehow related but completely different to mine so I want to share with people in the house for advice.

To cut the story short, I come from an extended poor family where even a good 3 square meal to some people is a big deal. I grew up in the village from childhood till I was in secondary school before my father died and I moved to live with my mother( my father had different wives that where not with him before he died.)
My mom gave me a good life. Better education
And all and now I’m 30, doing well in life. I mean very well.
My father has 5 brothers all still alive. They are all managing life and even their children not doing so well. Though I have tried to assist most of them the little way I can

Now, the family house in the village that my grand father build. Same house I grew up as a child is a complete mess. Its so bad that I can’t even drink water there currently. It’s to sad all my uncles could not renovate their fathers house. I don’t blame them though. They are not doing well. About two of my uncles still live in that house that the roof is almost falling and sometimes I feel ashamed because that’s where I grew up. I can’t even take anyone there because it would be too embarrassing for me. Due to this I haven’t been to the village for long

Few years ago, the most senior uncle did foundation at the back of the house and raised it up a bit but couldn’t complete it since then and even all the brothers can’t help. Now I feel I’m in a better place to atleast help complete it. I already made up my mind and was traveling this month end for it. Even though it would be a gradual process. ( just to lay few blocks to lintel then roof it.) until I read that thread of that young man and some comments made me think twice.
Pls experience elders in the house ur input is needed thank you.
I want to know if I’m making the right decision. If I need to involve all my uncles even though they are all not in unity.
It’s a bit confusing because my father is late. If he was a life I know it would be easier. I would just put him in charge of the project.

Now, my major reason of doing this is because I feel bad people are still living in that building that would soon collapse and also for the fact I grew up there and in my current position I can’t do anything about that house.

What's that uoir name again, Mrselfcontrol

I didn't even read where you ever discussed this with your mum, that's by the way

You are not the best person in position to renovate that house

Your late dad would have stood for you to renovate the house but he is no more, so who will do the backing for you in the mist of those wicked unknown people there

What makes you think that you are capable of doing that without being harm even before you complete it

Why not wait for the senior ones to call a meeting then you make your contributions and let them face the work, Instead of you fronting yourself

The house belongs to all, so it's the duty of all adult working males of the family to do so not just you

Am quite sure your uncles are not really at peace with each other, so who among them is the one that you will appoint that will not extend the enmity to you

Why not play low and buy a land ams start building in the city where you can put for rentals or resides in

That house is not standing and looking unkept for nothing

Don't be surprised if you were told that any one that tries to renovate it, goes to the other side of life

Control yourself abeg and spear your life for the sake of your mum

In your mind, you think every one is happy with your progress ?

Don't even try it.

People especially extended families hate successful relatives like shit, especially when they are villagers and uneducated.

I'm not saying "village people" is real but they can literally poison you or infect you with a sickness that may lead to your death.

Just keep extending the monetary assistance.

frozen70:


What's that uoir name again, Mrselfcontrol

I didn't even read where you ever discussed this with your mum, that's by the way

You are not the best person in position to renovate that house

Your late dad would have stood for you to renovate the house but he is no more, so who will do the backing for you in the mist of those wicked unknown people there

What makes you think that you are capable of doing that without being harm even before you complete it

Why not wait for the senior ones to call a meeting then you make your contributions and let them face the work, Instead of you fronting yourself

The house belongs to all, so it's the duty of all adult working males of the family to do so not just you

Am quite sure your uncles are not really at peace with each other, so who among them is the one that you will appoint that will not extend the enmity to you

Why not play low and buy a land ams start building in the city where you can put for rentals or resides in

That house is not standing and looking unkept for nothing

Don't be surprised if you were told that any one that tries to renovate it, goes to the other side of life

Control yourself abeg and spear your life for the sake of your mum

In your mind, you think every one is happy with your progress ?

thanks sir for the advice. To think that I already made up my mind to go fix the house. I think I just woke up to reality. Thanks again. Plans canceled!!

Karleb:
Don't even try it.

People especially extended families hate successful relatives like shit, especially when they are villagers and uneducated.

I'm not saying "village people" is real but they can literally poison you or infect you with a sickness that may lead to your death.

Just keep extending the monetary assistance.

guess I didn’t think about all these. Thanks for the advice. Mission aborted

Selfkontrol:
thanks sir for the advice. To think that I already made up my mind to go fix the house. I think I just woke up to reality. Thanks again. Plans canceled!!

Ma'am
Thanks for understanding
We learn every day

Selfkontrol:
guess I didn’t think about all these. Thanks for the advice. Mission aborted

I wanted to do something like this to my own father's house. Monogamous family but my sister's husband who's an architect advised against it.

He advised I get my own share of the land in the village and start building there. I did and I don't regret it.

In order to get the most out of your family home, you should renovate it in a way that will make it feel more comfortable and welcoming. There are many ways to do this, but some of the most popular ones include updating the interior design, adding new furniture and decorating the exterior.
One of the reasons why people don't renovate their family homes is because they are too busy with work or other obligations. But here I discussed some points.
3 Reasons Why You Should Renovate Your Family Village Home:
1) It's better for your health:
2) It's better for your pocketbook:
3) It's better for your time-management skills

Selfkontrol:
guess I didn’t think about all these. Thanks for the advice. Mission aborted

My brother good day to you.
I was going through an old thread on Nairalanders about how people made their first millions.

And your input caught my attention among others.

I would like you to teach me what you did and some of the things that I can venture on.
More especially on the crypto stuff

I know something's could be easier with the right amount of info from an already experienced fellow, as some ideas fail because of lack of info.

Am not asking for money from you.
I simply need ideas and which you can tutor me on.
Am not a lazy person, as I know what efforts I've made towards my breakthrough, and still haven't found that path for me yet.

I'll appreciate your response thanks....

garriAndsugar:
If your aim of building or completing the house is to take over the house later..don't try it.

But If you just want to build it out of your own freewill without having any other motives then you are free to do it.

About involving your uncles you can try but they might not contribute

Have you built ur own house?

If no ask them for a piece of land to build ur own house, pls fence the land n put gate before u start building.

Build ur own house first after then u complete their own.

aidameoryou:


My brother good day to you.
I was going through an old thread on Nairalanders about how people made their first millions.

And your input caught my attention among others.

I would like you to teach me what you did and some of the things that I can venture on.
More especially on the crypto stuff

I know something's could be easier with the right amount of info from an already experienced fellow, as some ideas fail because of lack of info.

Am not asking for money from you.
I simply need ideas and which you can tutor me on.
Am not a lazy person, as I know what efforts I've made towards my breakthrough, and still haven't found that path for me yet.

I'll appreciate your response thanks....

Good day bro. Well crypto is a fast way to make millions and also the fastest way to get broke if u invest in a coin and the coin under performed. There’s no rocket science about it. Sometimes u get lucky enough to invest in a good project very early and that could be the turning point for you.

Been doing this for years and I won’t tell you I’ve had smooth years. It’s all perseverance.
Another thing I’d like u to understand is that this is a risky venture. . I mean you don’t buy a token with alll your savings or money u need urgently. U must be comfortable enough before you invest or u get ur self stucked and probably sell at a huge loose when you need money urgently or broke. It should always be cash you don’t need for atleast 1 year or 2, and expect the worse too. It’s a risky business but highly rewarding. I mean HIGHLY ReWARDING.
For starters, get ur self familiarize on how to trade coins on exchanges like Binance, gate.io. Etc. u can download those apps on play store or AppStore then watch some YouTube videos on how to set them up. It’s easy just register ur acnt and set it up.
Be ready sha it involves a lot of money.

Selfkontrol:

Good day bro. Well crypto is a fast way to make millions and also the fastest way to get broke if u invest in a coin and the coin under performed. There’s no rocket science about it. Sometimes u get lucky enough to invest in a good project very early and that could be the turning point for you.

Been doing this for years and I won’t tell you I’ve had smooth years. It’s all perseverance.
Another thing I’d like u to understand is that this is a risky venture. . I mean you don’t buy a token with alll your savings or money u need urgently. U must be comfortable enough before you invest or u get ur self stucked and probably sell at a huge loose when you need money urgently or broke. It should always be cash you don’t need for atleast 1 year or 2, and expect the worse too. It’s a risky business but highly rewarding. I mean HIGHLY ReWARDING.
For starters, get ur self familiarize on how to trade coins on exchanges like Binance, gate.io. Etc. u can download those apps on play store or AppStore then watch some YouTube videos on how to set them up. It’s easy just register ur acnt and set it up.
Be ready sha it involves a lot of money.

Aight bet

Selfkontrol:
Good morning everyone. Last night I was on a thread about a guy contemplating to build his house first or complete his mother’s house. That topic is somehow related but completely different to mine so I want to share with people in the house for advice.

To cut the story short, I come from an extended poor family where even a good 3 square meal to some people is a big deal. I grew up in the village from childhood till I was in secondary school before my father died and I moved to live with my mother( my father had different wives that where not with him before he died.)
My mom gave me a good life. Better education
And all and now I’m 30, doing well in life. I mean very well.
My father has 5 brothers all still alive. They are all managing life and even their children not doing so well. Though I have tried to assist most of them the little way I can

Now, the family house in the village that my grand father build. Same house I grew up as a child is a complete mess. Its so bad that I can’t even drink water there currently. It’s to sad all my uncles could not renovate their fathers house. I don’t blame them though. They are not doing well. About two of my uncles still live in that house that the roof is almost falling and sometimes I feel ashamed because that’s where I grew up. I can’t even take anyone there because it would be too embarrassing for me. Due to this I haven’t been to the village for long

Few years ago, the most senior uncle did foundation at the back of the house and raised it up a bit but couldn’t complete it since then and even all the brothers can’t help. Now I feel I’m in a better place to atleast help complete it. I already made up my mind and was traveling this month end for it. Even though it would be a gradual process. ( just to lay few blocks to lintel then roof it.) until I read that thread of that young man and some comments made me think twice.
Pls experience elders in the house ur input is needed thank you.
I want to know if I’m making the right decision. If I need to involve all my uncles even though they are all not in unity.
It’s a bit confusing because my father is late. If he was a life I know it would be easier. I would just put him in charge of the project.

Now, my major reason of doing this is because I feel bad people are still living in that building that would soon collapse and also for the fact I grew up there and in my current position I can’t do anything about that house.

It’s a tall order.

My advise is that you buy a land not too far from your current family house.

Build it in such a way that it will accommodate everyone in the old apartment and more then hand it over to the family.

They can decide to sell the old one or renovate it on thier own.

Shalom!!!