Good morning my fellow Nairalanders, I seriously need you guys to help me out because what wan going through is beyond me

I have been married for 4years and God has blessed I and my wife with lovely baby girl, infact we are expecting another baby any time soon

I met this Calabar lady who happens to be my subordinate, at first I didn't even like her face but after working with me for 3 months, I started feeling for her( just to sleep with her), finally I spoke with her and she accepted, and she knows am married ooh.

Now, we had fun for 2 times, and unfortunately my wife got to know about the whole thing because she( my wife ) went through my voice note on my phone... infact life was like hell to me during that period. My wife turned my peaceful home to Ukraine and Russia War, but thank God , my Pastor and his wife intervene and peace was restored.

Now here is the issue.., since I stopped meeting with the Calabar lady,I don't have feelings for my wife again. I love my wife and respect her for who she is, but no sexual feelings again. I have tried all I can.

I had a dream 4days back where the Calabar lady was calling my name with a knife in her hands.

Please can someone help me on what to do?

Thanks you

Talk to your wife, and let her know that, you know longer have feelings for her. You both can maturely get your divorce papers signed off.

Your happiness is key.

You can marry the Calabrian girl afterwards, since you happier with her

I never said am happier with the Calabar Lady, in fact I don't even love her, I love my wife and will forever love her, but this feelings of a thing looks spiritual.

peretei2024:
I never said am happier with the Calabar Lady, in fact I don't even love her, I love my wife and will forever love her, but this feelings of a thing looks spiritual.

Accept it!

You are inlove! Nothing is spiritual!

The moments and good times you shared together are engraved in your hearts.

You know what to do when you no longer have feelings for your wife. Divorce!

How can you say you love your wife but don’t have feelings for her?

You are the problem bro
The calabar chic didn’t do anything to you at all, you are the one who is not ready to let go if you search your heart you will admit that you are the one who can’t get her off your mind it’s not easy biting a brand of cookie all the time so the moment you taste a different cookie you might be finding it difficult to go back to your usual cookie
Love and lust are free, it is a combination of letting go and holding tight so wiser assessment of this situation will carry your marriage back to it best days

Na high fever dey worry you.

Drink palm oyel then go back to sleep.

If anybody give you food for dream no chop oh...

tillaman:
You are the problem bro
The calabar chic didn’t do anything to you at all, you are the one who is not ready to let go if you search your heart you will admit that you are the one who can’t get her off your mind it’s not easy biting a brand of cookie all the time so the moment you taste a different cookie you might be finding it difficult to go back to your usual cookie
Love and lust are free, it is a combination of letting go and holding tight so wiser assessment of this situation will carry your marriage back to it best days

Bro. I dated this Calabar lady for just a week, and we stopped. I don't have her in mind at all.

gaby:
Na high fever dey worry you.

Drink palm oyel then go back to sleep.

If anybody give you food for dreaming chop oh...

This your own come bad oh!

This is the funniest thing I’ve read all year! She has locked up your pepe in her purse and now it’s sitting on her mantle!

HudaIna:
This is the funniest thing I’ve read all year! She has locked up your pepe in her purse and now it’s sitting on her mantle!

That is not possible please. The fact is that I don't have feelings for any lady again

Side chick romance dey sweet pass wife and main chick.

According to you, you had fun with her two times.

I guess drinking a bottle of concentrated acid qualifies as having fun these days.

You've made your bed, now lie on it.

peretei2024:


Bro. I dated this Calabar lady for just a week, and we stopped. I don't have her in mind at all.

I feel like crying for you. Do married men date, just say the cushie was yours for just a week. don't involve your self in extra marital affairs your not ripe for such..

Madness here and there.

Ogbeni go spiritual, make your life no spoil finish.

Spiritual bondage. God has revealed some behind your trouble.U don't need to confront that witch that want to snuff life out of u with knife. Go for deliverance /fasting.I for call Pa Chino Righteousness2 to pray for you now but Prophet is under plantain leaf fasting

Just let go of your mind. Your dream is very clear. The Calabar girl feels betrayed and hurt since you stopped your moves and sexual affairs towards her .. be prayerful and standing in prayers. Before you will be thinking of going back to the Calabar girl. Mark my words. When you go back the second time, and you fail to marry her and dump your wife... you'll face the knife in her hand spiritually.....Run before you get stabbed spiritually.... Life is deep oh. .

Well I would suggest you take that dream seriously. . . Life is mysterious. It is deeper...

Now you got two women angry at you.
First your wife...
Secondly the calabar girl when you stop giving her attention.

I would suggest you tell your wife that you and the calabar girl aren't working together anymore. If that will be possible make it happen as it would lay rest her fears and doubt.
Open up to the calabar girl about everything that happen and how it happen and your decision to stop the affair and watch what she says how she responded. Those words are important to take note of

The next step is seek spiritual help.
Since you a Christian. Do what Christians do. They pray and talk to God.

peretei2024:


Bro. I dated this Calabar lady for just a week, and we stopped. I don't have her in mind at all.

If this is true, then you have a spiritual case to attend to. See what few days of lust is doing to your peace of mind.

Men, smh.

Well you had kids to take care of...


And I don't think your woman did you any wrong.




You just wish to have some flings...


We try to understand what you want before you scatter ur family

Let me ansa u spiritually as u think it is.

There's a mystery in having sex IN MARRIAGE. D joining together in court, religious gathering etc. handles d physical, having sex as couples handles d spiritual. Couples are to ve regular sex to keep d bond.

Having sex outside ur marriage destroys that bond - in affection, respect, care etc. especially to a person whose soul wasn't really tied to d partner.

That's why, God only 'allow' divorce when a couple commits adultery becos spiritually such marriage doesn't exist again. There are some cases that d signs of d 'destroying' are not so obvious but weda seen or not there's a problem. The partner who went out will still be drawn to go outside.

You slept with anoda & likely becos of the spiritual atmosphere she carries, feeling for ur wife is swallowed. There's seperation in the HEART.

Either go for divorce or for deliverance - prayer/ salvation/transformation of the mind. Paradventure you can be RECONNECTED with your wife.

You only resolved the physical aspect of the problem. Go and take care of the spiritual aspect.

So pe otilo

Ramblings of a straying dick

Madness here and there

Umm, Check my profile if you need help with your personal statement, statement of purpose, dissertation, thesis, or assignment.

since you love your wife with no sexual feeling, then keep the calabar girl for konji and keep loving your wife?

jimmyolasun:
since you love your wife with no sexual feeling, then keep the calabar girl for konji and keep loving your wife?

God will not allow me to cheat on my wife again. She is also a woman being and have feelings.

peretei2024:


God will not allow me to cheat on my wife again. She is also a woman being and have feelings.

yinmu.... you wey don already loose feeling for her.. she aint attractive to you again.. you only loving her out of pity.. you still in the denial stage

Smdh

The hole u enter is holding u ransom


U even said she's not all that beautiful, enter ur wife hole it will erase the former hole from ur memory

E be like say dem don lock you