When we talk about romantic relationships, we often hear things that can be confusing such as "I don't want a man that is controlling", also "A man must be in control".
Some will argue that those two statements mean same thing, some will say they don't.

For knowledge sake, what do you understand by these statements? How can you be in control without being controlling?

Mynd44 Dominique

I also want explanations.

A man in control dictates the tone of the relationship by his charisma while a controlling man achieves that mostly with violence and abuse.

They are two different things person wey no understand make he dey there. It's even good that they don't understand

Zonefree:
A man in control dictates the tone of the relationship by his charisma while a controlling man achieves that mostly with violence and abuse.

hmmm

SPAMBOX7:
They are two different things person wey no understand make he dey there. It's even good that they don't understand

you're good to go

If you like be in control, if you like be controlling, she will still cheat

A controlling man dictates the direction of the relationship, he challenges any suspicion . A man in control is a man who accepts responsibilities without challenging any suspicious., he can only ask subtle questions without being offensive to his partner.

This is the kind of statements women use to evaluate your mumu-tability (you mumuness)
Whatever the two statements means is irrelevant.

I just know you'll have to follow instructions and be properly behaved... If you can't, you can go back to your father's house where

FriendsAndFans:
This is the kind of statements women use to evaluate your mumu-tability (you mumuness)
Whatever the two statements means is irrelevant.

I just know you'll have to follow instructions and be properly behaved... If you can't, you can go back to your father's house where

my nigga.

Same thing with "real man".