Originally Unfaithful

Adulterous: engaging in sexual relations with somebody other than one to whom monogamy has been pledged.

Once there has been so much damage, can we ever get back together?

Now that you've been unfaithful, how can I trust that you won't stray again?

The thing about "love" (which I believe is what brought both parties together in the first place), is that one should be able to forgive the other no matter what has been done. And also forget too. And keep trusting in that person which is a quite naive thing to do, logically, but hey, love is something we'd probably never understand fully.

It all depends on what kinda rship it is. If am in it for sex, hey, as long as u dont cut my rations, why should I complain. Or if I knew she had a man and am trying to steal her from the man, hey, I cant complain can I.

If on the other hand we are in a tight rship, damn girl, out you go. Its a man's world in some respects. And While I can condone all sorta rubbish in the name of love, abegiiii I cant condone that.

Yeah as u said, its sorta a catch-22 situation. Even if it can be forgiven, there will always be that doubt. out on a business trip, u begin to wonder what (s)he is doing now.......

He/she can change and remain faithful for the rest of his/her life.
I have a story of a man who goes out with ladies, one day she met one in a vehicle and wooed her and as they were playing he wanted to kiss her and suddenly the girl twitched. Alas! she was an epileptic patient.
Since that day he became a faithful husband.

Dont ever underestimate that thing called love it makes you do things you would not even imagine, You know in real life situations what we write on paper may not follow, your gal or guy cheats on you

1. what made him/her cheat ?
2. why did he/she do it ?
3. was it your fault ?
4. do you love her or him so and that much that you would forgive her and continue iwth it

Its easy for every one here to say ill dump her or ill dump him but i say this when you are in love things dont seem all that logical

personally......I would ......forgive..but not forget....if I see anything similar again or any traces of it..I will switch women

well it all depends on how i feel ,if i truly love him i  will stay with him. but if i dont well i dump him immediatlly. cos is not easy when true love is involved(to dump i mean)

We are humans, not programmed Robots. We do make mistakes, and honestly when someone is "unfaithful" in nothing other than just a mere "Relationship" , I think that person deserves another chance.

But if its in realms of marriage, i wouldnt think twice in encouraging a Divorce. Anything that can lure a married man or woman to be "unfaithful" would repeat itself again and again.

After he has been unfaithful, if he pleads for forgiveness and I know he is truly sorry, I would forgive him. To err is human, to forgive divine.

Oh! nice one there from tayotina.

Tayo has done it again!

Now am blushing

sheeeshhhh.............and what stops him doing it again?

Women sometimes push their husbands to do things they are not supposed to do. If I should catch my husband red-handed, I would let him know he has been caught. There are so many ways of dealing with such a man. Carrying a drum, beating it all over the house, making so much noise definitely won't work.

I would forgive my husband like I said earlier and also deal with him in such a way that he would never repeat it again. It might be just talking to him or being extra nice or through some other means.

But whatever I do, I would always consult my God first.

..just dont get caught ...

I won't matrix

Is this true that men are always the first to be unfaithful?

No Lillu

non is perfect anyway. somepeople dont do it cuz they nevr had the opportunity.
u dont even know what u can do.
our prayers should be "let us not into temptation"see..?christ himself knew.

forgive him if u can,and if u can't drop or leave him.

just forgave him or her if u love her or him

i cld neva do dat!!!!!!!

ma gurl was unfaithful with her bf wit me n had a son
u c, i neva knew dis until ma son was born.
but i still wanted to spend d rest of ma life with her(shez dumped me now)
i loved her with all ma heart.it sum' dat hapens all da tym but d thing is if it happens again itz become a habit n therez nutin neone can do xcept pray but by den they'd have broken up so,
i agree, love is forgivin

it is hard to trust again after your spouse cheats on u.
some work things back, some don't
for me, it would be really hard!

tru

Love conquers all things. Forgiveness is not a sin.
If love ios a crime, would you go on committing that crime?

Is this true that men are always the first to be unfaithful?

No. Its not true.

If you forgive the person and get back together again, how can you prove infidelity would not rear its' ugly head again?  What if that person strays again. . . .??

laudate:

If you forgive the person and get back together again, how can you prove infidelity would not rear its' ugly head again? What if that person strays again. . . .??

exactly, better to be safe than sorry

Anyhow, I know lOve when I see one.

It's a very difficult situation.
I would forgive but will never forget !

There is no guarantee that the same thing wont happen again. So I think the best thing is just to pathways, unless you want an heartattack or series of severe high blood pressure. You will live with suspscion all your life. "I saw her there,what could she be doing now, had she me that man before?" Ah, this woman no go kill me.