Good day fam...

I have an elder sister,our only sister to be precise.
Now the problem is that she talk to us boys anyhow and hardly apologize when she offends you,,,,she can keep malice with you for 2years even when she is at fault......because she is the eldest and the only girl.....maybe sha.

The one that happened of recent was we had an occasion last month which me and my junior brother took care of the all the expenses....she didn’t call me when I went back to my base.
Only for her to call me after 3 days with insults because someone told her something which was not true and she didn’t bother to hear from me before throwing insults at me....no respect whatsoever!!

I didn’t reply her,,,I just locked up so we haven’t spoken since then......this Xmas period,I just feel like crediting her because I have her account number but I’m still pained because she don’t give me that respect.....I’m the first son by the way and she is the first daughter.....

Should I lock up or just credit her?
Don’t tell me to call her because I won’t.....


NB:she is married and their okay so the money might not be anything to her but I just feel like showing love.

Going by the description you gave, she might not call you to acknowledge the receipt of the money.

So, if you want to give her the money because you can afford to do so and willing to, then you should go ahead. But if you want to give her because you want her to respect you or turn a new leaf, then you shouldn't expect those things from her.

If I were you, I wouldn't waste my money on a foul-mouthed ingrate, even if she was my sister or brother or anybody.

Learn to put people in their rightful place. A pig should be left in the mud.

Abeg leave her and credit my own Biko. Me I no Sabi keep malice . If you give her now she will not appreciate it .

On a more serious note. Try calling her first to see if she'll pick. If she picks and sounds normal, then credit her. If not, forget about it.

MufasaLion:
Going by the description you gave, she might not call you to acknowledge the receipt of the money.

So, if you want to give her the money because you can afford to do so and willing to, then you should go ahead. But if you want to give her because you want her to respect you or turn a new leaf, then you shouldn't expect those things from her.

If I were you, I wouldn't waste my money on a foul-mouthed ingrate, even if she was my sister or brother or anybody.

Learn to put people in their rightful place. A pig should be left in the mud.

yes
She might not even call to acknowledge it and again...I’m don’t want to do it because I want her to start respecting me..


I just feel like ignoring her too for only God knows when but it might not be good for the family.....

Blessedmercy8:
Abeg leave her and credit my own Biko. Me I no Sabi keep malice . If you give her now she will not appreciate it .

On a more serious note. Try calling her first to see if she'll pick. If she picks and sounds normal, then credit her. If not, forget about it.

she should be the one to call me after insulting me because it ended up that what she heard that made her call and insulted me was false and she haven’t called or messaged me since then.

Nemesis0147:
yes
She might not even call to acknowledge it and again...I’m don’t want to do it because I want her to start respecting me..


I just feel like ignoring her too for only God knows when but it might not be good for the family.....

Ignore her for your sanity. What family thinks, is none of your business. The relatives that couldn't caution her bad behaviors don't have any moral ground to caution or talk to you about respect and family ties.

Nemesis0147:
she should be the one to call me after insulting me because it ended up that what she heard that made her call and insulted me was false and she haven’t called or messaged me since then.

You just Said you wanted to send her money, isn't it? So you don't mind her not calling you for that one? Ok. Do you then.

She's your sister just send her the money jare.

Don't waste your money on her , look for orphans and widows around you and give it to them

Nemesis0147:
Good day fam...

I have an elder sister,our only sister to be precise.
Now the problem is that she talk to us boys anyhow and hardly apologize when she offends you,,,,she can keep malice with you for 2years even when she is at fault......because she is the eldest and the only girl.....maybe sha.

The one that happened of recent was we had an occasion last month which me and my junior brother took care of the all the expenses....she didn’t call me when I went back to my base.
Only for her to call me after 3 days with insults because someone told her something which was not true and she didn’t bother to hear from me before throwing insults at me....no respect whatsoever!!

I didn’t reply her,,,I just locked up so we haven’t spoken since then......this Xmas period,I just feel like crediting her because I have her account number but I’m still pained because she don’t give me that respect.....I’m the first son by the way and she is the first daughter.....

Should I lock up or just credit her?
Don’t tell me to call her because I won’t.....


NB:she is married and their okay so the money might not be anything to her but I just feel like showing love.

credit me, I will appreciate

Nemesis0147:
Good day fam...

I have an elder sister,our only sister to be precise.
Now the problem is that she talk to us boys anyhow and hardly apologize when she offends you,,,,she can keep malice with you for 2years even when she is at fault......because she is the eldest and the only girl.....maybe sha.

The one that happened of recent was we had an occasion last month which me and my junior brother took care of the all the expenses....she didn’t call me when I went back to my base.
Only for her to call me after 3 days with insults because someone told her something which was not true and she didn’t bother to hear from me before throwing insults at me....no respect whatsoever!!

I didn’t reply her,,,I just locked up so we haven’t spoken since then......this Xmas period,I just feel like crediting her because I have her account number but I’m still pained because she don’t give me that respect.....I’m the first son by the way and she is the first daughter.....

Should I lock up or just credit her?
Don’t tell me to call her because I won’t.....


NB:she is married and their okay so the money might not be anything to her but I just feel like showing love.

Just cal her first to check on her and her family. Do not bring the past incidence up. Her countenance will determine if you will credit her or not.

How is her husband?
His mental health? Malice keepers are very stressful partners. Please credit her husband instead, he is trying.

Nemesis0147:
Good day fam...

I have an elder sister,our only sister to be precise.
Now the problem is that she talk to us boys anyhow and hardly apologize when she offends you,,,,she can keep malice with you for 2years even when she is at fault......because she is the eldest and the only girl.....maybe sha.

The one that happened of recent was we had an occasion last month which me and my junior brother took care of the all the expenses....she didn’t call me when I went back to my base.
Only for her to call me after 3 days with insults because someone told her something which was not true and she didn’t bother to hear from me before throwing insults at me....no respect whatsoever!!

I didn’t reply her,,,I just locked up so we haven’t spoken since then......this Xmas period,I just feel like crediting her because I have her account number but I’m still pained because she don’t give me that respect.....I’m the first son by the way and she is the first daughter.....

Should I lock up or just credit her?
Don’t tell me to call her because I won’t.....


NB:she is married and their okay so the money might not be anything to her but I just feel like showing love.

think twice

Dont send money hoping that she will
say thanks, send without expecting anything back

you are hurt already, money sending might hurt you more

Its cultural thing to force respect due to order if birth and some abuse that positiion by not respecting the younger ones

My two cents is eg whenever she shouts at you without gathering facts, just cut the phone and when she phones back asking why you cut the phone tell her she must give you time to explain yourself before shouting at you . If she says cutting her was disrespecting her, inform her that respect is a two way

ceeceeuwa:

Just cal her first to check on her and her family. Do not bring the past incidence up. Her countenance will determine if you will credit her or not.

thats wrong in my opion

you wont be encouraging such behaviour

its need to be confronted and stopped

Big Sis things. You think it’s easy to be the only girl and first among boys? I know the feelings of your sister. For her mind now she thinks she’s the assistant father of the family.
My dear abeg give the money to someone who will appreciate you. I hate nonsense

Many weak men around....

She obviously is manipulative as well.
If you have nephews or nieces, just send me gifts instead.
Respect should be reciprocated.
Go where you’re celebrated and appreciated, not where you’re merely tolerated.

Nemesis0147

Gudmrn, please you can show me love too.... nothing is too small for Christmas.....thank you

pocohantas:
How is her husband?
His mental health? Malice keepers are very stressful partners. Please credit her husband instead, he is trying.

She must be very busty, seeing as she can carry people for chest

Ishilove:

She must be very busty, seeing as she can carry people for chest

E mean say na your teammate.

Giving her money for Christmas is up to you, just say it's money for ice cream or pizza etc for the children. The next time she talks out of order, do not shout or anything, just send a text message that this should be the very last time she speaks to you in a disrespectful manner and if she can't use her head to respect her age the way you respect her then she shouldn't blame you for anything then call your dad or mum (whoever she's closest with to call her to order)
Ignore her calls or anybody's calls after then until your parents call for a meeting. Don't shout over anything they say, when they finish talking, just calmly warn her again to stop talking wildly at you because you're not that small kid of yesterday. Look her in her eyes while doing this. Tell her if she can't respect herself while talking to you then there's no need because you didn't come to this world to collect insults, face daddy and tell him you have a meeting somewhere. Your parents will talk sense into her head

Nemesis0147:
Good day fam...

I have an elder sister,our only sister to be precise.
Now the problem is that she talk to us boys anyhow and hardly apologize when she offends you,,,,she can keep malice with you for 2years even when she is at fault......because she is the eldest and the only girl.....maybe sha.

The one that happened of recent was we had an occasion last month which me and my junior brother took care of the all the expenses....she didn’t call me when I went back to my base.
Only for her to call me after 3 days with insults because someone told her something which was not true and she didn’t bother to hear from me before throwing insults at me....no respect whatsoever!!

I didn’t reply her,,,I just locked up so we haven’t spoken since then......this Xmas period,I just feel like crediting her because I have her account number but I’m still pained because she don’t give me that respect.....I’m the first son by the way and she is the first daughter.....

Should I lock up or just credit her?
Don’t tell me to call her because I won’t.....


NB:she is married and their okay so the money might not be anything to her but I just feel like showing love.

Forget about her attitude

Women can be crazy and high for nothing reasonably

Just credit her account and send a message to that she will use the money to buy things for her children

Wether she calls you to thank you or not, leave that to her

Make sure you say buy Christmas things for your children

That's all

Let her be dealing with it while you are already done with her