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Too Much Burden by BLIVESHEALTH: 8:47pm On Aug 06, 2022
I am writing this grief in my heart. I lost my elder brother who has two kids with a lazy woman. He is just 29 and i am 22, I have been a bet addict but i am now fine earning up to 200k monthly. During my gambling days i have stole my mum money and now my mum believes she has right to my money. She coerce me to do things. My brothers wife want to feel entitled to my money always telling me "enu iyawo yin gbe" means she is hungry. I have two sisters, one younger one older who feel they are closer to me than my brothers wife. And i must help them before my brother wife
I am still in school 400l and i am at home due to ASUU strike so i cant move out.
I work remotely
I spend money carefully now anytime i but new things billing.
Please your advice what should i do
Re: Too Much Burden by ahnie: 8:54pm On Aug 06, 2022
Complicated sontin
Re: Too Much Burden by Blackdeewhy(m): 10:49pm On Aug 06, 2022
PLEASE TAKE THIS FROM ME
Help your immediate family without thinking twice about it.
Their is a reason why bible said it is more profitable to give than received.
Even Yoruba said, oke ni owo afuni n gbe.
Back to my reasons
1. Some years back when we're having issues in our home, my mum reached out to her then bank managers sisters, SHISHI we no see.
Today, they ALL loose their jobs and my mom becomes the present bread winner.
2. In my immediate family, my brother was rich earlier in life and so he helped ALL the six of us in school and in business.
Today, he is not so financially stable and our 4th born is wearing the cap.
You see this money in the family thing, IT'S ROTATING.
Do your part today so history will be kind to you.
Give to your immediate family. God forbids should things go south, they are ALL you've got.
I pray God help you.
ALEJO LOWO...

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Re: Too Much Burden by gfon(m): 10:58pm On Aug 06, 2022
BLIVESHEALTH:
I am writing this grief in my heart. I lost my elder brother who has two kids with a lazy woman. He is just 29 and i am 22, I have been a bet addict but i am now fine earning up to 200k monthly. During my gambling days i have stole my mum money and now my mum believes she has right to my money. She coerce me to do things. My brothers wife want to feel entitled to my money always telling me "enu iyawo yin gbe" means she is hungry. I have two sisters, one younger one older who feel they are closer to me than my brothers wife. And i must help them before my brother wife
I am still in school 400l and i am at home due to ASUU strike so i cant move out.
I work remotely
I spend money carefully now anytime i but new things billing.
Please your advice what should i do
those women will drain you,that's women for you. Forget that they are family. What are your sisters doing? Don't they work? As for your mum I understand. Omo try build yourself oo. Cause if things ain't rosey as before,nah them go still talk say you didn't plan ahead.

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Re: Too Much Burden by anthonyuncle(m): 2:32am On Aug 07, 2022
take it easy, and do the best you can.

you should be grateful you are earning that much.

ask your brother's widow to get a job or start up a business.

as for your sisters,be very prudent with them.

buy the basic food items at home,pay the basic bills, and be very prudent.

NO ONE (amongst those you mentioned) IS ENTITLED TO YOUR MONEY
Re: Too Much Burden by frozen70(f): 4:10pm On Aug 07, 2022
BLIVESHEALTH:
I am writing this grief in my heart. I lost my elder brother who has two kids with a lazy woman. He is just 29 and i am 22, I have been a bet addict but i am now fine earning up to 200k monthly. During my gambling days i have stole my mum money and now my mum believes she has right to my money. She coerce me to do things. My brothers wife want to feel entitled to my money always telling me "enu iyawo yin gbe" means she is hungry. I have two sisters, one younger one older who feel they are closer to me than my brothers wife. And i must help them before my brother wife
I am still in school 400l and i am at home due to ASUU strike so i cant move out.
I work remotely
I spend money carefully now anytime i but new things billing.
Please your advice what should i do

Concentrate more on uoir brother children and uoir sisters

As for your brother wife,
The more you care for her the more you create more problems for her

As for your mother, just be flexible with her, she can't wait for you to care for her

But let her know that those order ones mentioned needs your financial attention more

While you are doing all these, pls for yourself

There is no excuse not to meet up
Re: Too Much Burden by Nobody: 5:11pm On Aug 07, 2022
Blackdeewhy:
PLEASE TAKE THIS FROM ME
Help your immediate family without thinking twice about it.
Their is a reason why bible said it is more profitable to give than received.
Even Yoruba said, oke ni owo afuni n gbe.
Back to my reasons
1. Some years back when we're having issues in our home, my mum reached out to her then bank managers sisters, SHISHI we no see.
Today, they ALL loose their jobs and my mom becomes the present bread winner.
2. In my immediate family, my brother was rich earlier in life and so he helped ALL the six of us in school and in business.
Today, he is not so financially stable and our 4th born is wearing the cap.
You see this money in the family thing, IT'S ROTATING.
Do your part today so history will be kind to you.
Give to your immediate family. God forbids should things go south, they are ALL you've got.
I pray God help you.
ALEJO LOWO...





How do I unlike this comment a million times? angry it's entitled relatives like you that stop people from reaching their full potential. This is a 22-year-old young man still in school, so because he decided to be independent and get a remote job that pays, he should shoulder the responsibility of the entire family. A lot of students his age won't even bother to do anything, they'll rely solely on their parents.
This is the time for this young man to build his future, and invest in online courses, we're in the digital age now, and he needs to keep upskilling to remain relevant in this present digital age.
It's written in the holy book that you have to love your neighbor as yourself. This is the right time for him to love himself so he can be in a very good position to love his family later.
People are too selfish these days, all about themselves, never concerned about the growth of others.
Re: Too Much Burden by Nobody: 5:18pm On Aug 07, 2022
Blackdeewhy:
PLEASE TAKE THIS FROM ME
Help your immediate family without thinking twice about it.
Their is a reason why bible said it is more profitable to give than received.
Even Yoruba said, oke ni owo afuni n gbe.
Back to my reasons
1. Some years back when we're having issues in our home, my mum reached out to her then bank managers sisters, SHISHI we no see.
Today, they ALL loose their jobs and my mom becomes the present bread winner.
2. In my immediate family, my brother was rich earlier in life and so he helped ALL the six of us in school and in business.
Today, he is not so financially stable and our 4th born is wearing the cap.
You see this money in the family thing, IT'S ROTATING.
Do your part today so history will be kind to you.
Give to your immediate family. God forbids should things go south, they are ALL you've got.
I pray God help you.
ALEJO LOWO...

How do I unlike this comment a million times? angry it's entitled relatives like you that stop people from reaching their full potential. This is a 22-year-old young man still in school, so because he decided to be independent and get a remote job that pays, he should shoulder the responsibility of the entire family. A lot of students his age won't even bother to do anything, they'll rely solely on their parents.
This is the time for this young man to build his future, and invest in online courses, we're in the digital age now, and he needs to keep upskilling to remain relevant in this present digital age.
It's written in the holy book that you have to love your neighbor as yourself. This is the right time for him to love himself so he can be in a very good position to love his family later.
People are too selfish these days, all about themselves, never concerned about the growth of others.

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